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April 2007
How many degrees of separation?
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
Good morning, blog!
I just finished a piece of chick lit called “The Blonde Theory,” a novel about a successful young woman who conducts an experiment in social interaction. She thinks she intimidates men with her six-figure salary and high-class lifestyle, so she creates an alternate identity for awhile. She becomes a ditzy bartender who wears short skirts instead of Armani suits and Barbie-style makeup instead of her usual professional appearance. In the end, she realizes that although she attracts a greater number and more attractive men by acting dumb, the quality men she desires to date appreciate her for the smartie she really is.
The end. An ending so obvious and saccharine it could only come out of a fictional novel. Right?
Wrong. One of the newer women in my social circle and I were chatting Saturday evening at a barbecue, and I casually asked her what she had done that afternoon. She grimaced and glanced at her close friend as if to say, “Should I tell her?” I quickly explained that I didn’t mean to trample on any private territory; I was just making conversation. She decided to confide in me anyway.
“I’ve been working on my PhD,” she said.
Huh? What? Why the secrecy?
She explained that she started her doctorate last year but doesn’t tell people because she thinks it intimidates the men she meets. This woman is attractive, smart, and currently works as a guidance counselor at a high school.
But this confession blew my mind. Are there other women who are concerned that men will be intimidated by their careers or their salary? Does the fictional tale I just read have more root in real life than I realize? Although my male friends assure me no, that quality men aren’t scared by a smart woman, I wonder why there are clearly some women who think this is the case.
Women, have you ever acted less intelligent (or know someone who does so) than you actually are in order to get a date? If so, do these dates ever evolve into healthy relationships?
Men, does the number or type of educational degrees a woman has concern you? Are you intimidated if she’s a doctor or a lawyer? Or does it work the other way? Do you look for women who have at least the amount of education that you do?
On the flip side, men, have you ever met a woman who was intimidated by your education?
Just for fun: Men and women, have you ever been on a date with someone who was so ditzy they couldn’t have been for real?
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Snoop, there it is
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When we talked about ways to determine a person’s true single status, some of you came up with a couple of good tips. I wondered about doing a little background checking as a means to finding out someone’s real marital status. Do you consider that snooping?
Recently, my sister told me how she provided a little snooping assistance to someone she knows. It seems that “Elle” had been seeing a military man for a couple of months during his deployment. Things were progressing in the relationship fairly well. Before long, she began making plans to move to his state, once his tour ended.
Well, apparently she started getting a little suspicious about things. She recruited my sister, (who shall be nicknamed Ms. Private Investigator) to do a little digging. With Ms. PI on the job, armed with Mr. Military’s first and last name and state of residence, it was quickly discovered that he was not divorced. He was still married. One quick call was all it took. There is a lot of public information easily accessible to people!
After hearing this news, Elle is considering how to proceed from here. I think I already know what I would do, but it’s easier to say when you aren’t in the situation yourself. She, of course is disappointed, but confronting him is not something she is looking forward to. What do you suggest her next move should be?
What do you think about performing background checks on your dates?
Do you think background checks are becoming a staple on the dating scene? How much information can really be found?
If you conduct background checks frequently, is this a sign that you really shouldn’t be dating?
Why aren’t we able to trust our instincts? Do you find it hard to meet trustworthy people?
Have you ever conducted a little snooping mission on a potential date? What did you find out? Do you regret snooping on them?
Disclaimer I have nothing against dating people in the military, I am sure there are many single people dating our single, deployed troops and they are very honest and forthcoming!
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Love is a mix tape
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A friend of mine bought me a great book (that I have yet to read, sorry M!) that has the greatest title: Love Is a Mix Tape: Life and Loss, One Song at a Time.
As soon as I read that title, I immediately reflected on the many experiences I have gone through in life. The loves, the losses, the highs and lows. IF I wanted to chronicle them all with music, what an ecletic soundtrack it would be!
If you can think of past experiences, what songs or music helped you handle all the crazy emotions?
I know a lot of us are using ipods and mp3s, but if you wanted to make a mixtape for that special someone, what would you put on it? What kind of sweet messages would you want to send?
Is there a certain song that brings you right back to a specific place and time with someone special?
Isn’t it fun to get all nostalgic about these moments? After you have learned the love lessons, and loved hard, do you ever feel as if you could actually write a love song?
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Say Something Nice Challenge
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One of my favorite gossip blogs occasionally will have the Say Something Nice Challenge to encourage the readers to be kind and gentle. It’s a nice idea for us, especially since I wouldn’t want the Misadventures in Atlanta blog to be charged with contributing to the delinquency of single people on the dating scene!
Today let’s hear about new relationships that show great potential, strong marriages that are defying those odds, cute crushes that you don’t know what to do about.
Let’s talk about what you appreciate about dating, relationships, and romance.
Share a story of when you first laid eyes on your current mate. What did you say, feel, think?
Give us details of how happy the new guy or girl has made you already thus far. How do they brighten your life?
I want to know what you actually enjoy about dating and romancing someone.
What is the best part of dating? How can we improve our dating adventures?
So let’s get started with the Say Something Nice about dating and romance challenge! Go!
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Use me or lose me
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So I asked my Guy Decoder for a little advice on how to handle a little dating situation. I had been spending time with a new guy, sort of exploring the possibilities, so to speak. It turns out that we are definitely not romantically compatible, but I really would love to have him in my life - as a friend.
I know most men DESPISE the friend zone because it basically eliminates any possibility of bedroom action. The thing is, we really have the best time talking, laughing, and hanging out. We certainly could continue to spend time together, but I want to let him know that romance is not in our future.
Well, GD basically laughed at my silly notion. He asked why would I bruise this guy’s ego, then turn right around and make him my BFF or WORSE my girlfriend. He called this typical female behavior. I took it as a compliment :)
I don’t think this guy is hopelessly in love with me or anything, so I still figure I could pull this off. I just wondered if it’s all or none, use me romantically or lose me as a friend.
What do you guys think? Would it help if I fixed him up with a great girl?
Aren’t there situations where men are able to remain friends with a woman after being rejected romantically?
Ladies, have you ever been in this situation? How did you handle it?
Is it really mission impossible to parlay a great friendship with someone you once dated, but dumped?
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You can’t be serious
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I had a conversation with a great guy this weekend. He is officially my guy decoder (GD). He has been dating successfully (his words) for at least 10 years. He told me that he advises his sisters about men all the time and he never sugarcoats things. I asked him to give me a few tips about dating men, as if I were his very own sister. What he shared was quite enlightening. I will try to cover some of what he said in more depth this week.
The first thing he brought up was the best type of guy I should take seriously. Generally, men reach a point when they are ready to settle down and find a wife. This is when the type of woman he will seriously date changes.
Guy Decoder said that all men show signs of whether they should be taken seriously or not. Women almost always overlook these signs.
Party Guy: If he is hanging out in bars and clubs to meet women, he probably is in his partying phase. This means that he is focusing on quantity instead of quality.
Mystery Man: He is ambiguous and vague with you. Honest and openness are signs that men are ready to have someone special in their lives. If he is Mr. Mystery about everything, he has a great deal that he is hiding from you, for good reason.
Mr. Right Now: This is the type of man that doesn’t have a clue about where he is going. He is sort of coasting along in life with no real plans to do anything. This could reflect on his maturity and responsibility.
Ladies, have you dated any of these 3 types of guys?
I told GD that all these signs can be found in women, and he agreed. Guys, do you have indicators that let you know when a woman should be taken seriously?
Can any of you share what signs you may have missed when you dated someone in the past? In retrospect, should you have known they were not ready to be serious with anyone?
How can you tell when someone you are dating is ready for something meaningful? If they can’t be taken seriously, do you wait on them or move on?
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Your brain is beautiful
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
The Washington Post recently ran this article about “intellidating” — in short, going on dates that rely on a lot more brainpower than the average outing for dinner and a movie. Think political discussions. Spelling competitions. Book readings. Lectures on history, philosophy or art.
On face, it sounds sort of hopelessly nerdy. Whose idea of a romantic night out is a spelling bee?? (Certainly not mine — I have childhood flashbacks to my inability to correctly spell “balloon” in competition.) But given how important finding a smart, thoughtful partner is to many people, myself definitely included, maybe it’s a great idea to test the waters early.
In the article, a 28-year-old man who has just returned from a date to a lecture about religion in America reflects: Criss said they argued during the 40-minute subway ride back to Lauber’s apartment in Upper Manhattan. “It’s not like we were just fighting. We were interacting, sharing thoughts, and that was far more satisfying than if we’d gone out to see the movie of the week.”
Sounds like a pretty good date to me.
What do you think of this type of date? Have you ever gone on dates (preferably in Atlanta) that would qualify as “intellidating”? Where did you go? What did you do? How did it go?
How important is intelligence as a factor for you in a partner? How do you determine how smart someone is?
What kind of dates best challenge your intelligence?
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Model relationships
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This weekend, one of my favorite people, who I affectionately refer to as Bama Babe in this space, is getting married. I won’t be able to make it to the wedding, so I’m going to use this space to talk about them — please indulge me.
I have known her since college, so I remember her last boyfriend, and I remember how happy she was when she met the guy who she is now engaged to. She has always been someone who has been “good at relationships” in my eyes — never the type of girl who is always fighting with her boyfriends, reporting drama, etc. And I have always loved her relationship with her fiance. They have a lot of similarities, but a lot of differences; they complement each other well. They clearly love each other, but they aren’t over the top about it. They just seem comfortable and at ease together, and are there for each other when needed.
So I wanted to take this opportunity to wish them the best, and ask you: What couples do you know who you are really rooting for or, even more so, would love to emulate in your romantic life?
Who is the ideal couple to you, either celebrity or in your real life? What characteristics make them so?
If you are in a successful relationship, have your friends ever told you they wish they could be just like you? If so, what advice did you give them, or what would you say to someone who wanted to model their relationship after your own?
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I have confidence the world can all be mine
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Yesterday, we talked a little bit about confidence in dating, in the context of presenting yourself for the scrutiny of the online dating world. I’d like to delve into that a little bit more broadly today.
There are some things I’m missing when it comes to dating, but confidence is not one of them. It hasn’t always been that way. I was definitely a late bloomer, and throughout high school and even into college, I didn’t believe in my ability to be beautiful and attract men. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve gotten more comfortable in my skin, and confidence in myself — physically, intellectually and sexually — has come with it. Now, I sometimes find myself setting my sights on a guy, and then going out and making it happen.
Sometimes, it’s not easy to convey that confidence accurately. It can be hard to show that you are sexually confident without seeming like a nympho, or that you are confident in your own appearance without seeming narcissistic. But if you can display your confidence in the right way, it can be one of the most attractive qualities.
Do you consider yourself confident when it comes to dating?
Do you look for confidence in a partner as an important characteristic? Does it make someone more attractive to you if they are confident?
Where does the fine line lie between confident, and cocky or arrogant? How do you show your confidence, or detect it in others?
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It’s all in the presentation
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When I first started this blog, I signed up for a lot of online dating sites. I wanted to make sure I was going on as many dates as possible so I had a lot of things to write about, and I felt like that was a great way to broaden my pool. I had some good dates — mostly, some not so great ones, but I learned a lot from all of them.
Lately, though, I haven’t had much interest in dating online. I keep getting these emails that are like “you have 127 new messages waiting for you!” and I just sort of sigh and move on. Part of it is that the novelty has worn off, but I think there’s more to it.
One of the things that’s most important to me is honesty in relationships. And I don’t like going on dating sites when I feel uncomfortable or unhappy about something in my personal life, because I feel like I’m representing myself unfairly — part of being on these dating sites is selling yourself as positively as possible, and if you are worried about your body or your emotions or your stress level, it can be tough. This winter and spring, I’ve been sick a lot (having my tonsils out on Friday), which has affected me both emotionally and physically, and it doesn’t make me feel like “selling myself” on a web site. I feel like if I meet a guy in person, at least he has a better idea what he’s getting when he asks me out!
My friend Veronica recently signed up for a dating site for the first time, and she has stressed about “looking hot” in her picture. The best thing I can tell her is to put up a nice picture where she looks like herself!
I think about a date that I went on, one of my first online dating experiences, where the guy looked NOTHING like the photo he had posted. I felt so tricked by that! And I would never want someone to feel deceived because I didn’t have the same personality or look exactly the same as the way I had implied online.
Have you ever tried dating online? Did you like it? Or did you struggle with the idea of how to present and sell yourself?
Do you think honesty is a problem with online dating? Have you ever been “tricked” by it, the way I felt that I was?
Is it more important to feel confident about yourself with online dating, or meeting people in person?
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The one who loves, or the one who loves more?
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When my dating life is slow, I can always rely on friends to bring the drama! I had lunch with my friend Shutterbug the other day, and she was telling me about a dilemma she’s facing with her boyfriend. They have been dating on and off for nearly a year. Their most significant problems have occurred for one simple reason: He wants to get serious more than she does. (I know — way to go, Boyfriend, prove that it’s not always the women being clingy!)
As Shutterbug tells it to me, he has pushed for her to move in with him, which she declined, and even mentioned marriage in a roundabout way, which she avoided. She says, “I love him, and I love being with him, but I don’t think I’m in love with him.” Whereas he indisputably is in love with her.
So my question for y’all revolves around something I said to her: Are relationships always unbalanced? Does someone always love more than the other person? Is it ever possible to find a relationship that is TRULY 50-50 (or at least darn close to it?)
Is it better to be the one who loves more or less in the relationship? What are the pros/cons of each position?
Can relationships change as they evolve — can you start as the one who loves more, and be the one who loves less with time, or vice versa?
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Have a little faith in me
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I was having a discussion with the young man I met at the airport in DC. We got into a little bit of an argument and it suddenly occurred to me how incompatible we were. It’s nobody’s fault, just one of those things where we didn’t see eye to eye. Our world views and life experiences are simply different. It happens, what can you do?
One thing that he said gave me reason to pause. When I expressed my concerns about why we weren’t a good match, he said, “I just want someone to grow with, someone to work with me, have a little faith in me”. I guess it struck a nerve because I have heard this from guys before.
Sometimes I miss the days when I would mingle and date with wild abandon, letting passion win over practical. Now that I am an old dating veteran, I am way more cautious in how I navigate dating. Maybe I should return to the fun, carefree approach to dating? It takes a lot less work!
So, now I am wondering. Am I constantly interested in the wrong type of guy or do I have a tendency to bail too fast on men?
Do you ever regret bailing on a potential relationship too soon?
When you are dating someone new, does it take a lot for you to believe in them?
How do you tell the difference between good old fashion caution and dating paranoia?
Ladies have their “intuition”, do men also sense things when it comes to believing the women they date?
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You and me against the world
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So if no one was to believe
That what we share was meant to be
Then it would be just you and me against the world
And if our friends and family
Can’t bear to see us both happy
Then it will be just you and me against the world
-Musiq Soulchild, You and Me
One of the perks of being single at my age (35 is staring right at me!), is that I can pretty much date whomever I want to date. Sure, friends and family have opinions about who is right for me, but I really don’t have to be mindful of their checklists of must-haves like I once was. It’s hard enough trying to keep my own mental checklist based in reality!
What happens when you meet someone fantastic, perfectly suited for you, but your family and friends, or perhaps children don’t like them? Does it matter to you that they support you?
If you date outside your race, religion, or culture do you find it adds additional strain on you and your date? How do you cope with it?
Have you ever dated someone that everyone disapproved of, yet you managed to stay together? How did you do it?
If you are in your 20s, do you feel any need to date someone that your family or friends, (or society), wants you to date?
For the 30s+, how has your dating perspective changed when it comes to selecting someone who is compatible to you?
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Over It
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Another friend of mine has a dilemma. Background: Elena and Rick dated in college. They were intense, serious, and madly in love, but unfortunately they broke up in a rather painful way. There was no real “closure” and some things were left unfinished. Fast forward to Easter Sunday, and they run into each other at church. She said he looked amazing and she felt a rush of old emotions flood back. Elena immediately knew she still felt something, but she was quickly let down when he told her he was engaged to be married.
So she kind of feigned happiness for him and wished him the best. Well, her mother called to tell her that he called asking for her contact information. Apparently, he wanted to get her address so he can send an invitation to the wedding. She thinks attending the wedding would be good for her, so she can get over him. Should she go to the wedding or is that a bad idea?
Would you attend the wedding of an ex-lover, husband or wife, boyfriend or girlfriend?
If you were getting married, would you invite someone you were intimately involved with to the wedding? If so, would you tell your future spouse that you have a past with them?
How would you react if the person you were marrying invited a former flame to the wedding?
Elena doesn’t know if her plan to see him blissfully happy will actually make her get over it any faster or not, but she is willing to try. Do you think getting over a past love can be easier if you see them with somebody else?
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Navigating the divide
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One of my readers recently wrote in with a dilemma: What happens when you and your significant other have a different attitude about how much sex you should be having?
She described a situation where her boyfriend of almost a year suggested that they take a break from sex — a sexual hiatus, if you will — in order to “make sure their relationship is about other things.” While she appreciates the intent of wanting to make sure they have a well-rounded relationship beyond just the physical, she says she is not sure how to feel, because she enjoys sex and wants it to be part of their interactions.
“The problem arises when he turns me down and I get edgy and pissy. He says that I pressure him sometimes, and that there has to be more to our relationship. I agree, but at the same time my feelings are that I’m not wanted or something is wrong with me. Apparently he doesn’t hold sex in as high regard as I do,” she wrote to me.
I can’t say I’ve ever been in exactly this situation, but I do remember a past boyfriend who started to avoid sex soon before we broke up. I’m not saying that’s necessarily the case in this situation — her boyfriend sounds like he is trying to solidify the relationship, not get out of it — but do you generally see a sexual hiatus as a bad sign for a relationship, or a good one?
If you want to have sex and your partner does not, do you take it personally? Have you ever ended a relationship over it? How can you bridge this gap (so to speak)?
Have you ever personally taken a break from sex with your significant other? Did it help or harm your relationship?
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Keeping the faith
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This week is the Passover holiday, and I’ve been lucky enough to be invited to a couple of seder dinners hosted by my Jewish friends. Coincidentally, at both of these dinners, the same question has been raised in conversation.
For a lot of young Jewish people, it is very important to date within the faith. Judaism is big on that, and many of my friends will absolutely under no circumstances date someone who isn’t Jewish, the reasoning being that they would never marry a non-Jew, so why bother to date one? But there are certainly some people who are fairly observant of the Jewish faith in some ways, but who choose to date outside the religion.
Judaism is just an example in this case. I think the question that was posted at both dinners applies to every religion, and I’d be interested to see how y’all would answer it: Would you rather date someone of your own religion, regardless of their specific beliefs, or would you prefer to date someone who generally shared your morals and outlooks but subscribed to a different faith?
My personal view on this tends toward the latter. I point toward an example from when I was younger — my first serious boyfriend and I shared a religion. I wasn’t very observant at all, and he was only moderately so. He got sent off to religious camp one summer, and when he came back, he was as orthodox and strict as you could be. Technically, we were still the same religion, but we didn’t have any shared beliefs or behaviors anymore. I would have had far more in common with a nonpracticing Buddhist or a not-very-faithful Catholic or even an agnostic, in that case, as far as values, priorities, and how I lived my everyday life.
I know we’ve talked about interfaith dating in here before, but what makes it important — or not important — to you? Which is more important: someone who says he or she identifies with the same religion as you, or specific values regardless of religious affiliation? What qualities, behaviors and practices of your religion are most important for your partner to exemplify?
Do you and your partner need to share the same level of “religiosity” — attend church the same amount, believe with the same intensity, etc — for a relationship to work?
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Words with a lot of weight
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They say a picture is worth a thousand words, but those words probably aren’t the ones used in relationships…which tend to be worth a lot more.
Boyfriend. Girlfriend. Relationship. Serious. As soon as one of those terms is uttered for the first time, it tends to change the landscape…not to mention those three dangerous little words, “I love you.”
When I was dating Starving Artist, he was talking to me on the phone several times a day, spending most nights at my house, bringing me flowers and treats every time he came over and picking me up at the airport when I went out of town. We were completely exclusive and acting like a couple in all contexts. Yet in conversation, the first time he identified himself as my “boyfriend,” you could see the hesitation as he tried to spit out the word.
In general, when do you feel comfortable putting labels on your situation? How do you define terms like “boyfriend”, “girlfriend” and “relationship”? Are those words important to you, and do you hesitate to use them if you don’t feel ready? How can you handle it when you are ready to call your significant other your boyfriend and he is not ready to be called that, for example?
When do you usually tell your partner “I love you”? What happens if he or she says it and you’re not ready to say it back? Have you ever said it and not meant it just because you think you need to?
Do you think that men tend to be more hesitant about labels than women?
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The great swap
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Knowing that I am always on the prowl for new dating opportunities (read: cute single guys), my friend Bobbi called me with great excitement this weekend to report that she had met not one, but TWO cute guys who she thought I would like to get to know! She asked me if I preferred to be set up with one rather than the other, but I couldn’t really tell from her description, so I just sort of chose one arbitrarily.
Fast-forward a few days, and I am out at a happy hour to which Bobbi has sent the new Hot Prospect along, with the intention of him meeting me there. He finds me, I am intrigued by his friendly personality and his beautiful eyes, and spend a good portion of the evening talking to him. I’m not sure sparks are flying, but the conversation is going well. But then…his friend shows up — the one who had been my other option for Bobbi’s setup services. And of course, I instantly decide I am WAY more interested in that one. Of course.
And then I find out that Prospect #2 is roommates with Howard, the crush I wrote about a while ago. Of course. Of course.
So what do y’all think? Is there anyway I can smoothly pursue Hot Prospect #2 instead of Hot Prospect #1, knowing that they are good friends and Prospect #1 has already been given my number and details with Bobbi explicitly saying she thought he and I should go out? Am I under any obligation to Prospect #1? Or is the whole thing just too complicated, and I ought to head the heck out of Dodge?
Regular readers of this column may remember that I’ve struggled with a similar dilemma before, in the form of Starving Artist’s white-hot best friend who I keep accidentally finding myself making out with. Is it different to go from an ex to his or her friend, compared with a current prospect?
Have you ever successfully gone from dating one friend to another? Was it ever awkward? How did it turn out?
Do you find that Atlanta is a “small world” sometimes when it comes to finding one dateable person and discovering he or she is friends with someone else in your dating past?
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Adding baggage to a relationship
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Hi guys! It’s nice to be back hanging out with y’all — although I’d rather still be lying on the beach in Mexico drinking margaritas with lunch. Thanks again to Bella for helping fill in while WD and I were both off globe-trotting!
My topic today is in fact inspired by my spring break travels. While I was flitting around the Riviera Maya, I saw a lot of vacationing tourist couples holding hands and walking down the beach and generally looking like one of those prescription drug ads that is probably for herpes medication or Viagra but tries to look romantic and full of fun and life…you know the ones.
Not me, though. In all my years of dating, no matter the length and seriousness of my relationships, I’ve never gone on vacation with a boyfriend before. Part of the reason, I think, is that I’ve had a couple of long-distance relationships; in those cases, our “vacations” were to visit each other, not to leave the place we mutually lived in search of sunnier weather or fun activities. But I can’t say I know exactly when it comes about in a relationship that you feel ready to go on vacation together.
Spending that much time with someone can definitely be a make-or-break moment. For some couples, it provides interesting “behind the scenes” glimpses at how their other half behaves in a different environment — are they up for new adventures, cuisines, languages and cultures? Do they trash a hotel room and leave dirty towels strewn over every chair? How do they handle being tired and jetlagged from a 6 a.m. flight?
Have you ever gone on vacation with a significant other? Where did you go? How was the experience? Did you feel like you learned new things about the other person from traveling with them?
When did you feel like you were ready to take a trip with your partner? Was it a big step in your relationship, or not such a big deal?
Have you ever broken up with someone because of their behavior on vacation, or been convinced that maybe they were The One because of how great a trip went?
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