Misadventures in Atlanta

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 8:22 AM | Link to this

Howdy

Dating Etiquette Hmmm…I think having general manners can take you a long way. One of the mistakes I think women make (don’t exile me WLB) is not being appreciative of what the man does do…whether it’s paying for dinner or opening the doors. Even though me and ex-SO were together about 7 years, that is something we always did even if it was as small as going to Zaxby’s. Also, I wouldn’t advise taking advantage of someone’s kindness like trying to order the most expensive thing off the menu. I personally think that’s a little tacky.

Slim’s not wearing a blogvest today. If you decide to shoot bullets my way, i guess it was my time to go

Anyhoo, i don’t want to get a citation so early so I’ll chime back in shortly.

By Jake.

May 23, 2007 8:46 AM | Link to this

Good Morning WLB…winks,…head nod MLB.

Slim let me re-post that for ya…lol One of the mistakes I think women make (don’t exile me WLB) is not being appreciative of what the man does do…

What kind of “truth serum” did you drink last night.

By Wise Diva

May 23, 2007 8:52 AM | Link to this

How do we show appreciation to men in dating? and how do men show us appreciation (and don’t say in the bedroom!)

By BlatinoBrutha -

May 23, 2007 8:53 AM | Link to this

…..clad in BulletProof vest, loaded with ammo, face paint properly in check, steel-toed boots, carrying two Gloks, an AK, and about 20 grenades. Also prepared with C4 plastic explosives….

“Hear me, men, soldiers, brothers of the MLB special ops!!! I have just received intel from double agent code name WD-40 about a planned offensive by the WLB for the morning of 05/22/07 at approximately 0900 hours(they’re still putting on makeup).

This disturbing report includes phrases such as “no more Mr. Nice Guy” and “mayor of Bitter City”. Men, this promises to be a bloody battle. There WILL BE casualties. Some of you will not be joining us for tonight’s Game 2 of the Leastern Conference Finals. We’ll pour one out for you, though. You will not have perished in vain.

LL, Musing, Jake, SJ, abc, GAMan, TRUTH, QueDog, Nick, Demi…. be on the alert. Remember Truth’s edict about blogging in pairs. Maintain radio silence until first move is made by the WLB. BLATINO OUT.

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 8:55 AM | Link to this

Jake No truth serum, just real talk. That’s one of the things I hear men complain about when it comes to dating. And not to keep the spotlight on women, I would also say, not expect the guy to pay all the time. Believe me, he’ll really appreciate the gesture even if he ultimately ends up taking the bill anyway.

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 9:02 AM | Link to this

Wise Diva You show appreciation for thanking the man for a dinner, movies, etc. You don’t act like a B…while you’re there unless he provokes you to. You don’t talk on your cell phone or constantly text message someone else because it shows disrespect for his time and money. One can still be cordial and not be into the person. Dating is trial and error and life is too short to be an azzhole all the time.

Slim looking around not seeing any fellow WLB members. Not panicking she starts brewing coffee and setting out morning bagels, muffins, croissants and fruit

By Texmex

May 23, 2007 9:02 AM | Link to this

dating etiquette: Please pass the * Thank you.

By Wise Diva

May 23, 2007 9:02 AM | Link to this

lol @ WD-40! I was just being truthful Blatino, I have seen it with my own eyes!

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

May 23, 2007 9:04 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Jake!

Good Morning Ladies of the WLB, WD and a nod to the members of the MLB

What’s shakin’? As far as dating etiquette, I think that is an oxymoron! It seems like no two people will think alike on the dating scene which makes it darn near impossible to come up with rules of engagement. I think we don’t take the timeout to appreciate each other at all. JMO, but when we do something totally sweet and unexpected for the opposite sex it’s almost as if it gets lost in translation! Learn to appreciate the small things more. You don’t know what it took for that person to break down the inner barrier inside of them to make that small step that you find so trivial!

Mochalatte backs away from the podium in full blog vest cover hidden behind the bullet-proof shield like she was the president or something

By NCGirlfromATL

May 23, 2007 9:06 AM | Link to this

I have just received intel from double agent code name WD-40 about a planned offensive by the WLB for the morning of 05/22/07 at approximately 0900 hours(they’re still putting on makeup).

WLB Y’all know who WD-40 is, right? Musing you didn’t fool anyone in that mu-mu and pink rollers. The 5 o’clock shadow, hairy legs and the fact that you were wearing a mu-mu and pink rollers gave you away. You know none of us own any of those clothes. Anyway, the MLB seems to think that we’re planning an offensive of some sort. Y’all know anything about that? LOL! Blatino baby, you can put away the big guns. We’re lovers, not fighters.

Slim Actually, I agree with your post. But, I think the issue for a lot of women (not speaking on the ATL dating scene, but just in general) is that the appreciation doesn’t go both ways.

By Wise Diva

May 23, 2007 9:08 AM | Link to this

Tex mex, you have one more time to post something offensive, and you’re going in the penalty box. Take it somewhere else on the internet.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

May 23, 2007 9:10 AM | Link to this

Morning All!!

Slimone I guess you and I are about to take many blog bullets today b/c I co-sign you post. I know I have been guilty of that along with not wanting my man to help me, even on simple things. My father always told me that men like to feel they are needed (outside of the bedroom too) by their SO. Not to say that you have to abuse that but if you never appreciate what a man does or never let him be of some help to you other than s3x then you dont/wont have a ‘real relationship’.

Mo now walking over to join SlimOne as they prepare for the WLB backlash

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

May 23, 2007 9:13 AM | Link to this

Slim I’m here for you this morning girl!! We are holding down the blog. WD, great topic. I really think that etiquette is something that is instilled in us and learned from a young age. Does that mean that I think “an old dog can not be taught new tricks”? No, but it is harder to break learned bad habits. But I’m open to other opinions! :)

By Lady J

May 23, 2007 9:13 AM | Link to this

@Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream… Learn to appreciate the small things more. You don’t know what it took for that person to break down the inner barrier inside of them to make that small step that you find so trivial!

Those words are beyond the truth and reality of we forget to do on a daily basis…Men and women and it is a great loss when it is ignored chronically…GREAT POST!!!:)

By Lady J

May 23, 2007 9:15 AM | Link to this

SlimOne…No bullets here..You are right just appreciate the small things and that is both parties in my opinions bc it is not missed until it is truely gone!!! Great Post!!!

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 9:18 AM | Link to this

Blat You aren’t hot with all that on? You know you alls a/c isn’t in working order right now.

Anyway, I think one of the major problems is honesty. If you’re married you really shouldn’t be out trying to find potential dating partners unless you’re part of the swingers world. I think so much drama arises when a person part of the dating pair finds out the other party has a g/f, b/f, or other. There is a difference in simply dating more than one person at a time than being in a serious relationship and still dating on the side.

By TyBoogie

May 23, 2007 9:18 AM | Link to this

Dating etiquette is something that you usually pick up on after you have been here for those 6-10 months. I think intially you try to be yourself (whatever that means for that individual) and I believe we find ourselves in the wrong enviroment with women (can only speak from my experiences)

hey Wise Diva

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

May 23, 2007 9:19 AM | Link to this

Thanks Lady J!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

May 23, 2007 9:21 AM | Link to this

Mochalatte say it again girl, say it again!!! ^5 Learn to appreciate the small things more. You don’t know what it took for that person to break down the inner barrier inside of them to make that small step that you find so trivial!

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 9:26 AM | Link to this

WLB thanks for your support ladies. Feel free to help yourself to our continental style breakfast i’ve put together for us. We’ll definitely need our energy today.

By Cassie

May 23, 2007 9:27 AM | Link to this

Morning all.

If I ever had a guy pay for a date, I’d fall out of my chair. Either we split it or I pay. I have NEVER been taken “out” on a date (as in, the man pays).

Of course, this has a positive effect. If a man isn’t shelling out bucks for my dinner, I think he knows he ain’t getting reimbursed! LOL

By The Truth

May 23, 2007 9:28 AM | Link to this

The Truth rolls up in the Bentley verti with Slim driving, WD riding shotgun and Sexi and Mocha under arm in the rear. Long live the WLB. Dam life is good. Lunch at 12 is on me ladies.

Blat ROFLMAO. that was some funny stuff. Truth looks around to see which bruh’s won’t be watching game with him tonight.

On topic, its simple for me. No dating. If I meet someone I’m interested we go out as friends and see what happens. If its cool we go out again, if not we can maybe do business together. No harm, no foul. there are no rules though, kinda like no rules for war. All is fair out there.

WD a woman can show appreciation by cooking for a guy, buying him a small gift, just show that you care. Do something. And if nothing else get down on all fours and…

Slim I have reports that you’ve been wearing my Spidey tighty whiteys. (Agent WD-40 is always at work) Please wash them before returning them. Thank you.

By texmex

May 23, 2007 9:28 AM | Link to this

Diva dating etiquette: Please pass the vagina. Thank you.

Is that better?

By Lady J

May 23, 2007 9:29 AM | Link to this

@NCGirlfromATL…Youa re right when appreciation is not recipicated by both from the start and not lagging(if that is a word) off in the middle it would be great bc inconsistent behavior starts by one party and it affects the other when something is done…It is like dag I deserve this anyway bc I do the small things ongoing meaning the party that is being consistent…Great Post!

By Island Girl

May 23, 2007 9:29 AM | Link to this

Morning All

I will post later on the topic. Good points given by the ladies, Slim, Mocha and NC.

Blantino LOL

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 9:29 AM | Link to this

TyBoogie I believe we find ourselves in the wrong enviroment with women (can only speak from my experiences) Can you elaborate on what you mean exactly?

By Jerry THE KING! Mullins

May 23, 2007 9:30 AM | Link to this

If y’all think the dating scene manners issue is bad here, go try living in Washington DC for about a year.

By T-Mango

May 23, 2007 9:31 AM | Link to this

Good Morning all. (Holla back WLB)

Dating etiquette…I say treat others the way you want to be treated. Cosigning with Slimone’s posts. Say “thank you” to him when he’s opening doors, etc., offer to take the bill sometimes, offer to pay for parking if you’re going out, offer suggestions for dates instead of requiring him to plan everything, ask him out on a date…

One of my dating pet peeves: If there is interest and #’s are exchanged, pick up the phone and call. What’s up with the wait 2-4 day before calling because I don’t want to appear too anxious stuff? If you think of me on day 1, call me on day 1(too dayuum old to be wasting time).

Off Topic: Shout out to Laila Ali who held it down for the WLB on Dancing with the Stars. After much deliberation on my part I have come to the conclusion that there is only one sister that can win this competition for us. Dancing skills and lack of rhythm aside-we need to recruit Oprah Winfrey to pull in the win for us. She’s the only one that can do it. LOL.

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

May 23, 2007 9:32 AM | Link to this

Thanks Mo!

I just know this from experience. I mean I’ve been on both sides of the spectrum. I’ve been the giver and the receiver. I’ve appreciated and not appreciated. I’ve been appreciated and not bee appreciated. I think it takes a really good person to learn how to balance both sides of that spectrum! And I’ll be happy to make his acquaintance any day now! :)

By Wise Diva

May 23, 2007 9:38 AM | Link to this

hey Tyboogie! How’s the baby boy?

Tex mex, actually NO, not really better! LOL, but kudos for trying.

By Lady J

May 23, 2007 9:40 AM | Link to this

@Jerry THE KING! Mullins…Can you elaborate on the DC dating scene? I wanted to move ther first but ATL was convient and cheaper and I think I was just too scared to move truely away but I am so interested in the DC/MD area…

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 9:40 AM | Link to this

*Mochalatte co-sign on your post regarding appreciating the small things. Once a person no longer feels appreciated or feels that no matter what they do it goes unnoticed, that’s when trouble starts….the clean-up women will be nearby waiting to pickup where you left off.

Truth Your stop is here buddy. Your $1.50 was driven up by the time we got out of the gas station last night. Either fork up the cash or get to hiking. Oh, and honey I used your Spidey Tighty Whities to clean the rims on the Bentley. They actually worked quite well.

So MEN what do you do to show appreciation for us?

By Wise Diva

May 23, 2007 9:43 AM | Link to this

Truth, shaking my head, get on all fours?

Hey Jerry the King, my best bud lives in DC. I wonder if he would agree with you. Is DC that bad?

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

May 23, 2007 9:44 AM | Link to this

Mochalatte hollas back at T-Mango

Okay, where do I co-sign on that post? Ain’t that the dayum truth! If you are feeling me the first day and want to call, do it. Matter of factly, I dare you to think outside of the box!!!!

I’m telling you, the WLB is up in this piece!

By BlatinoBrutha -

May 23, 2007 9:46 AM | Link to this

BTW, WD-40 is Wise…..

… taking off protective gear.”dayum this ish is hot!!!!”…. wiping off face, but still keeping the Glock. you never know….

“Hey, Truth!! I know the Bentley will seat 6. Tell ‘em Dee Blatino Brroother ees coming wit dee passion.”

By The NSG

May 23, 2007 9:46 AM | Link to this

I’ve adopted this saying: “Everybody (dating in Atlanta) wants options but nobody wants to be one.” It’s become sort of a golden rule in my interactions with women. I try to remember that every time it starts to go there — when conversations about dating begin or the evidence of a game-playing past surface — people are just protecting themselves the best way they know how. There are times I wish I could program my brain to forget all that doesn’t benefit me in dating and retain what I should know, because I contribute to the environment we’re speaking of as much as anyone else.

At 27.77 years old, I am back to square one at dating. Help requested.

By TyBoogie

May 23, 2007 9:47 AM | Link to this

NP SlimOne…..Me I’m from Maryland when i moved down here in 98 I was in Duluth. I spent most of my time trying to get myself together (2 jobs and school) I was cordial with women but that wasn’t my main focus. I couldn’t give a women the attention that they needed. As I became more stable my standards changed (just a little) and I wasn’t as accepting to just any ole woman.

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 9:47 AM | Link to this

T-Mango If you think of me on day 1, call me on day 1(too dayuum old to be wasting time Kudos for that post. This is not High School folks.

By Lady J

May 23, 2007 9:54 AM | Link to this

@The NSG…I feel you…

By MochaTreat

May 23, 2007 9:55 AM | Link to this

Good morning Slim, MO, NC, GAman, Kinder, Sexione, Foots and crew

@Kinder 2 more days left….yeah!!!

@MO How are you doing?

I just dropped by to say hello! :-)

Talk to you later!

By Jake.

May 23, 2007 9:55 AM | Link to this

Wise

I ain’t trying to encourage Tex mex, but that was pretty funny…lol

By Cassie

May 23, 2007 9:56 AM | Link to this

I thought that whole “waiting two days to call” thing went out the window a long time ago.

Now it’s “text me on the way home”.

By The Truth

May 23, 2007 10:00 AM | Link to this

Jerry its more than just DC also. we’re talking about everywhere. I’ve hung out around some of these small southern towns and there just as bad. I think its all about personal respect and how you let people treat you.

slim you should know better than abusing a guys spideys. That ain’t right. The way I show appreciation is by cooking/grilling, trying to relieve some of her worries, give her a safe place to drop her head. One chick had clothes all over the place so we had a date that included cleaning up and hanging up all those clothes. Afterwards she got down on all fours and…

The Truth is now searching the couch pillows for spare change for gas.

By SeanJohnson

May 23, 2007 10:01 AM | Link to this

Sup Blog…Hump Day….Regarding the topic…i know we come on here sometimes with gripes about the opposite sx…but with the variety you have choose to from in Atlanta we all should be enjoying the opposite sx and not dwelling on the negatives…As far as etiquette…appreciating and respecting each other is important.. But i think we should be as honest and up front with our intentions with the opposite sx ..that way we can be on the same page when ever possible..it u are dating to find long term say it..if you are dating to have fun nothing serious say it…if you are looking for just a piece of azz say it…you never who..there are people looking for the same things u are..So folks be honest..upfront and enjoy yourselfs..you only live once..

By no answer

May 23, 2007 10:01 AM | Link to this

I wish everybody who has moved to Atlanta in the last 15 years would go back to their original city! That would make the dating scene much better in the ATL.It would also improve the traffic problem!

By no answer

May 23, 2007 10:02 AM | Link to this

I wish everybody who has moved to Atlanta in the last 15 years would go back to their original city! That would make the dating scene much better in the ATL.It would also improve the traffic problem!

By Island Girl

May 23, 2007 10:02 AM | Link to this

Jerry I have a couple of girlfriends living in the DC area and they love it up there. They claim dating in DC is great. I’ve visited and on each occusation had a great time. Too bad I can’t bring back one of those Latino brothers in my luggage.

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 10:03 AM | Link to this

Ty I understand you having goals that at the time you couldn’t spend too much energy in the dating world. However, that still doesn’t explain what type of wrong environments you find yourself with women in. Do you mean like find yourself in the bed with a women, in the backseat of the car with a women, or figuratively in a wrong environment…such as you into attaining your goals and she has developed strong feelins with you?

NSG I have to admit that i’ve ‘shut down’ after I felt a little inkling that a particular person was BSing and or playing games. No one wants to look like anybodies fool.

By Wise Diva

May 23, 2007 10:04 AM | Link to this

LOL @ Jake, oh don’t you encourage him, he is on my watch list for today regardless!

By T-Mango

May 23, 2007 10:06 AM | Link to this

Ok, Let me get this one off my chest too…

What’s up with the disappearing acts? You know…You have a great couple of dates…he tells you how good of a friend you are…how much he is enjoying the process of getting to know you.

Then, one day he just stops calling. You call him a few times…no response, but you know he’s not dead or hurt because he may have been spotted out on the Atlanta scene. Then, about a month or two later he picks up the phone and calls you acting like you spoke to each other only two days ago…and wants to catch up. No apology for not returning your call. Then, he can’t seem understand why you’re just not into him that much anymore. Where have you been my friend?…

Dating Etiquette Rule #1 for men and women. Be consistent. Don’t do anything in the beginning of the friendship/relationship that you aren’t willing to do down the line. In other words, don’t do all the sweet things to woo me and then once you have me in your life you stop doing those things.

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

May 23, 2007 10:07 AM | Link to this

Cassie girl get out of my head!!! I was thinking the same thing. Right after a date now-a-days, guys or girls seem to text message you right after a date to tell you what a good time they had!! OMG, is that crazy or what? I remember having to wait until you got home and call that person up to 1) let them know you got home safely (high school) and 2) to let them know you wanted to see them again or just the opposite! Technology is a blast!

By BlueMoon

May 23, 2007 10:09 AM | Link to this

Simple, live by the Golden Rule, treat others how you want to be treated. The problem in the ATL is, almost no one lives that way anymore. It’s more like, do unto others.

All you need to do to figure out what type of people live in Atlanta now is to look at how they drive. They don’t care about anyone but themselves and will run you over the first chance they get.

And it’s not dating etiquette most need to worry about as much as knowing where to look for the person in the first place. Bars? NAH Too many trying this now too. Think about it, how many people get in trouble when they have been drinking? Too many other things to try than that stuff.

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 10:13 AM | Link to this

Truth You sure like folks being on all fours. You wouldn’t happen to be crying out for help with your beastiality fetish would you? kidding

Sean J i think we should be as honest and up front with our intentions with the opposite sx ..that way we can be on the same page when ever possible That’s what it all boils down to. ^5 on that!

Maybe we should come up with clubs that suit each category.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

May 23, 2007 10:14 AM | Link to this

HEY MOCHATREAT!!! Glad you could drop in on us!

SJ I am co-signing your post with my gold tipped feather pen!! Kudos

NSG same to you, Kudos!

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

May 23, 2007 10:16 AM | Link to this

T-Mango Girl, you and Slim are on a roll this morning!

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

May 23, 2007 10:19 AM | Link to this

Mo pass that pen, because I need to put my John Hancock on that one as well! Way to go SJ!!

By NCGirlfromATL

May 23, 2007 10:21 AM | Link to this

Wise say it ain’t so!! You didn’t defect to the MLB camp, did you? Don’t let Blatino’s smooth moves fool you, girl! He’s just a wolf in cheap…I mean sheep’s clothing!

SJ Once again, nice post!

Truth get yo lazy a$$ outta the Bentley. Ladies, we need to get the Bentley in for full detailing. Truth was eating Funyons and grape soda in the Bent, and there is a distinct corn chip smell…I think he brought some of the Civic foot funk in with him. Bleech! $1.50?!? Mayne, puh-lease! Island charge the MLB Amex for the detailing…they actually have no spending limit on that card!

WLB hair flip to the rest of the WLB crew…Mochatreat, Mochalatte, Mo (too many Mo’s lol!), T-Mango, Lady-J.

Lawd no! Not Oprah! It would require entirely too much training to get her Rhythmless Nation butt to learn to dance!

The Truth is now searching the couch pillows for spare change for gas.

LMAO!! Be careful! You might get some on your hands…especially after eating those Funyons! LOLOL!!

By Cassie

May 23, 2007 10:22 AM | Link to this

Mochalatte - no kidding. I can’t even get out of the parking lot with a “that was fun” or something else inane texted to me. I mean, it’s cool and all (who doesn’t like to get text messages) but still a little silly.

By Wise Diva

May 23, 2007 10:24 AM | Link to this

wow Blue moon, you know I have never thought of observing “driving skills” before. Interesting!

By SexyLeggs

May 23, 2007 10:27 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone. Had a rough week already…2 shots of NaVan please.

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 10:27 AM | Link to this

I think guys should be mindful of a women’s personal space on a date also. Don’t fall into ‘dirty ole man’ category but not keeping your hands to yourself within reason. No weird body groping or boob watching…last time i checked boobs didn’t talk. And if you have to grab your crotch too often, maybe you should stop wearing them ballz cutters and get some better fitting pants. You want to play with em all night then try to touch me or put your hand in the popcorn bucket. OH HEllz Naw!

By Lady J

May 23, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this

SJ as always you bring it daily!!! Thanks for your experienced outlook on dating!!!:)

By Island Girl

May 23, 2007 10:30 AM | Link to this

SJ, I agree with you for a second day in a row. Folks play too much games. Be open about your intentions. It’s like the guy that posted yesterday regarding his pursuit of a young lady that seems to be playing him (sending flowers, paying for dinners, etc). In my opionion, she already has something going on and she is stringing him along for the benefits he’s shelling out. If you’re dating for fun…say so.

Have any of you ever been asked out to dinner and afterward get stuck with the bill (which was totally unexpected because your date invited you out)?

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this

NC He’s just a wolf in cheap…I mean sheep’s clothing! LOLOLOL

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

May 23, 2007 10:34 AM | Link to this

I feel you on that on Cassie! I would hope it’s not that serious that you could not wait until you got home to call me up and be like what’s up? But hey, just think, maybe you left a lasting first impression and he couldn’t wait to see you again? Sounds like a second date…

By Tater

May 23, 2007 10:38 AM | Link to this

wow Blue moon, you know I have never thought of observing “driving skills” before. Interesting! WD - Add how people dress, how clean their car and house/apartment is and you can get a generally good idea about what type of person they are. Nothing is foolproof but Blue Moon is certainly correct and it has benefited me in figuring out what type of person they are. Personal experience, the issues above haven’t failed me yet.

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

May 23, 2007 10:40 AM | Link to this

Slim that’s worse than Truth’s Funyons!!! EEEWWW!!! I haven’t met a guy who grabbed his crotch in a hot minute and thank God, because I would have all types of things to say about that one!

By Melo

May 23, 2007 10:41 AM | Link to this

If I ever had a guy pay for a date, I’d fall out of my chair-Cassie

Girl, where are u meetng these men?!!Seriously. And How old are u and the men u dating?

Just curious.

By The NSG

May 23, 2007 10:41 AM | Link to this

Dating Etiquette Rule #4: Don’t engage me if you’ve got somebody. We don’t need to be talking about anything that may bring us together — work, business ventures, none of that — if my intention was to take you out and you give me your number, only for me to call and hear that you have a man. Rude and wrong.

By QC

May 23, 2007 10:41 AM | Link to this

Morning Bloggers How do we show men appreciation when it comes to dating? Well, how about being on ready when he comes to pick you up on time….when “honestly asked” where would like to go for dinner..don’t say it does’nt matter be honest and name your favorite place…it’s ok to get him a nice “1st date gift” and it’s also ok to pay for the date or go dutch…and ladies if you’re not interested don’t lead the man on by ignoring his phone calls or text messages just keep it real with him and tell him the truth….dating in Atlanta is not hard/complicated just do you and figure out what type of people you’re interested in and just GO FOR IT There is no dating etiquette written in stone…as long as you’re dating & happy that’s the only etiquette you need have a great day bloggers :)

By QC

May 23, 2007 10:42 AM | Link to this

Morning Bloggers How do we show men appreciation when it comes to dating? Well, how about being on ready when he comes to pick you up on time….when “honestly asked” where would like to go for dinner..don’t say it does’nt matter be honest and name your favorite place…it’s ok to get him a nice “1st date gift” and it’s also ok to pay for the date or go dutch…and ladies if you’re not interested don’t lead the man on by ignoring his phone calls or text messages just keep it real with him and tell him the truth….dating in Atlanta is not hard/complicated just do you and figure out what type of people you’re interested in and just GO FOR IT There is no dating etiquette written in stone…as long as you’re dating & happy that’s the only etiquette you need have a great day bloggers :)

By T-Mango

May 23, 2007 10:42 AM | Link to this

SJ You hot the nail on the head with your post.

Here’s another one…

Dating Etiquette Rule #2-…Be single First of all, there are too many “married-single persons” on the scene in Atlanta. Therefore, if you have not received your annulment or divorce decree you are in violation. Also, if you have an SO, but he/she doesn’t know that you’ve decided to move on because you didn’t make the break-up official by talking about it…please clean up things at home before loading an online profile, or asking for the digits at Old School Saturdays.

Slimone…you’ve got next. (lol)

By QC

May 23, 2007 10:42 AM | Link to this

Morning Bloggers How do we show men appreciation when it comes to dating? Well, how about being on ready when he comes to pick you up on time….when “honestly asked” where would like to go for dinner..don’t say it does’nt matter be honest and name your favorite place…it’s ok to get him a nice “1st date gift” and it’s also ok to pay for the date or go dutch…and ladies if you’re not interested don’t lead the man on by ignoring his phone calls or text messages just keep it real with him and tell him the truth….dating in Atlanta is not hard/complicated just do you and figure out what type of people you’re interested in and just GO FOR IT There is no dating etiquette written in stone…as long as you’re dating & happy that’s the only etiquette you need have a great day bloggers :)

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 10:42 AM | Link to this

IG what up? Nope haven’t ever got stuck with the check but it does happen.

Story It was my cousin’s birthday. A guy that she talked to from time to time called her that afternoon to see what she was doing and she didn’t really have any plans. He said they should go to lunch. So they go to Chilli’s, eat and have a few drinks. When the bill come he basically said he wanted to wait to take her out to a much nicer place. WTF!!!! She ended up paying for her own food. That didn’t make any sense. It was his idea.

By Cassie

May 23, 2007 10:43 AM | Link to this

Mochalatte Or a stalker!

By Lady J

May 23, 2007 10:46 AM | Link to this

@T-Mango…Great 10:06 post!!! Slim said it yesterday the games are a bit tired or I did but Slim did say she don’t play them…Anyway great post!

By Bre'

May 23, 2007 10:48 AM | Link to this

Greetings to all, long time no blog. Stopping thru for a hot minute.

I have not dated in Atlanta in a long time, however I’ve checked out the scene in alot of different cities(DC, Chicago, Minneapolis, NYC, Denver, Miami and LA) each has it own issues when it comes to dating. But I won’t bore you with breaking each down.

However I will spill a few of my dating gems for the ladies to show small signs of appreciation to the man that you are dating. It really does not take much effort men are simple beings you just have to pay attention then apply a dab of charm.

To appreciate dating someone is to do the small things they go so much further than you can ever imagine. I even once sent roses to a guy. Then months later I’m out in the garage he had them hung upside down so they could dry. That was so touching to me due to I realized he did appreciate it.

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

May 23, 2007 10:48 AM | Link to this

No offense Tater and Blue but who would let you in their car or home if it was nasty? First off, do you even get in a nasty ride with a person? And if you are invited to someone’s crib and there are empty pizza boxes and cartons of milk on the counter (post college days) do you even sit down and wait for something to crawl on the back of your neck?

By BlatinoBrutha -

May 23, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

…..strapping gear back on as it’s now clear that this morning’s niceties were simply a ruse to get the MLB special ops to lower defenses….

Sorry to out you like that, Wise! Just needed to clear up some confusion among MLB ranks due to NCgirl’s first post. We’ll keep further communications to the secure channel.

Welcome back to Broke Phi Broke HQ, TRUTH. you didn’t think the ride would last long, did you? You’re hereby on probation til further notice, and you temporarily are disallowed any classified info.

By Demi

May 23, 2007 10:52 AM | Link to this

Buona mattina a tutti

Mochalatte, we give up on texting in Japanese, too many characters per word. We switch to Italian instead.

We’re soo lazy!!

By NativeAtlantan

May 23, 2007 10:53 AM | Link to this

First let me say, that as a man, the dating scene in Atlanta is extremely ggod. There are alot of single women in Atlanta.

As for dating etiquette: only losers do not open the door for a lady. Any door, any lady! It doesn’t matter if you’re on a date or not. Even if you have keyless remote entry on your car, you still open the door for a lady. Only losers ask his date to split or pay on a first date. If the two become a couple and she wants to mpay one night, no problem.

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 10:54 AM | Link to this

Dating Rule #…next lol Guys/Gals…If you KNOW you don’t have any money, don’t flex like it’s all good or tell me to ball out on whatever I want. Suggest going to the park or just out for icecream, or even Ci-Ci’s Pizza. Just Keep It Real Because Slim is not falling for the “oh i left my wallet at home” excuse.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

May 23, 2007 10:54 AM | Link to this

@SlimOne on the “ODB” post, I couldnt agree more!! Aint nuthin worse than a brother turning into an octopus on you!!! Arms & hands errwhere!! If you cant respect the personal space then you gots to go!!

@Blue Moon never thought about what you said in your post, but good lookin out! Mo now takin notes from todays blog for future reference

By The Truth

May 23, 2007 10:54 AM | Link to this

Blat you know I have much luv for all my MLB bruh’s ( in a non-homo kinda way) but if you get in this car there’s gonna be some problems. Man i’m sitting in the back with my legs open so there’s no room, and your not sitting on my lap.

NC those weren’t my funyons. I’m not a snitch or anything but smell Slim’s breath. I’ll fess up to the grape soda but I didn’t spill any, that was WD.

Cassie I cant believe you’ve never had a guy pay for a meal for you. I’m going to take you out and treat you. Driver, I mean Slim pull up the phantom, I’ve got an appointment.

I’m amazed that so many people are having a bad time dating. Is it really that bad out there?

Bluemoon you’ve got a good point about watching people drive. One of my playboy partners drive like chit, and he treats women worse.

P.s. Slim is not the best driver I’ve seen. I want to talk with some of her ex’s. Keep driving Slim.

By Island Girl

May 23, 2007 10:58 AM | Link to this

Slim what happened to your cousin is straight trifling. It happened to a girlfriend of mine recently. I’m appalled a person would do that. If you can’t afford to pay for dinner, don’t ask a person out.

Bluemoon

I agree with you about the driving thing…..there are some crazy drivers in ATL. I can’t understand why everyone always seems to be in a hurry. I remember my co-workers had me as the joke of the day because I told them I hardly drive over 60 on the highway.

By NCGirlfromATL

May 23, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this

Have any of you ever been asked out to dinner and afterward get stuck with the bill (which was totally unexpected because your date invited you out)?

Unfortunately, yes. Luckily, my mom always told me to make sure I had enough money to at least cover my half of the bill, cab fare, and a phone call or two when I went on a date. I haven’t been stuck with a bill in quite a while, but it has happened. I dated a guy for a while whose check card was declined with quite a frequency whenever we went out. It got so bad that I just started asking him before we went out if he had any money. That determined if we went out, and if we did, and I had to pay where we went. I was in school, and certainly couldn’t afford to feed his always-hungry butt on a regular. LOL!

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this

Mochalatte who would let you in their car or home if it was nasty? Girl don’t be surprised by this. Folks that weren’t necessarily raised to be clean or just never had to do much cleaning don’t always see it being a problem. I know two females whose homes look like a landfill. You can barely see the floor. When you go over there, they just say…just move that out of your way. GROOSSSS! I always find it refreshing when a guy is clean, especially his bathroom.

By Melo

May 23, 2007 11:03 AM | Link to this

…if you are looking for just a piece of azz say it…you never who..there are people looking for the same things u are.SeanJ

U are right on the money, the problem is both dudes and dolls play mind games and are not upfront with info. That includes me as well. So we all end up trying to discover the real truth and bottom line before accepting the other person. It seems the only way u can get the truth is do online dating thru’ exclusive website. There, u find a plethora of special sites catering for the cheating partners/spouses,s3x only partners,men on men, woman to woman etc. Maybe what we need more are nite clubs/meat markets catering to same special interests individuals but allowing for face to face interaction!That way u go there knowing excactly the kind of people u gonna meat.

By SeanJohnson

May 23, 2007 11:04 AM | Link to this

@ Slim….regarding repecting a females personal space…on date…what if i wanted to “steal” a kiss…especially if you are feeling me…do you think that is proper etiquette?

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 11:10 AM | Link to this

Mo (now known as Moeisha) For some reason, I hate it when guys i’ve just met call me baby and all that stuff. You call them and it’s Hey baby!….ugghhh I have no idea why that bothers me so. I guess i feel like we don’t even know each other enough to be doing all that. Also, if ODB doesn’t respect your space, he isn’t going to respect your too much either.

Truth I love Funyuns but I don’t even eat them this early. Man Up and take your punishment accordingly. And as far as being a bad driver, not me bruh. I’ve been driving since I was 12. Haven’t caused an accident yet knock on wood The only appointment you have is with the nearest ATM.

By The Truth

May 23, 2007 11:10 AM | Link to this

Blat how can you put me on probation when you know I’m on a covert black bag op? I’m under cover man.

Bre that was some cool stuff. What are you doin tonight around 8?

QC you usually spit gospel but on that asking where she wants to go thing, no. I pick the spot, all she has to do is enjoy the ride.

Native I feel you. If your not opening the door and handling your biz then what are you doing? That is just the basic stuff, although Bre’s tips are refreshing.

By Tater

May 23, 2007 11:11 AM | Link to this

Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream Sometimes you don’t know until you get there. Me, no I don’t wait. I am outta there. Might want to add how they handle their finances too. All good indicators if this person is worth dating. If they don’t care about their appearence, house/apartment or finances they proably aren’t going to be a good “long term” date.

So what to do? Look at all these indicators and figure out if you are the Felix or the Oscar (Odd Couple for those younger than 30)

By Demi

May 23, 2007 11:14 AM | Link to this

Slim I agree with you on that one. If I invite you out for dinner, I am responsible for paying for the outing. But how the hell you gon call me up, ask my black a$$ out, and expect me to pay for the dayum thang!

I start to tell her, “O, I ain’t 20 and desperate for some ooties.”

I just simply said that is very disrespectful of you and hung up the phone. number deleted

By Cassie

May 23, 2007 11:15 AM | Link to this

Melo & The Truth

Yes, yes, it’s true. I have survived thirty three and a half years and one marriage without having a man/woman pay for a date.

While we are at it, what exactly is a date? Is hanging out a date? Going to the movies? Do men still pick up their dates anymore in this age of craziness?

I mean, I don’t think hanging out at a bar and having a drink with someone constitutes a date. Sheeyut knows I don’t get dressed up to go to a bar….

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 11:17 AM | Link to this

Sean J I said within reason. So if the vibe is there then it’s all good. If you were to steal a kiss and i didn’t appreciate it, I would let you know. It’s all about body language and chemistry. It would probably be hard to steal a kiss from me if I really wasn’t feeling you because i’d already be on guard and I wouldn’t allow the space between us to provide a window of oppurtunity for you to try.

melo see post 10:13

By TyBoogie

May 23, 2007 11:18 AM | Link to this

Slim I was talking about the latter….once a woman has feelings there (some women) want things to progress. I myself wasn’t ready to do that and it was clearly stated in the beginning.

By Island Girl

May 23, 2007 11:20 AM | Link to this

Slim their houses looks like landfill..LOL

What about the guys whose house are immaculately clean and coordinated to the point your like daym….maybe I should have him design my living room? I once considered dating this barber. I emphasized considered because by the time I was invited over to his place, I thought I was caught in a scene from “Sleeping with the Enemy”. The cans in his kitchen cabinet was stacked and coordinated by product label and colors….. His closet was organized by color and style. Neat freak or obsessive/compulsive disorder?

I did the disappearing act on him…sorry WLB. I did not answer any calls after that.

By BlatinoBrutha -

May 23, 2007 11:20 AM | Link to this

…Truth, Shh! i know, i’m just playin the role. dayum!

By QC

May 23, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this

That’s cool The Truth i’m sure you’re not the only one who does that and ain’t nothing wrong with it…..

By QC

May 23, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this

That’s cool The Truth i’m sure you’re not the only one who does that and ain’t nothing wrong with it…..

By Demi

May 23, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this

LOL @ Sean”hitemwitatrickquestion”Johnson

By Melo

May 23, 2007 11:26 AM | Link to this

Yes, yes, it’s true. I have survived thirty three and a half years and one marriage without having a man/woman pay for a date-Cassie

Girl, so sorry to hear that!! Iam ready to take u on an all expenses paid date to a nice restaurant(sp). No Strings attached!! Call me up.

By Big Pen-I

May 23, 2007 11:28 AM | Link to this

Hello, Big Pen-I just wanted to introduce himself to the community. He has been reading your blogs for a while and figured it was time to chime in. As far as dating goes, Big Pen-I says that if you are having bad dating experiences it is more than likely your fault. He says you draw people that you identify with. Opposites usually don’t attrack when it comes to dating. Big Pen-I says look in the mirror and you will probably find the person you are dating is a verison of yourself. So sayeth Big Pen-I!!

By SeanJohnson

May 23, 2007 11:29 AM | Link to this

@ Demi…just trying to set the “mode” Slim talking about invading personal space knowing damn well if a dude she is feeling kiss her on the neck or lips on some Victor Newman ish she will melt…

By Demi

May 23, 2007 11:31 AM | Link to this

Island Girl a barber? He sounds a lot like this undercover brother my sister once dated…I pull my little sis to the side and said, “Sis, something is wrong with that dude.”

By Melo

May 23, 2007 11:31 AM | Link to this

melo see post 10:13-Sli DID.

Great minds think alike!!!

By Melo

May 23, 2007 11:32 AM | Link to this

melo see post 10:13-Slim DID.

Great minds think alike!!!

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 11:33 AM | Link to this

Ty well if it was stated prior to the person wanting to get more serious, then it’s really their issue. However, sometimes women will go by your actions. If you say you aren’t in a position to get serious about someone, then maybe you would want to spend less time with that person, not spend consecutive nights together, etc. We will assume that something has changed about your initial status. And WLB I apologize ahead of time….but we do like to think that you will see something special in us to want to eventually want to progress to a higher level of dating. It can be a conceited thought but true nonetheless. I don’t even think it’s always on purpose. My only suggestion would be to line your words up with your actions as much as possible.

Demi you best believe that was her last time talking to him. If i want to do something but don’t want to pay for you, I’ll call you up and be like, Hey you wanna go dutch on some bowling or putt-putt or dinner. It’s a little funny depending on how you deliver it but it works. I’m silly anyway so it doesn’t come off the wrong way.

By Wise Diva

May 23, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this

welcome Big Pen-I, should we be at all concerned that you write in the third person? LOL..it’s fun

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 11:41 AM | Link to this

IG apology accepted….I’d probably have to dip out on that one too.

Big Pen-I do you always refer to yourself in the 3rd person?

Sean J LOL, don’t act. You know dayum well there’s a difference in some creep trying to stick his tongue in your ear or purposely flick a piece of crab in your cleavage just to have a reason to go fetch it, than a fyne brother i’m vibing with flirting and exhanging sweet kisses with.

Would you be comfortable with a girl that rather held your crotch instead of your hand every time you were out?…..don’t answer that.

By The Truth

May 23, 2007 11:42 AM | Link to this

*QC we’re still cool. Just my thang.

Blat me too man. I’m trying to make this convincing. LMAO Gotta go, WLB wants to take me out for lunch. This undercover stuff is rough.

Cassie all i can say is dayummm. You deserve better than that. Let The Truth give you a big MLB hug.

Islandgirl while myy house isn’t quite like that it is not tore up either. Its like someone was saying, how someone lives has alot to do with their character. But when you visit a chick with a nasty house all you can think of is that puddytat must not be clean either. YUCK (The truth runs to the toilet to throw up)

By NCGirlfromATL

May 23, 2007 11:42 AM | Link to this

Blat you know I have much luv for all my MLB bruh’s ( in a non-homo kinda way) Blat how can you put me on probation when you know I’m on a covert black bag op? I’m under cover man.

Hmmmm….not commenting on those 2 statements. LOL!

Blatino I think you might wanna check the Broke Phi Broke HQ…you might find that WD has pulled an Alias on you. Never mess with the WLB. We’re crafty like dat!

(Notice how Wise isn’t playing along, and yet we keep using her name in vain! LMAO!!!)

SJ Stealing a kiss is ok, if each person is vibing off of the other. But, it stinks when you can’t wait for the date to be over, and you’ve got someone leaning in for a kiss. Can you say block with the cough and church hug? LOL!

By Island Girl

May 23, 2007 11:45 AM | Link to this

Demi I think he is one of those downlow guys. I had to step….couldn’t do it.

By Big Pen-I

May 23, 2007 11:46 AM | Link to this

Thank you Wise Diva. Big Pen-I says don’t be concerned with what he says, just listen and learn. However, Big Pen-I would like you warn you not to back up or bend over in the immediate area. Big Pen-I say not to hold him responible for what happens. So sayeth Big Pen-I!!!

By Demi

May 23, 2007 11:54 AM | Link to this

Hey QC let me practice some Italian on you right quick: Ciao la mia sorella bella, mente se amo su voi una punta piccola?…LOL

SlimOne Had she worded it that way, I wouldn’t have minded doing the treating.

SJ you know it bruh, but our girl gotta play that hard role, from time to time. LOL

By Bre

May 23, 2007 11:55 AM | Link to this

Truth I will be at a hotel bar overlooking the Hudson River. If you make it to NYC by 8:00pm tonight you are more than welcome to join.

By QC

May 23, 2007 11:55 AM | Link to this

Trust no doubt baby it’s all blog love honey ;)

hey Demi

By DuShawn

May 23, 2007 11:56 AM | Link to this

I remember when I was about 10 or 11 years old. My father, my sister and I were walking down a busy city street. He looked at me and said “Son, don’t put your sister up for sale”. I’m like;Pops what are you talking about? He went on to say, whenever you walk with a lady, make sure she walks on the inside of the side walk and you walk on the outside, closest to the street. That way, if need be, you can protect her from the oncoming traffic. I never forgot that and can’t wait for the opportunity to teach it to my son. That’s some old school dating etiquettte alot of you jitterbugs know nothing about. (Also implicit in Pops statement was that, if you’re selling her, have her as close to the street as possible.)

By QC

May 23, 2007 11:57 AM | Link to this

There are several IT positions that just became open, anyone interested just hit me up

MissQC@gmail.com

By QC

May 23, 2007 11:59 AM | Link to this

@Demi - wee, wee sir

By Big Pen-I

May 23, 2007 12:00 PM | Link to this

Big Pen-I says hi SlimOne. Don’t shoot the messenger, just learn from the message.

By Demi

May 23, 2007 12:01 PM | Link to this

Would you be comfortable with a girl that rather held your crotch instead of your hand every time you were out?

Kinda…LOL

By Wise Diva

May 23, 2007 12:01 PM | Link to this

lol @ NCGirl, I am over here thinking, now what now? ha ha! You guys are funny!

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

May 23, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this

Demi Buona mattina a voi ugualmente il mio Bon piccolo del Bon!

I understand because there are a lot of characters and they are weird too! I don’t call it lazy, I call it “Blog Friendly”.

Fino al seguente!

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 12:08 PM | Link to this

DuShawn I picked up that lesson when I was young but i’m not sure who i can attribute the credit to on that.

if you’re selling her, have her as close to the street as possible LOLOLOL but so true.

By T-Mango

May 23, 2007 12:11 PM | Link to this

For those of us that have height requirements. In our etiquette we may want to include never tell a man that he is short. Found this on wsb-tv’s site today…Wow!

SAN MATEO, Calif. — A man accused of biting off his wife’s bottom lip after she called him short has rejected a plea offer and will stand trial next month, prosecutors said.

Akano Nzerem, 54, of South San Francisco, is charged with felony counts of domestic violence, mayhem, false imprisonment, battery and making criminal threats.

Nzerem told police he was provoked by his wife attacking him first and calling him a short man, according to the district attorney’s office.

Police said Nzerem shoved aside his 16-year-old daughter when she tried to intervene in the argument. He then allegedly grabbed his wife in a bear hug and bit off her lip.

Police recovered the lip from the floor but doctors were unable to reattach it. Nzerem’s wife said authorities have exaggerated the extent of her injuries.

Nzerem also is facing misdemeanor charges of child endangerment and violating a court order, said Steve Wagstaffe, chief deputy district attorney for San Mateo County. Nzerem is free in lieu of $500,000 bail, and his trial is scheduled to begin in June.

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

May 23, 2007 12:13 PM | Link to this

Tater good point, but even at 28, I know who the Odd Couple is, save that for “Under 25” bloggers!

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 12:14 PM | Link to this

Big Pen-I I’m not currently armed anyway. I’d kick you in the bullseye before I shot at you anyways.

Demi I said don’t answer that. lol Chick couldn’t even eat at dinner because the left hand would be on the kibble and the right hand holding the bits.

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 12:20 PM | Link to this

T-Mango I heard them talking about that on the radio this morning. Simply crazy! I think they said she’s probably walking around looking like Fire Marshall Bill from In Living Color. i’m not going to laugh, I’m not going to laugh

By BeBe KID

May 23, 2007 12:24 PM | Link to this

The negatives to dating in the ATL:

1.Financial(BROKE) and Emotional Instability (CRAZY)

2.Bad Condescending attitudes (unapproachable) I am better than everybody; I have a degree, a job, drive a BMW, live in a Condo in Buckhead and I am in DEBT UP TO MY EYEBALLS SO I AM LOOKING FOR A MAN OR WOMAN TO SUPPLEMENT MY INCOME SINCE I HAVE LITTLE OR NO MONEY LEFT AFTER PAYING MY RENT OR MORTGAGE, MACY’S, VISA, AMERICAN EXPRESS etc. AND CAR LEASE PAYMENT.

By Big Pen-I

May 23, 2007 12:25 PM | Link to this

SlimOne, Big Pen-I thinks you are funny. But he says you should stop type/talking so much sit back and learn something and maybe just maybe he’ll get you a man worth having. Heck, he says he might give you a shot at him and he will make you apart of his stable, if you are a dime…. So sayeth Big Pen-I!!!

By Wise Diva

May 23, 2007 12:27 PM | Link to this

wow Bebe kid., that’s SOME list! I am sad to say, I have been and/or dated too many of those! LOL

By Demi

May 23, 2007 12:29 PM | Link to this

Pesca di Mochalatte con crema supplementare…Il mio mio, il vostro nome legge così sexy in italiano!!

QC Said while giving you a light kiss on the cheek…Che cosa è per pranzo io straving??!!

By T-Mango

May 23, 2007 12:40 PM | Link to this

SlimOne…and I thought Mike Tyson was bad for the ear bite. Ouch! She’d probably say “ouch” too, but I guess that’s hard to do without a lip, huh?

By Sexione

May 23, 2007 12:42 PM | Link to this

What’s up folks!!!

I had a moment to catch up, and as usual, you all are off da chain!!

I have nothing to add, it’s already been said several times.

Dayum I’m ready to go home!!!

Jake I need to see you stat!!

By Demi

May 23, 2007 12:42 PM | Link to this

For All my dope boys loving sisters out therrrrrre…Remember the mayor’s daughter.

By kinderbabe

May 23, 2007 12:50 PM | Link to this

good afternoon everyone! just thought i’d say hey.:) what’s up, slimone, ladyj, sexione, t-mango, demi, musing, jake, mochalatte, QC, the whole blog crew!

By Demi

May 23, 2007 12:55 PM | Link to this

T-Mango that dude has hurt my dayum cause…demi is now being place on bookshelf and unreaded for a thousand years, or for however long dude has set us back by

By Lady J

May 23, 2007 12:58 PM | Link to this

Hey Kinderbabe, QC and Demi!!!

By Hot Stuff

May 23, 2007 1:00 PM | Link to this

There is no dating scene in Atlanta there are hookups, one nite stands and STD distributers, escorts, hookers and HOs. Then you have the secondary list ugly or has 3 rugrats by 3 different playas.You could put all the date worthy girls in one Escalade.

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 1:08 PM | Link to this

Demi I must say you came to mind when i heard the story. You and other like yourself will need to stick together and keep your head up….oops you have no choice do you

By T-Mango

May 23, 2007 1:09 PM | Link to this

Aww Demi…don’t let one bad apple spoil the whole bunch! Keep representing and speaking in all those different languages…porque mi likes (lol)

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

May 23, 2007 1:14 PM | Link to this

Demi Perchè grazie! I complimenti notevolmente sono apprezzati il mio dolce!

Hey Kinder What’s shakin’ Girl? Only two more days! School’s out for summer!

By The Truth

May 23, 2007 1:18 PM | Link to this

Dam, pessimism soup is getting thick in here. I don’t think its that bad out there because I know if I wanted to I could go meet a woman and live happily ever after, or something like that. I really don’t see what some of you see but I have on dark shades too. Then again I always look at life with rose colored glasses.

Hot Stuff You could put all the date worthy girls in one Escalade. ROFLMAO

By Jane

May 23, 2007 1:22 PM | Link to this

I’m sorry but I just feel like dating in Atl sucks and I’m cosigning all the post stating if you have somebody at home then don’t ask for my number and proceed to ask me out on a date. I’m out a couple of weeks ago my cell phone rings I answer its a chick on the line asking who is this and how you know such and such. I’m like ask him…I then proceed to text him and ask who # is this. He goes girlfriend what yall talk about. I’m like ask your girl.

By QueDogTeching

May 23, 2007 1:28 PM | Link to this

What up blog Said while speed blogging.

The problem is not with the ladies of ATL, or that they don’t know how to act. The problem with dating in Atlanta is that fake baller / player wanna be / pay master / cake daddy / no game having / have risen the price of simple conversation / don’t know what to say to a woman so he keeps leasing cars / lame A* bustas in Atlanta. *”Yeah I said it” now taking off tie for the second day in a row, lacing gold boots up tight, now pointing at Musing to roll the windows down and let the sunroof back on the Civic so that I can hear Atomic Dogg, while walking around in circles waiting for anyone to step up

These days to even speak to a female, and I mean a simple “hello”, it seems that you have to send them a drink first. This starts a cycle of being a pay master. So when the real comes along, and truly wants to meet and have conversation to see where it will lead, a lot of women have their hands (and I do mean hands (plural) out.) This is why I rarely do the standard meet and date routine. I have friends that will meet a female today, call her tomorrow to set up a date, and will take her on a date on Friday. And then wonder why he is alone the next day. To me he never got to talk to her to see what was up with her, to see if she had good common sense, to see if she could hold an intelligent conversation, to see if her attitude was fake or real, to even see if he would WANT to take her out.

Also if I see one more female driving a 1989 4-door Hyundai Excel with a kit and expecting any man that talks to her to have a 2007 S Class benz before he can walk up to her and say hello, I am going to start handing out open hand slaps to the face . Sorry so long, just my thoughts.

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 1:29 PM | Link to this

Hi there kinder

Jane Sorry but try not to get discouraged….

By chgobrother

May 23, 2007 1:31 PM | Link to this

Some of these comments are hilarious, I thought dating in Chicago was brutal, but Atlanta has problems as well. First of all, I have never been asked out by a woman so if I were to understand correctly, the bill is mine every time. Nice that women who want to be independent want everything their way. Also, the comments about wasting time are dead on. Why even discuss work, family, job, career goals if you have someone in your life or a ex is a late night when your stomach is full phone call away. Been there done that. I just may have to move to Hotlanta if things do not improve here.

By kinderbabe

May 23, 2007 1:35 PM | Link to this

mochalatte hey girl!! i’m doing my dance over here…2 more days. lol we had graduation today. they were so cute.:)

By Kirk

May 23, 2007 1:42 PM | Link to this

I have lived in communities that weren’t as diverse as ATL and did not have the challenges that I have encountered here. I would have to say that the lack of basic common courtesy would probably supercede the reasons cited by BeBe Kid. I’ve met more than a few women who seem to expect a guy to take a hint and move on if she is not interested. Granted, there are a lot of men and women that both play mind games for all of the reasons mentioned—-but why is it so hard to be open and upfront, right from the start?

By Linguist

May 23, 2007 1:43 PM | Link to this

Hey Blog Fam … Long time no post! I’ve been preparing for a new position that’s recently opened up and have been studying like I was preparing for college exit exams! .. I don’t ya’ll, this position will force me to make a decision about where fam and I are going to be living permanently.. (sigh)

On topic: Haven’t had an opportunity to review all the posts, but I feel good knowing that the WLB are holding it down! Dating etiquette: “please and thank you’s” are always on point… oh, and yes.. a follow up phone call - after the date- I think is always appropriate! Why people want to play games…”is she going to call?” “is he going to call me?”… is crazy. Just pick up the doggone phone already.. gee whiz!

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 1:43 PM | Link to this

chgobrother Why even discuss work, family, job, career goals if you have someone in your life or a ex is a late night when your stomach is full phone call away You know what i think happens is chicks…or dudes…get stuck in the off-and-on-again cycle with their ex-SO or baby daddy. So they go out and date hoping they’ll meet someone that’ll give them the wake up call or strength to finally leave them alone. I guess it’s along the lines of thinking the NEXT man will help you get over the EX man

It’s not fair but that’s what it seems to boil down to in some situations.

What’s the dating scene like in the windy city?

By steve

May 23, 2007 1:44 PM | Link to this

The dating scene around here sucks! I have lived here my whole life and have never had a serious girlfriend. All the women around here either want some guy that is riddled with tattoos, a drug dealer or a pimp or in many cases another girl. Metro atlanta sucks for singles.

By joe

May 23, 2007 1:44 PM | Link to this

Forget all this cr*p about buying gifts and playing games. Just show some genuine interest in the other person, be real, don’t expect anything, stay off the cellphone, get to know the person over time and share some laughs and good conversation.

I am recently back in the dating scene and even getting a woman to look at me (I’m not THAT bad looking!) or smile is rare. Most women are accustomed to the guy swooping in with the smooth moves and for some unknown reason they like that, only to uncover the real person weeks or months later after the bloom is off the rose. Ladies, if you opened yourself up to other types of guys maybe you wouldn’t have such terrible experiences. Decent guys are still out there — we’re just not as aggressive.

By Cassie

May 23, 2007 1:45 PM | Link to this

Truth, Melo, BeBe

From BeBe’s list, #2 was dead on.

That’s what I don’t really like about dating. Why can’t you just go and hang out with someone with no pressure? I mean, I feel like it’s the spanish inquisition!!

Cassie: Hi! Do you mind passing me a napkin?

RudyRedNose: Sure, no problem. (pause) This is my first time here. It seems really friendly.

Cassie: Yeah, everyone’s pretty cool here and there’s a great group of regulars.

RudyRedNose: So…what do you do for a living?

Which is followed by: married/separated/divorced, kids y or no, do you rent or own, what do you drive, who do you work for, what does your job entail.

I think that “dates” don’t work for me because this is like handing out a resume that says “I’m not a flake, I have a job, I own my own home, and I don’t expect a man to support me”.

The other thing is that I think most Atlantan’s have little ole ideas about “class” of attractiveness. Like, I think I’m ok, I don’t stop traffic or anything, but if I see someone out who is out of my class, I don’t even bother to make an attempt to reach out.

Plus, if ONE MORE DUDE tells me I have a sexual aura, I’m going to puke. THAT IS NOT A PICK UP LINE!

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 1:51 PM | Link to this

Ling what’s up chica? I’m sure you’ll make the best decision you see fit for your family. Good Luck!

Steve How old are you?

By Demi

May 23, 2007 1:56 PM | Link to this

SlimOne I my old man’s voice Dayum you…Slim!! now passing out at the thought of sex

Heeey Lady J and KB

Mochalatte Funny, I understood that without a translator…Siete benvenuti.

T-Mango Lindo, muy lindo. LOL

By Wise Diva

May 23, 2007 1:56 PM | Link to this

oh that’s a pick up line alright, for humping. Geez, that’s uber tacky, and not even creative, LOL

By TRAVIS SMITH

May 23, 2007 1:58 PM | Link to this

WOMEN JUST LOOK FOR THINGS IN GUYS THEY DONT HAVE THEMSELVES

If you put a woman on a pedestal and try to protect her from the rat race, you’re a male chauvinist. If you stay home and do the housework, you’re a pansy.

If you work too hard, there is never any time for her. If you don’t work enough, you’re a good-for-nothing bum

If she has a boring repetitive job with low pay, this is exploitation. If you have a boring repetitive job with low pay, you should get off your a* and find something better.

If you get a promotion ahead of her, that is favoritism. If she gets a job ahead of you, it’s equal opportunity.

If you mention how nice she looks, it’s sexual harassment. If you keep quiet, it’s male indifference.

If you cry, you’re a wimp. If you don’t, you’re an insensitive bastard.

If you thump her, it’s wife bashing. If she thumps you, it’s self defense.

If you make a decision without consulting her, you’re a chauvinist. If she makes a decision without consulting you, she’s a liberated woman.

If you ask her to do something she doesn’t enjoy, that’s domination. If she asks you, it’s a favor.

If you like a woman to shave her legs and keep in shape, you’re sexist. If you don’t, you’re unromantic.

If you try to keep yourself in shape, you’re vain. If you don’t, you’re a slob.

If you buy her flowers, you’re up to something. If you don’t, you’re not thoughtful.

If you’re proud of your achievements, you’re up on yourself. If you don’t, you’re not ambitious.

If she has a headache, she’s tired. If you have a headache, you don’t love her anymore.

If you want it too often, you’re oversexed. If you don’t, there must be someone else

By TRAVIS SMITH

May 23, 2007 2:02 PM | Link to this

WOMEN JUST LOOK FOR THINGS IN MEN THAT THEY DONT HAVE OR WONT NEVER GET OR THINK THEY SUPPOSE TO HAVE…..ONE QUESTION?…..CAN A MAN CATCH A BREAK?…TO ALL MY ATL GOOD BROTHAS IF YOU WANT A GOOD WOMAN LOOK FOR ONE OUT OF STATE WOMEN ACROSS THE GA BORDER WILL LOVE YOU TO DEATH!!!!! CAN A MAN CATCH A BREAK IN THE A!!!!!

If you put a woman on a pedestal and try to protect her from the rat race, you’re a male chauvinist. If you stay home and do the housework, you’re a pansy.

If you work too hard, there is never any time for her. If you don’t work enough, you’re a good-for-nothing bum

If she has a boring repetitive job with low pay, this is exploitation. If you have a boring repetitive job with low pay, you should get off your a* and find something better.

If you get a promotion ahead of her, that is favoritism. If she gets a job ahead of you, it’s equal opportunity.

If you mention how nice she looks, it’s sexual harassment. If you keep quiet, it’s male indifference.

If you cry, you’re a wimp. If you don’t, you’re an insensitive bastard.

If you thump her, it’s wife bashing. If she thumps you, it’s self defense.

If you make a decision without consulting her, you’re a chauvinist. If she makes a decision without consulting you, she’s a liberated woman.

If you ask her to do something she doesn’t enjoy, that’s domination. If she asks you, it’s a favor.

If you like a woman to shave her legs and keep in shape, you’re sexist. If you don’t, you’re unromantic.

If you try to keep yourself in shape, you’re vain. If you don’t, you’re a slob.

If you buy her flowers, you’re up to something. If you don’t, you’re not thoughtful.

If you’re proud of your achievements, you’re up on yourself. If you don’t, you’re not ambitious.

If she has a headache, she’s tired. If you have a headache, you don’t love her anymore.

If you want it too often, you’re oversexed. If you don’t, there must be someone else

By Wise Diva

May 23, 2007 2:03 PM | Link to this

ok Travis Smith just made me wince, we aren’t that, bad are we!?

yikes

By Cassie

May 23, 2007 2:11 PM | Link to this

Jeez, who took a bitter pill for breakfast?

By Linguist

May 23, 2007 2:12 PM | Link to this

DuShawn… Gosh, you made me smile with that one… walking on the outside of the street! Hubby does that to this day!

Joe/Steve… Is it really like that? Are “we”(women)really giving off that vibe? You know, the one where we don’t smile… don’t look interested unless you drive a certain car, have a great job, etc…??

It’s interesting.. I know * a lot* of single women.. I mean a lot, and for the most part, I have not heard them talk about prerequsites a man has to have prior to dating them .. like driving a certain car, or having a 6 figure income, etc… This theory (which I recognize is not new) that women are mongrals - out for the hunt - I believe is false (yep.. I said it!) I think it’s more that men - using the excuse that a women isn’t interested in them - throw those stones out there that the women in the ATL (and in other states) are just looking for all the material trappings a man can offer.

Some men need to take rejection - like a man - and move on. Don’t cast all women in to the “she’s just a gold digger” abyss just b/c she wasn’t interested in you

Truth whatever on you! So before you get started.. keep it moving!! :)

By Lady J

May 23, 2007 2:13 PM | Link to this

@TRAVIS SMITH…Wow that is not right but that is life…

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 2:14 PM | Link to this

Slim revives Demi by flashing her camel toe

By Page1908

May 23, 2007 2:15 PM | Link to this

Hello Everyone! Oh my gosh, QDT, your last post is something that I hear my friends in ATL say all the time.

Travis Smith wow, I am still trying to digest that one…

Hey QC and all the old blog heads..lol

By Demi

May 23, 2007 2:15 PM | Link to this

Cassie yeah baby you know fine…let me break out my fake spanish hand book: No importe del bull-ish y del foco justo de la estancia. Hay un montón inmóvil de hombres positivos en Atlanta.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

May 23, 2007 2:15 PM | Link to this

Mo strollin in after lunch* Hey everybody!!

Travis I am like Wise Diva we arent that bad are we?! DAAAAANNNNNG!! Dont put us all in the same basket and let the few bad apples spoil the bunch!

Like NCGirl, *one hair flip to the WLB *

By SeanJohnson

May 23, 2007 2:17 PM | Link to this

@ QDogT…man…you sound just like me…i have female friends that are like that and tell me they treat me different because they “know” me but other dudes gotta have money…Thats why i have recently started to date older women…28 and under females these days …not all but some dont hve their mind together..They all want the baller..pro athlete..rapper/producer..industry life/dude…

By WTF

May 23, 2007 2:19 PM | Link to this

I had to print Cassie’s post & show them to coworkers. No one can believe a woman could be 33yrs old & never had a man pay for a date. She need to be on a talk show.

By abc

May 23, 2007 2:19 PM | Link to this

I once read that the custom originated in the middle ages, and was actually to have the woman walk furthest from the building, so that if someone dumped their chamber pot or garbage out of the upper window, the man would get hit with it instead.

By Linguist

May 23, 2007 2:23 PM | Link to this

Hey Slim

By Lady J

May 23, 2007 2:23 PM | Link to this

SJ your wording is correct not all… a compatible consistent mate at this point is all this 28yr old chick wants…But I feel what you are saying as usual…

By Sexione

May 23, 2007 2:24 PM | Link to this

awwww dayum Travis, you sound kinda bitter. There are some good women in the “A”, just like there are some good men………….few and far between maybe, but they’re there! lol

By Cassie

May 23, 2007 2:26 PM | Link to this

Demi totally laughing, v funny.

WTF recipe for this:

• high school boyfriends, small town, went to parties not out on “dates”

• went out with a few girls, and that was over beers (and done dutch since everyone was broke)

• met husband at work. Didn’t actually date since we saw each other for 10 hours every day. And then we bought a house together.

• ex bf….we just hung out, drank a lot of beer, and played poker. Wait…he did take me to the movies once! Does that count?

• current “friend” - work together, have lunch together every day. And we go to each others houses after work….so….??

Hm?? Does that work?

I mean, I had a guy ask me out (and he wasn’t all that bad, had a job, was divorced, no kids, and smart)…but his way of doing it was “hey, do you wanna go down to the bar for a beer?”

Maybe I’m just picky

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 2:27 PM | Link to this

HistorianABC You wouldn’t happen to where ascots and smoke wooden pipes would you? lol You’re always enlightening us with your knowledge.

WTF I couldn’t believe that either. I wonder if Cassie has a fear of a man ‘expecting’ some goodies if he pays…

Sean J/QDT I’ve never been one to seek out the ballers, entertainers, rappers or hoodboyz…simply not interested.

By Demi

May 23, 2007 2:33 PM | Link to this

Linguist you must not hang around a lot of ladies in their early or late twenties. You’ve just spoken as a thirty-something. Just speaking from experiences, after age 31/32, most women tend to judge you by your character and overlook a lot of your “there’s nothing you can do about it flaws”.

By TRAVIS SMITH

May 23, 2007 2:34 PM | Link to this

IM NOT BITTER….THE TRUTH IS THE TRUTH, NO SUGAR COAT HERE!!!!! THE PROBLEM WITH MEN AND WOMEN IS WE DONT TAKE TIME TO DATE AND GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER!!!! WE TALK ON THE PHONE ONE WEEK, GO ON A DATE, SLEEP WITH EACH OTHER, AND THEN WHAT? NOTHING!!!! I DONT KNOW YOUR LAST NAME OR YOUR BITHDAY!!!! ONCE WE SLEEP TOGETHER WHAT DO WE HAVE TO OFFER EACH OTHER?

By Linguist

May 23, 2007 2:34 PM | Link to this

You know.. part of the problem MLB is that many of you are part of the problem! It appears that those of you who are single are on the up and up.. but many of you have friends that aren’t.. Can’t you tell “your boys” that wear rings, they shouldn’t try to talk to other women? .. that they should respect their marriage vows? or do you ascribe to “that ain’t my business theory?” Maybe if you suggest to your friends that chase after anything in a skirt - they shouldn’t do that.. maybe, just maybe a few would listen. I’m sure many of you MLB are role models to your friends. At least it “sounds” like you are… Sometimes friends just have to be honest with one another and have those “crucial conversations” that are often times difficult to have.

Case in point: I had a girlfriend once, that cheated on her husband, and I told her what I thought about it - told her that I was ashamed of her.. Yep, sure did, ‘cause that’s how I feel about cheating (especially when there are children involved). I told her I wasn’t going to cover her, I was not going to “support” her, etc.. It was a difficult situation, very tense.. we are not friends to this day. Hubby found out, took the kids, and homeboy she was messing with got another woman pregnant …. Although I love animals, I don’t lie down with dogs, because I don’t want to wake up with fleas..you know the old saying… birds of a feather, flock together..

By Cassie

May 23, 2007 2:37 PM | Link to this

Slim Don’t know about that….I’m a bit of a feminist and so think I’d pay my own way if someone actually offered. The thing is…no one has offered!

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 2:37 PM | Link to this

Did you all read about the 60 year old that just had twins? WOW!

By GA.man

May 23, 2007 2:37 PM | Link to this

Hellllloooo Wow had to catch up…..dating is like this(My .02) worth

If a man treats a woman like he would want someone to treat his mom and sister(s)…respect,honest,and keep open the lines of communication…most of the problems would be small…now you do have some(I SAID SOME) who will try to play a brutha bad…that is what your little voice in your head is for….

But for the most part just tell the Truth and she will respect you more for it…..

By kinderbabe

May 23, 2007 2:40 PM | Link to this

ling Some men need to take rejection - like a man - and move on. Don’t cast all women in to the “she’s just a gold digger” abyss just b/c she wasn’t interested in you amen on that! that same phrase applies to men and women. it’s not fair to stereotype someone just b/c they didn’t want you. everybody has their preferences, for whatever reasons. i too have single girlfriends and we never discuss a long flowing list of material credentials when wanting a guy. i guess the “birds of a feather” theory applies here. i’m not like that so i don’t have any friends who are.

By Linguist

May 23, 2007 2:41 PM | Link to this

Demi I thought we were cool?!?!.. Did you just “out my age”??????????? I’ll forgive you this time, but don’t let it happen again.. I’ll have to add you to the Truth, Justin and Biff blog list I’ve been keeping!

By Wise Diva

May 23, 2007 2:42 PM | Link to this

uh Travis? alright sugar, take a deep breath, and back up off the ALL CAPS, LOL. We get it. All Women are nuts in your book, LOL

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 2:42 PM | Link to this

Travis So being that you’re so knowledgeable about men and women, do you make a concious effor to get to date and know someone before jumping their bones?

By Demi

May 23, 2007 2:44 PM | Link to this

upon seeing slim’s camel toe, old man Demi wakes up and then goes stiff as a board…slim is now being charge with manslaughter and cruelty to old people.

By dove

May 23, 2007 2:47 PM | Link to this

It’s been a minute, but I see things are still the same on the blog…

IMHO… there are a lot people that want the dream without acutally doing some of the work. Set the right expectations and do your part.

Ask yourself what type of life you expect to have if you marry a woman who also has a job.

If girlfriend gets up at 5am, cooks breakfast, feeds the kids, gets them ready, takes them to school/daycare, works 8 hours, sits in traffic, goes to pick up the kids, pick up the dry cleaning, cooks dinner & cleans the kitchen, helps with homework, gives baths, irons clothes for next day and then has to take a shower herself, you can expect that active imagination to be kicking in as you listen to her snore… ‘cause she is TIRED.

If you want to say your provider, know that it means you should be able to provide in more ways than one everyone harps on the most.

Afterall, if you don’t think it’s your duty to help clean the house you both share or pick up the kids you made together, you will be spending a lot of late night active imagination time with yourself.

By Kirk

May 23, 2007 2:47 PM | Link to this

I don’t think Travis’ argument applies to every situation

I’d like to move the discussion back to the point of basic common courtesy

I think that until we can be honest why we (in general, not me, specifically) cannot be direct and upfront about everything—-and understand that asking for women’s number when you are living with someone is just as wrong as woman stringing a guy along for a boat-load of reasons if she is just not into him.

Until we deal with that, it makes no sense to me to keep the emphasis on material things

By BeBe KID

May 23, 2007 2:47 PM | Link to this

By The Truth

May 23, 2007 1:18 PM | Link to this

Dam, pessimism soup is getting thick in here. I don’t think its that bad out there because I know if I wanted to I could go meet a woman and live happily ever after, or something like that. I really don’t see what some of you see but I have on dark shades too. Then again I always look at life with rose colored glasses.

Truth,

You are right let’s not diminish the positive but let’s be realistic about the negative. There are good women and good men in the ATL. The challenge is to get THEM to connect. More often than enough good people make very poor dating selections. Therein the problem often rest in a flawed selection process.

By GA.man

May 23, 2007 2:49 PM | Link to this

Attention MLB

The A/C is now working in our building and i just signed the papers for our new Dodge Durango….yeah….its got air and it is cold as a (Shut yo mouth)…lolol

By The Truth

May 23, 2007 2:50 PM | Link to this

Ling baby. How are you hun? And hell no your not leaving the atl.Lmao I’ve been the good guy today. Read my earlier posts. I don’t see some of this stuff. I will admit that because I didn’t want to get married or have children I looked for the worst in a woman but hell there are a ton of good sista’s out that would love to hook up with THE TRUTH. I know some good chicks. I guess I feel I have alot to offer and feel a woman would appreciate me. In the last 2 days I’ve talked with 3 chicks that are pulling in 75k+, have their chit together, and would be good wifies, if thats what you want.

Travis that is some funny stuff.

I need a bigger spoon to stir this soup, its getting thick.

QDT once again your words ringeth with the trutheth. These cats are running up the price of a** because they have no convo and nothing else to offer.

SJ come in and lay some of that SJ wisdom on this group to calm em down. LOL

By Jake.

May 23, 2007 2:50 PM | Link to this

Sexione I saw you were in distress. Here sweetie…kisses and a neck rub, and here is one special rose for you.

QDT Cosign that one all the way, the price has gone up, but the quality is way down…lol

By Linguist

May 23, 2007 2:50 PM | Link to this

Kinder Girl.. Don’t get me started! I’ll be writing 10 paragraph posts if I keep reading some of this stuff!hahahahaha!

By TRAVIS SMITH

May 23, 2007 2:57 PM | Link to this

SLIM ONE……all women are not nuts and now that i have got older, i dont jump in too the bed with anyone, im 25 own car, condo, decent job, decent credit, all that casual sex is old to me ive decided to have sex with my future wife!!! IF I CAN EVER FIND ONE IN ATLANTA!!!!!!

By Deeva4Life

May 23, 2007 2:59 PM | Link to this

@TRAVIS SMITH…I may not be voted most popular for this statement, but I agree with you. There are women like that…not all but some. I think the problem with dating here in Atlanta is that everybody’s fake, looking for the next “best thing” and/or too materialistic. Women here tend to want a brotha that lives here, or drives that, or makes this…all the while knowing that they don’t have those things to bring to the table and it’s cool if you’re still a work in progress, but don’t leave your house assuming that just because those are “things” you’d like your mate to possess that you wouldn’t consider dating someone who’s good to you or treats you nice. Men here…where do I start? They all **CLAIM to want a “good woman”…but I know several single females who aren’t gold diggers, who are independent but know how to appreciate a man being a man, who understands the necessity of “personal time and space, who can cook, keep clean houses, cute faces, nice shapes, etc. but still struggle meeting decent men. And when I say decent I don’t mean, educated working homeowners…that’s not really hard to find here in Atlanta. I mean men that know how to be a gentleman. The say what they mean and mean what they say (honest),they do what they say they’ll do (consistent), and they are overall respectful (not into game playing on any level). That’s very hard to find these days in any age range.

By kinderbabe

May 23, 2007 2:59 PM | Link to this

ling lol some things you can’t help but comment on, so i understand the long posts.:) just keep an eye out for a possible ticket from musing. lol

By Lady J

May 23, 2007 3:00 PM | Link to this

Jake Where are you I have a funny end of the year thing that happen that I want to share but not on the blog…hit me at bubbles0879@gmail.com and I will share if you want good laugh…J

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 3:01 PM | Link to this

Slim whispers in OldMan Demi’s ear. Going stiff as a board at your age is a good thing pop. You better drop them charges before it’s too late

GAman I’m glad you all have a new vehicle. You might want to go swing by and pick Truth up. I’m not sure if he was ever able to get a ride. We kicked him at the ATM off Marietta street.

By BeBe KID

May 23, 2007 3:01 PM | Link to this

Divas and Playas legends in their own mind who expect to be treated like celebrities or royalty…. Selfish EGOMANIACS

Wannabe Divas and Playas, legends in their own mind who expect to be treated like celebrities or royalty giving very little but taking very much…… Selfish EGOMANIACS

By Demi

May 23, 2007 3:03 PM | Link to this

Linguist I simply choose not to associate myself around those cats anymore. Dudes I know now are in very healthy relationships and I am currently learning how to become a better man from them.

Sound foolish I know, but I wanted to learn how to become a better father…then I am now.

My little bro and cousin, are currently going through their “wild stage” now. If I feel their life is moving a little too fast, I told them I’ll be there to slow them down…with my .9 and a .45.

I don’t them walking my path to the fullest…that path only leads to death

By Linguist

May 23, 2007 3:05 PM | Link to this

BeBeKid… There are good women and good men in the ATL. The challenge is to get THEM to connect.. You get the prize my friend.. you get the prize! Said in my Sally Field voice duing her Oscar acceptance speech… “You get it, you really get it!” It’s about getting liked minded people together, and to stop people from consistently making poor dating choices.

I’d go a step further and say that one of the challenges that I have in introducing single people to each other is that - more often than not - the married men that I know - who have singe male friends - claim they don’t want to be “responsible” for hooking up their friend (that is a dog in their opinion) with one of my “nice” friends! WTH??? It’s like I have to get them to sign a waiver or something.. good grief! Even my own husband, doesn’t like “hooking” people up, b/c “such and such is a dog.. he’s always at the club”… blah, blah, blah.. While some of that may be true, suppose his single (dog) friends, ends up being tamed once he meets one of my single friends? Everyone has a past (even your’s truly - although that’s for another post).. It only takes that one person, to help right our past wrongs….Just one.

By GA.man

May 23, 2007 3:06 PM | Link to this

aaaaahhhhhaaaah gotcha LING you think cause my boy aint here you aint getting no ticket

Wrong ….ripppppppppp…here you are ma’am…have a nice day

By CuriosWatcher

May 23, 2007 3:10 PM | Link to this

I was at Whole Foods on Ponce yesterday and a young lady was ordering food obviously for a party. The mail employee asked her where her party was and could he “holla” at her then asked for her phone number. This is not the first time I have seen something similar to this, now as a white mail I found this behavious jaw dropping. The young ladies smiled uncomfortably and walked away, he atually came out from behind the counter and asked them to “hold up”, the girls again walked away quickly..Just looking for opinions, because I have seen this happen other places…Is this appropriate behavior? What do you think about it?

By Wise Diva

May 23, 2007 3:11 PM | Link to this

hey wait, don’t go dissing divas, LOL. I am a sweet diva, and I am only slightly egomaniacal.

By Island Girl

May 23, 2007 3:12 PM | Link to this

Ling is back. Best of luck to you on the job and preparation.

I agree with what you’ve said, although Demi also makes a good point regarding age group differences. With the over emphasis of bling bling and all that jive on music videos, the young folks are so confused and disillusioned. Music and music video are not realistic and it is said that a lot of young women and men use what they see/her on television for pointers in dating.

Que/SJ, where do you guys hang out. I can’t help but wonder about where you go to meet women (night clubs)? If you feel slighted about always having to buy a drink before a woman can talk to you, then consider not trying to meet anyone in a night club.

There are plenty of great women/men out there waiting to meet the right person. Just my two cents.

By Lady J

May 23, 2007 3:13 PM | Link to this

Good evening folks…16 more work hours…Peace

By QC

May 23, 2007 3:19 PM | Link to this

Hey Page, Kinderb

have a nice evening bloggers

By QC

May 23, 2007 3:20 PM | Link to this

Hey Page, Kinderb

have a nice evening bloggers

By The Truth

May 23, 2007 3:24 PM | Link to this

Slim I’m still here on Marietta waiting for you hun. I’m sure she’ll be here in a few minutes. The Truth whistles while he waits.

Come on fellas, lets keep it real. I think its more good chicks out there than buster a* dudes like the ones QDT pointed out. The question is can we do something with them if we get them? Its an expensive game and not for the weak at heart. Kids, homes, cars, families, weddings, divorces. Pick one thing on the list thats free. Your right, there aren’t any.

Where can we meet a nice chick? Try Barnes and Nobles, High Museum, the park, the grocery store, your neighbors house. There everywhere.

Still waiting for Slim to pick me up. She’s probably putting gas in the vert. Still whistling.

By Tiff

May 23, 2007 3:25 PM | Link to this

Hey All.

The only thing I have to add to this topic is: Have any of the guys/gals ever thought that maybe..just maybe that person you are trying to connect with is not attracted to you? I’m referring to those that appear to believe the rejection they have experienced has to do with what material possessions they have or don’t have. I know plenty of good guys with all of the material possessions and gentlemenlike traits that women want but there is no sexual attraction..therefore “Let me introduce you to the FZ.”

Don’t get me wrong..sometimes you can spend time with a person and over time find something attractive about them (eyes, legs, etc.) and the relationship can evolve. Other times..its just not gonna happen no matter how “good” the person may be. I, for one, don’t want sex to feel like a chore no matter how many years we may have been together, so there has to be some sexual attraction there. JMO

By DuShawn

May 23, 2007 3:32 PM | Link to this

Curios Nothing ventured nothing gained. The young man you described could stand to refine his approach, but at least he had the courage to say something. I’m sure there were other men present brain wrestling with themselves on the most tactful way to approach her. The guy you observed just went for it. Granted, his introduction lacked class, maturity and was ultimately unsuccessful, but you never know. If that young lady was of a similar mindset, she may not have taken offense, responded postively and invited the young brotha to the party.

By Sexione

May 23, 2007 3:34 PM | Link to this

Jake Thanks sweetie, you know I needed it!

I’m out, everyone have a good evening!!! tomorrow is Friday for me..

By Charlie

May 23, 2007 3:37 PM | Link to this

Dating in ATL has its ups and downs. The fine women you would like to date are always looking for the BBD (bigger, better deal). They use what they got, to get what they can. How much do you have? It’s never enough.

The fine women who are successful for themselves, want you to be on par with them, or you are not good enough.

If you are dating someone and they ask you how they look in something, why can’t you give them the honest answer?

Honey, do these pants make my butt look big? No baby, your fat a* makes your butt look big!

BTW, girlfriend…If I wanted to date a plus size woman (nothing against them, fat women need love too), then I would have asked one out last year before I met you. Yes, the woman I’m dating gained A LOT of weight! Even though I have deep feelings for her, I don’t see a long term prospect because she doesn’t take care of herself like she should. I’m sorry, but I’m not attracted to fat. (Yes I keep fit and have all my hair).

If only she could control the amount of food she puts in her mouth…..

And finally, if a man doesn’t have money (I mean a lot of it), than some women won’t even consider going out with him. Even tho I have money (some) I don’t want to date that kind of person anyway. And NO, that is not the same kind of thing as the fat thing.

Let’s see, one more thing…hair, nails, makeup, heels, clothes. My friend who is wealthy and good looking recently dated a woman for a while who on the surface appeared to be everything he wanted.

But he said when he “unwrapped” the package, it was nothing like what it was advertised to be. This not only included the exterior package, but the interior (heart, mind, body, soul) package. No harm, no foul in trying to look good and spruce yourself up…just remember, that at some point the wrapper will come off and you will be found out. If that sort of thing is important to him, don’t expect a man to stick around once he finds out the truth.

If you want to be the real deal, get in the gym, watch your diet, expand your mental horizons and most of all, level set a man’s expectations about what he will find when he pulls the ribbon on your package.

By SeanJohnson

May 23, 2007 3:37 PM | Link to this

@ Irie Girl…i dont do clubs..maybe once or twice a year..and i am not the “buy” you a drink so i can borrow 5 mintues of your times…in fact…when i was a club going…i had a plan..i wouldnt try to talk to females until the bar was closed…lol..But to answer your question…i am not slighted…just let u know from a males perspective that a lot of females under 28 not all but some..are not on a reality dating level that i would prefer..and its partly the men’s fault…leading with their pockects instead of their personality. I dont have money ..i have mouth piece..so i do okay with the ladies..

By MusingLee

May 23, 2007 3:39 PM | Link to this

Even’nin All,

I am so out of the loop today…I’ve been slammed with work…LOLOLOLOLOL

By Laney

May 23, 2007 3:41 PM | Link to this

how appropriate…I just picked up a book off the table at work called “How To Behave With Dating and Sex: A Guide to Modern Manners for the Socially Challenged.” I’ll have to find some tips to share with y’all!

By Island Girl

May 23, 2007 3:42 PM | Link to this

Truth, thanks for that post. That is so true Some folks need a change in scenery.

By Laney

May 23, 2007 3:43 PM | Link to this

wait, that came out wrong - not that y’all are “socially challenged” — just that it was appropriate I found a book on dating etiquette given today’s topic - LOL.

By Yada Yada

May 23, 2007 3:50 PM | Link to this

Dating sucks the older you get.

By Kirk

May 23, 2007 3:50 PM | Link to this

I’m not in the diva dissing business.

CuriosWatcher: I know that when I was retail, when I waited on hot girls, it was over the line to ask for their number. If off the clock, that’s a whole other ball game.

By BeBe KID

May 23, 2007 3:54 PM | Link to this

By Wise Diva

May 23, 2007 3:11 PM | Link to this

hey wait, don’t go dissing divas, LOL. I am a sweet diva, and I am only slightly egomaniacal.

Only dissing the WANNABE DIVAS! There is quite a difference between being a DIVA and a legend in your own mind! WANNABE DIVAS are self-proclaimed.

By For Real

May 23, 2007 3:58 PM | Link to this

What up Blog Fam!!!!

I agree with SJ post from this morning and I am too lazy to read all of the other post up to now.

By Island Girl

May 23, 2007 4:06 PM | Link to this

SJ, ok….I got you

Charlie, Wow, you said a lot and most of it seems it sounds like frustration. Since you’ve already decided that your SO will not be around for the long term (due to her weight issues), why are you still with her? Why don’t you let her go so someone else can appreciate her for the person she is

By NCGirlfromATL

May 23, 2007 4:08 PM | Link to this

Daaaaaaaaang QDT!! I’ve never experienced the pay master, but I hear what you’re saying. So, how do you normally meet women? Please don’t tell me you take off your shirt, put on the gold boots, and crank up Atomic Dog in the Civic! LOLOLOL!!! Stop walking around in a circle! Ain’t nobody gonna mess w/ you today, mayne!

By MusingLee

May 23, 2007 4:11 PM | Link to this

For Ladies that don’t like short men, think twice before opening your big mouths….Here

demi You will like this story.

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 4:13 PM | Link to this

Truth You might want to hit Gaman up on the hip to come scoop you up. He’s probabl out flexing in the new MLB Durango.

Charlie You mentioned that wealthy women tend to want a man that’s at least on par with them. I don’t anything wrong with that, because just like men don’t want some chick that wants to bum off his funds, a women doesn’t want an adopted son as a boyfriend either. I’ve found it crazy how many men sit back and are cool with the women taking care of everything. ModernDayMoochers

So like everything in life, we just need balance. Even if i’m not making 6 figures, I don’t require a potential mate to have that. I do require him to have a job and have some outlook on where he wants his life to go.

I don’t drive a big time car, and I don’t require the dude to bust big wheels-n-big rims….personally not into all of that…but reliable transportation is a must. ATL is too spread out to be walking somewhere.

By SeanJohnson

May 23, 2007 4:18 PM | Link to this

@Charles …dude..be careful..u are walking in dangerous territory…If your lady has put on some extra lbs..since u stay fit..invite her to work out with you or go walking with her…if yall live together start replacing the fattening snacks with sugar free stuff and fruit…females are sensitive about weight gain so word things carefully…

By Demi

May 23, 2007 4:22 PM | Link to this

Linguist since I’ve slowed my roll, I mostly date women between the ages of 31 (thanks to KB) to 42. Their mind set is totally different from ladies in their 20’s.

By Linguist

May 23, 2007 4:23 PM | Link to this

Truth ..I see that you’ve been on good behavior today (making mental note to self to review blogs from the last week or so, before commencing with praise to Truth for good behavior)… I’m not going to get started… but… since we are on the topic of etiquette .. if a woman you meet tells you - a person she does not know, or is friends with - within hours, or days what her salary is… keep moving .. No, don’t ask for details… some things are best kept within the WLB.. Take that as a freebie..k? And regarding moving from ATL…. I have to make a decision on either Cali or ATL… what a postion to be in!

GA.man I thought you weren’t paying attention! Just give me a weeks worth of citations and we’ll call it even okay? (winks)

By For Real

May 23, 2007 4:29 PM | Link to this

Charles to add to SJ’s suggestions:

By C from Marietta

May 23, 2007 4:32 PM | Link to this

I think the dating scene is fine. I don’t play games, because it shows me a lady is insecure (if she plays them with me). I show who I am and if they don’t like it, that’s their problem. I have dated many different types of women (hippie chicks, high maintenance, fat, skinny, etc..). If your having problems with your dates: a) your standards might be too high OR b) you may need to date outside your comfort zone. ie. OR c) relax. your not going to click with every women you meet.

Finally, since Atlanta is so diverse. You should be able to find someone you can click with. That means if it does’nt work out or she is a B. Then, move on and don’t sweat it. You can’t control others.

By Wise Diva

May 23, 2007 4:36 PM | Link to this

I heard that intense sessions of lovemaking burns calories

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 4:38 PM | Link to this

For Real oohhh boy you are bad Just be kind with the words you use. Learn to speak french because fat azz in french sounds better

By NCGirlfromATL

May 23, 2007 4:41 PM | Link to this

Just be kind with the words you use. Learn to speak french because fat azz in french sounds better

Somebody fire up the rocket (aka Civic) and soak those gasoline drawers for For Real…he seems to be ready for a vacation in a very hot spot! LMAO!!!!

By The Truth

May 23, 2007 4:42 PM | Link to this

Ling these are women I’ve known for a few years and done business with. If your trying to get something started.. keep it moving. LOL Their still good chicks though.

Has anyone seen Slim driving around? Still whistling.

By SeanJohnson

May 23, 2007 4:43 PM | Link to this

@ WD..I gonna advise that..but it sounds like he may not want to go that route..

By Robin

May 23, 2007 4:43 PM | Link to this

The main problem that I have had here personally is that alot of the men around here expect you to be a size 0 before they even give you the time of day. I am overweight but it is not because I sit at home eating Krispy Kreme all day. I don’t eat fast food, I work out 3x a week. I do yoga, pilates. But obesity runs strong in my family and it takes an act of god before I can lose 5lbs.

Yet I am an intelligent person who has great morals, no children and a positive outlook on life. For the record I have been told that I am pretty so I know I have that going for me. But the minute a man sees my size, he instantly dismisses me for a skinny gold digger type. Then he wants to complain because her IQ is the same as her bra size and he claims he wants someone of “substance”. Just as long as this person of “substance” is a Heidi Klum or Halle Berry twin. If people would just be open minded, dating here wouldn’t suck so bad. This is one of the reasons why I’m actually moving next year. I’ve been here 10 years and it’s only getting worse.

By Demi

May 23, 2007 4:44 PM | Link to this

SJ Calling a woman “gros âne”…will get you killed, LOL

Musin Allez à l’enfer ! ! ! Mayne, you know dude has set us back 50-thousand years, LOL

By SeanJohnson

May 23, 2007 4:51 PM | Link to this

@ Demi…lol…i will let my mustache grow long and let it curl on the ends…then say it.

By Linguist

May 23, 2007 4:54 PM | Link to this

Night all ..Be safe (and good!)

By Jake.

May 23, 2007 4:54 PM | Link to this

Gone ya’ll, be easy.

By Wise Diva

May 23, 2007 4:54 PM | Link to this

Robin, I think men who prefer slim women are everywhere,so prepare yourself for that. I know men who are attracted to all types of women, and it’s fine to have preferences, because we all have them. Honestly, there will always be someone that doesn’t want your type, tall, thin, curvy, obese, you name it. The key is finding someone who sees the beauty in you, inside and out. You don’t have to appeal to massive amounts of men, just one special man that appeals to you.

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 4:55 PM | Link to this

GAMAN why haven’t you picked your boy up yet?

Truth You just might have to rely on the ole frito chip smelling, two tone cuz of the bra, broke sun roof having honda civic again. If that doesn’t work for you, I believe For Real has a dirt bike you can use.

By Island Girl

May 23, 2007 4:55 PM | Link to this

Robin, Keep your head up and walk with confidence. Don’t let anybody define your beauty. You will meet the right person some day. These days it does not matter what size you are…we all have our issues with dating.

By SlimOne

May 23, 2007 4:59 PM | Link to this

Bout to go get my Habachi Grill On….Till Next time.

Slim zooms past Truth honking the horn as she turns the corner

By Demi

May 23, 2007 5:02 PM | Link to this

Notte tutta!!

By Kirk

May 23, 2007 5:10 PM | Link to this

Its easy to assume that mutual respect is followed whenvever there is a connection but, here, in Atlanta, that is usually not the case