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The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
Emory professors are out to destroy women! Ok, not really, but they certainly are getting the word out: women are not that innocent after all, scientifically speaking. A recent study by Emory University researchers found that, believe it or not, men are more likely to look at a female’s face before other areas when looking at pictures of naked women.
(Ladies, I’ll give you a moment to insert your own snarky response here)
Researchers conducted an experiment in which women and men were shown still photos of couples engaging in sexual activity (Could this be the best job ever or what?). Eye tracking devices monitored their responses and the data shows that men focused on the faces of the women, while the ladies were more likely to look at the actual ahem activity itself.
After reading more about the study, it made perfect sense: men want to know they are doing a good job, and they gauge that by their partner’s reaction, which is mostly expressed in the face. The data also showed that women lingered longer on the images than men. Does that surprise you?
What do you think about the study?
Are men attracted to the face first or is that only when the woman is naked?
Women seem to be conditioned to conceal their attitudes about sex, the male body, desire, etc. do you think this is likely to change? Has it changed already?
What do men think of women who are open about her sexual attitudes? What do women think of other women that are?
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By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment
June 22, 2007 8:15 AM | Link to this
Good Morning…Sl..im where is the coffee?
Be back in a minute….
By Cassie
June 22, 2007 8:28 AM | Link to this
I can’t say it surprises me. Honestly, when watching, uh, “artistic movies” I am most interested in the actual action and not in any of the froofroo stuff that comes before.
I’m not sure women are conditioned to conceal their attitude about sex as much as it is innate to our construction - we have (except for breasts, which are sexualized not necessarily sexual) no exposed parts, and therefore there is no other visual way (except the face) to gauge our interest. Therefore, by our very nature we are used to being more private individuals.
Men, however, have something that literally pokes out of their bodies. I would think that would make it hard to ignore.
I’m sure if we were like the monkey (I think it’s a monkey) whose fanny turned red when it was ready, we’d have a different attitude.
By SlimOne
June 22, 2007 8:33 AM | Link to this
Gaman Fresh coffee and continental breakfast for all WLB & MLB members.
May lurk for a few, curious to see the men’s responses
By Lady J
June 22, 2007 8:35 AM | Link to this
Morning good people!!! Happy Friday!! Everyone enjoy their weekend!!:) Be back in a sec…
By QC
June 22, 2007 8:54 AM | Link to this
Morning - TGIF!
Ga.Man There is coffee, pastries, juice, fruit, latte & water for everyone if the Blog Cafe…compliments of Me, enjoy all
By Lady J
June 22, 2007 8:59 AM | Link to this
Thanks QC a sis is hungry missed breakfast and lunch is not even a thought…Can I say I am ready to go!
By MusingLee
June 22, 2007 9:00 AM | Link to this
Morn’in All,
Wise I read this same article and found it interesting as well…I would have to say that this study rings true for Men at least 88% of the time…The first thing guys notice about a Woman is often how pretty her face is, then her smile, boobs, then booty…back up to boobs, then down to booty and up to the face again, after seeing the boobs one last time.
By Wise Diva
June 22, 2007 9:04 AM | Link to this
I think the study could be a ploy to get women to watch more porn. You know guys have good PR like that
By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment
June 22, 2007 9:05 AM | Link to this
Slim and QC thanks…ok i feel better..now….but i ate all the grapes and there is no more apple juice..(Burp) we got anymore….
By QC
June 22, 2007 9:10 AM | Link to this
You’re welcome Lady J for those who are a little “irregular” i’ve added some oatmeal & bran muffins
There’s also a Chef on standby for those who want a WLB or MLB meal with the works…enjoy!
By Lady J
June 22, 2007 9:10 AM | Link to this
You know I beg to differ…I have a butt and in many cases that is notice 1st before my face and boobs…It often makes me ill bc I am like you did not even look at my face just the butt…Most men love a big butt in my opinion…
By MusingLee
June 22, 2007 9:11 AM | Link to this
Wise, I cannot confirm nor deny that any or all of these scientist are affiliated with the MLB.
Musing reaches over for Emory Scientist invoice
By T-Mango
June 22, 2007 9:12 AM | Link to this
…T-Mango arrives to blog meeting eating fish, cheese grits and a biscuit…(boy is it good)
Hair flip to the WLB and a “show me whatcha got papi” to the MLB
Interesting questions on the table… I want to hear the male perspective on this one, too. I’ll chime in after the party starts. I’m already ready for my ticket from Officer Musirello…
I’m in the LG, baby (Lurksville, GA)…
By Wise Diva
June 22, 2007 9:13 AM | Link to this
LOL @ Musinglee, and what is the obsession with breasts, anyway?
By QC
June 22, 2007 9:16 AM | Link to this
Now calling Publix asking them to please send me 10 large bottles of Welches Apple Juice & 1 crate of mixed grapes…wonder if Ga.Man will eat up anything else
By MusingLee
June 22, 2007 9:22 AM | Link to this
Well Wise, they bounce, jiggle, they’re smooshy, they jiggle, twirl, and basically we can’t see them anytime we wanna, unless you’ve got a ton of 1’s on you…We also like to see them bounce and stuff…and sometimes they are pointy.
By Wise Diva
June 22, 2007 9:26 AM | Link to this
Lady J, maybe by the time you notice them they have already looked at your face?
By SlimOne
June 22, 2007 9:27 AM | Link to this
Wise You’re right. It’s all a big ole c-o-n…spiracy. lol When I got gas at Club Quick Trip yesterday, I found myself checking this brother out that was working on his car. What originally caught my eye was when he walked from the front of the car carrying 2 very large tool boxes, which we all know is very heavy. He had on a black tank top and jean shorts so I could see the strain of the weight of the toolbox in his oh-so-muscular arms. The tank top showed it all as I gazed from the arms down to the shoes, up to finally his face, then to his back when he turned around. Normally I feel funny about being caught looking at someone but the cool breeze and hum of the gas pump created a silent slow motion gaze that I couldn’t seem to break. When he saw me looking at him, it’s like he almost knew what part of his physique had me in a temporary trance. As he walked back to the front of his car I was jarred back to reality by the pump letting me know I can’t possibly get anymore gas in the dayum car. Then surprisingly, as I began to drive away, I couldn’t help but feel the magnetic pull of my eyes turning back into his direction for a last once over as he caught me looking again. My guilt finally kicked in as I quickly turned away and got the hell out of there. Whew! Boy this sure has been a hot summer…oh wait, it was just me. LOL!
Gaman Continental does not mean buffet. You better eat these muscadines and call it a day. Ain’t no mo Grapes!
By PK
June 22, 2007 9:28 AM | Link to this
“I think the study could be a ploy to get women to watch more porn. You know guys have good PR like that”
That and that fact that we knew we were being monitored. Of course we’re going to look at the face first when someone is watching us…
By Raqi
June 22, 2007 9:30 AM | Link to this
(Hmmm. Whitebread had a thing for touching my face…primarily during the act.)
I believe woman has been conditioned to conceal our attitude about sex since the beginning of time. And that conditioning still goes on in some households today. I personally never understood why because we are part of the experience. One of the things I greatly appreciated about my mother is she just told it like it was. She said one day you are going to want it and yada, yada, yada.
What really amazed me growing up is in one of my neighbor’s house my friend was being told by her father that sex is bad and foul but at the same time telling her brother the total opposite. Now if sex is good for the boys and bad for the girls who were the boys suppose to share this great experience with…each other? Or maybe the dog?
But anyway back on the topic…I think the study is pretty accurate. I will admit to seeing a scene and watching the maneuverings of the guy’s act rather than look at his face.
When I check out a guy I usually zero in on the torso, then the hands, the shoes and then the whole buttocks region. So yeah I am caught looking.
By 2CPTG
June 22, 2007 9:34 AM | Link to this
mornin’….another intersting topic, I must say…..scientific studies, gotta love ‘em….
at any rate, sexual prowess in men has long been a “test” of his overall manhood, so to speak..this has been going on since the beginning of time; Check out the the early Romans and their views! As it relates to the topic, yes, we want to know if we’re hittin’ it right! We need that confirmation…whether it be by facial expression, or sounds, we need that!!! As professor MusingLee added the other day in his wangus study, perhaps thats why women go for our proverbial jugular in dissing our penile powers when things go sour….
just my 2 cents.
By Lady J
June 22, 2007 9:34 AM | Link to this
You know as I grew a little from the divorce and after having the baby I have became more comfortable about my secularity…I am in tune that sex is not a bad thing and it is okay to discuss with the opposite sex without being viewed as lose or a hoe…Some may view me as bc I am not tight lip about it to a guy if I am attracted physically or that I am in the mood but for most it is a turn off bc again society and men feel they are suppose to chase…So here lately I don’t even let that side of me shine to most bc they can’t handle it and judge me wrong or lose interest be they feel I am too aggressive but anyway…I am on the no sex thing right now so it does not matter…Will being a member of the BOC Club before the summer ends…lol
By Wise Diva
June 22, 2007 9:34 AM | Link to this
ah, Slimone you bring up a GREAT point! Why do women feel guilty for gawking?!
By SeanJohnson3000
June 22, 2007 9:36 AM | Link to this
Sup Blog..regarding the topic..it all depends on the indivual man and what he likes in women on what he notices first….That survey/study reflects how detailed women are when it comes to sx and body parts..its a given they studied what the dude was workig with as all women do..but they always observed the females body in relation to their own and what is considered fine/attractive in her eyes as well as what she would think a man thought..i have watched “flix” with females and they notice and point out every thing…from is she thought the girls butt was TOO big to how her weave busted to fake contacts..i wont even get into how critial they critique the sxn…
By Ladylike
June 22, 2007 9:38 AM | Link to this
The fact that women gravitated toward the activity more than the face is not surprising, especially since some of us don’t get much activity. LOL. The Ladies are more detailed oriented, meaning we are more interested in position, how we are laying, which direction are we facing.
By Wise Diva
June 22, 2007 9:38 AM | Link to this
@PK, good point, so you think that guys can “fool” the monitor, kind of like, tricking a lie detector test?
By MusingLee
June 22, 2007 9:42 AM | Link to this
Wise I have no problem with Women gawking, as long as they don’t have on their “Who Ishhed” face.
Slim what did you face say other than “These gas fumes got me highhhhhhhh”?
By Ladylike
June 22, 2007 9:42 AM | Link to this
Good Morning WLB, and sweet kisses to the MLB, it’s Friday, and man I’m glad.
By T-Mango
June 22, 2007 9:44 AM | Link to this
What do you think about the study?…I will say this so far. Men often view themselves as being visual, but so are women. So, they may be onto something.
For example, ahem, I was at an event where a 6 ft 3inch tall (over 225lbs) man jumped on the table where I was sitting and seamlessly rolled into a full headstand complete with simultaneous 1 minute 360 degree whind*. Then, he removed himself from the table by falling out of the headstand into a flawless one arm dismount back onto the floor. I was fixated on that vision as it occurred and the memory was etched in my memory for months. Why was I fixated on that image…1.)It was beautiful, 2.)It was moving, 3.)It was performing a feat that I’d never seen done before…
By Lady J
June 22, 2007 9:44 AM | Link to this
In tune with my sexuality…that is what I meant…
By Lady J
June 22, 2007 9:47 AM | Link to this
Maybe WD bc many times they will come back with quick I did notice your face and eyes but I could not miss the behind either so hey they are men and they are going to look…Good Point WD!
By Jake
June 22, 2007 9:48 AM | Link to this
Good morning Blog:
Wise On the breast question:
Seriously, women breast are just one of those attractive pieces that ladies were blessed with that draw you in. We wonder, are they softies,perkies, how round is that areola, are those nips a quarter or half inch. We can literally see the differences in size, shape, and posture. Every set is different and we love variety.
On topic: I am not suprised, women are just as sexual as men, I catch ladies here at the job lookin at my member everyday. I think its funny and the ego stroke ain’t bad either.
By Ladylike
June 22, 2007 9:49 AM | Link to this
In my opinion many women have not been given the support & teaching needed to feel comfortable with their sexuality and being sexual people themselves. Slimone has a good point.
By SlimOne
June 22, 2007 9:56 AM | Link to this
PK/WISE Most often times during an scientific experiment, the testees (no pun intended) aren’t told what the study is being done on. If they told the participants the objective it would throw the results off.
Wise I think the guy kind of liked the fact that I was peeping him out. It seemed like he flexed those arms of his a little more once I was found out. lol Another thing, there is a stigma that if a woman can be very vocal in telling you what she likes, that she too is considered to be loose or close to the ho status. I’m not sure if this stigma has decreased any, but some men are intimadated by that.
Men At the salon last week, me this guy and this other lady was talking about how folks are into certain things and talking about women messing with women versus men messing with men. An interesting point came up in regards to why some women that used to date men, end up going over to the women side. Our suggestion was that a women is more sensual and would have a better idea of what another one would like. The guy said men shouldn’t be so offended or against taking pointers from a lesbian on how to please a women. So why is it that you guys would have a problem with listening to suggestions from a lesbian on how to please your women, instead of the Oh I’m a man hear me Roar, she’ll like whatever I do to her??????? Personally I think it would be a great idea.
By For Real
June 22, 2007 10:02 AM | Link to this
What up Blog Fam!!!!!
On topic: I believe men have always known the first area of focus for women.
Color - I just love them dark skinneded brothers. Make me feel like he going to tare my azz up.
Arm - Is strong enough to lift my azz?
Feet - Is his wang long enough to reach my azz?
Hands - Are they big enough to hold my azz?
Butt - Is it big enough for me to hold on to so my azz want fall?
Smile - Oh he has a pretty smile. I can see that smile kissing my azz.
Eye - He got some sneaky eye. Imma give him some but I aint trusting his azz.
By The Truth
June 22, 2007 10:02 AM | Link to this
The Truth walks in a little late and butt naked looking for a WLB member to sratch his back. LOWER, LOWER (OK that was a cheap attempt at having some hottie scratch his azz, a morning ritual) Wattup to the MLB.
Wow, what a timely topic. A friend of mine this week asked to watch me and my ex gf having sex. My ex wife asks all the time if she can watch so I believe it. Anyway, the 1st friend wants to start a small sex club. Apparently she has a bday coming up (mid 30’s) and realized that since she probably won’t be getting married again sex can be fun for the sake of having sex. She’s got it all planned out, topless waitresses, camera’s, the whole thing. I told her we could do it as a money making venture (She wants to do it at my house) but I don’t get down with the group set. Four’s a crowd, three if its another dude.
I think the way to maximize a womans sexual fun is to eliminate the thought of marriage. If she holds on to that marriage thing she won’t really open up sexually (Think Hugh Hefner and his 10 gf’s) in hopes of a greater prize. Once she truly understands thats not an option (and after she leaves for awhile searching for a hubby and can’t find one)then she opens up to other options. It’s like a formula. .02
By SlimOne
June 22, 2007 10:03 AM | Link to this
Musing I honestly couldn’t tell you what my face said. I just felt stuck for what seemed like a few minutes but probably didn’t last that long. I know my mind was saying, You naughty naughty girl, Ohhh You’re so bad…stop…stop, you shouldn’t be thinking that…Okay breathe, he he wooo, he he woo. Snap back to reality* Dayumit, I pumped $45! I was only supposed to put $2.13 in the tank!!!
T-Mango You’ve painted a Very beautiful picture. LOL Sounds like something I’ve seen too at a Luscious Event.
Jake I am not ashamed to admit, I done a little crotch watching on guys, but only when something seems to draw my attention down there. LOL
By Lady J
June 22, 2007 10:04 AM | Link to this
Slim it has not…We are to be seen not heard in my opinion…
By NCGirlfromATL
June 22, 2007 10:04 AM | Link to this
Slim does that mean you were giving him the…ahem…gas face? LMAO!!
LMAO @ Musing’s breasteses response. Notice he didn’t include, hanging down by the waist, flat as a pancake, or carpenter’s dream. LOL!
On topic: Nah, it doesn’t surprise me. A man’s face isn’t the first thing I notice about him. What usually gets my attention first is how he carries himself. Then arms/abs (if I can see them), then his face/hair style, teeth, then the overall picture. I know this b/c someone asked me about this recently, and I thought about it one day when I saw someone new in the gym.
Jake baby…put the package away. It’s early, and not enough caffeine has been consumed for all of that. lol!
Morning SJ!
By melo
June 22, 2007 10:09 AM | Link to this
Wise, ur topic today validates this scene I observed one time. Its about a group of women who were sitting down, waiting for a politician to address them at a poilitical rally.Two donkeys, a bull and a female were frolicking nearby, the bull attempting to score on the female.Its BIG dyck was out,ready to pounce..(have u guys seen a donkeys pistol..my god its HUGE)It was dripping with..u know what. The big problem is….the Bull donkey was missing the gaping, waiting azz hole(sorry)!! Pliz just imagine that for a second females..if it were u, and Jonas cant exactly hit u right, and u ready. It was climbing..missing, and climbing again but missing. All this HIT and MISS was in full view of the women. From where the women were, a chorus was heard…in unison, drowning the hall,Yuwi..yuwi..ehh..ehhh yuwi..yuwi..ahh..ohh!!. And some women were squrimishing and tossing and turing in their seats!! That research is probably very true!!
By Jake
June 22, 2007 10:12 AM | Link to this
Slim
Listening to a lesbian: Good idea or not. Most men would never do it?
“Woman have hole in middle, Me have long pole, put pole in hole” (said in my caveman/neanderthal voice)
By T-Mango
June 22, 2007 10:12 AM | Link to this
Truth…you must have the freakiest set of friends that I’ve ever heard of. Interesting that they always seem to seek you out to participate in the activities (lol).
Slimone…we may have been at the same event (he, he, he)
By Lady J
June 22, 2007 10:13 AM | Link to this
Melo it is early and I don’t want to laugh but that was too funny!!! LOL
By bunnyfoofoo
June 22, 2007 10:15 AM | Link to this
My old lady looks too. She likes em dark skinned, and I am very light.
What do I do? I have her on a leash, but sometimes…
By Raqi
June 22, 2007 10:17 AM | Link to this
2CPTG Call me..uh..odd, but I too sometimes like to view the expression of pleasure on his face.
Like when I am saddling the bronco and controlling the gears and with great anticipation he awaits my movements, sometimes becoming overly anxious trying to take firm hold of my hips with those strong hands while I remove them telling him I am running this show and that look in his eyes is begging pleeeease…Oh I just love it. Now there have been a few occasions where that maneuver has gotten me flipped on my back and pounded like a hammerdrill…but that’s just as good too.
I know it’s too early for that…I have to call and check on my son anyway.
By SlimOne
June 22, 2007 10:20 AM | Link to this
Jake Most men would never do it? Well what about it coming from your woman. Would you be offended or be open to her suggestions? If so, what’s the best way to approach you all on that w/o you getting upset?
By Cassie
June 22, 2007 10:20 AM | Link to this
I can’t say that I’ve ever checked out the packaging first. I notice eyes first, then probably azz, then legs…and then I look for a wedding ring! (joke) But I’m not shy about looking someone over at all. NC you are right, it’s in how someone carries himself.
Ladies, I’m in some freaking pain today. I have a UTI and I am VERY unhappy :-( !!!!!
I never did get the male fixation with breasts. They are just big gobs of fat with some milk ducts and two nipples stuck on top. What’s the big attraction?
Slim I know a lot of men who think that lesbians hold the key to the universe, and if they could only learn from the masters they could have all the p*ssy they want. Seriously! Having walked both sides myself, I can say that it isn’t technique so much as it is being receptive and learning what the other person likes, and learning how to interpret their clues. I don’t mean someone grabbing your ears and mashing your mouth into snorkel land, I mean learning how to read their response to what you touch, how you touch, and when.
By SeanJohnson3000
June 22, 2007 10:23 AM | Link to this
@ Slim….i have a bi friend..and me and her have exchanged notes and techniques…from regular convo with females to going down on females..and our styles were similiar…what i got/get out of it is….its about how you communicate and listen to women..in about out of bed…and being attentive in and out of bed..
By SlimOne
June 22, 2007 10:23 AM | Link to this
Raqi Now there have been a few occasions where that maneuver has gotten me flipped on my back and pounded like a hammerdrill OH MY, OH MY! lol
By Tazzee
June 22, 2007 10:24 AM | Link to this
Morning folks,
As much as I love a nice smile (translation: nice teeth) I have to admit that the face is not the first place I look either. After initially noticing a man I zero in on the hands, arms, back/chest (whichever is visible) then I look in the face and hope all that fineness is not wasted on a jacked up grill.
LOL @ Musing’s reasons why men like breasts.
By SeanJohnson3000
June 22, 2007 10:26 AM | Link to this
@ NcAtlien…whats the business?
By SlimOne
June 22, 2007 10:27 AM | Link to this
NC Gas Face ohhh you went wayyyy back on that one. lol
By Lady J
June 22, 2007 10:29 AM | Link to this
Cassie I feel you my head is pounding and I am trying not turn into a bitter woman…The kids even notice tude…Gots to check myself quick…This too shall pass!:)
By Cassie
June 22, 2007 10:29 AM | Link to this
SeanJohnson You are so right!
By IslandGirl
June 22, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this
Morning Everybody. Slim thanks for the coffee and bagel
This topic should render some interesting comments.
@Truth….a former co-worker of mine and his wife asked me to join them at a swinger’s club, so I know how folks can catch you off guard with these things.
On topic: Areas of attraction for men (from what I’ve seen) •Face •Chest size •booty
Areas of attraction for women (my personal list) •Face •Arms, Chest, Butt •Height and teeth
By NCGirlfromATL
June 22, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this
then I look in the face and hope all that fineness is not wasted on a jacked up grill.
Co-signing Tazzee’s 10:24 post w/ the pink cure for Breast Cancer pen.
Daaaaaang Raqi…work it out, girl! LOL!
By i'm swiss
June 22, 2007 10:35 AM | Link to this
Yeah, I read that article myself & I have to say… sometimes scientists are a little too smart for their own good. The explanation for their findings is pretty obvious: We (guys) have been trained. You don’t have to get slapped or cussed out very often to learn that if you want to do anything more than look at the goodies, you’d darn well better start with the EYES. :)
Plus, we all know you ladies are obsessed w/ the mandingos, you just don’t like to admit it. LOL
By Ladylike
June 22, 2007 10:36 AM | Link to this
Okay, here goes. Women loving Women has also been going on since the beignning of time. Men do have a attitude of I’m a man and I know what you need, you don’t need to direct me. I think men don’t have the maturity to really love a woman the way a woman needs to be loved. I have met many women who are just caring, attentive, receptive; and men don’t always have these same traits. Now, I love men and truly God neva made nothin more alluring, and beautiful than the opposite sex but they need to consider how to better love their women.
By SlimOne
June 22, 2007 10:37 AM | Link to this
It’s funny, but I was watching Cathouse II (The Bunny Ranch) on HBO last night. Basically, on the show last night, one of the girls were sort of having a teach/guestion & answer session. She stated how many men are clueless to the techniques on Earmuffing. I was amazed at the men’s eagerness to learn and comfort on some of the questions they asked. I wonder if the woman’s profession gave them that comfort to be able to be open to what she said as well as to ask. *I guess it did help that the chick had no problem demonstrating the particular topics-lol)
By The Truth
June 22, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this
Slim to be totally honest I don’t need instuctions from a lesbain. Truth is she could never do what I do. My hook is the raw passion. The total domination thing. I’ve met hardcore d** and they still come with a soft vibe. A dominant female is a oxymoron. When you get with THe Truth its my show, you just follow directions.
T-Mango I may be one of the luckiest guys in the world. I have had some great lovers(I’ve said it before) and friends. If this blog wasn’t my dirty little secret I’d have my ex wife post because she could tell you better than I can.
On breasts, what can be said. Home, a place to rest your mind, the essence of a woman. Sweet, deserving ALOT of attention. A sister in a black bra and matching pannies, oh, I’m taking that thang.
By i'm swiss
June 22, 2007 10:40 AM | Link to this
@Musing — re: your 9:00am post…
I think I’m in the other 12% of dudes — of course, if you just switch “boobs” and “booty” around, then you’ve pretty much got me pegged… LOL
By SeanJohnson3000
June 22, 2007 10:42 AM | Link to this
@ Ladylike…i think i know who u were now…
By Cassie
June 22, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this
TheTruth Anyone looking to rest their head on my breasts would be laying mostly on my ribcage!
By Lady J
June 22, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this
Slim I use to love that show…lol
By Sexione
June 22, 2007 10:45 AM | Link to this
TGIF!!!!!!!
Okay, it’s been a full day already!!!!
Sexi just now getting to training class that started at 8:30 because she made the mistake of stopping by the office this morning…runs in, muffin in hand, trips and spills her cup of water………..awwwwww dayum!!
GAman Whats the movie for today?
Okay, now I’ll attempt to catch up…….
By Wise Diva
June 22, 2007 10:46 AM | Link to this
whatever, I’m swiss, I’ll admit it. I worship the muscle.
By Blatino aka BMW aka BLT
June 22, 2007 10:48 AM | Link to this
What a topic. Gotta earn it today, but the Poobah is leaving the Blog in good hands today.
Much love, Blogfam.
By For Real
June 22, 2007 10:52 AM | Link to this
Slim To answer your question. One of the things my Paw-Paw taught me is every women is different. So you have experiment with each lady to determine her hot spots. Lesbian’s on the other hand are just now learning this. Man have been practicing this for centuries. Men that have not learned this critical piece of advice are not good in bed.
By Lady Dark w/Dimples
June 22, 2007 10:56 AM | Link to this
Happy Friday Everyone
Personally, what attracts me more to the act versus the face is the fact that it is sooooo hard to find a man who knows how to satisfy. I want to examine this dudes technique to see if he knows what he’s doing…if it looks like he knows what he’s doing then I’ll smile and vision myself in her place…if not, i’m frowning and switching channels…
By IslandGirl
June 22, 2007 10:57 AM | Link to this
@SJ…..you’re one smart dude. The others guys can stand their pounding their chests talking about not wanting/needing instructions. Nothing is wrong with getting a tip or two. The best coniligus action I’ve ever had was from a dude that learned from a female porn star. I had to prepare each time for that trip to the moon…….literally…..he took me out of this world when he went through my kitchen…..you can take that note to the bank.
By i'm swiss
June 22, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this
@Wise — LOL Could you repeat that, please? And in your sexy diva voice this time… :-)
By SlimOne
June 22, 2007 11:03 AM | Link to this
Truth When you get with THe Truth its my show, you just follow directions Um I kind of got that impression with your supposed ‘compromises’ from the other day. Yeah you’ll compromise alright, only if it was your idea. I know how to get around that, just make you think it was your idea to begin with
Lady J The new series starts July 7th, if i’m not mistaken. I find myself making mental notes, so I can learn a thing or two.
By IslandGirl
June 22, 2007 11:06 AM | Link to this
@Raqi….girl I think you can give Zane some competition on some of that writing. After reading your post, I’m ready to call my buddy for some lunch aerobics….:-)
By The Truth
June 22, 2007 11:09 AM | Link to this
Ladylike your line “Now, I love men and truly God neva made nothin more alluring, and beautiful than the opposite sex but they need to consider how to better love their women” is like wtf. Dudes don’t need to change. Their cool the way they are. They just need to find a woman that reads love the way he kicks it out. Here we go with that men feminization chit thats killing this country again. If you want a gf get one, hopefully it won’t have a penis. (Said in the friendliest manner I can manage)
I am typically a breast man but my recent ex wasn’t packin d’s but she had azz forever. I’m now officially a 50/50 bruh. Azz/breast
IG actually it didn’t catch me off guard because we had talked about it before. Then I was with the last gf and really wasn’t interested. But now. LOL BTW, did you go? I went to Velvet heaven with a friend and it was cheesy as hell. Fake leather furniture with stains, Jerry Springer type chicks. Not for me. I just want 2 women who are cool with our little group and y’all can have the rest. I’m done.
Cassie my buddy likes his womens chests like 10 yo boys so theres something for ev1. LOL UTI, get that thing checked.
By For Real
June 22, 2007 11:10 AM | Link to this
My List:
Face - Looks the same when she wakes in the morning with dried slob and ish in the corner of her eyes.
Ankles and Calves - Thick and proportional to the calf. Track star!!!
Boot - Again track star. Looks like she can run the 100 in 10.2. MMMMM wanna race.
Breast - 1970 is the preferred year. No bra required with perky nipples.
Disclaimer - For Real will never ever turn down any breast feeding opportunity Illregardless of the size of the breatestes
By Lady J
June 22, 2007 11:12 AM | Link to this
Thanks Slim…Will be watching and taking notes lol…
By Tazzee
June 22, 2007 11:16 AM | Link to this
Raqi girl you know I love reading you, but Imma need you to put a disclaimer in front of post like your one to 2can.
By For Real
June 22, 2007 11:18 AM | Link to this
IG That’s what I am talking about. You like what you like but Lw/2Ds would like it done another way. When women say he doesn’t know what he is doing they are really saying what he is doing to her wouldn’t do anything for me. So, that’s why my Paw-Paw said start out with a plan but be ready to change it bc you never know and a women usually doesn’t know what will curl her toes or sufficate you. He also said women are like a symphony when you have all of hot spots working together at the same time it’s music to your ears.
I was like 9 yrs old when he told me that
By NCGirlfromATL
June 22, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this
Now that we know that Truth is only about pleasing Truth we can move on…
SJ (giving you a round of applause for being inquisitive) It’s cool you don’t have a problem asking a woman questions about her body, etc. That shows you are a considerate lover. Nice!
By SlimOne
June 22, 2007 11:23 AM | Link to this
For Real That very well may be true. But pass the word to your fellow MLB’ers that ‘little man in the boat’ doesn’t need to have the life choked out of him. Just be mindful that he’s a ‘sensitive’ little guy. lol hope you get my drift
LDD if it looks like he knows what he’s doing then I’ll smile and vision myself in her place…if not, i’m frowning and switching channels I’m right there with ya sister except I don’t change channels I just fast forward. hehehehe
IG I had to prepare each time for that trip to the moon…….literally…..he took me out of this world Slim now in yellowpages looking for another ‘astronaut’ from the same agency
By IslandGirl
June 22, 2007 11:23 AM | Link to this
Truth….no I didn’t go, but I was curious. They go to Trapeze. I was looking forward to going to the halloween costume party there, just to watch, at best…..he he he he he (IG wearing a bad girl smirk right now).
By SeanJohnson3000
June 22, 2007 11:23 AM | Link to this
@ Irie Girl…i am the only dude in my dept..so i and dragged in cnvos females have all day..and they talk about sx more than men amongst themselves…i give my pov and i get a bunch of females pov on sx…the tips i have gotten from a few bi females gave a diffrent perspective on going down…i was already great at it..but as some has mentioned every female is different..i could give a class…but one tip i will give…watch your female mstrbate…it will tell a lot what and how she likes it..and the tempo she likes…and pay attention to her body and her reactions.
By For Real
June 22, 2007 11:23 AM | Link to this
Ladies when men hear you say I want a man to love me like a women it sounds like you want a woman. You never hear a man say I want my woman to love me like a man. Nasty ain’t it???
By SlimOne
June 22, 2007 11:28 AM | Link to this
For Real He also said women are like a symphony when you have all of hot spots working together at the same time it’s music to your ears I couldn’t agree with your Paw Paw more. However, in our fast food world a lot of times guys try to get by with playing only one or two instruments in a given session. A bucket and some drumsticks for a simple beat, isn’t going to get it every time. Play some strings, keyboards, etc…let’s make muuuuusssiiiiicccc!
By Ladylike
June 22, 2007 11:28 AM | Link to this
Hate to be the one to break to you Truth but the way that every man loves is not necessarily the way to love a woman. Now I realize we are all different but some forms of affection, support, and kindness can be considered abuse or neva the less non-existent all together. And this is not men feminization. What’s so feminine about a man who takes the time to listen to and understand what his woman needs, we do. And let me add to my statement “Nothin’s more endearing than a kind, considertate man who knows how to say no, but also is the same man that listens at all times and responds in a loving manner”. “Said in the friendliest manner I can manage”, that’s cute Smile. LOL
By IslandGirl
June 22, 2007 11:28 AM | Link to this
Real…I agree with you. Your daddy had you in training at 9yrs. If I’m not being to nosy, at what age did you put his schooling into action? Just curious….cause I have a 15 yr odl.
By Sexione
June 22, 2007 11:33 AM | Link to this
I think what we (men and women) see first varies depending on who we think may be watching us. Personally, I tend to catch the walk, then upper body (arms, chest, stomach), then lower body, sometimes face gets swept into the upper body “look” cause it’s jacked up to have a “nice look” going on and get to the face and scream!!!!! lol
lol @ the men and the breasts!! I thought it was the butt…….mine seems to get a whole LOT of attention…….lol
Sexi now staring at Jake’s package using her mental ruler………
By IslandGirl
June 22, 2007 11:34 AM | Link to this
SLM…lololololololo….girl you’re a mess!!!!
By SlimOne
June 22, 2007 11:35 AM | Link to this
For Real I don’t want a man to please me like a women. I want a man to please me like a man but be mindful of my body and don’t kill the p-dussy. I do want to go home crying cuz you killed it…unfortunately, it doesn’t get 9 lives.
By Raqi
June 22, 2007 11:38 AM | Link to this
What Tazzee? What did I say? LOL (Now you know my definition of bronco is not the same as that of the urban sense…if that’s what threw you)
By 2CPTG
June 22, 2007 11:41 AM | Link to this
Raqi….gal, I guess that’s why we see eye to eye….you’re right, cause that move you described causes a heightened level of anticipation, i.e., make a nukka come quick!!!! and we ain’t trynna have it like that…like you said, that’ll cause you to get drill’t…..keep spittin’ it, lil mama..
By The Truth
June 22, 2007 11:41 AM | Link to this
NC I’m not just pleasing me, the things I do please the women I’m with. If, however, they need a night with a gentle caring, sensitive dude, then they need to hit their rolodex. Homie don’t do dat. Some women love getting that azz spanked (hard) and that hair pulled. Thats the ONLY type of chick I mess with. If thru the conversation I determine you aren’t into my thing then we can be friends, or something.
On another tip. THis weekend I am hosting, for a friend, a bookreading club. Any ideas on how I can make this thing a hit? Never hosted a bc meeting. I have the liquor thing down but what type of food should i have, if any.
IG I heard about Trapeze but haven’t been. Like I said after seeing the last spot I don’t think thats my thing. These spots don’t pass the taste test. If I don’t feel like I can take a taste its not for me. LOL
TY For REal. Nuff said.
By SlimOne
June 22, 2007 11:43 AM | Link to this
For Real correction I don’t want to go home crying cuz you killed it lol
By Lady J
June 22, 2007 11:44 AM | Link to this
lol Slim and Sexi!!
By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment
June 22, 2007 11:45 AM | Link to this
OK Sexione..as you know the Summer movie fun is about to begin…with Transformers…another edition of Bruce Willis Die here,ther and everywhere….but this week..if you have nothing to do i will recommend Mr.Brooks if you have not seen this crazy..mind bumbling feature..then get ready to have your mind twisted and turned in ways you never thought of…i can’t go into details but i will tell you this much..when you get up and walk out you will be shaking your head sayingI know it’s some crazy fools like that in the “A”
For those with the small kids hold on your movies are coming but check out Surf’s up it is a funny movie that you and the kids will like…you will have your fair share of laughs and oooh and ahhhh moments….so enjoy
Now Mr. Brooks was alittle slow but it speeds up with the plot and once its get going you will like it…..Drumroll i give Mr. Brooks 2 1/2 stars out of 5 (Remember i said if you have nothing else to do)
Surf’s Up is a hit and will be for awhile…..4 out 5 stars
Next week i will have Evan Almight
So until then you know I’m gonna do what i do….this is Ga.Man doint it and doint in the “A”
By Jake
June 22, 2007 11:52 AM | Link to this
Sexi
Is that a 12inch ruler you are holding? Back your thumb back a lil…HEHEHE
By PK
June 22, 2007 12:02 PM | Link to this
Slim Listening to a lesbian: Good idea or not.
Wouldn’t it make more sense for me to find out what my girl likes from her ? It’s been my experience that no 2 women like exactly the same things. But, if you pay attention, you can usually pick up what they like…
By The Truth
June 22, 2007 12:10 PM | Link to this
Lady when i was growing up a couple in the apt behind us had a chick that would get her azz tore out the frame about once every 2 weeks. The guy she was with said if he didn’t stay on her hard she would act up and he’d wupp her azz and she’d be cool for awhile. They did this for a long time. People receive love in many ways. Happiness is me kicking out love the way I do and the woman enjoying it just the way I kick it out. I can be me forever but when I start altering myself to accomodate you the clock starts ticking. BTW, thats what women do, not men. I am totally cool with you saying I’m an azzhole because I do what I do but I’m not cool with you calling me a punk because I did what you wanted me to do, to find out later you really didn’t know what you wanted. And no, Im not kind, considerate and compassionate. I’m the dude you come to after that dude makes you sick to your stomach. (Said in the friendliest manner I can muster, again)
Everyone who has played sports knows that the minute you start playing your opponents game you’ve lost.
By Jake
June 22, 2007 12:20 PM | Link to this
Slim/NCLadies
If done properly, you should experience both. The TT& T is 100% Guranteed, Its the combo that gets it just right.
Give it a Tough Tease until that thing is sensitive, then Tear dat azz up. Once that thing is sensitive, the women won’t be able control herself and you can do want you want with it…LOL Pleasing a woman is not life’s biggest mystery The only unknown in sex is, STAMINA…JMO.
These can be done in reverse order, depends on the lady, but you can’t be a one trick pony.
ALL Tease- You’re soft, and have a weak back.
All Tear-You’re a Babarian, and have no respect for the puddy.
By SlimOne
June 22, 2007 12:24 PM | Link to this
PK Of course finding out what your particular woman likes always trumps all. I only suggested that for potential ideas that the guy would not have thought of or mere pointers. if you pay attention, you can usually pick up what they like… You said the key phrase, IF YOU PAY ATTENTION…some guys just assume you should like something because the last girl never said it didn’t feel good. I’ve heard that way too many times. “Well i’ve never gotten a complaint”
You have look for the signs
If she’s just laying there expressionless or sounding like a cheap recording, then she probably isn’t that into it.
If you do something, get a positive response from it, then do a different move and don’t get that same response…go back to the previous thing.
If she is moving around sort of in a get-a-way mode, then you’re probably putting too much pressure on the most sensitive part of her body. So raise up a little bit to see if her motions change.
If she is going crazy and is telling you not to stop, for peaks sake DOn’t stop. LOL!
If your fingers are doing the walking, please don’t try to touch her heart from down there. UGGHHH!
For any of the bullseye target areas, don’t always go straight there. Take the scenic route around those areas. She’ll start to anticipate you getting to the venue, which in turn will get her more excited.
some may like this but I don’t Please don’t ask me what your name is…I might get smart and call you Barney Rubble or something.
By Tazzee
June 22, 2007 12:24 PM | Link to this
The Truth so you consider your sex partner to be your opponent?
By melo
June 22, 2007 12:29 PM | Link to this
Everyone who has played sports knows that the minute you start playing your opponents game you’ve lost.Truth Truth, this is only true because u and ur opponent are in opposition.
With ur girl, u are a team! U collaborate! Man u not getting it.
By The Truth
June 22, 2007 12:29 PM | Link to this
TAZZ no, i consider a chick that wants me alter myself a n opponent.
By Ladylike
June 22, 2007 12:34 PM | Link to this
Everyone does not need to be beaten, in fact spankings and hair pulling may be what she/I like, Lol, but couples are not always in the bedroom. Men need to view interaction with women, especially your woman as an opportunity to build and extend closeness and communication. “It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it.” Many women want to be handled in the bedroom but they want the same man to be as open and receptive outside the bedroom, i.e. hear her out, learn what she enjoys, you know her “thing”. Spending time to whup a woman’s butt clearly states “to each their own,” but does not make it good. You are definitely not an a& h$%le but a tough man with a tender heart, I’m sure of it, go ahead you can Smile*
By melo
June 22, 2007 12:34 PM | Link to this
Truth, I am shaking my head. U take the phrase’hit it’ literally.
By SlimOne
June 22, 2007 12:36 PM | Link to this
Truth Sex with women is not like a cheap ONE-SIZE-FITS-ALL type of deal. Just because you lady suggest you try this or that with her, is not her trying to be your opponent or trying to make you alter yourself. You give me the impression that you are the same way everytime or either you aren’t comfortable or confident enough to take a suggestion. It shouldn’t be a battle unless you and her are competing both with each other against each other trying to see who cracks first or something.
By Lady J
June 22, 2007 12:40 PM | Link to this
Melo Fridays are your good days!!! lol Keep preaching for your folk!!! lol