Misadventures in Atlanta

By SlimOne

June 19, 2007 8:20 AM | Link to this

Slim dragging in A sleepy weak wave to the MLB & WLB

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

June 19, 2007 8:22 AM | Link to this

Head nod the MLB….Winks and High School rubs against all the ladies of the WLB

By Raqi

June 19, 2007 8:37 AM | Link to this

For me certain factors only came into play once it had been determined that this was the person I will be with for a long while, marriage or not. For the first year or so we were just having fun…entertaining and keeping each other company. Once the talk of LTR began to surface then it mattered about his personal growth style, spiritual outlook and attitude regarding success. These are areas that we had not addressed that would have a bearing on me as a partner to this person.

The physical, emotional and sexual styles compatibilities were enough to keep us “communicating” during the infancy of the relationship. The social, intellectual and communication was enough to keep interested in each other but when it came to being a “part” of each other lives that’s when the more grounded areas mattered.

By QC

June 19, 2007 8:40 AM | Link to this

Morning

By Lady J

June 19, 2007 8:43 AM | Link to this

Morning All!! WD, great topic!

By SlimOne

June 19, 2007 8:54 AM | Link to this

Where does chemistry and passion fit in to this?

Chemistry would initially fall under the physical realm but then would spill over into all others once you get to know that person.

What do you think about risk management in dating? Regardless if you actually sit down and create some kind of profile for each person you date, we do it anyway mentally. I would like to think as you get older you begin to tweek certain things a lot faster because of past experiences. When you’re younger it may be more of a chance of you taking bigger risk because you aren’t necessarily thinking about the consequences..Hell at that age its fun new and exciting. I know with me being a woman, I’m constantly thinking and assessing whenever I date. I normally just enjoy the initial attraction when first meeting someone but then as we spend more time together and have more conversations, I’m listening to their responses, watching their behavior and making mental notes. That person may give me a response to a question or tell me a story about an experience they’ve had and I put it in my world to see if we are compatible past just the physical. As time goes on that persons ‘category’ may change from potential LTR to just friends to just Ohh I just want to see what he’s like in bed. True, none of these things my come to fruition but it doesn’t stop the mental process that goes on during out tenure, whatever level that is.

Does this approach take away from enjoying the dating process at all? Um, to be honest the only way I could see things being w/o doing a little R.M is have impulsive one-night-stands all the time. Other than that, i’d have a hard time not wondering things about someone I’m dating especially since i’m not really in the business of dating to be dating.

By purplepassion

June 19, 2007 8:58 AM | Link to this

Good morning yall, Sexual Style - attitude, skill, ability to enjoy I guess this would go well with a revelation I found out last night thanks to the ever so popular text message. Last evening a friend invited me out for an after dinner drink. I hadn’t seen my him in a long time and he always have great stories to tell of his bout to bout love life so my ears was buring to hear the details. Well on the way to meet him I got a text message from him and it was really sexually explicit. How can I say this would out being repremended by Musing?? He said he was freay and wanted me to bring a strapn and us (not me)going to a gentlemen’s club later on. I knew that text was not meant for me cuz I don’t roll like that. The whole time I was there I just couldn’t look at him and when I did all I could say is WTF a strap*n?? What do yall think about this? Is he bi sexual but instead of being with a man he prefer a woman to do the do to him as if she were a man? Help me understand this.

By Wise Diva

June 19, 2007 9:01 AM | Link to this

Good morning fabulous ladies!

By abc

June 19, 2007 9:02 AM | Link to this

If not for so-called chemistry and passion, the intial meeting probably won’t happen anyway. Besides, that would change over time — not so much fade away, but evolve, adapt. The same old thing abount dopamine and seratonin levels, stuff like that.

By SlimOne

June 19, 2007 9:04 AM | Link to this

purple He said he was freay and wanted me to bring a strapn and us (not me)going to a gentlemen’s club later on can you rephrase this because I’m not clear what he said.

By purplepassion

June 19, 2007 9:12 AM | Link to this

Slim He said he was freaky and wanted me(not ME) to bring a strapon.

By MusingLee

June 19, 2007 9:17 AM | Link to this

Morn’in All,

Hey Wise and QC.

Purple I don’t know WTH dude meant about the strap, but it sounds gay in nature.

By SlimOne

June 19, 2007 9:21 AM | Link to this

Purple ??? Well he could either be bi or just change the he’s to she’s whenever he tells you about his love chronicles. What did he talk about when you and him finally met up?

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

June 19, 2007 9:21 AM | Link to this

Morning All! I leave for vacation tomorrow!! Can you tell that I am ready! LOL

PurplePassion You got this thing jumpin already w/that text msg!! WHEW! I would definitely say that he experiments (and that’s putting it lightly).

Soft kisses and hugs to the MLB and ponytail hair flip to the WLB

I’ll comment later, this is an interesting topic WD!

By T-Mango

June 19, 2007 9:22 AM | Link to this

Hair flip to the WLB and one love to the MLB

This is a good topic. Let me marinate on it for a minute because alot of good questions have been put out there. I’ll be back.

By purplepassion

June 19, 2007 9:25 AM | Link to this

Musing that’s what I’m thinking. What else can a strap on be used for?

By purplepassion

June 19, 2007 9:32 AM | Link to this

Slim after I got that text I wasn’t feeling like talking to him or anyone, I debated whether I show turn around and go home. After I got there we talked about his job etc… but honestly everything he was saying was like blah blah blah to me because I had a mental visual of that strap on and I just couldn’t shake it. I never saw him as bi or gay but if he is I still love him as a friend it was just the shock of the whole thing.

By SlimOne

June 19, 2007 9:36 AM | Link to this

Purple Also, if a dude has no problem with a chick using that type of device to go in that area, I don’t see why he wouldn’t let a dude do it. Either way, it seems very questionable to me. Red Flag Alert

By Ladylike

June 19, 2007 9:38 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All

I definitely enjoy the initial meeting of strong chemistry that is often followed by intoxicating passion. But sooner or later I have to do some Risk Management. Combining styles, interests and hobbies can very well determine the success or failure of a relationship. It doesn’t take away from the dating process I just had to realize that it’s a not-so-fun part of my responsibility when dating.

Oh yeah, Purplepassion the strapn sounds *risky. LOL I guess he’s doing his the thang.

By Wise Diva

June 19, 2007 9:44 AM | Link to this

purple, the only person that can TRULY make you understand, is the guy who made the request. Just come out and ask him what you want to know, listen, and be prepared for the answer. I’m sure you already know how YOU feel about it.

By purplepassion

June 19, 2007 9:51 AM | Link to this

When he told me he was a freak I didn’t know he meant to that extent. When he said freaky I’m thinking something on the line of spanking, hot wax, flavored etible undies never ever did I think strap on. I was talking to another friend and he said that when some people reaches the peak of their sexuality nothing satisfies them so that’s when they result to devices and the choking mechanism to heighten their pleasure during s#x.

By SeanJohnson

June 19, 2007 9:52 AM | Link to this

Sup Blog….i was going to comment..but purple passion spoiled the mode off in this piece…

By Sexione

June 19, 2007 9:55 AM | Link to this

Goodmorning Everybody!!!

Just peeping in……I miss y’all……..be back later!

By MusingLee

June 19, 2007 9:56 AM | Link to this

Purple you should ask him. He has to know he accidentally sent you that text…He is sure to be just as embarrassed as you are.

By purplepassion

June 19, 2007 10:00 AM | Link to this

Wise Diva You are right! I want to but don’t know how. I know that the text message wasn’t for me. I guess I’ll have to come up with a conversation relating to the strap on and see where it goes from there.

By SlimOne

June 19, 2007 10:05 AM | Link to this

PP I agree with Musing. When the person the text was intended for didn’t respond to him, i’m sure he had to have checked to see who he sent it to. Sounds like it’ll be a constant elephant in the room if you and him never discuss it. I would’ve just handed him my phone and asked if he intended to send that to me. Of course I wouldn’t have wanted to actually say it out loud. lol

By purplepassion

June 19, 2007 10:06 AM | Link to this

Sorry SJ

By Dr. Jake the Psychiatrist

June 19, 2007 10:07 AM | Link to this

What up Ya’ll”

Purple

Your friend is refusing to see himself as gay, so he’s letting a woman violate him for the sake of saying he isn’t gay….or somethin like that…I really have the slightest idea what to say about that weirdo behavior…LOL To piggy Wise, ask and get back to us.

On Topic:

I think its dangerous to try managing the risk. Of course there are some standard to met, such as having a job, a place to rest your head, etc…The other stuff is just trial and error.

By Wise Diva

June 19, 2007 10:08 AM | Link to this

back on topic, trying to avoid a day of freak talk LOL please

a person who has a track record of infidelity, would that risk factor be too high?

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

June 19, 2007 10:14 AM | Link to this

Purple you just have to come out and ask dude if he is a POKEMAN…Hey **Musing give her some help…lol

By Jewel

June 19, 2007 10:15 AM | Link to this

Good morning Everyone!

WOW! I am going to like this blog today! GREAT topic, Wise Diva! I need to collect my thoughts and post a little later. My sweetie and I are approaching the three month marker…the cooling off, settling in phase…when those compatibility factors begin to prove the depth and sincerity of the relationship, in my humble opinion.

Be back later…

By Deeva4Life

June 19, 2007 10:23 AM | Link to this

This is such a great topic and could not come at a better time for me.

I’ve been seeing this guy for a little over 2 months and we’ve spent a lot of time together in a short period of time. During this time he’s said to me on several occasions that he’s not looking to just date…he’s looking for something long-term. However, I’ve noticed that there are some areas (sensitivity, consideration of my feelings on issues, attentiveness, etc.) I feel he’s lacking in and those are areas that will determine (for me) where this goes. When I brought these things up to him, he told me that he has to be sure I’m the one before he gives 100% in those areas…I on the other hand need to see those things first before I determine if he’s the one for me. Having been married before, I now look at the big picture and I feel that people give you a preview of who they really are before you marry them. It’s up to you to accept it or not. I do believe that people can change BUT they change when they want to change not simply because they are in a committed relationship with you or even married to you.

After this discussion, I told him it was clear to me that we weren’t at the same place and that maybe we should just be friends. I understand his position…he’s just trying to protect his heart but relationships are about risk and I just don’t think he’s ready to take the risk. Not to mention, the things I’m asking for are basic things that I feel you would do in any relationship (friendships, working relationships, etc). Since when do you have to have a committment to be sensitive or considerate?

By The Truth

June 19, 2007 10:24 AM | Link to this

Good morning bloggers. Illegal reach and grabs to the WLB and handshake with an arm over to the MLB.

Raqi I found your post quite interesting. I for one look for signs early on that this isn’t going to be long term v. waiting till I’ve invested time and heart only to realize this isn’t going to work.

Purple ol boy is catching. I saw a show on the psychology of men v. women and they brought up how women are programmed to have things enter them while men are not. For a man it is a major invasion to get a shot, so if your guy is willing to take one for the team he’s a straight punk. You should ask him face to face and say you got that text message so you can check his expression. Then whip out a strap on and watch the smile on his face. I’ve got 2 words for you: D L

The Truth now hides in Mo’s suitcase (amongst the bras, rabbits, panties, garters, whips and chains- dam Mo’s a freak) to enjoy a free vacation to I dont know where. I will update the bloggers as soon as I know something.

By purplepassion

June 19, 2007 10:25 AM | Link to this

Slim he a call and a few text come in while I was there. Sorry for going kinda off off topic but this was weighing heavy on my mind.

By SlimOne

June 19, 2007 10:26 AM | Link to this

Wise a person who has a track record of infidelity, would that risk factor be too high? Most definitely, No doubt about it. I’m not saying that folks don’t change and lawd knows I don’t want to bring Ling out of the woodworks to have a debate about a zebra changing its stripes, but I would have a harder time trusting someone that I knew to have infidelity issues in the past. There’s too much crap out there to knowingly put yourself at risk.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

June 19, 2007 10:26 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone

On topic: I think it’s hard to manage risk behavior because you can’t manage anyone but yourself. So in essence if you see risky behavior, serial cheater,can’t keep a job, etc you either throw caution and your senses to the wind. I think when it comes to your heart, it’s best to minimize the risk…you do that with business and everything else. Now, with all that being said, if the payoff seems to be that great…ie, the emotional pull is strong, the chemistry is off the chain, etc…then it might be worth the risk….but you still can’t manage it…it’s like the stock market…you do the research up front, make a decision to invest or not, but once you do…it’s out of your hands! You can sell and take your losses….

Off topic: the man is gay purple. I don’t know of a straight man who would want a woman to put anything there…if so, let one of the men from MLB step up and say so!

By Deeva4Life

June 19, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this

GA.man thanks for the movie review for Knocked Up…I went Saturday night to check it out and it was hilarious. I would’ve never gone to see it, but since you suggested it I went. Thanks.

By Teddy

June 19, 2007 10:29 AM | Link to this

Morning Folks!

Purple You friend sounds real suspect to me. Even if the message wasnt meant for you, then who the hell was it meant for?

On topic: a person who has a track record of infidelity, would that risk factor be too high? If I knew going in that she had a track record of cheating them I would just enjoy it for what it is. I would never consider taking her seriously. Maybe I shouldnt say never, more like highly unlikely.

By NCGirlfromATL

June 19, 2007 10:31 AM | Link to this

WD I think most people do some kind of internal risk assessment when they are looking for a relationship. I don’t know if the same can be said when just hooking up. Perhaps the risk assessment is “is she going to leave when we’re done?” “is it going to be good?” LOL!

Interestingly, I think that list you posted is partially what leads people to have requirements (or maybe it’s the other way around) when looking for a mate. That begs the question of whether or not you can actually find someone who checks out on each section of the risk assessment list. As far as when to make such an assessment, it depends on what you’re looking for. For someone looking for a LTR, they may make this assessment right away, and decide not to be bothered if the risk is too high. I have led w/ my heart, and often it has led to heartbreak. I’m much more cerebral about it now. Dunno if that’s a good thing either. LOL!

Yes, for me a person w/ a track record of infidelity is a risk factor that is too high.

By SeanJohnson

June 19, 2007 10:31 AM | Link to this

@ Deeva4life…so what are these basic things u are asking…just curious..

By SlimOne

June 19, 2007 10:32 AM | Link to this

Deeva4Life Since when do you have to have a committment to be sensitive or considerate? I was thinking the same thing upon reading your post. If it’s in a person, it’s in a person. I can see not being as open to express deep felt feelings with someone you just met, but compassion is not necessarily something you have to hold back until being in the midst of a relationship.

By Cinderella

June 19, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this

@Purplepassion- the first thing I thought of when reading your post was he sent the text to another woman and she using the strapon on another woman at the gentleman’s club. I didnt think about the strap being used on him…um, but what do I know!?

By Demi

June 19, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this

Purple or he could have another female already there.

There’s nothing like watching a few beautiful ladies using strap-ons…on themselves, NOT ME!!

Hey Slim, Mo’s, raqi, and the forever sexy, Ms.QC!!!

By Ladylike

June 19, 2007 10:34 AM | Link to this

As far as leading with my heart instead of my head, this is hard to do sometimes. But I’ve that including my head (logic) in decisions has really helped.

Wise Diva the track record of infidelity isn’t to high of a risk in all cases. I have meet some men and women who as they have grown older have really lost the desire to have this kind of lifestyle. It seems unbelievable to say but they have changed.

By Dark Brown

June 19, 2007 10:35 AM | Link to this

The most tragic thing about life’s lessons and love management skills and things of the like - Most often, by the time we learn these lessons and begin to consider issues and determine risks associated with dating and relationships, we are battle scarred and weary and jaded. The experiences that color our thoughts and actions leave us pre-disposed to judge the next relationship based on the last one. And a lot of times, we still end up getting it all wrong.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

June 19, 2007 10:37 AM | Link to this

Truth You are soo crazy!! :0)

Mo taking inventory, making sure she has accounted for everything she needs for this vacation…”wow I didnt realize I had so much stuff I “needed”. Now I have to get all this stuff into my car…and this is just my suitcase, I have even gotten started on my shoes!”

PP i agree with the other bloggers, I would have to ask ole boy about that text.

WD a person who has a track record of infidelity, would that risk factor be too high? With all that is out there and all the potential drama, I would say yes…

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

June 19, 2007 10:37 AM | Link to this

Truth You are soo crazy!! :0)

Mo taking inventory, making sure she has accounted for everything she needs for this vacation…”wow I didnt realize I had so much stuff I “needed”. Now I have to get all this stuff into my car…and this is just my suitcase, I have even gotten started on my shoes!”

PP i agree with the other bloggers, I would have to ask ole boy about that text.

WD a person who has a track record of infidelity, would that risk factor be too high? With all that is out there and all the potential drama, I would say yes…

By purplepassion

June 19, 2007 10:37 AM | Link to this

Teddy your guess is good as mine. I’m clueless.

Thanks to all for your feed back. I will find a way to ask him and take it from there.

By Hotlanta

June 19, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this

You need to put RICH at the top of the list I can acheive all of the goals on the list.

By SlimOne

June 19, 2007 10:41 AM | Link to this

LDD I don’t know of a straight man who would want a woman to put anything there…if so, let one of the men from MLB step up and say so! LOL!@you trying to get them to come out the closet.

PP I just hope you didn’t have any expectations of possibly dating him. I’m sure it has really changed your outlook on him especially since he’s never given you the impression that he may like boys. Keep your head up girl!

By C tha 1

June 19, 2007 10:43 AM | Link to this

O.K., I haven’t posted in a while but purplepassion just set it off!! WTF?! STRAPON clap, clap STRAPOFF clap, clap STRAPON, STRAPOFF the STRAPPER clap, clap! This is simple … at least in my book. Dude likes something that’s strong enough for a man, but made for a woman.

This past Sunday I saw this special on BET called What Black Men Think or something like that (I caught it in the middle of the show). Of course, the show had a barbershop discussion about black males growing homophobia, and the gay dude said something that was extremely relevant. In a nutshell he said that the problem of AIDS/HIV amongst AA is not neccessarily the fault of DL men, but LIARS! Unfortunately (I’m sure yall are all to familiar w/ this) men and women lie, to themselves, and to other people. Its on the level now where people convince themselves that the lie they’re living is a reality. So purplepassion when and if you confront ole dude abou the text message, get ready for a well thought out fabricated story, but actions speak louder than words.

By Deeva4Life

June 19, 2007 10:46 AM | Link to this

SeanJohnson on a couple of different occasions he’s been real insensitive and not considerate of my feelings. Then there are times when he’s not real attentive. To me those things would be considered a basic courtesy not something reserved for a relationship.

By purplepassion

June 19, 2007 10:49 AM | Link to this

Cindrella I didn’t look at it like that but he said lets go to the gentlemens club later which would be after the strap on session. I know text messages are typed in code sometimes and you have to improvise when reading them - this message was not one of them though.

By kimmie

June 19, 2007 10:50 AM | Link to this

Deeva4 - I totally agree, since when do you have to be The One to get simple compassion and consideration. So you are supposed to allow someone to treat you like crap until They decide you are The One, then things are supposed to change? How long do you have to take the poor treatment until a decision is made? This sounds exactly like an ex of mine! There were certain Basics he claimed he could not be until he decided he was going to marry a person! Yet, you need to be looking for basic character traits long before things get to that point! Sure, I can see not giving your heart right away to a person, but sounds like he’s playing games. Like SlimOne said, if its in a person, it is in them to be kind, considerate, etc. and they don’t have to make a special effort to show these things (or not). Life is too short for mess like that. I would never you to kick him to the curb because only you know how you feel and what you are willing to tolerate. Just take a hard look.

By SlimOne

June 19, 2007 10:52 AM | Link to this

C tha 1 In the salon this past weekend, me and some of the other folks somehow got on the subject of different things folks are into that you would never guess. We got on the topic of gay males that don’t deem themselves gay especially if they don’t actually do the ‘giving’. That mentality to me is what they use as their security blanket against being outcast as a said homosexual.

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

June 19, 2007 10:56 AM | Link to this

Deeva No problem….thats what i do….helping folks see things they might not have ever…ever…ever…gone to see…i love it so i will always let everyone know…..

That’s why I am “Mr. Entertainment”

MLB for LIFE

By purplepassion

June 19, 2007 10:57 AM | Link to this

Slim I never looked at him as someone I would date. He’s a handsome man-manly man. Well educated, financially grounded, kind hearted, just a good person to be around.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

June 19, 2007 10:57 AM | Link to this

I agree with you Slim because a guy can always find a girl willing to take it in the rear…why pick a guy if you’re not gay?

By SeanJohnson

June 19, 2007 11:09 AM | Link to this

@LadyDoubleD…please clarify that last post…trying to make sure i am following you correctly..

By Dark Brown

June 19, 2007 11:12 AM | Link to this

Neither Coach Brown nor I have the best track record. With that in mind, the way I deal with his past is knowing exactly what program I signed up for, so does he. I am aware of who and how he can be, but I am not paranoid.

Besides, if I can be faithful, anybody can be faithful.

If at some point in the future, we have an indiscretion to deal with, we will burn that bridge when we get to it. In the interim, I am secure in the relationship that we are enjoying one day at a time.

Keep in mind that even if your partner does not have a “track record”, all track records start somewhere and temptation is around all day, every day even without you or your partner doing a doggone thing except breathing. All you can do is ask “lead us not” and keep it moving.

There is nothing you can do to pain-proof your life except not live it.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

June 19, 2007 11:14 AM | Link to this

Purple if he’s not someone that you’re interested in dating then I wouldn’t bring up his sexual activities/desires…it doesn’t apply to you. It would just make an awkward situation worse….If he’s all those things you listed and you are NOT interested in him then carry on as usual! Keep his little fantasies secret…

By NCGirlfromATL

June 19, 2007 11:15 AM | Link to this

LOL! So much for not going down Freak Avenue today WD.

C tha 1 You stoopid! strong enough for a man, but made for a woman LMAO! Somebody’s got a secret!

Hey SJ!!

Purple I had a similar situation, except it was gay websites on my computer that a guy I was seeing was surfing. I was stunned. I asked him about them (and if he was gay), and he claimed that he was looking for something else (didn’t say what) and the sites just popped up. Except there were several, not to mention the books he had that had some very homosexual content…did I mention the slew of gay friends that I eventually met?…and the computer thing happened more than once. Of course, by the 2nd time, I’d peeped him, his books and his friends, and actually busted him w/ another man, so despite his (continued) very firm grip on the coat rack in the closet, there was no doubt in my mind. Thankfully, I figured it out looooong before we got too involved, and he holds a permanent spot in the FZ. Cemented there.

By T-Mango

June 19, 2007 11:16 AM | Link to this

I think risk management is important. We live in times where disease, violence and a lack of respect & common courtesy for others is prevalent. So…you really have to know the person that you’re seeing…their values/beliefs, background, views, how they treat others, etc.

On one hand risk management is a self managed process. In other words, we make individual decisions to go or not go, ask or not ask, do or not do, etc. However, on the other hand, there are some things that are apart of your life experience that will happen because it is apart of your destiny-your fate.

Ladies, does this come down to following your heart vs. following your head, as men seem to think we often do? Can you have it both ways?

I don’t think it’s fair to have to choose between your heart vs. your head. You can have it both ways. Yet, I think the key to this is paying attention to our ‘gut feelings’. As a woman that is where I find balance between my heart and my head…the inner voice. I believe that some of us as women do not pay attention to our gut feelings as much as we should. Instead, we let our emotions play the primary lead and ignore (or downplay) the facts that are in front of us. However, if we followed our ‘gut’, we’d not only feel, but think & feel. Then, make decisions accordingly.

By For Real

June 19, 2007 11:20 AM | Link to this

What up Blog Fam!!!!

On topic: I always assess risk first and formost. Wise I have used that list all of my. Whether its personal or professional and it has never failed me.

Pee-Pee Dayummmm girl… your flamming thumbtack meant to send you that text. Yall have been girlfriends for much longer than you think if you think about it.

D4Life & Jewel How can I say this… IT HAS ONLY BEEN 2 & 3 MONTHS!!!! PULL THE F/K UP BEFORE YALL’S DUDES RUN AWAY!!!!

Ga.Man POKEMAN That is my friend is funny as hellz….

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

June 19, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this

SJ I was referring to men who say they are not gay because they don’t receive it in the butt, but they like to stand behind a dude and give it all the same. I think they’re in denial because they are still being intimate with a dude. If they weren’t gay, then they would engage in that behavior with a woman….not a male.

By Deeva4Life

June 19, 2007 11:23 AM | Link to this

Kimmie thanks. And I have thought about it and I’ve decided that we’d be better off as friends.

By Jewel

June 19, 2007 11:24 AM | Link to this

Where does chemistry and passion fit in to this? Chemistry and passion are relative, in my humble opinion. These are important, but should not be the end all and be all of a relationship. Some days, I do not feel passion. I certainly have matured to the point that I do not expect fireworks and butterflies in my stomach every time I hear my sweetie’s voice or see him in person. I think if we become dependent on our feelings, we will automatically assume something is wrong if those feelings are missing.

Are these things too risky to build a relationship with? Actually, our relationships are an expression of ourselves…how we interact with others, who we choose to interact with. Every relationship is a risk. Trying to avoid risks only leads to regret later. You have to expose yourself to the other person and that is risky in and of itself. Will they accept me? Does any of our ‘styles’ match? Those are valid questions and should be considered. The order of priority is dependent on the level of commitment and the ultimate goals of each person.

By Alvin

June 19, 2007 11:25 AM | Link to this

C tha 1 dude, I could not stomach that show…at all.

Ladylike that’s true, I now date one woman at a time…old me, a 0e in different counties, LOL

I was young and dumb with no value of myself, LOL

Hey IG!!

I will not come out no time soon, cause I am in love stri…I meant a teacher.

By purplepassion

June 19, 2007 11:27 AM | Link to this

Lady I was mistakenly given private information his sexual activites and I don’t plan to use it against him. Heck the way our conversations have been going he’s bound to tell on himself in due time. I sure hope that he was not trying to pick me to see where my head was at.

By 2CPTG

June 19, 2007 11:33 AM | Link to this

nice topic…..

In my lil humble opinion…..it all depends on YOU, the respective individual….initially (in your roaring 20’s, I like to say), ain’t no caution, ‘cause you really don’t know yourself…when you’re dating, or sowing your oats, you’re actually figuring yourself out! Seeing what you like, dislike, etc…once you’ve matured, then comes caution…’Cause now you oughta know better; and you should be quite selective in whom you choose to become acquainted with. On the flip side, if you’re too selective, and you see life passing you by, then you start throwing caution to the wind, and start settling, and the standards drop……stay focused…and keep ya eyes on the prize!

By For Real

June 19, 2007 11:33 AM | Link to this

D4Life “real insensitive and not considerate of my feelings” Please give examples and not the kind the NC gives.

By purplepassion

June 19, 2007 11:34 AM | Link to this

I feel you on what you’re saying Lady but if the woman is the giver(strap on) and the guy is the receiver then what?

By SeanJohnson

June 19, 2007 11:36 AM | Link to this

Sup Council…

@ Lube/2D’s…gotcha..just making sure..

@ 4real..i was thinking the same thing…takes atleast 90 days of try outs and practices to even make the squad. If they dont pump the brakes..the dudes involved surely will…

By Deeva4Life

June 19, 2007 11:36 AM | Link to this

For Real I didn’t ask the man to marry me, I simply asked him to be considerate…what does knowing him 2 or 3 months have to do with that? I’m not asking him to give his heart or any of that to me at this point…just put your money where your mouth is. If you say you like me, then show it BY doing the basic things you do when getting to know someone you’re considering to have a long-term relationship with. Simply put. That’s all I asked. And he doesn’t have to run…I’ve made the decision that works best for me and ultimately him…we’ll be friends. The type that isn’t looking to pursue a relationship with each other and I’m perfectly fine with that.

By UT96

June 19, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this

Beverly De Angelis,hmm, she has been divorced around seven times at last count. What does she know about romance, dating and especially marriage? Hardly seems like someone who should be given advice. Anyhow, it sems to me that dating and relationships tend to be over analyzed.

By Jewel

June 19, 2007 11:38 AM | Link to this

However, I’ve noticed that there are some areas (sensitivity, consideration of my feelings on issues, attentiveness, etc.) I feel he’s lacking in and those are areas that will determine (for me) where this goes. When I brought these things up to him, he told me that he has to be sure I’m the one before he gives 100% in those areas

Deeva4Life You are absolutely correct in expecting those things. It is the least a person can give in a relationship. IF he is truly looking for a LTR, he will invest in the relationship what he expects to receive in return. Waiting to be sure of what? Consideration of your feelings is RESPECT. Or, in the words of Aretha R-E-S-P-E-C-T, find out what it means to me Okay, there I go singing again. I think I was banned the other day…

By UT96

June 19, 2007 11:38 AM | Link to this

Beverly De Angelis,hmm, she has been divorced around seven times at last count. What does she know about romance, dating and especially marriage? Hardly seems like someone who should be giving advice. Anyhow, it sems to me that dating and relationships tend to be over analyzed.

By UT96

June 19, 2007 11:38 AM | Link to this

Beverly De Angelis,hmm, she has been divorced around seven times at last count. What does she know about romance, dating and especially marriage? Hardly seems like someone who should be giving advice. Anyhow, it sems to me that dating and relationships tend to be over analyzed.

By purplepassion

June 19, 2007 11:38 AM | Link to this

WHOA NC that’s some crazy ish!! What did he say when you caught them?

Hey For Real (wink, wink)

By Blatino aka BMW aka BLT

June 19, 2007 11:39 AM | Link to this

…..d@mn… two straight nights staying in. careful, this might become a habit….

MLB for life!!…. yellow roses for the WLB.

Ok, gotta break off topic for everybody, cuz I need a little help. Dee Blatino has encountered a couple of new situations in the last few weeks that require the opinion of this distinguished panel of MLB n WLB experts.

Over the weekend I saw a friend who I’ve known for almost a year but hadn’t seen in months. I always had a thing for her, but never had approached her about it, and she’d blown it off the one time i’d hinted. Well, Friday night I laid it on thick, no holds barred. Told her I was feeling her, been feeling her, the whole 9. We met yesterday for coffee n we’re kinda sorta gonna see where this goes; aka taking it “sllooooow”.

…… on the other hand, I’ve got this shorty down in Fla that I met a few weeks ago when she was seeing some friends. We’ve talked regularly since then, always for long periods, and even though it’s just friendship, the chemistry is there and we’ve already talked about me visiting her down there; she wants me to come down for July 4th weekend.

So here’s the problem; they’re both almost identical in that they’re family oriented girls who are going to school and just basically the opposite of my ex and all the other girls i been messin with. If they were both here and I had to chose, I’d choose the one in Fla, but the other one is also real nice and available here.

Although we aren’t anything yet at all, at what point is it cheating to continue to pursue the one down in Fla, along with my other potential casual dating partners around here??? I’ve gone from a dry well to a bunch in a short period of time, but it can all evaporate just as quickly if i don’t play it right.

Help me out, BLOGFAM! Truth, GAMan, BK, SJ, ForReal, abc, Jake, Musing, Demi…. NCGirl, WISE, Mocha, T-mango, Slim….mad love for my blogpeeps

By Jewel

June 19, 2007 11:45 AM | Link to this

PurplePassion I concur with others comments: GAY! GAY! GAY! A real man is uncomfortable with a prostate exam…

By purplepassion

June 19, 2007 11:55 AM | Link to this

Does this approach take away from enjoying the dating process at all?Dating is hard and when you enter it with a bunch of expectations and the other person isn’t adding up to the grand tally then you get disappointed and lose interest fast. It’s a risk because you’re putting yourself out there and relying on that person to be right for you. IMO there are risk in everyday situations.

By T-Mango

June 19, 2007 11:58 AM | Link to this

Blat…You may want to take your time with this… Just be honest about wanting to date other people so that you’re not leading anyone on into thinking they are your one & only. Then, just let things take their course. Take your time…

…I think it all boils down to not only what you want, but what you can offer at the place you’re in within your life right now…Flip side: 1.) What can these ladies offer you in return? 2.) Are these ladies feeling you the way you are feeling them? 3.) Are these women looking for serious relationships? 4.) Are you willing to put in the work that it takes to maintain a long distance relationship (if you go that route?)

By Deeva4Life

June 19, 2007 11:58 AM | Link to this

For Real I don’t really know what you meant by not the kind the NC gives but here are two examples:

Inconsiderate - Last month, he moved a single, female co-worker in his house…said he was just letting her stay until she closed on her house. The problem wasn’t him moving her in but he never said anything about it to me. I just so happen to stop by the Sunday she moved in and he says to me, Oh by the way, “Keisha” moved in this weekend. To which I responded, “really”. Then he says, I thought we talked about that…uh, I wouldn’t have been sitting there with such a look on my face if we’d previously discussed it. Now, apparently he moved her in on Friday and Saturday…he talked to me on both of those days (obviously while he was moving her stuff) and never even brought it up. Granted, it is his house and he’s allowed to do what he wants in his house, but we’ve been dating and I’ve spent the night at his house on a couple of occasions…would it have hurt him to at least mention it? Not for approval but more of a “FYI” type deal. And then for him to try and play me with the whole, “I thought we talked about this” crap. To me, it wasn’t what took place, it was how he handled it. And for him to say he likes me and wants to be with me, why not be considerate enough to mention it to me?

Insensitive - He’d been gone for a week and when he got back in town I was supposed to go out with my girlfriends. I decided I’d rather spend that time with him since he’d been away. When I told him my plans he responded with a “I hope you don’t mind going to bed early”. Here I was trying to be sweet and do something nice and he comes back with a dry remark like that. If he were not in the mood for my company, he could’ve just said that or if he was tired and would’ve rather spent the time sleeping, he could’ve said that. I would have totally understood. But his tone and overall response IMO was so insensitive when I was attempting to do something nice. Maybe that was me looking to deep in it but that’s how it felt when he said it.

There are other examples but these two are the first that came to mind.

By NCGirlfromATL

June 19, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this

For Real Smooches!

Purple What did he say when I caught them? LOL! He introduced me to the guy, and then we all went out to dinner…as if I hadn’t just walked in on a big ole booty-fest. It was insane! And yet, he still denies that he’s gay. I don’t care if he is or not, but I guess he has other issues that keep him from coming out.

Blatino Don’t stress it right now. Have fun, and see where things go w/ both women. Right now you’re all in the representative phase, and in a few weeks, one or both of them could cut tha fool, and you would have the answer to your question. You’ll know when it’s cheating, b/c you’ll feel really bad about being w/ one and having to lie to the other. Until then, no strings, no worries.

The above comments to Blatino are not representative of the WLB, blah blah blah…

By Wise Diva

June 19, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this

@ Blatino, it’s only cheating when you are dishonest with all the women you are involved with. If they think they are the only one that you are pursuing, spending time with, then it makes it seem as if you are running game.

Do NOT make false promises, be straight forward about what you are doing i.e. spending time, getting to know people - casually dating.

I think you have time to decide, because it’s so early on, and sometimes things transpire and you will clearly see who is better suited for you, anyway.

I think some women can handle dealing with you while you are exploring things with someone else. It could be that they are fine with that because they are doing the exact same thing, but if they are putting all their energy and time in YOU - while you are juggling them - and they don’t know, then that is a little unfair. So it’s good to let them make informed decisions, and hope for the best.

Personally, I feel that one should stand head and shoulders above the others (as far as being compatible to you) but you won’t know that if you spread yourself too thin.

and no citation Officer Musing, I had a lot to say! LOL

By Jewel

June 19, 2007 12:06 PM | Link to this

Dark Brown Love your 10:35 and 11:12 posts.

For Real No thanks for the unsolicited advice…re-read my first post without your clogged MLB filter.

By Jake

June 19, 2007 12:07 PM | Link to this

Blatino What did the five finger say to the face?….Slap

Man, you gotta stop the madness. It ain’t cheatin either way. I say, keep talkin to both ladies, don’t let that bird in the hand get away because you are staring at bushes in Fla. Besides, is Ms. Sunshine only dating you, you don’t know do you?

I’m not saying the lady in Fla. ain’t secial, but life is about timing, and you are too far away to know if that clock is actually ticking.

Just my opinion!

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

June 19, 2007 12:08 PM | Link to this

Devaa and NC both of your men are in the Village People…one is the Indian and the other is the Cop….ya’ll see the sign now……leaveeeee…..Run Foresst..Run

Truth you have no relationship with either right now…..there is nothing wrong with seeing where it goes with them…normally someone will take themselves off the martket….and if you chose wrong.you are up a creek

By Demi

June 19, 2007 12:12 PM | Link to this

Blatino Dude!!! Just be honest with them both and take it slow, they already yousa 0e, LOL Just don’t play games with their feelings and enjoy the show…what looks good now, may look ugly down the road, but you never know until you take a flying leap…to Hellz will me, musing, and Blu…LOL

MLB4Lyfe

By purplepassion

June 19, 2007 12:12 PM | Link to this

Blatino You won’t be cheating unless you’re in a relationship. Be careful to let the other women know what your intentions are so here won’t be any misunderstanding.

By Dark Brown

June 19, 2007 12:16 PM | Link to this

Okay, I have been trying NOT to ask, but…what in the blue blazes is WLB and MLB???

thanks, jewel…me just be giving y’all the view from my little window to the world…

By Jewel

June 19, 2007 12:16 PM | Link to this

SeanJ Ditto on my comment to Not So Real…

Men seem to forget that women have the same options.

By Wise Diva

June 19, 2007 12:26 PM | Link to this

@ UT96, I suppose you have a point, then again, a person who has made THAT many marriage mistakes could ALSO know a little about what to do because they learned the hard way. It’s all about perspective, I think these 10 areas are important, regardless of the source, it still rings true. I always take self-help books with a grain of salt too -though.

By Jewel

June 19, 2007 12:29 PM | Link to this

DarkBrown

MLB: Men who Like being Buttholes

WLB: Women who Like to remind men that they are Buttholes**

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

June 19, 2007 12:32 PM | Link to this

Okay, did anyone read the story on abcnews.com where a woman allowed her 41 yr old boyfriend to have sex with the mother’s boyfriend while she recuperated from surgery? The daughter agreed because she was promised that she could then stay overnight to have sex with her own boyfriend….I tell you the truth…just because you can make a baby..doesn’t mean you deserve to have one!!!

By Dark Brown

June 19, 2007 12:39 PM | Link to this

Off-topic - Coach Brown is taking me on a cruise to Nassau this weekend. Are there any on-shore excursions that you guys would recommend? Thx…

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

June 19, 2007 12:41 PM | Link to this

Dont listen to Granny purse carrying Jewel

MLB stands for the Man Law Book

WLB stands for Womans Law Book

GaMan Now grabs Jewel’s granny purse and pops her across her head for misleading people about stuff……WHACK!!!!

By genius

June 19, 2007 12:43 PM | Link to this

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

June 19, 2007 12:44 PM | Link to this

Okay, did anyone read the story on abcnews.com where a woman allowed her 41 yr old boyfriend to have sex with the mother’s boyfriend while she recuperated from surgery? The daughter agreed because she was promised that she could then stay overnight to have sex with her own boyfriend….I tell you the truth…just because you can make a baby..doesn’t mean you deserve to have one!!!

Ok whattttttt(Said in my Geico CaveMan’s voice…. was it suppose to read like this…or did you type it wrong…….

By genius

June 19, 2007 12:46 PM | Link to this

GOOD GOD, BROWN, GO TO TRAVEL SITE WITH THIS OFF TOPIC !

By SeanJohnson

June 19, 2007 12:53 PM | Link to this

@ Blatino…i think its consensus…from even the women on the blog…Hit both of them…

By Dark Brown

June 19, 2007 12:57 PM | Link to this

genius…and this is said with as much southern politeness as i can manage…ki$$ my @$$

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

June 19, 2007 1:02 PM | Link to this

hahahahahah you go Dark Brown

By Teddy

June 19, 2007 1:02 PM | Link to this

LOL @ Dark Brown!

By Deeva4Life

June 19, 2007 1:04 PM | Link to this

SeanJohnson I’m just curious…how old are you?

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

June 19, 2007 1:05 PM | Link to this

LOL Ga.Man multi-tasking…a woman allowed her boyfriend to have sex with her daughter while she was recuperating from surgery….the daughter agreed because she was promised to privileges such as the freedom to spend the night with her boyfriend…

okay, off to a meeting…

By Jewel

June 19, 2007 1:05 PM | Link to this

Even a genius proves to be an idiot…

By Jewel

June 19, 2007 1:07 PM | Link to this

How did I get stuck with the Granny purse?? said while I beat GaMan like he stole something…LOL!

By Island Girl

June 19, 2007 1:09 PM | Link to this

Hello to Everyone……especially the ladies of the WLB. Kisses to the MLB

@Alvin…..where is Demi?

@Jewel…..good job on the definitions of MLB and WLB……lol

@Dark Brown……can I get an amen on that comment, “There is nothing you can do to “pain-proof” your life except not live it”. Hopefully you grow (wisdom, character and strength) from some of life’s toughest situations. With each obstacle or speed bump you encounter, just find a way around them….just don’t allow them to stop you.

@NC…..Now I thought I had things to talk about, but you can write a book about your misadventures…you figured dude was gay. That would be a topic for discussion!

By SlimOne

June 19, 2007 1:11 PM | Link to this

Slim sneaking back into the blog while Big Brother has his back turned

Deeva4Life I recall a time when my ex was thinking about letting a female co-worker crash at his house until her home was ready. He came and spoke to me about it first but ultimately the need for her to stay never came. That would definitely rub me the wrong way, had i come over and saw all her ish moved in with her sitting on his couch eating the ice cream I left over there. lol

BMW Have fun, it isn’t cheating because you haven’t made a committment to either one. But are you thinking through what would come alone with and LDR if something comes out of the Fla Chick?

LDD Like Gaman HUH?

Dark Brown genius…and this is said with as much southern politeness as i can manage…ki$$ my @$$ LOL, get em girl!

By Tazzee

June 19, 2007 1:13 PM | Link to this

Dark Brown LOL @ ‘we’ll burn that bridge when we come to it’ I almost missed that one.

Nassau - How long will you be onshore? A tour of the Atlantis would be nice. I’ve never done an excursion in Nassau (actually stayed at the Atlantis and I heard the cruise tours are nice) - but if your ship offers the America’s cup race that is fun. Also, there’s this area with a strip of restaurants. I can’t remember what the locals call it, but I think it’s the fish camp or something like that. If you have time, go over there and get some good food.

Have fun!

By SeanJohnson

June 19, 2007 1:18 PM | Link to this

@ Deeva4life..just turned 33..why were u curious…

By Dark Brown

June 19, 2007 1:20 PM | Link to this

see, taz…that’s what i was looking for…input from somebody that i know, who has been there and whose opinion i trust…thanks…

knucklehead made me forget my manners…i am so ashamed…in my best blanche devereaux voice…

By Demi

June 19, 2007 1:26 PM | Link to this

Jewel look spice, of the formal power puff girlz, that break down wasn’t even accurate, LOL

Island Girl Hey babe, I am treat this sexy Haitian out tonight, wish me luck!!

I may comeback with a small head or useless member, LOL

By SlimOne

June 19, 2007 1:28 PM | Link to this

Blog Men Does it turn you off for a chick you’re dating to NOT have any hobbies?

I’ve often heard chicks that like to spend lots of time with their man say that the guy will get mad and yell out, Get you a life or a hobby or something. What’s the deal with that, or is it you just don’t want your girl to be up under you all the time?

By NCGirlfromATL

June 19, 2007 1:30 PM | Link to this

IG He was truly an adventure! He’s a really nice guy, but has a lot of things to figure out in his life. Good thing I don’t hold a grudge! LOL!

genius The IRONY - OH GOD THE IRONY!!!…of your screenname

Moving along…

Blog question Have your risk assessment skills ever caused you to miss out on what you believe would have been a good relationship?

By Island Girl

June 19, 2007 1:31 PM | Link to this

@Blat…..I’m a little late on the topic,but like most folks said go slow and make it known that you are dating. Until you actually start having a relationship, you won’t be cheating on either of the ladies. Good luck to you.

By Tazzee

June 19, 2007 1:33 PM | Link to this

No problem Dark Brown - and I’m sure you’ll be hit at karaoke, make sure you sing a song for that man ;-)

By Wise Diva

June 19, 2007 1:34 PM | Link to this

genius, you really should relax, the topics are known to change on this blog, so leave the regulating to me, please. Thank you.

By For Real

June 19, 2007 1:35 PM | Link to this

D4Life I know I am late but here you go:

By Island Girl

June 19, 2007 1:36 PM | Link to this

@Demi…..have fun! If the Haitian chick offer you something to drink in an unmarked bottle or can….DON’T DRINK IT…..that way we don’t have to worry about a shrunken head (on either end)lol

By SlimOne

June 19, 2007 1:36 PM | Link to this

Demi You might want to carry a pouch of red brick dust on your date. According to The Skeleton Key, anyone meaning to cause you harm won’t be able to cross the line of dust. Good Luck!

By Jay

June 19, 2007 1:39 PM | Link to this

Slim That is true. No one wants a person to be under them all the time. When she/he has nothing to do, They become angry with the one they are dating.

By SexyLeggs

June 19, 2007 1:41 PM | Link to this

Good afternoon everyone. Dating is risky, but worthwhile. You build character with every step and misstep. Dating is simply pebbles in the path to finding the right mate (if you’re lucky)

By Blatino aka BMW aka BLT

June 19, 2007 1:41 PM | Link to this

@all my MLB n WLB’s…

Gotcha. Right now me n Fla girl are just friends, but if something happens on the visit, something happens… Like I said, I know its complicated with LDR’s, and I’m really not sweating her so much, just trying to be really open about it, cuz if FLA girl was here, I’d probly just choose her, and then worry about keeping my hoeing to a minimum like i always do.

BlogBruthas…. why does it always seem that we meet them in bunches??? I just got a phone number at lunch today, and another one asked for mine… life’s funny.

By SlimOne

June 19, 2007 1:41 PM | Link to this

NC Blog question Have your risk assessment skills ever caused you to miss out on what you believe would have been a good relationship? Nope, can’t say that I have.

By SeanJohnson

June 19, 2007 1:42 PM | Link to this

@ Slim…the average female dont have hobbies….Shopping…is NOT a hoppy..its always good for a female …to have something to keep her occupied and mind off the relationship..watching TV isnt good..always with the girls aint good either..then when they get bored they look at us to provide entertainment and or attention..

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

June 19, 2007 1:46 PM | Link to this

GaMan Now picking at Genius…cause he got in trouble from the teacher…..lololol

By For Real

June 19, 2007 1:46 PM | Link to this

NC: I see you using my computer again to look at genius again on that gay website.

I’m Not Gay Dude: Man naw, I was looking up why they call it an upside down cake and this ish popped up.

Next day…

NC: WTF… I can’t believe you are in my bed with another man and you just told me yesterday that you weren’t gay.

I’m Not Gay Dude: What!!! Who you calling gay?? Your brother is gay. I am not gay Corenthus accidently dropped a Ferret down his azzhole. So, I suggest that I tie a piece of cheese to my wang and stick it down his azzhole to entice the ferret to come out. That all….

NC: Passes out as the ferret licks her face

By SlimOne

June 19, 2007 1:49 PM | Link to this

For Real I already saw that coming. For a second I thought D4L was going to get away scott free in regards to her examples. Everything I figured of the MLB members would say, you said.

Slim now tip toeing away before the bottom drops out taking cover at the blog bar

By Dark Brown

June 19, 2007 1:51 PM | Link to this

seanjohnson…it’s obvious that you don’t know many average females…

By NCGirlfromATL

June 19, 2007 1:53 PM | Link to this

Deeva the world must have stopped turning, b/c I agree w/ For Real (pick up your teeth, For Real…it’s ok).

Although I wouldn’t have put quite as caustically as For Real, it sounds to me like your guy is moonwalking…away from you. If he was really that into you (or at least into a relationship), something like “I’m moving another woman into my house” wouldn’t have been a casual Oh, didn’t I tell you convo. And after being away for a week, he was probably tired and wanted to sleep peacefully in his own bed. But honestly, it sounds like he missed his bed more than he missed you. Harsh, but is a possibilty. It’s been 2 months, but then it’s only been 2 months. Maybe it’s time to put him in the rotation, and start looking for a new starting pitcher. (Using a little MLB lingo..wink wink).

But seriously, if it’s bothering you this much, it might be b/c you realize that the relationship isn’t going quite the way you’d hoped. Maybe it’s time to re-evaluate whether or not he should remain in that starting position.

By Demi

June 19, 2007 1:53 PM | Link to this

“How to Spot a Gay man” by NC

“Bullet 101” by Jewel

“Tri-State: Players Edition” by Blatino

“The Truth about Women” by the Truth

“How to Laugh Your Way into Some Panties” by Musing

“How to Put it Down!!” by For Real

“How to Entertain Ms.New Booty” by GA.man

“The Smooth and the Savvy” by Jake, Co-signed by SJ

“Slim’s workout video: starring Slim” flimed by Demi

“This is why I am Hot!!!” by Wise Diva

“How to Keep Your Man” by Raqi

“How to Blog, while sounding Cute’n’Sexy” by QC

By Wise Diva

June 19, 2007 1:54 PM | Link to this

That’s right shopping isn’t a hobby, it’s a sport. Thanks.

By For Real

June 19, 2007 1:55 PM | Link to this

Slim Yeah some women tend to make the person they are dating their life and me personally, that ish is scary as hell. If a chick doesn’t have her own life. She will be own you left and right. Puting toothpaste on your toothbrush, wipe your butt, cleaning the royal pocket rocket (well scratch that one), pulling the tissue off the roll for you, cutting your peas in half, folding your draws in a way that lives a funny looking symbol on them after you put them on,

By purplepassion

June 19, 2007 1:56 PM | Link to this

Thanks Wise, NC and Dark I see NONgenius has entered the room.

Hobbies hmmmmm…I was thinking about taking up sewing. I remember making my first skirt in middle school. It was the easiest pattern to sew for a 6th grader.

By Tazzee

June 19, 2007 1:57 PM | Link to this

Sean Johnson - hmm, does the average male have hobbies? I mean watching sports on TV can’t count since TV doesn’t count for women. And video games - would that also be lumped in with TV? And you men are notorious for wanting your women to be ready when you get bored with your hobbies - so God forbid if she’s out with her girls when the game goes off.

And how are you going to regulate what counts? The dictionary defines hobby as “an activity or interest pursued for pleasure or relaxation and not as a main occupation” - now while most may only consider things like stamp-collecting or scrapbooking as hobbies, is it fair that playing basketball or golf can be considered a hobby, but shopping cannot?

For Real good response to Deeva4Life

By SlimOne

June 19, 2007 1:58 PM | Link to this

Sean J Shopping is not a hobby….You stoopid boy. I’m not a person that you’ll find in the stores all the time. I shop on a need basis and even then I really don’t care for it. But either way I get what you’re saying though. You both need time alone, with your friends, then that time together alone and/or with friends.

For Real um..can you say TMI! I suggest that I tie a piece of cheese to my wang and stick it down his azzhole to entice the ferret to come out. That all Uggghhh!

By Demi

June 19, 2007 1:58 PM | Link to this

IG you’re in the workout video with me and Slim

and

“How to Flip the Strip” by Slim’n’IG

By genius

June 19, 2007 1:59 PM | Link to this

Nice. Someone can just run her fat mouth in her big head about how she’s going on vacay with some imaginary dude but I can’t say s*. How about crap? “Go to a travel site with this off topic crap!”?

Brown, you do need to shut your face. Nobody wants to hear your stories about how some imaginary man is gonna take you on a cruise on a dating board. Yeah, I’m jealous. But that’s because I have to work all the time while cheap like you get to sit at home and watch Tyra and pretend your fat a*s is on an island.

By Lady J

June 19, 2007 2:00 PM | Link to this

Hey Jay!

By SlimOne

June 19, 2007 2:00 PM | Link to this

Sean J Shopping is not a hobby….You stoopid boy. I’m not a person that you’ll find in the stores all the time. I shop on a need basis and even then I really don’t care for it. But either way I get what you’re saying though. You both need time alone, with your friends, then that time together alone and/or with friends.

For Real um..can you say TMI! I suggest that I tie a piece of cheese to my wang and stick it down his azzhole to entice the ferret to come out. That all Uggghhh!

By Jake

June 19, 2007 2:00 PM | Link to this

Back from Lunch, For Real, thanks for handling that lil situation with Deeva, she didn’t see her own actions as strange in anyway…classic.

By Wise Diva

June 19, 2007 2:01 PM | Link to this

Sexyleggs, I like that analogy!

NCGirlfromATL…wonderful comment @ 1:53, as per usual for you! Co-signing

Dark Brown, you still handle yourself well, I see kudos

By Dark Brown

June 19, 2007 2:03 PM | Link to this

Further response to SeanJohnson:

Most of the single females that I know fall into one of two categories.

If they don’t have children, they typically have lives that are fairly well rounded and include activities and hobbies as a part of their lives.

If they have children, they are usually so busy being mommy, daddy and sole income provider that they don’t have time for themselves much less a hobby or a man.

By Island Girl

June 19, 2007 2:05 PM | Link to this

@Slim….I know you posed your question to the guys, both I think it goes both ways. I can’t stand it when someone I’m dating wants to be with me 24/7. Not trying to be unappreciative, but it is so much you can take to have someone around you all the time. My ex was like that. He slowly moved a lot of his things into my place over time, just so he would not have to go home. For each his own (some people like that kind of attention).

By Wise Diva

June 19, 2007 2:06 PM | Link to this

GENIUS - that’s enough from you. Don’t make me ban your obviously medication deprived self. CALM DOWN and take that mess somewhere else.

By Ladylike

June 19, 2007 2:08 PM | Link to this

Are we discussing shopping now, ooohhh, now we on my subject!!!!! LOL

By NCGirlfromATL

June 19, 2007 2:08 PM | Link to this

folding your draws in a way that lives a funny looking symbol on them after you put them on

Ummm….For Real is there something you want to tell us? You still living in your mama’s basement?

Oh, and I didn’t walk in on ole boy in my bed…trust…that would have been the start of WWIII!

Demi I don’t wanna be the gay-man spotter! LOL! There was only the 1, and I’m a lot better at…damn…spotting them. Aight den.

By Dark Brown

June 19, 2007 2:08 PM | Link to this

genuis - now - did you really have to go and pull a don imus on me?

wise - i’d like that dealt with in a fitting manner, please…thanks…

By Wise Diva

June 19, 2007 2:09 PM | Link to this

Please don’t start a blog war people. Let it go, let it go.

By SlimOne

June 19, 2007 2:09 PM | Link to this

Demi Camel Toe, the Next Generation.

By Cinderella

June 19, 2007 2:10 PM | Link to this

I’m sensing a shut down comin…

By Jewel

June 19, 2007 2:12 PM | Link to this

Ladies, be nice to SeanJ He’s only 33.

By SlimOne

June 19, 2007 2:13 PM | Link to this

Men what if the females hobby caused her to be in the limelight a lot or to travel often. Would that be an issue for you? An example would be your girl being a Falcons Cheerleader or something to that effect

By Jewel

June 19, 2007 2:14 PM | Link to this

Genius: Yeah, I’m jealous Enough said…

By SlimOne

June 19, 2007 2:18 PM | Link to this

4 Real folding your draws in a way that lives a funny looking symbol on them after you put them on You wouldn’t be talking about your initials that your mom puts on all the tags of your socks and undies to makes sure you don’t lose any?

By Wise Diva

June 19, 2007 2:18 PM | Link to this

LOL @ Cinderella! You TOO!?

I blame Purple for this, LOL..I oughta pinch you!! thumping Purple

I have been on AJC long enough to know what topics you handle with kid gloves because it invokes a certain backlash! I wasn’t even expecting this one, LOL

By The Don

June 19, 2007 2:20 PM | Link to this

Wise in spirit, and with a generous sense of humor.

But of all: like spicy food!

Call me crazy.

THE DON

By Island Girl

June 19, 2007 2:21 PM | Link to this

@Demi….you’re a mess…..too funnny!!!!

By SeanJohnson

June 19, 2007 2:22 PM | Link to this

@ Tazz…you must be an avid shopper?

@ Slim…for a girl..u are alright..

@ Dark Brown…the question was about single females…it was posed.. do men think its a turn off for females to not have hobbies..i will admit…some single females are enjoying the single life..whether they are dating or be active with hobbies..dance classes…volunteering..exercising…but you have A LOT of females that are in relationships that dont have hobbies..and become ENGULFED/CONSUMED in their man and relationship with no other outlets..and when the man have hobbies he is accused of caring or putting something before her and the relationship…and as a female u should know that females ..when their are a relationship and have NO hobbies will only call her “girls” or other females ONLY when they are not doing anything with her their SO…

By SlimOne

June 19, 2007 2:23 PM | Link to this

genius Are you Smarter than a 5th Grader?

By Dark Brown

June 19, 2007 2:23 PM | Link to this

something weird happened when i was typing just now, so i don’t know how this post is going to turn out…or how many times you will see it…

that being said…wise…letting it go as you so respectfully requested…

especially since the attack was not made on my government name and since it quite emphatically proves the lack of maturity and intelligence of the attacker…

it is a sad commentary when an individual has to resort to name calling as a response to their own embarassment…

By For Real

June 19, 2007 2:23 PM | Link to this

DB Awwww dayummmm here we go again with the women being superwoman again.

“If they have children, they are usually so busy being mommy, daddy and sole income provider that they don’t have time for themselves much less a hobby or a man.”

By SeanJohnson

June 19, 2007 2:30 PM | Link to this

@ Jewel…i can/will go toe to toe with any of yall…33 is a good age..i am in my prime..

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

June 19, 2007 2:31 PM | Link to this

Ok i got to agree with For Real on his last statement….I am very very active in my son’s life and his mom doesnt have to worry….i take care of him, but it means more than just money..time,time, and more time.

Demi you a fool, but i will keep doing what i do…lololol nice list

By purplepassion

June 19, 2007 2:33 PM | Link to this

OUCH!! Wise

By Dark Brown

June 19, 2007 2:34 PM | Link to this

for real…i never alluded to superwoman once in my post…i am certain of that…and since i take care of my own dayumm self and don’t have any children…i can only comment on what i see my girlfriends attempting to do…and that is be the best mother that she can be while attempting to find ways to adapt to the all too often absent father…

it was not my intent to turn this into a discussion of a woman’s ability to be a daddy…just to point out that there are often reasons that some single women don’t have hobbies…

seanjohnson…the hardest thing that i have found in my imaginary relationship is the way to balance the life that i had as a single woman against giving this relationship enough time and attention to build a foundation for a lasting relationship…it’s easier said than done…i want him to know that i place enough importance in our relationship that i am willing to allow him to come first most of the time…while not making him think that this relationship is the only thing that i have going on…it’s been difficult to not lose myself in us…

By NCGirlfromATL

June 19, 2007 2:34 PM | Link to this

^5ing Slim on her 2:18 post…nice assist!

Sorry WD!! Blog got hijacked again…by several different people. Interestingly Blatino’s post was actually a good example of risk management. In his case, he’s trying to assess the risk of continuing to date both women, whom he’s clearly interested in, without appearing too…shall we say…Luda-like (I got pros in different area codes), and yet staying true to his MLB Grand Poobah-ness. LOL! But seriously, it is interesting to look at it from the perspective of being the pursuer, as opposed to the pursued. (Sorry Blat for putting you on my arm-chair psychologists sofa, but it appears you and I tend to approach relationships in the same manner.)

By Jewel

June 19, 2007 2:36 PM | Link to this

Dark Brown I think they removed all idiotic comments from the blog…

Demi Funny song list…but how/why do I have “Bullet 101?”

By SlimOne

June 19, 2007 2:36 PM | Link to this

Sean J You’re right about some chicks not calling their girls to go out until their man has plans doing other things. I’ve had friends like that and sometimes it would irk the living ish out of me, but i understood it at the same time. Matter fact me and one of my best friends use to hangout all the time. BUT when she finally got involved with someone it’s like she couldn’t leave his side. I’d call and invite her to things, she’d say well The Man won’t have his son this weekend so i’ll be with him. UGGHHHH! So eventually I stopped asking.

By For Real

June 19, 2007 2:37 PM | Link to this

NC No I don’t live in my mother’s basement but that is where Batman parks the Batmobile. lol..

Slim No, I used to date a chick that did that.. I threw those draws out and bought new ones because I thought she was trying to put roots on me. And I hate buying new draws especially when you just broke them in and they fitting all perfect.

And to answer your question: I dated a Falcons cheerleader oddly enough and it didn’t bother me. I am not a jealous person but if we don’t spend enough time together then my feels will change. Beside you know Gemini’s like to spend time with their other half. BTW, Batman has been asking about Catwoman…

By QC

June 19, 2007 2:37 PM | Link to this

Hey Musing, Demi

have a great evening all….

By BeBe KID

June 19, 2007 2:39 PM | Link to this

Do women often ignore sexual attraction? If a natural chemistry or sexual attraction exist then why are there so many lonely people? Men generally are compelled to pursue a woman based on physical attraction. It seems that many women dismiss sexual impulses or become very apprehensive and are reluctant to follow their uninhibited nature.

By For Real

June 19, 2007 2:41 PM | Link to this

OMG!!!!!! I JUST READ WHERE NC ACTUALLY AGREED WITH SOMETHING I SAID!!!!

For Real passes out after hitting on the corner of his desk

By melo

June 19, 2007 2:41 PM | Link to this

@D4Life ,When I told him my plans he responded with a “I hope you don’t mind going to bed early

U been married before right? To me u sound like u are needy. U and dude are just messing in his opinion. U are taking it over the top already, after messing with him, like he promised u marriage. U are a typical example of how women get hurt.Fugg and next thing u think about marriage!!! Keep ur legs together coz ur disposition looks weak to me.

By Jewel

June 19, 2007 2:42 PM | Link to this

Good for you, SeanJ. I am so proud! You are using pull-ups now. LOL!

By Linguist

June 19, 2007 2:43 PM | Link to this

Hey Blog Fam .. Long time, no “see”… Just wanted to pop in real quick and give a shout-out to the WLB and a church hug to the MLB.. I’ve been busy preparing to be interviewed and then interviewed for 2 positions. I’m now waiting with baited breath for the results… Oh, I have other news to tell as well… but I’ll wait until I have a little more time :)

By SlimOne

June 19, 2007 2:51 PM | Link to this

NC ^5 back to ya! The basement thing was funny. I pictured his little room where he develops all his pictures being down there too, with an old skool floor model tv, with the smaller actual working tv sitting on top, and a broken Atari with only one game Pole Position II. LOL!!!!!!!!!

4 Real Catwoman has been chilling until she gets her suit repaired. Her last ‘outing’ was a little on the rough side. And lets just say, the claws came out. MEOOWWWW! Gemini’s do like to spend time with the other half and if it isn’t sufficient enough then the interest in that person seems to lose a lot of momentum and fast. Then when I half-azzed call you then you want to run up behind me blowing me up…Nah playa, homie don’t play dat!

Dude: hey baby. what’s up i hadn’t heard from you in a while.

Slim: sup?

Dude: Normally you call just to see how I’m doing. Errything ok?

Slim: yep

Dude: I missed your crazy azz. I thought i’d drop by if you weren’t bu…

Slim: actually I need to call you back.

Dude: oh my bad. You busy?

Slim: Yep, i’m polishing my toenails. I’ll talk to ya when I talk to ya.

Dude: WTF? (click-phone hangs up)

By SeanJohnson

June 19, 2007 2:52 PM | Link to this

@ Jewel…i know you never ask a “lady” her age…but how old are u?

By Lady J

June 19, 2007 2:52 PM | Link to this

Lordy, Lordy…Every one have a great evening..read ya 2morrow! Peace

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

June 19, 2007 2:54 PM | Link to this

OOOOOOhhhh duck everyone…duck……..here comes the red*

By Deeva4Life

June 19, 2007 2:55 PM | Link to this

For Real you/and everyone else who agrees with you are entitled to your own opinions. I know how the situation felt to me and really that’s what matters. I wasn’t trying to have him run his life by me…if that’s what you got from that then you totally misinterpreted what I was saying. Lastly, he was the one who claimed to miss me while he was away, which is why I chose to cancel my plans to see him. But explaining any of this to you is pointless. Your response was typical and truly expected…but I wasn’t looking for advice…if you read all of my posts I’ve stated a couple of times that I’ve reached a resolution about it. But I think from now on I’ll remain in lurksville because somehow things on here get twisted quickly.

SeanJohnson I was simply curious…trying to place the age with your comments…that’s all.

By NCGirlfromATL

June 19, 2007 2:55 PM | Link to this

For Real passes out after hitting on the corner of his desk Babee…ummm…For Real? (fanning and blowing on his face)…wake up…you out cold?

NC looks around for witnesses, and lifts For Real’s wallet from his back pocket, and keys from the front.

If the world is going to stop turning b/c I agreed with him, at least I can go out on a shopping spree! These cards do work, right? LMAO!!

Good for you, SeanJ. I am so proud! You are using pull-ups now. LOL!

Ouch! Daaaaaaang Jewel! LOLOL!! SJ don’t worry, I haven’t told them about the Superman underoos…oops..dang…sorry homie.

Good luck Ling!!

By Wise Diva

June 19, 2007 2:55 PM | Link to this

Ya’ll pray for me, somebody is about to send Wise Diva into early retirement.

woosah

By purplepassion

June 19, 2007 2:57 PM | Link to this

For Real said so true 2:37 post. Me Aries(fire) you Gemini(air)= Hot dayum time. Funny thing, just about all my exes were a gemini. It was always like the life o’party type relationship.

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

June 19, 2007 2:58 PM | Link to this

Ok Genius now I have seen and heard enough of this Mess from you…you say your a Genius..then stop acting like this…..consider this your last Warning or trust me i will put in the proper calls and have you Banned……now it is one thing to blog but you have taken it to another level…….

By melo

June 19, 2007 2:58 PM | Link to this

Deeva4life..just turned 33..why were u curious

SJ,man u ask too many unnecessary qs.Her man is insensitive and she feenin’ u. Hit her on the side bar and keep it moving!! Good luck!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

June 19, 2007 2:59 PM | Link to this

do men think its a turn off for females to not have hobbies…It is a huge turnoff for me if you are trying to be stuck under me 24/7. I love being with my SO but I also value my me-time. I also will not ever be the leech in the relationship b/c of how I am. Everyone needs space sometimes and you should both have lives outside of each other.

For Real One you should ask why these women are single parents first. Some women choose to be single mothers and then complain the whole time. Some women get divorced and seek sole custody to prevent the father for seeing their children ie getting even with him. Some women have man participating in their children’s lives both physically and financially. For me it is my ex-so’s pride and the fact that he cant control this situation b/c we arent together anymore. I havent/wont ask for child support, I havent/wont seek full custody and I filed for divorce. My ex owes his child not me so I could care less if he does what he is supposed to as a parent or not. I had my parents! LOL Now do I wish he kept the baby more, yes. But I cant control that or worry about it. I do what I am supposed to and keep it moving. Mo, the proud mommy, now taking a deep breath after typing all that

Now…..my song for the day please?…

By Wise Diva

June 19, 2007 3:01 PM | Link to this

Until the powers that be fire me, I will adhere to what I am paid to do. Please refer to the Visitor’s Agreement and note: Comments may be deleted at the AJCs discretion.

hmmk, All clear now pumpkin?

By Deeva4Life

June 19, 2007 3:04 PM | Link to this

Melo first of all sweetie…I never said my legs opened…so speak on what you know as facts. Secondly, I’ve simply acted off the way he’s acted and things he’s said to me. I’m not needy at all nor am I hurt by anything. I think he’s a nice guy just not for me…which is why we’ll be friends. And where did you read that I was trying to marry him??? You men on here can be so…fugging judgemental when you don’t know what the hellz you’re talking about.

By Deeva4Life

June 19, 2007 3:05 PM | Link to this

Melo first of all sweetie…I never said my legs opened…so speak on what you know as facts. Secondly, I’ve simply acted off the way he’s acted and things he’s said to me. I’m not needy at all nor am I hurt by anything. I think he’s a nice guy just not for me…which is why we’ll be friends. And where did you read that I was trying to marry him??? You men on here can be so…fugging judgemental when you don’t know what the hellz you’re talking about.

By SlimOne

June 19, 2007 3:07 PM | Link to this

Deeva Don’t let anyone run you off into the exile of lurksville. Brush the dirt off your shoulders and keep it moving.

PP & For Real & SJ All my serious boyfriends were Pisces to me Gemini. I have no earthly idea why that is. Do either of you end up running into the same ole signs?

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

June 19, 2007 3:07 PM | Link to this

We cant help it..we are the most popular blog AJC got….but Dang..come on People let’s atleast act like we are cool…..we are pulling in over 41% of blog lurkers..which mean when contract time comes up we are all in line for a Big raise……

I love being me lolololololol

But i aint playing about that raise AJC

By Deeva4Life

June 19, 2007 3:07 PM | Link to this

Melo first of all sweetie…I never said my legs opened…so speak on what you know as facts. Secondly, I’ve simply acted off the way he’s acted and things he’s said to me. I’m not needy at all nor am I hurt by anything. I think he’s a nice guy just not for me…which is why we’ll be friends. And where did you read that I was trying to marry him??? You men on here can be so…fugging judgemental when you don’t know what the hellz you’re talking about.

By melo

June 19, 2007 3:10 PM | Link to this

@SJ,@ Jewel…i know you never ask a “lady” her age…but how old are u?

If i were D4life, i would take that as a diss by u. Man u so full of urself. U getting hit on and u hitting someone else?!!!

By SlimOne

June 19, 2007 3:11 PM | Link to this

Deeva Do you have any other examples on ways he’s been inconciderate or insensitive? I remember a time I was talking to this dude I was dating and I must’ve had a bad day or something crazy. Anyway I was just venting to him telling him how i felt and eventually the frustration came out in tears. In nonchalant tone he simply said tears never solved anything. Now I think that was insensitive.

By Tazzee

June 19, 2007 3:14 PM | Link to this

SeanJ - actually, I abhor shopping, it’s a necessary evil needed to maintain my cuteness, LOL.

By IslandGirl

June 19, 2007 3:14 PM | Link to this

@NC…..make sure you drive by and pick me up to go shopping….there are things I would like to get…might as well it be on Real’s dime…..lol

By SlimOne

June 19, 2007 3:15 PM | Link to this

Slim now out at Old Navy buying all of blogville flip flops 2 for $5 with the money from her AJC raise

By Cassie

June 19, 2007 3:16 PM | Link to this

Lurking all day and y’all are Freaking Cracking Me Up!!!!

Purple…find a funny way to make a joke about pegging, because that is the slang for what it is called when a man likes his woman to, ahem, nail him rather than the normal way of things.

Or ask him if he read’s Dan Savage’s Column “Savage Love”. (That’s not for the faint of heart, btw)

By SlimOne

June 19, 2007 3:19 PM | Link to this

IG/NC Make sure you leave enough money for For Real to still be able to pay the trash bill for his mom. So I think $10 should be enough. lol

By melo

June 19, 2007 3:21 PM | Link to this

@D4life,But I think from now on I’ll remain in lurksville because somehow things on here get twisted quickly Here baby, get this napking and wipe ur tears!!LOL U got some tender-sensitive nerves!!Can i say ne….eeee….dy?!!!

By Deeva4Life

June 19, 2007 3:22 PM | Link to this

Melo how does it feel to be a grown azz man yet be so childish?

Slim I do, but I’d never consider “sharing” them.

By purplepassion

June 19, 2007 3:23 PM | Link to this

Slim yes I do. I am a magnet to Gemini”s, they are the best people to have in your camp.(smile) They love to talk, great sense of humor and very inqusitive people. Very intellectual beings. However the relationship ends on a sour note too. So that that’s the downside of it all. Gemini and Aries are the most compatible sign out there. It’s like swigning from a chandeleir while together.

By Jewel

June 19, 2007 3:23 PM | Link to this

Melo, Melo, Melo…go back to Lurksville…LOL! I do not date someone who requires a booster seat…hmmm…now that I think about it, he can eat free on Wednesdays! LOL!

By For Real

June 19, 2007 3:25 PM | Link to this

NC Stop don’t use that visa that’s in me and my mamma’s name and she said only use it for emergencies. lol..

D4Life Calm down sweety. No need to run back to lurksville. I am just saying 2 months is not a long time and yall haven’t decided to be exclusive with each other. So, the both of you don’t owe each other anything. Now, on the issue of you wanting to see him after he was gone for a week.. well you can miss someone and still be tired. I understand that you have other things that you have not mentioned but to cut this dude based on similar acts is premature and you could be missing out on something because you are only looking at from your point of view.

Pee-Pee You better stop. You got me blushing over here.

By melo

June 19, 2007 3:31 PM | Link to this

@D4life,Melo how does it feel to be a grown azz man yet be so childish?

The woman thats overly-sensitive, crying and running to lurksville like a little baby is the one being childish! Dont u agree?

By For Real

June 19, 2007 3:32 PM | Link to this

Mo Breath, breath (as For Real stares at Mo’s cleavage), I wasn’t speaking directly to you and I understand how divorcing parties act within the first year or two of the divorce. Dang.. here is your song I hope this calm you down:

Pretty Brown Eyes, You know, I see you, It’s a disguise the way you treat me. (the way you treat me, Pretty Brown Eyes) You Keep holding on, to your thoughts of rejection, If your with me your secured. Mmm mm Mmm You keep telling me, that your time is always taken, But I keep seeing you out alone. (Out alone YEAH) (Pretty Brown Eyes) Listen to love, your heart is pounding with desire, Waiting to be unleashed. CHORUS: Quit Breakin My Heart Breakin My Heart (Pretty Brown Eyes) YEAH Breakin My Heart Yeah Breakin My Heart (Pretty Brown Eyes) Sugar, Yea yeah Don’t tell your friends that I don’t mean nothing to ya, Please don’t deny the truth (Pretty Brown Eyes) Tell me right now, I know your heart is the right place You know I won’t let you down, Oh Yeah, YEAH You can’t disguise all the pounding of your heart Yeah (I see your eyes) I see your eyes, (Pretty Brown Eyes) And you can’t hide Start to make sense, and quit playin these love games( Silly Love Games) Tell me what your gonna do Yea-OH! CHORUS: Quit Breakin My Heart Breakin My Heart (Pretty Brown Eyes) YEAH Breakin My Heart Ooooo Breakin My Heart (Pretty Brown Eyes)Yeah (Heart) - SAX MUSIC-Pretty Brown Eyes, Pretty Brown Eyes - I just want to know, one thing, will you be with me?? Oooo Ooo Baby Pretty Brown Eyes Here comes my darlin, (Here come my darlin) Here comes romance(here comes romance) Here comes my lovin (Here come my lovin please won’t you give me a chance) Chorus: ——Breakin My Heart Yeah, got me cryin all inside

There you go now lay back and relax. Let me take those shoes off for you (as For Real reaches for Mo’s bra) Those aren’t my shoes fool…. Oh!

By purplepassion

June 19, 2007 3:34 PM | Link to this

Good suggestion Cassie

By SeanJohnson

June 19, 2007 3:37 PM | Link to this

@ Slim…i have mainly dealt with other geminis..can spot them a mile away, taurus’s..but mainly capricorns….two of my long terms were caps and shared the same bday..

@ melo..bruh…this is cyber..really doesnt exist…entertainment purposes only…and dude i am not full of myself… I just can afford to turn pssy down.

By Wise Diva

June 19, 2007 3:37 PM | Link to this

ohhh Cassie, I have read his column, it had me clutching my pearls, so to speak, and I am NO prude! LOL (Shut up Musing)

By IslandGirl

June 19, 2007 3:38 PM | Link to this

@Slim…..I don’t feel like being generous today…I might leave a note for Real’s mom instead of money.

IG: Dear Ms. Real, I think its time for Real to get his own crib. When was the last time you’ve been to your basement?

RM: Huh? Why?

IG: Well, I’ve been over to your house several times and I think you should go check out your basement.

RM goes to check out the basement

RM: WTH!!! Why is there a clothes line with panties, a bra, a girdle and a batman suit hung in the basement? Is there something you need to tell me? I did not raise you to be a cross dresser… young man!

Real passes out because his mother discovers his secret identity….a cross dressing BatMan jk…lol

By Deeva4Life

June 19, 2007 3:40 PM | Link to this

Melo I hope you have a fabulous rest of the day. You’ve definitely entertained…if no one but yourself. And I of all people appreciate your efforts.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

June 19, 2007 3:41 PM | Link to this

SlimOne thanks for my flip-flops!!! :0) Now I have some for every outfit for my vacation.

Mo now stuffing second suitcase full of shoes into car….”that first suitcase sure does look heavy”…

Only an hour and a half left to go….

By kimmie

June 19, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this

Deeva4 - You have to be ready for the hardcore, dog opinions of these blog dudes if you put your story out there. I caught a little flack yesterday with mine, but I knew the heat when I came in the kitchen. I take it all with a grain of salt, but it can tick you off at times. We should understand that most of it is just ego-boosting talk they do. No telling what puppies they turn into in real life when dealing with women. But I tune in from time to time because it can be helpful to hear the good, bad and ugly side of relationships from a male point of view. I got 4 brothers and several male friends, but it never hurts to have even more evidence of how the male mind sees things. As bad as it sounds, take what For Real said as possibly what might have been going on in the dudes mind. You said it’s all a wrap anyway and you’ll just be friends with the dude, so you can use this as a learning experience. You know what even budding care and love is supposed to feel like and this was not it. So what if you only knew each other 2 or 3 months, we had a discussion on here before about some folks getting married after less time than that and I know they remember! Bottom line, if dude really cared about the relationship even possibly going any further, he would not have been so EVASIVE about the chick moving in. Not that he had to check in with you at all, but it just would have been out in the open and matter-of-fact. This same crazy situation happen with a good friend of mine. A guy she had been seeing for 2 YEARS casually told her he was moving in a FRIEND until her house was ready. She and the guy were about to go ring-shopping, mind you! She had met all of his family and friends, or so she thought. She broke it off right then. Guess who old boy is married to now? The FRIEND! That was 3 years ago. She ran into him at the Sundial when her new fiance’ took her out for her birthday. He looked miserable and starting calling and texting her, wanting to meet up. She told him she’d never disrespect her fiance’ by sneaking around with him, like he’s trying to do with wifey. Has not heard anymore from him since. Watch how you treat people, whether you are in a committed relationship or just met them. Karma can be a B——!

By Cassie

June 19, 2007 3:47 PM | Link to this

WD He totally cracks me up. He’s very sassy. I read him and What’s Her Name (Miss Information?) on Nerve.com all the time (she did one on, uh…noises down below during…nookie that had me literally in tears).

By purplepassion

June 19, 2007 3:53 PM | Link to this

For Real you’re gonna have to come up with another name for me. I just had a flashback of the R Kelly video.

(smooches) (wink wink)

By For Real

June 19, 2007 3:56 PM | Link to this

Slim My ex is a Pisces but lately I have been attracting Aquarius. I am not up on the signs so I am not sure what sign I have been dating but I have never dated another Gemini. I have to admit I am intrgued by the thought of dating one. Have you dated another Gemini?

Pee-Pee Ole junk.. What month is Aries?

For Real: Hey baby what’s your sign

Chick: igga what? That was the lamest ish I have ever heard of.. that ish is str8 out of the 70’s

For Real: ok, ok, dang.. I was just tryin to find out if you were an Aries because I am a Gemini and thought we could make some hot monkey love on the chandeleir…

Chick: uuuiiii (that’s monkey talk for those that don’t know) as she jumps on For Real

By SlimOne

June 19, 2007 3:56 PM | Link to this

PP you’ve got to look out for that evil-mean streak. You don’t want to be around when Incredible Hulk Gemini comes out. Arrrhhhrrrrr!

Slim running to office bathroom to fix shredded clothes with the first aid kit bandaids

IG Real passes out because his mother discovers his secret identity….a cross dressing BatMan LOLOLOL I can see him now taking the cape off the back of the suit and resewing it around the waist instead. lol Real now knocked unconcious by his homeboys that didn’t believe it was a kilt and not a skirt

Mo You’re very welcome. That’s pretty much what I’ll have on in Jamaica, a different color for every outfit. lol

By kinderbabe

June 19, 2007 3:58 PM | Link to this

hello all blog folks! just wanted to say hey:)..hope all is well.

By Cassie

June 19, 2007 3:59 PM | Link to this

Purple Which just made me go to that Chappelle show where he’s doing all the jury duty voir dire thing, you know, with OJ, etc. and they get to the R Kelly bit about the peeing???? I laughed so hard, I about fell out of my chair.

Sorry, it’s slow at work.

By melo

June 19, 2007 4:01 PM | Link to this

@D4life, i apologise if i spoiled ur day! Come on back tomorrow.Who am i 4 u to run away?I am just some faceless blogger, working hard 4 my paycheck but checking in to get some stress relief. Goodness. Some people need some TLC!!

By Dark Brown

June 19, 2007 4:01 PM | Link to this

taz….yep, will definitely spend some time in the karoake lounge…doing my best tina turner impression…

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

June 19, 2007 4:07 PM | Link to this

For Real Stop trying to feel me up on the sly man!!! Mo adjusting her shirt to keep For Real from peeping out the twins.. LOL Kisses to For Real for singing one of my favorite songs by my favorite group!!! Okay I can breath now!! :0)

By SlimOne

June 19, 2007 4:08 PM | Link to this

For Real Surprisingly I haven’t dated another fellow Gemini. I guess it’s that Bullshyter mentality that some of us have. lol That would be interesting though.

By purplepassion

June 19, 2007 4:08 PM | Link to this

For Real Funny

IG LOL

Slim yeah and when his evil twin come out you besta believe mine come out too.

By IslandGirl

June 19, 2007 4:12 PM | Link to this

Hey Kinder

@Purple…I agree….that pee pee nickname has to go….hmmmmm…makes you think about golden showers……just nasty.

By Wise Diva

June 19, 2007 4:13 PM | Link to this

LOL @ melo, including you! you come at people really harsh, from where I sit..and I am not saying you have to sugarcoat everything, but people miss out on your message (really good stuff some days), when your delivery drips with insults and jabs, I think I get why they respond like they do.

By SexyLeggs

June 19, 2007 4:13 PM | Link to this

Hey everyone, I am so sorry I couldn’t chime in today. Very interesting topic Wise. Too much for me to comment on at such a late time, but you guys are off the chain with some humorous and deep reflectins. However, Genius you really don’t belong here. I just purchased you a one-way swift kick in the behind to any other site you want to go to.

By Jewel

June 19, 2007 4:14 PM | Link to this

For Real You are stupid! LOL! Now you have that old song playing in my head…Aquarius, and my name is Ralph. Now I like a woman who luuuves her freedom. Float on, float on…LOL!

By purplepassion

June 19, 2007 4:18 PM | Link to this

For Real what are you doing to Mo? I can’t leave you alone for one second. NO swinging from the chandelier for you tonight.

By For Real

June 19, 2007 4:20 PM | Link to this

Slim & PP I just read the compatibility of Gemini and Aries and Gemini and Gemini on yahoo. Dayuummmm I been missing out if the horoscopes is right..

IG & Slim That ain’t funny…. Batman is not a cross dresser.

All right blog ladies tell me what your sign is. I am doing research.

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

June 19, 2007 4:21 PM | Link to this

Ok all I am out….Be you and people will learn to love and respect you..or just leave…..

And As always if you got problems, Put God in it….he can fix anything…and you can take that to the Bank….

Same Bat channel……Same Bat time….

By SlimOne

June 19, 2007 4:23 PM | Link to this

PP OutKast is an Aquarius/Gemini duo….Aquemini, and you see how they don’t seem to be on the same page these days. lol

By Wise Diva

June 19, 2007 4:28 PM | Link to this

Cancer chicks rock!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

June 19, 2007 4:30 PM | Link to this

For Real I am a Virgo, what did you read on Yahoo?

By Mumbles

June 19, 2007 4:36 PM | Link to this

many ways single people rule out potential dates and mates Indeed Ms. Diva, not brag but I come from a fairly wealthy family and BIG RISK is the key word here in our country. With ability to fly when I want and go any place almost at whim, I have stopped dating American Women for roughly 3 years.

At the moment I am seeing a very, very beutiful Columbian Woman (almost too beutiful). I must say I doubt I’d ever find a woman as nice, caring, beutiful, non-materialistic, very loving, and who treats me as equal, here. In my experince dating american girls things just seem too demanded upon and are unappreciated when you go out of your way for them, the impression I get from most american girls is “Snapping fingers” thats right boy its all about ME not you ME.

I actually feel bad for some of the single men who might not be able to travel as I do cause the grass 10x greener on the other side of the dating world. When I go to see my lady, its like going into town full super-models without the snobish, whorish, self-centered attitudes, not to mention women there are well kept, clean, in shape, and have very good morals. Even though my lady wants to wait till marriage before sex, I could not be happier with anyone else period. So to go along with what you said Ms. Diva, your right some people rule out potential mates, cause I have ruled out ever dating another American woman.

By NCGirlfromATL

June 19, 2007 4:36 PM | Link to this

Deeva Don’t let For Real, melo, or even me, for that matter, run you back into lurkesville. You have to know that when you put your bidness on the blog, it’s going to take some hits. Sometimes the hits are unnecessary roughness, but somewhere in all of that, there is actually some good advice. And really, if you don’t want advice, then maybe the blog isn’t the place to post your situation…cuz we’re good at unsolicited advice! LOL! That’s all we do is give advice (good and bad) whether you want to hear it or not!

It’s all good, girl. We’ve all taken our blog-beatdowns, and come back the next day, smiling and ready to take out our previous day frustrations on the next poor soul who posted their bidness! Tomorrow, Slim will tell you all about the night her bullet ran out of batteries…there was a blizzard/ice storm in ATL, and Walgreens was closed for the 1st time…ever! LOLOL!!

As Myra J says, “It’s all about love!”

I’m out, folks! Hold it in the road!

By purplepassion

June 19, 2007 4:37 PM | Link to this

For Real I wasn’t kidding about the chandelier stuff. Gemini’s aways rocked my world ummm ummm good. Spicy, toe curling, black sweat slinging. oops, I’m getting carried away here…..

By For Real

June 19, 2007 4:38 PM | Link to this

Hey, hey Pee-Pee that wasn’t me… It was Batman you know my twin come on now uuuuiiiii

Slim They may not be seeing eye to eye right now but Aquemini was one of the best albums I have heard. Do you call your flirting bullshyt?

Mo You are welcome… Now stand over here so I can take your picture before you go on vacation. (For Real position Mo over a mirror he placed on the floor)

Jewel And my name is Larry and I am Capricorn…

By IslandGirl

June 19, 2007 4:39 PM | Link to this

@Real & Slim….My ex was a Gemini (June) and I’m a Virgo (Sept). Our relationship was great, but the timing was wrong for us. Geminis love those bedroom calisthenics.lol

By Jewel

June 19, 2007 4:41 PM | Link to this

For Real I don’t do horoscopes, but for entertainment purposes only…I am a Gemini. My sweetie is a Capricorn.

By Jewel

June 19, 2007 4:45 PM | Link to this

For Real You must be younger than SeanJ. It’s:

Cancer, and my name is Larry. Let me show you how sweet it could be-e-ee, sharing your love with Laarryy

By Tazzee

June 19, 2007 4:47 PM | Link to this

Wow - I’ve never dated another Gemini either. Never thought about it until today.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

June 19, 2007 4:47 PM | Link to this

Well guys I am shutting it down in here, off on the vacation!!! You guys behave and have fun while I’m gone. I’ll try to pop in and make sure WD hasnt shut you all down for misbehavin!! :0)

Ponytail hair flip to the WLB and soft kisses to the MLB

By For Real

June 19, 2007 4:49 PM | Link to this

Virgo’s: It says you are fussy, critical and serious by nature.

Impact on Gemini: Too demanding and serious for Gemini.

Cancer’s: It says you are sensitative emotional creatures that has a hard time experess yourselves.

Impact on Gemini: Too needy for Gemini

By Demi

June 19, 2007 4:51 PM | Link to this

Jewel my baad, that’s Foots

“How to Have a Bless and Powerful Day: Without Your Man!!” by Jewel, LOL

By Wise Diva

June 19, 2007 4:52 PM | Link to this

@Mumbles, I am going international as well, LOL. Nothing wrong with expanding your dating horizons, but don’t bash American women too bad, some of us are fabulous (not perfect, but fabulous nonetheless).

By SlimOne

June 19, 2007 4:53 PM | Link to this

Real No I don’t call my flirting bull. But sometimes i get in a bs kind of mood.

Slim’s Friend: hey girl what you up to?

Slim: ah nuttin much. Actually i was about to call you because I have this extra Prince ticket.

SF: OMG, are you serious?

Slim: naw, I’m just bullshyttin’…hello?…hello? That bip done hung up on me.

Slim callin up special friend

Slim: hey baby. what you wearing?

SP: I’m at the office so you know what i’m wearing.

Slim: Oh really? Well are you busy because i’m feeling reaalllly orny right now.

SP: you know i love when you talk to me like that.

SLim: yeah, i want to come over there right now and whisper whisper whisper nasty things into the phone

SP: dayum girl, you got me all worked up over here. You gonna do that for real?

Slim: naw, I’m just bullshyttin’. I’m at my mommas house and i was just bored. LOL Hello?…Hello? dis dude done hung up on me.

By purplepassion

June 19, 2007 4:53 PM | Link to this

Good night All.. Wise keep it coming

By Tiff

June 19, 2007 4:54 PM | Link to this

Hey All Jewel where you been girl? I know I’m late so on the current topic..I’m a Gemini had a great time dating other Geminis hated dating Sags..Ughh!!! LOL

By Wise Diva

June 19, 2007 4:55 PM | Link to this

have a wonderful time on your trip Mo! Have a drink (or 2) on my behalf!! :)

By IslandGirl

June 19, 2007 4:59 PM | Link to this

@Real….that sums it up. I’m too demanding for Gemini, but I sure give good love.

By Wise Diva

June 19, 2007 5:01 PM | Link to this

LOL @ Slimone!! you have NO sense, and I love it!! too funny!

Everyone have a WONDERFUL evening

and don’t forget to take your meds, if you need some

By Dark Brown

June 19, 2007 5:07 PM | Link to this

my deepest sympathy to the families of the fallen firefighters…miracles and blessings…

By Blatino aka BMW aka BLT

June 19, 2007 5:11 PM | Link to this

This is to inform the BlogFam that the High Council of the MLB has reviewed officer Musirello’s request, and hereby decrees that GENIUS is to be banned from all further Blog related activities. His name is stricken from consideration for MLB membership for life, and he will hereby only blog at his own risk, if WISE doesn’t just go ahead and block is bullethead a$$.