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Monday, June 11, 2007
Open for business
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
One of my favorite episodes of “Sex and the City” (yes, it has to come up from time to time in a single gal’s dating column!) is when Carrie shares her theory about how men are like taxicabs.
In case you haven’t been lucky enough to see this, I’ll explain: She says that when it comes to men, everything is a matter of timing, same as trying to hail a cab. If a cab drives by that doesn’t have its “for hire” light on, no matter how desperate or attractive you are, you can’t get it to stop for you — and the same goes for guys. But as soon as the cab turns its light on — or a guy metaphorically does the same, by deciding he is ready for a relationship — the first suitable woman ahead is the one who gets to go along for the ride.
One of my biggest dilemmas with men, though, is understanding what gets them to “turn on their light.” So I turn it over to my male readers today for a little insight: Guys, how do you know that you are ready for a relationship? Is it a conscious or unconscious decision? Are you aware of it? What factors play in? Are there times in your life when you are simply not open to a relationship?
Carrie implied that women are always ready for a relationship, or at least open to one, which is why they don’t get to fit into the taxicab imagery. I’m not sure I agree with this. Ladies, what do you think? Are you always ready for a relationship? If you’re not, same questions as the guys — what makes you ready for one, and how do you know that you are?
For everyone, have you ever been burned by a member of the opposite sex who truly wasn’t open for a relationship… or is that just one of those lines people use, like “I just want to be friends” or “It isn’t you, it’s me?”
Is there anything you can do to get someone to “turn on their light,” or is it a decision that a person makes for him or herself regardless of outside input?
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