Misadventures in Atlanta

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 8:30 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All

Women, have you ever acted less intelligent (or know someone who does so) than you actually are in order to get a date? Hellz NO!

Men and women, have you ever been on a date with someone who was so ditzy they couldn’t have been for real? Another Hellz NO.

I’m not going to dum myself down for the sake of getting a date or making an attempt to have a man feel superior to me. I’m going to be Just Me and if whoever it is can’t accept that then they can keep it moving. I have often heard women saying they feel men are intimidated by their multiple degrees or earning potential. My cousin that lives in Houston has said that before and she has 3 degrees. I don’t have 3 degrees so I really can’t speak on that.

By Sexione

April 30, 2007 8:33 AM | Link to this

Morning Everybody!! it’s Monday again already!!!

Welcome Bella!

What I don’t understand is why does it have to be one extreme or the other……wearing Armani, six figure salary, degrees on your forehead OR hoochy-fied, stripper dressing, barely got a GED, Barbi style makeup types. There is a middle ground…….educated/intelligent but not wearing it like a tattoo, down to earth, nicely dressed (not a label “garden tool”, lol), well rounded person (male or female). It’s the extremes that are ridiculous, and tend to be a turnoff.

By Randyt (aka "Been there, Done that, got a closet FULL of t-shirts)

April 30, 2007 8:41 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All

Hi Bella Good blog commentary, very well written.

I prefer women who have a similar educational background as I do. I like smart women, who are extremely fast thinkers, and challenge me. I won’t say this has always been the case, but the biggest turn off for me is a woman with an incredible ‘package’ and when you look into her eyes you don’t see any kind of ‘light’…just someone you think you can use and throw away, who is more interested in Cosmopolitan and partying, and I’m just not into that. If a lady’s not interesting to me outside of the bedroom, then she isn’t interesting to me inside either.

On the flip side, can I be intimidated by a highly educated, highly successful lady? Perhaps. It is not the education or the smarts, I can match most anybody in that arena. Intimidation is probably not the correct word for me. I find myself asking the following questions…1) does she have everything already, or is there anything I can add to her life? 2) has she been playing the corporate game so long that she can no longer just be ‘normal’? 3) can she be vulnerable and soft sometimes?

Not an education issue, it is a ‘Superwoman’ issue for me.

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 8:42 AM | Link to this

Heyyyy Sexione hope your weekend was good. What you said makes a lot of sense. First of all, no one should feel ashamed or try to hide their acheivements but at the same time they don’t necessarily have to wear it on their lapel like Girl Scouts. No one likes a show off.

NC if you’re out there, I was in NC this past weekend and I’m disappointed that i didn’t get a chance to hit up Biscuitville. :-(

By Randyt (aka "Been there, Done that, got a closet FULL of t-shirts)

April 30, 2007 8:49 AM | Link to this

sexione

I really liked your ‘middle ground’ post. That is 100% accurate. It IS the extremes on both ends that turn me off.

By Biff

April 30, 2007 9:03 AM | Link to this

Smart women are not a problem, its when chicks get jobs that are male type jobs like a lawyer, then they are conflicted because its their nature to have babies and be a mother and all of a sudden they are acting like men. Sad creatures.

Some women are nervous about my smarts, but if you get them focused on sex that goes away unless they are the frigid type.

By Sexione

April 30, 2007 9:06 AM | Link to this

Heeeyyyy SlimOne and Randyt! My weekend was good (just too darned short, lol). Hope yours was good too!!

You both make good points too. I believe it is possible to have these fine qualities, but not be a walking billboard to attest to what you have. And IMO, these are things that are discussed down the line…well beyond the “dating” stage. How much money one makes should not be “upfront” info…….more important is that you’re (gainfully) employed. This topic kinda reminds me of the way most extremely wealthy people act. Most folks who are rich (financially) don’t walk around like they are……..they’re dressed in regular clothes, not a whole lot of jewelry (esp. the 10 carat bling), may drive a nice car, but have a regular car too. Basically, you would never be able to look at them and tell they’re rich. That’s what I like…..got it, but don’t feel they have to flaunt it!!

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

April 30, 2007 9:06 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

HMMMM I agree Sexione…there is a middle ground. I guess you would called me a knowledge junkie..if I am dating a guy and he mentions something he is into and I find it interesting I will research it, get more information on it, and the next time we talk I will be able to have some intelligent convo about it. Guess that labels me a know it all..not my intent but life would be boring if you didnt take the time to learn something new every day.

Dumbing down for a guy..hmmm only did that once in my life and that was my son’s father and the menfolks in my family…I love football(that is a fact) and because I enjoyed football you would think being in love with a woman who liked football would be cool. But my son’s father found it unlady like..mind you I am not swilling beer, burping and scratching myself, just love the game. But traditional male pig behavior dictates that I wear the Scarlett O’Hara role and get the vapors at the sound of cracking helmets..Yeah Right!!!

By Suga&Spice

April 30, 2007 9:07 AM | Link to this

Biff- Did you just refer to women as ‘Sad creatures’?

Someone tell me I am misunderstanding that..

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

April 30, 2007 9:08 AM | Link to this

Good Monday Morning Everyone!!

I don’t think it’s the level of education that intimidates someone. It is how you use it…if you use your intellligence has a weapon to belittle someone then of course they will feel intimidated by you. Or just plain turned off by you.

I don’t see how an intelligent female would come to such a dumb decision as to sell her self short. Such misrepresentation is just plain stupid and childish and would NOT serve you one bit in your journey to find a love partner.

By Bold & Beautiful

April 30, 2007 9:10 AM | Link to this

Biff you should stop embarrassing men everywhere with your idiotic comments.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

April 30, 2007 9:11 AM | Link to this

Morning ALL!! I hope everybody had a great weekend.

Sexione I agree with your middle ground post. Like Randyt said, It IS the extremes on both ends that turn me off. I co-sign that one!!

By QC

April 30, 2007 9:16 AM | Link to this

Morning Bloggers, have a great day

By Sexione

April 30, 2007 9:17 AM | Link to this

Suga&Spice Honey, if you ignore it, it will go away!! lol

LDD good point, it’s how you use it

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 9:19 AM | Link to this

Slim quietly slipping on blog vest.

Ok, ladies not to put us down or anything….BUT…it could very well be a possibility that these particular women who feel they might need to dumb themselves down has made up in their mind that their education level is the problem with why they can’t find a date. What I’m saying is that we sometimes turn the shower on boiling hot before we look in that mirror at ourselves. Everyone knows you can’t see ish out of a foggy mirror. Basically, these women probably should look at themselves past the ‘Oh i’m just so educated or so beautiful and that’s why men are intimidated by me’ and look at other possibilites. Not trying to come down on women but sometimes we overlook what might actually be valid reasons. For example, your attitude might suck, or you might not have a very approachable personality or look but instead of looking at those things, they hide behind their accomplishment. Does that make sense? its hard trying to move the thought from my head this morning

By Suga&Spice

April 30, 2007 9:24 AM | Link to this

Sexione-I got it! I will just pretend he is a student loan.

By T-Mango

April 30, 2007 9:24 AM | Link to this

Good morning all.

No, I have never acted less intelligent than I actually am to get a date. I also gravitate toward dating people with similar education backgrounds as myself.

I think Randyt hit on an interesting points in his post. I think it forms the root of the problem that alot of women who happen to be educated have. He said… “I find myself asking the following questions…1) does she have everything already, or is there anything I can add to her life? 2) has she been playing the corporate game so long that she can no longer just be ‘normal’? 3) can she be vulnerable and soft sometimes?

By Randyt (aka "Been there, Done that, got a closet FULL of t-shirts)

April 30, 2007 9:26 AM | Link to this

Morning Slimone

Re: 9:19 post

I think you are 100% correct. As a man, I can say that none of the men that run in my circles are turned off by education, only by looks and personality. Those are the issues that women need to look at first.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

April 30, 2007 9:27 AM | Link to this

slim I agree with you…for some women they may not have the ability to search inward. I was watching Oprah and SeanJ and forgive me Lord, LL came to mind. It was a show on how/where to attract men over 35. This lady who is married to an executive at Viacomm mentioned that you attract what is inside of you….I agree with that statement but with some exceptions of course. NEway, so to your point, there are some women who refuse to look within and acknowledge that there is room for improvement, but I would say if any woman feels the answer is to dumb herself down then she is NOT as smart as her degrees would lead her to believe.

By Cali girl

April 30, 2007 9:29 AM | Link to this

I hide my knowledge of engines. I used to race cars and know more about cars and driving than most men and that’s an ego buster for them. I can work on my own car and that’s another ego buster for most men. Other than those things I do not hide my intelligence.

By Sexione

April 30, 2007 9:35 AM | Link to this

Suga&Spice Exactly!!! lol

Kym That’s called being resourceful, and there’s nothing wrong with that. I can find info on just about any topic and read enough to be able to hold a convo about it. And even then, I still wouldn’t know it all. So that’s an asset IMO. Keep doing what you do gurl!!!

SlimOne Put that vest away, that was on point. Many times we assume we know what the problem is, and can’t even see the forest for the trees. Good point!!

T-Mango I think brothers need to understand that “having everything” is not purely financial for a woman. Where do I cosign?

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

April 30, 2007 9:39 AM | Link to this

Cali girl Please don’t hide your knowledge of cars. Start a web blog for women because I just learn how to change the oil in my car. An if I learn how to do a tune up. I am going to be dangerous.

By MusingLee

April 30, 2007 9:44 AM | Link to this

Morn’in All,

I have no problem with smart/brilliant Women…My problem comes when they have nothing to talk about except for how much they have, their g/f’s have, and how much ishh cost…Women hate the same things about vane Men as well…I can think of only 1 time that my SO told me of her multiple degrees, and that’s because I asked her about her career in our early dating stage.

By Biff

April 30, 2007 9:44 AM | Link to this

Some of the bloggers here are not too swooft, no need to worry about hiding smarts. I said the women who go for certain careers and act like men are sad creatures, not all women.

Note to bloggers. The length of your post has no relation to its value, just takes up space. See my posts an an example of quality information in few words.

By Randyt (aka "Been there, Done that, got a closet FULL of t-shirts)

April 30, 2007 9:45 AM | Link to this

T-Mango

Your post was very accurate and well-stated. My point ‘number 1’ was exactly what you indicated that you need from an SO, not the material things, but the emotional support etc. Sometimes a woman projects that she does not need ‘anything at all’ from a man. That is what I tend to notice, what she projects.

your comments about my other two points were right on also. The question is can she take off ‘the corporate persona’ around me? If she can’t, then that is a turn off. I tend to like a lady who is not afraid to get her hair messed up or her lipstick smeared.

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 9:48 AM | Link to this

Slim sliding her vest off, peaking around the corner looking both ways

Thanks all. I just feel folks sometimes use that as an easy way out. I can’t see why any man would want to be with a Stepford Wife unless he himself had security issues. I would enjoy being able to add to a conversation intelligently but i would never try to show up my date, husband or SO making him feel stupid like, “dayum babes, you didn’t know that? EVERYBODY knows that! you stooopid”. hehehehe

Kym that is a good characteristic to have. I am guilty of doing that as well. I don’t necessarily research it to the point of expert status, but at least i’ll be able to at least ask some good questions. I think men enjoy explaining things to women. I have experienced asking a date a question that he wasn’t even expecting and he lit up like a christmas tree.

T-Mango so true…we might need to put that on a t-shirt.

By MusingLee

April 30, 2007 9:48 AM | Link to this

Kym on Cali Girl’s website

Kym: Ohh snap..I just learned how to install a new gas line.

Kym installs gas line and goes to start the car…

BOOOOOMMM

Kym exits car with hair standing on her head like Buckwheat

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 9:51 AM | Link to this

Must we start with the ranting and raving so early? Geez!

By Cinderella

April 30, 2007 9:53 AM | Link to this

Why anyone would want to dumb down is beyond me. We need to be proud of who we are and our accomplishments. If you’re dumbing down than you are not showing someone your true self! Somebody that can not deal with your accomplishments is an insecure person. A successful person is a turn on!

By Are you serious?

April 30, 2007 9:54 AM | Link to this

Isn’t any bothered that a high school Guidance Counselor has such issues with letting people know she is furthering her education? Please keep her away from my daughters. Clearly she hasn’t learned much from her degrees. I really find that dismaying.

By Joe

April 30, 2007 9:55 AM | Link to this

I think that this brings a greater issue.

Do we avoid letting people know things about us because people put up their guard when they know?

I am studying theology to become a minister. If asked directly what I am studying I will mention it. But I do not like to advertise this. Why? Because I do not want a big neon sign over my head saying, “watch what you say around this guy”. Its the same when people find out their friend is a police officer, a judge, or even a stripper. People make judgements that are not always appropriate when they know what you do. Its nice to be an average Joe sometimes. So I can understand how women who are successful and intelligent do not want to advertise. They can intimidate men who have a low self esteem or who have backwards(traditional)ideas about what a woman’s role is in society. It does not fit into the normal stereotype But you need to let the men you date know who you really are as soon as it makes sense.

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 9:56 AM | Link to this

Cali I was happy and excited when I was able to change the headlight on my moms benz…w/o tearing anything up. So I applaud your knowledge of cars. Do your thang chica.

By SeanJohnson

April 30, 2007 9:58 AM | Link to this

Sup Blog…after thinking about the question…made me think is it really about education level and dating and whether its really a money issue..yall tell me…Anyway..if you have things in common and the ability carry and adult conversation…it doesnt matter if she is a college and or post grad type female and he is a blue collar type or vice versa…its more of mind set. what kills me is women are so called educated but actually dumb down themselves by constantly putting garbage in the head..via tv, trashy novels and music. I am an undercover book worm but i dont talk about things i read or know about unless its of interest of the female..i seriously doubt during dating peolple are concerned much about education level..more about common sense/personality and money…

By Rosie

April 30, 2007 9:58 AM | Link to this

Biff,

Are you living in a cave? Do you wear animal skins? Get a grip. There is no such thing as typical male careers anymore. I bet you still have a secretary, don’t you? And she wears sweater sets and pearls. Or is that in your black and white dreams?

By tomas

April 30, 2007 9:59 AM | Link to this

I think most normal men would rather date a woman who has more education,and make more money than to date a woman who has a bunch of problems,a bunch of bills,a bunch of kids,etc. But like most of the post I think there should be a middle ground.

By SeanJohnson

April 30, 2007 10:01 AM | Link to this

@ Slim..co signing your first post..

@ DarkDimples…keep watching Okra and she will have u thinking u dont “need” a man…you will be going to the “other” side…lol

By JJ

April 30, 2007 10:02 AM | Link to this

I think it’s very sad that an intelligent, driven, educated, career-oriented woman feels she should “Dumb” down in order to GET a man.
She should be very proud of herself and her accomplishments, and not have to act like an idiot to smooth some man’s ego. If you don’t like the fact that I am highly educated, and make good money, then move along. I don’t need you!!!

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

April 30, 2007 10:05 AM | Link to this

Joe So I can understand how women who are successful and intelligent do not want to advertise. They can intimidate men who have a low self esteem or who have backwards(traditional)ideas about what a woman’s role is in society.

The question that comes to mind is why would they be attracted to a man with low self esteem or is backward in his thinking? They are obviously not compatible for a long term relationship so why waste your time on someone like that?

By KJ

April 30, 2007 10:08 AM | Link to this

What a bunch of crap. There’s hardly an epidemic of women dumbing themselves down; if anything, the opposite is the case. Just like the argument that skinny supermodels are warping perceptions, while the vast majority of women continue to scarf down twinkies with reckless abandon. Non-issue, yawn, next.

By Chocolate Peach

April 30, 2007 10:11 AM | Link to this

INTERESTING!!this was the topic of discussion last weekend among my sisters & I.

1)My BFF since 3rd grade has yet to keep a great relationship b/c of her status. She’s the mother of Fred Taylor Jville Jaguars daughter & when men find that out they run for the hills. I will say she has tried to a great degree to keep that hid however it get’s out & It’s a wrap for her. Although she manage to keep this one dude for 3 yrs, he actually would compete w/Fred when it came to gifts & moneytary situations but he too finally gave in.
She have 3 degress but the guys never knew it.

2) My 2nd BFF is young, 24 yrs of age, owns a awesome home in Lville, No kids, Awesome real Estate career, she’s now working on her masters and upon enrolling her boyfriend of 4 yrs quit her. His Xcuse was what will he have to offer her once it’s all said & done. He stated there was NO!! way he will have his woman out living him & he honestly meant every word of it. SAD!!!
Oldest sisetr is in the same boat. I had a talk w/one of my old classmates from HS & he told me he was dating this chic that always needed her bills paid. He’s military bound, An Omega, no kids, 6 figure income however he said he loved the idea women needed him. KRAZY!! as it sounds. He enjoyed paying this chic bills.

So I’m with Randy T when he says it has nothing or very little to do with the education it has everything to do with the woman’s welfare. And yes, most men I know find it very intimidating. They want a woman to lean on them, It makes a feel like a man.

I’ve had a few scenarios where a guy was in debate about apporaching me b/c I was suited up. I find it all a bit much!!
Dr. Kym, did U get a chance to watch the NFL draft this weekend?

By C tha 1

April 30, 2007 10:11 AM | Link to this

I don’t think there’s nothing wrong with a smart woman, or a career driven woman. The problem some career minded women have is turning off their corporate mode in a social settting.

On another note the problem can be reversed where a woman feels intimidated by a man who she feels is “too educated” or “polished”. Believe it or not some women in ATL are caught off guard if you’re not callin’ them “shawty” every other word.

By T-Mango

April 30, 2007 10:11 AM | Link to this

@Joe I think you made a good point in your post…defintely a different angle. I agree that there are some professions that are stereotyped. I can understand why some may choose to initially camouflage what they do if they fall within one of the groups you mentioned.

Randyt, Sexione, Slimone-Back at ya. I co-sign.

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 10:15 AM | Link to this

Another thing If a highly educated women or man, ‘dumbs’ themselves down in order to get a man, what’s going to happen after they’ve started dating and the guy/gal starts to really get involved with them? Obviously, your true colors are going to eventually shine through. I believe that falls under the code of false advertising.

By AWRootbeer

April 30, 2007 10:16 AM | Link to this

Yes

By Sexione

April 30, 2007 10:17 AM | Link to this

SJ now why are you hating on Oprah, she’s doing her thang!! lol

lmsao @ Musing you stoopid!!!

Joe Do you find that most women stereotype you (or run away) once they find out that you are studying to become a minister?

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

April 30, 2007 10:20 AM | Link to this

Peach No I didnt…I went to yard sales and to the Inman Park Street Fest with a friend…I loved looking at all the local artist and funky jewelry. But I am playing catch up right now on NFL.com

Musing if I learn to hotwire a car I am going to steal your civic and push it in to Lake Allatoona.

By SeanJohnson

April 30, 2007 10:26 AM | Link to this

@ ChocoPeach…how old are you?

By Biff

April 30, 2007 10:27 AM | Link to this

Rosie, Most women who realize they are chicks are dying to meet guys like me who aren’t metrosexuals and who understand the difference between guys and dolls.

The conflicted ones get mad when I post the truth.

By kinderbabe

April 30, 2007 10:31 AM | Link to this

good morning all!:)

as far as education and career goes, it’s a matter of being secure…secure enough not to feel that’s where my worth lies yet also secure enough to share my successes when it’s appropriate. it’s about balance as sexione stated earlier. sometimes people can rely to heavily on a title or a degree for self-assurance. at the end of the day, i can’t date someone’s degree and they can’t date mine…lol. it takes a lot more than that to keep the interest going.

By Chocolate Peach

April 30, 2007 10:31 AM | Link to this

SJ…..28ish

By Suga&Spice

April 30, 2007 10:35 AM | Link to this

SJ-I was about to ask the same question

By Chocolate Peach

April 30, 2007 10:35 AM | Link to this

Dr. Kym U gotta lot of catching up to do that was the longest draft in NFL history. 2 days!!! I stopped watching on day 1 after the 25th pick.

By Roger

April 30, 2007 10:36 AM | Link to this

Barefoot a pregnant, that’s how I like ‘em! Trailer park girls are the best!

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 10:37 AM | Link to this

Dr. Kym if I learn to hotwire a car I am going to steal your civic and push it in to Lake Allatoona Good one..lol

By tomas

April 30, 2007 10:41 AM | Link to this

Where can I meet some of these single attrative Black women who are making 6 figures in Atlanta??

By Theresa Q

April 30, 2007 10:42 AM | Link to this

Oh my gosh YES!!!! I have dummied down many times, especially when I was younger. In my numerous experiences, yes, many guys are intimidated by superior intellect in a women. It’s just reality. Now, I can talk all day long about football, motorcycles and Pink Floyd, but try getting into a deep conversation about the merits of Einstein’s Unified Field Theory and you see an instant flash of insecurity in any guy who’s I.Q. is less than 120. So, I just never discussed Nietzsche, Freud or terra forming Mars. But, now I’m 42 and my husband of 14 years has 20 points on my IQ and everything is different. He loves my mind and together we challenge each other intellectually. That’s the answer - find someone smarter than you (which admittedly ain’t easy when you’re a chick with an IQ over 130 - but keep looking!!)

By Sexione

April 30, 2007 10:43 AM | Link to this

most men I know find it very intimidating. They want a woman to lean on them, It makes a feel like a man. Really?!!! Where are they? Seems to me that most men are burying their money like a dog buries a bone. For example, look at the majority of the males posts on this blog…….barely want to buy a meal, let a lone pay a bill (I made a rhyme, lol) because they think most women are golddiggers. I thought only the old skool dudes want a woman that they can “take care of”, not these young “bugaboos”. Interesting….

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this

Musing/Demi hey you won’t believe what I saw on my way back from North Carolina yesterday….a chick driving a car with a BRA on it….LOL!!!!

By Sexione

April 30, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this

I see that ignorance is in abundance this morning!!! Let’s continue to ignore pllleaaaasssee!!

By Lynette

April 30, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this

I cannot imagine being really attracted to any guy who needs to have me “dumb it down” for them.

Biff you are a jewel! NOT!

By kinderbabe

April 30, 2007 10:45 AM | Link to this

bella blog policing needs to start in 5, 4, 3,…..

By Sexione

April 30, 2007 10:45 AM | Link to this

Bob was in trouble. He forgot his wedding anniversary. His wife was really p**.

She told him “Tomorrow morning, I expect to find a gift in the driveway that goes from 0 to 200 in 6 seconds AND IT BETTER BE THERE !!”

The next morning he got up early and left for work. When his wife woke up, she looked out the window and sure enough there was a box gift-wrapped in the middle of the driveway.

Confused, the wife put on her robe and ran out to the driveway, brought the box back in the house.

She opened it and found a brand new bathroom scale.

Bob has been missing since Friday.

By winger505

April 30, 2007 10:46 AM | Link to this

I was having dinner with my then-boyfriend. The conversation moved to salary. He works as an airline pilot for a major airline. I work as a communications consultant. It came out that I had made a little more than half a million dollars the previous year. He had made less than $100,000. No big deal, in my eyes. The conversation suddenly went cold; dinner became tough to get through. Over the next couple of weeks, he became distant. When he wasn’t distant, he would make snide remarks about the money issue. Within a month, my one-year relationship was over. For some reason, he just assumed he made more than me. And that was OK with him. When it came out that that wasn’t the case, he sulked until I ended the relationship. His argument: He wants to be able to provide for his wife. My argument: Wouldn’t it be easier for you if you only had to carry half the load in a relationship, not the ENTIRE load. I think life would be easier that way. Apparently, I was wrong, as far as he was concerned.

By MusingLee

April 30, 2007 10:48 AM | Link to this

Kym Feel free to touch the Civic, just be prepared if demi jumps out the backseat wearing a neon orange speedo and army boots…And the Civic floats…Don’t ask how I know.

ChocoP WTH, is 28ish…what’s the “ish”??? Times 2?…LOLOLOLOL

Slim Was she also her hair like “A Flock of Seagulls” and sporting Cindy Lopper earrings???….LOLOLOLOLOLOL

By SeanJohnson

April 30, 2007 10:48 AM | Link to this

@ ChocoPeach…just asked because u said u was Freddy T moms friend…are u from the Belle Glade area?

@ KB…i am feeling your post..you cant date someones degree and for the most part its more about having common interests. i know plenty of lifetime learners..people who just like to learn knew things and folks who havent picked up a book since college…

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

Sexione barely want to buy a meal, let a lone pay a bill I was thinking the same thing. ^5

By Atl Lady

April 30, 2007 10:52 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All I’ve never dumbed down to be with a man because I expect my guy to be able to talk with me on multiple levels. The only time I was ever intimidated by a man with more education than myself was because he made it a priority in the relationship. It didn’t matter that we had a lot in common and enjoyed each other’s company. In the end, he wanted a woman that had just as much education. Do I think it was just an excuse? Yes What has puzzled me is men who are so insecure with a woman who is just as smart. I know someone right now who spends most of his time with women who frustrate me with their lack of just common sense. I really wonder sometimes how they function in society oblivious to almost everything. Ironically, he’ll even get angry when they say or do something so utterly stupid. Then gets angry with me because I remind him that he chose her. It makes me laugh to even think about the two of them.

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

April 30, 2007 10:52 AM | Link to this

Peach Right now I am looking at the Steelers picks—going to peek at who Philly got and try to wade through the rest of this site.

Come on September

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 10:58 AM | Link to this

Musing To be honest I didn’t pay too much attention to the driver. I was too busy trying to see how how much, if any, her paint job might’ve faded. lol But i instantly thought about you and demi….that was a long 5 hour drive

By kinderbabe

April 30, 2007 10:59 AM | Link to this

sj exactly! common interests have significant weight in keeping two together. as you stated, life long learning is cool…it’s part of my job.:) how have you been? heard of any exciting concerts/events coming soon?

By C tha 1

April 30, 2007 11:00 AM | Link to this

I was having a conversation with a friend of mine this weekend and we were basically chit chating about current events: NBA playoffs, NFL draft, VT incident, etc. The conversation turned towards the errands she needed to run this past weekend, and she commented about how “inundated” she felt with her personal and professional responsibilites.

O.K… . stop right there “inundate” is not a word used in casual conversation. Now I see why she has trouble finding a decent man. Hell, I know what it means, but I also know that’s a five hundred dollar word you save for work and other professional settings.

Some women need to understand their SAT vocabulary is cool only in certain settings. Every man is not trying to think that hard to keep up with your conversation. Yeah, it sounds cheap, but regardless of how “inundated” you may feel with your “convoluted” lifestyle, in a social gathering some men would rather shoot the shyte and “conversate” about anything, as oppose to standing up straight to “converse” about what sounds like your inability to turn off your professional persona.

By Chocolate Peach

April 30, 2007 11:00 AM | Link to this

Musing cause I am 28 soon to be 29.

SJ, yes sir Muck City Bound!! Love it!!!

By Sexione

April 30, 2007 11:03 AM | Link to this

SJ I think she said she is friends with Freddy T’s “baby momma”. Right, ChocoPeach? And I really don’t see why that would intimidate a guy, it’s not like he’s gonna be trying to do anything for the child. Most men don’t even want to do anything for the woman….definitely not her child by some other man!!

the problem can be reversed where a woman feels intimidated by a man who she feels is “too educated” or “polished”. Believe it or not some women in ATL are caught off guard if you’re not callin’ them “shawty” every other word. Some women, yes, but they would definitely be the minority. This doesn’t happen too often, IMO.

By Raqi

April 30, 2007 11:04 AM | Link to this

SlimOne in what part of NC were you? I spent the weekend in Cherokee, NC.

By MusingLee

April 30, 2007 11:07 AM | Link to this

winger505 Dude was a buster and you should have stepped away….

Ahhhhhh, where do you work and do you need an assistant to make you laugh during the day?!?!?! I can start immediately.

Musing now belly dancing w/the office grape jelly…trying to get fired but only receiving tips

By Chocolate Peach

April 30, 2007 11:08 AM | Link to this

Oh!! Ladies I know plenty but there’s always consequences when it comes to those type of men.

Kym, Yeah, we Raiders had 1st pick however loosing Moss will be a significant loss. It would have been one heck of a season to see J.Russell play with Sapp & Moss. Oh well!!

By Magenta

April 30, 2007 11:10 AM | Link to this

I really don’t think the brains or the bankbook will put a man off…BUT…a woman really does have to maximize the physical appearance thing. If that isn’t working, nothing else will. Sorry to say, men are still visually oriented and most will strongly judge a woman based first on what she looks like.

By Museq

April 30, 2007 11:11 AM | Link to this

My suggestion? Don’t read chick lit & stop watching lifetime It poisons the mind AND, most of that stuff doesn’t apply to AA’s….JMO. Also, if a guy is intimidated by your income or education, he’s NOT A MAN…

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 11:12 AM | Link to this

Raqi I was in a little city called Mebane right above Burlington and is probably about an hour and a half from Charlotte. My family all got together for my uncle’s birthday. Where is Cherokee?

By NCgirlfromATL

April 30, 2007 11:14 AM | Link to this

Musing I was getting ready to ask Choco Peach the same question! LOLOL! 28ish…is that the same as 32? LOL! Go on girl! Embrace the 30s! It’s the new 20s according to Jay-Z!

slowly opening a piping hot Biscuitville biscuit, butter dripping down my wrist, as the smell of crispy bacon and cheese fill the air Oh…heySlim! LMAO! Sorry girl! I didn’t get a biscuit today. It was a Whole Foods (or Whole Paycheck, as my cousin calls it), muffin morning.

I’ve never dumbed myself down for a man, and wouldn’t even consider doing it. But, I have (and still am) reluctant to tell people I meet in person (you guys must be the exception, lol!) what I do. I find that I end up spending a lot of my free time giving free advice or hearing about someone else’s legal drama all the time. Plus, it really can be a conversation stopper when people find out there’s a divorce lawyer in the room. Not great at cocktail parties. LOL! I think the worst part of it for me has been that single men, who say they’re interested in me want me to clean up their legal drama at the same time they’re trying to get with me. This is going on right now, and frankly, it’s annoying as h3ll.

By Chocolate Peach

April 30, 2007 11:15 AM | Link to this

@ Sexi One, Yes she’s my BFF however I was friends with Fred before she was. I hooked them 2 up in H S too only get closer to his friend that didn’t even make it to the Pros. (Angry Face)He does a WHOLE……..LOT for her NOT just the child. Her living status at this time has everything to do with him & what he doesfor her NOT that she cares.

By Chocolate Peach

April 30, 2007 11:18 AM | Link to this

No……not 30 yet however I’m welcoming it with open arms. I’m Xcited to see my accomplishments at 30. If God’s will.

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

April 30, 2007 11:20 AM | Link to this

Peach Moss wanted to leave..I heard this morning he was not showing up for drills. He is not one of my favorite players…him and Keywhine Johnson..good grief slap a diaper on the both of them. Any way he is a Patriot now. I am liking my Steelers picks filling in for the loss of Porter.

Defense baby!!! Defense.

By T-Mango

April 30, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this

@Sexione-Really?!!! Where are they?…they are out there.

One of my former SO’s made over six figures and became upset when I didn’t ask him for material items. He told me that “I never asked him for anything.” True. Nevertheless, this became a bone of contention between us because we viewed money and its’ usage differently. I shared with him that “things” were less important to me than the gifts which came from his soul. But, that wasn’t his kind of love…

By SeanJohnson

April 30, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this

@ KB..i have been in chill mode..thanks for asking..I havent picked up the creative loafing in a minute so i havent heared of anything special..you and a few other post the upcoming haps..so keep us updated.

By Sexione

April 30, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this

single men, who say they’re interested in me want me to clean up their legal drama at the same time they’re trying to get with me. HA!! I can see how that would be annoying as h3ll!!!

Embrace the 30s! It’s the new 20s according to Jay-Z! That’s right, so next month I’ll be 28!!!! lmsao But one question, if 50s is the new 30s (according to some), and 30s is the new 20s, what is 40s?

By Suga&Spice

April 30, 2007 11:23 AM | Link to this

To put the shoe on the other foot for a second. How often are women intimidated by men who have more, make more or are much better educated than them? I have a girlfriend who dated a well known pro football player off and on for a couple of years. Everytime he tried to get serious with her should back away from the whole thing. She eventually told us, she felt like she wouldnt be able to contribute anything to the relationship. She said, he has houses on both coasts and in Atlanta, professional accolades, is national known and is financailly secure, what could I possiblely help him to achieve in his life? He has done it all.

Some women do feel that same pressure

By Sexione

April 30, 2007 11:25 AM | Link to this

ChocPeach Okkaayy, I ain’t mad at her!! Then she will have to find a real man that is not influenced by all of that!

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 11:27 AM | Link to this

NC oohhh gurl you know you wrong for that one. I found myself sounding like Homer Simpson every time we past one…Mmmm biissscuuittts LMAO!

By Will C.

April 30, 2007 11:28 AM | Link to this

I love dating women with advanced degrees but the primary focus when I meet someone is how does she look and is her body in shape. Education is 4th on the list. Here’s my list in order. 1. Face - Pretty, nice smile 2. Body - Nice curves, 3. Personality - Is she easy to get along with or is she confrontation or nit pick. 4. Education 5. Does she like sports, hanging out

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By Sexione

April 30, 2007 11:29 AM | Link to this

Suga&Spice Good advice to her would have been that it’s not always about helping someone to achieve, sometimes life is just about enjoying things together. Everybody does not need help to achieve things, but having someone to enjoy those things with is most important.

By Raqi

April 30, 2007 11:30 AM | Link to this

SlimOne The Cherokee Casino. Right over in the cut at GA and TENN.

By SeanJohnson

April 30, 2007 11:32 AM | Link to this

@ ChocoPeach…maybe she sould rely on her 3 degrees to live off of….by her living off of her ex..who is a pro athlete…i can see why a man would not really be quick to want something serious with her…not that i would be intimidated by her or him…but u could argue that she is indirectly using him..and her living arrangement is one that any man would wonder if freddy is still tapping that when he comes to town….i wonder if she had another kid by someone else will Freddy T still take care of her as well…

By Suga&Spice

April 30, 2007 11:34 AM | Link to this

Sexione-we tried all of that and she still felt somewhat inadequate. We were fresh out of college and she hadnt found a suitable job yet. She said she would always feel like she was rescued and she would eventually resent that about the relationship.

At leasst she knew her faults

By Chocolate Peach

April 30, 2007 11:36 AM | Link to this

Kym, U2? I Luvvvvvv KeShawn Johnson!! He looked so nice & sweet during the draft. He was one of the reasons I continued to watch. Gotta luv em!!

I can understand Moss reasons for wanting out BUT…….man they could have had a great season together. From the comments I heard on Sat the Patriots aren’t welcoming him with open arms!! Sad……

By kinderbabe

April 30, 2007 11:36 AM | Link to this

sj o.k. i’ll post any info i hear of. my friends are psyched about going to the new edition concert in june. don’t know if i’m trying to pay almost $80 for the tix though. i like them and all but…that’s a grip!

By NCgirlfromATL

April 30, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this

Slim LMAO!! Not Homer! LOLOL!

C tha 1 I hear what you’re saying…just be careful not to jump on the ebonics bandwagon, just to make someone else feel more comfortable. All that does is cause confusement and I think we’re all in agreeance that such things make for a bad repression on the person you’ve just met. LMAO!!!

Lawd, don’t make me pull out my word of the day list.

By C tha 1

April 30, 2007 11:42 AM | Link to this

ChocoPeach I gotta agree with SJ on that one. Old boy is not taking care of a woman with three degrees without some type of benefit(s). It defeats common sense. Child support is one thing, but to totally support a house you’re not staying in says there is an open door policy for old dude at any time. Any dude can see through that.

By LorDemi

April 30, 2007 11:45 AM | Link to this

Good Afternoon to All!!

I spent yesterday afternoon hanging around some successful AKAs sisters (ranging from deep dark chocolate to W.T.F. supa high yella), My God My God my ears are hurting from their shrieking…them ladies force me to remove my hearing aid.

While I did have to remind birthday girl she is at home and not in the corporate board room and it’s okay to let your guard down a round me. After that it was on and pop’n…Her homegirlness came out and she really turned the party out…not quite on my level, but close.

Ladies trust me; there are plenty of men who love some good brain, just balance it out…Fellas, we need to do the same.

By Golly

April 30, 2007 11:46 AM | Link to this

I thought people were supposed to be looking for soul-mates, not physical beauty, money, education and careers. Seems to me we’ve got a lot of very shallow people on board.

As for me, I have nothing to prove. I’m a two-time published author, rather high IQ, and careers that have matched my aptitude. My husband has never felt intimidated by my abilities. He has just as many as me in different arenas of life.

It’s not about finding someone you can put up with; it’s about finding the person you were meant to be with.

By Chocolate Peach

April 30, 2007 11:48 AM | Link to this

@ SJ like I post in my last comment. “Not that she cares”. She dosen’t care about Fred’s wealth. He do it b/c he wants to. She actually does have all 3 degrees in action. She’s a Elem. Educator, 3rd grade to be Xact, & a child care director. Her making her own way is the one thing I truly love about her. She’s not like many of the other PRO mothers. She gives a 2 cent about Fred & what he does for her. She gets up & goes to work every day.

Enuff about them….Moving on to the Sports blog!! Njoyed the topic, Yall have a good one.

By Awwwwwww...Dayum

April 30, 2007 11:52 AM | Link to this

Awwwwwwwww…Dayum, winger505!!!! Where can I find you??!!!!

By Cassie

April 30, 2007 12:02 PM | Link to this

Bella -

I don’t tell men how much I make for one simple reason: the past two men have made considerably less than I do, and have told me in no uncertain terms that it “emasculates” them.

So that’s one of my new rules now….I’m not dating someone who makes less than I do.

By LorDemi

April 30, 2007 12:03 PM | Link to this

Slim how sweet, thanks for thinking of me.

Musing come on dude, orange Speedos…ish doesn’t even match my sin.

Using gay men body language to the fullest

Ladies, I got them platinum Speedo on…now dry humping air real sloooow like, from the left (hump hump) to the right (hump hump), for the ladies

By Bold & Beautiful

April 30, 2007 12:07 PM | Link to this

don’t be so daft Cassie. Just don’t date men with self-esteem issues. A grown man with a strong sense of self cares not what your bank account looks like.

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

April 30, 2007 12:08 PM | Link to this

Musing I just read that about Demi in the Civic…mini me is the size of a buoy he would just bobble along the surface of the lake..with a seagull sitting on his head.

By binford

April 30, 2007 12:10 PM | Link to this

I am not the least bit intimidated by a woman who pursues higher education, nor by her profession. All that means is that they made a choice to get an advanced degree or are in a profession that requires specific higher education.

By comparison, I was happy to earn an undergrad degree and then take courses for whatever tickles my fancy - which I continue to do to this day. There has not been any degree programs that I felt were worth my time and effort. Does that make me less of a man? Not at all. Does it make that woman any smarter in life’s practical applications? Maybe, maybe not. I could have chosen to be a lawyer or doctor, but that wasn’t what I wanted.

As long as who I was with accepted me for me, that’s all that matters.

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 12:13 PM | Link to this

LorDemi you’re welcome buddy. now come on over here, I have a tip i wanna slip ya for that slow wind you got going on.

Slim leans over and whispers in demi’s ear You might want to borrow some of Randyt’s nair…your ‘bikini sideburns’ are…how should i say, a little unkempt.

As demi slowly walks away a little less confident, Slim lands a nice smack on dat azz leaving a greasy hand print

By MusingLee

April 30, 2007 12:14 PM | Link to this

demi Hey, go over to Kym’s blog desk…She threatened to push the Civic into the lake…I think she deserves an upclose dance for that “King Beef” style.

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

April 30, 2007 12:19 PM | Link to this

SJ Did I just read that the Heat got swept? Well that is more time for Shaq to work on catching bad guys.

By LorDemi

April 30, 2007 12:21 PM | Link to this

Dr. Kym Soooooo…are you saying I will make a good vibrator?

By LorDemi

April 30, 2007 12:24 PM | Link to this

Musin dude don’t sweat the small stuff, remember you are down with theDCP Ladies!!!!

brotha we’ll file a report

By Sexione

April 30, 2007 12:25 PM | Link to this

A wife arrived home and found her husband in bed with another woman.

With superhuman strength borne of fury, she dragged him out of the house, into the tool shed in their back yard and put his penis in a vice.

Securing it tightly and removing the handle of the vice, she then picked up a hacksaw.

Terrified, her husband screamed, “Stop! Please! You aren’t going to cut it off, are you?”

Placing the saw in her husband’s hand and with a gleam of revenge in her eye, the wife replied, “Of course not! I’m going to set fire to the shed. You do whatever you have to do!”

By Linguist

April 30, 2007 12:27 PM | Link to this

Hey Blog Fam said while squinting.. contacts all messed up Hope everyone had a great weekend.. I haven’t read all the posts, but I did notice that most are on target. I never “dumbed” down with anyone .. However, when I told some men that I graduated from Howard U. they were more interested in “what the girls looked like there” than in what I majored in … go figure…

By NCgirlfromATL

April 30, 2007 12:27 PM | Link to this

your ‘bikini sideburns’ are…how should i say, a little unkempt.

LMAO!!!!

LorDemi Don’t let’em punk you like that, homie! Work that platinum speedo! Just don’t put anyone’s eye out.

Cassie Just my advice, but don’t limit yourself based on income. You could find a man that makes twice as much as you, but treats you 1/4 as well as the man who makes less. Money doesn’t make the man, the man makes the money (and what he does with it). Just b/c he doesn’t make as much as you doesn’t mean he isn’t handling his business, paying his bills on time, taking care of his kids (if he has any) and putting some away for the future. If we all spent more time doing that, our differences in income wouldn’t be such a big deal.

By MusingLee

April 30, 2007 12:29 PM | Link to this

Hmmmm where are the DCP ladies anyway…Sgt. Pepper, the Sauces and Sweet T and GBI Chick…All have been missing in action.

By mickiedee

April 30, 2007 12:30 PM | Link to this

RandyT you said: I find myself asking the following questions…1) does she have everything already, or is there anything I can add to her life?

Are you specifically talking about material items? I am really surprised if that is the case. You never came across as old-fashioned like that.

Question for the blog: So what are women who don’t need anything done for them financially supposed to do about a mate? I have this problem all the time when I tell men I work in IT. I don’t make 6 figures but I don’t have any bills except monthly living expenses.

By Jake

April 30, 2007 12:37 PM | Link to this

What up Blog:

Imtimidated by a women, nah, I have dated womwen who made more cash than me, its not a big deal, it is something that should come out later in a relationship, if either puts it out there too early its a power play.

T-Mango That 9:24, co-signing and notarizing that piece of work.

By LorDemi

April 30, 2007 12:39 PM | Link to this

SlimOne no thanks, I use Nair for men…almost everything you touch on me is smooth

Slim is slowly backing away from Demi, who is smiling very devilishly

By Sexione

April 30, 2007 12:41 PM | Link to this

A young man was lost wandering in a forest, when he came upon a small house.

He knocked on the door and was greeted by an ancient Chinese man with a long, grey beard. “I’m lost,” said the man. “Can you put me up for the night?”

“Certainly,” the Chinese man said, “but on one condition. If you so much as lay a finger on my daughter, I will inflict upon you the three worst Chinese tortures known to man.”

“Ok,” said the man, thinking that the daughter must be pretty old as well, and entered the house.

Before dinner, the daughter came down the stairs. She was young, beautiful, and had a fantastic figure.

She was obviously attracted to the young man since she couldn’t keep her eyes off him during the meal.

Remembering the old man’s warning, he ignored her and went up to bed alone.

But during he night, he could bear it no longer, and sneaked into her room for a night of passion.

He was careful to keep everything quiet so the old man wouldn’t hear. Near dawn he crept back to his room, exhausted, but happy.

He woke in the morning with the feel of pressure on his chest. Opening his eyes he saw a large rock on his chest with a note on it that read, “Chinese Torture 1: Large rock on chest.”

“Well, that’s pretty crappy,” he thought. “If that’s the best the old man can do then I don’t have much to worry about.”

He picked the boulder up, walked over to the window and threw the boulder out. As he did so he noticed another note on it that read: “Chinese Torture 2: Rock tied to left testicle.”

In a panic he glanced down and saw the rope that was already getting close to the end.

Figuring that a few broken bones was better than castration, he jumped out of the window after the boulder.

As he plummeted downward he saw a large sign on the ground that read, “Chinese Torture 3: Right testicle tied to bedpost.”

By Jake

April 30, 2007 12:42 PM | Link to this

mickiedee Keep Savin that nest egg.

By Linguist

April 30, 2007 12:42 PM | Link to this

C tha 1 11:00 you are kidding right about using the word inundate?? Hate to sound like a linguist and all… but …. um.. who doesn’t know the meaning of that word?? So would it have been better to say “I’m overwhelmed”… or how about “I’m busy”.. is that better? lolololol

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 12:45 PM | Link to this

LorDemi almost everything you touch on me is smooth

Just like Brandy’s song goes…Almost doesn’t count

By Sexione

April 30, 2007 12:48 PM | Link to this

John invited his mother over for dinner one evening. During the meal, she couldn’t help but notice how attractive his roommate Judy was.

She had been suspicious of a relationship between her son and his roommate for quite some time, but this only made her more curious.

She watched the two of them interact over the course of the evening and began to wonder whether there was more between John and Judy than met the eye.

Realizing only too well what his mother was thinking, John said, “I can see your wheels turning Mom and I know what you’re thinking. Rest assured Judy and I are strictly roommates.”

A few days later, Judy went to John and said, “You know the beautiful silver gravy ladle? Well, ever since your mother came to dinner I can’t seem to find it. You don’t think she would have taken it, do you?”

“I doubt it, but I’ll write her a letter just to be sure,” replied John.

John then sat down and wrote his mother the following letter: “Dear Mom, While I’m not saying you ‘did’ take a gravy ladle from my house, and I’m not saying you ‘didn’t’ take a gravy ladle, the fact remains that ever since you were here for dinner one has been missing. Love, Your son.”

Several days later, John received a reply from his mother which read: “Dear John, While I am not saying you ‘do’ sleep with Judy, and I’m not saying you ‘don’t’ sleep with her, the fact remains that she would have found the gravy ladle by now if she were sleeping in her own bed. Love, Mom.”

By LorDemi

April 30, 2007 12:57 PM | Link to this

Linguist yes all should know what that word means…But some people seems to throw out words to say,”Look at me, aren’t I smart?”

By SeanJohnson

April 30, 2007 12:57 PM | Link to this

@ MickieDee…thats like saying…”what can you do for me”..but i am not putting words in your mouth…now this doesnt apply to you..but i have ran across females that are educated and are more than able to take care of themselves financially….and that brings to to a question for the Blog Females…do you/will you date down financially? say a man couldnt afford to take you out as often as you are use to or to the type of spots u are accustomed to…

By kinderbabe

April 30, 2007 12:58 PM | Link to this

hey demi how are you?

By Raqi

April 30, 2007 1:01 PM | Link to this

SexiOne where in the world do you get these jokes from. Too funny.

By Randyt (aka "Been there, Done that, got a closet FULL of t-shirts)

April 30, 2007 1:01 PM | Link to this

Hi Mickiedee

No, actually the material things are exactly what I was not talking about. If I meet a lady that has a lot of ‘toys’ that does not intimidate me. My question has more to do with the ladies that are so superconfident in their personna, that I wonder if I can bring anything, i.e. emotional, friendship, etc. that the lady even needs or wants. If she wants fun, honesty, genuine caring, and I can sense that, then I would stay.

Not the money or the material things I could provide (although if I go to their house and see that it probably is worth five times the one I live in, I might push back a little until I see where the lady’s values actually are).

By LorDemi

April 30, 2007 1:04 PM | Link to this

SlimOne LOL, while my skin is very soft’n’smooth to touch…I am still a proud member of ATL’s hard bodies…It’s not wise to test me sis.

By Randyt (aka "Been there, Done that, got a closet FULL of t-shirts)

April 30, 2007 1:04 PM | Link to this

@SJ

Re your 12:57 post. I think that is an outstanding question, and one I do wonder about when in this situation. I look forward to reading the responses, but I hope the lady bloggers truly look inside themselves before answering.

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 1:05 PM | Link to this

SJ if i dated down financially, i would be left to date the unemployed or homeless. Buddy has to be able to at least afford Ci Ci’s Pizza.

By C tha 1

April 30, 2007 1:05 PM | Link to this

Linguist what Lord Demi said. And trust me, I’ve seen words on that particular level cause brain cramps with some people.

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 1:08 PM | Link to this

LorDemi is that what guys are calling It these days, hard bodies. ha ha ha Well i’m glad that you haven’t had to resort to old faithful viagra just yet….Keep up the good work. (smile)

By Linguist

April 30, 2007 1:12 PM | Link to this

SJ You know that’s a loaded question! I don’t think we can win for losing, but I’ll try… To put it simply… Sure.. I mean “an expensive dinner that’s paid for by a man, doesn’t necessarily a good man - make”.. Get my meaning? We don’t have to go to a 5 star restaurant - heck we don’t have to go to a 1 star place for that much.. It’s the quality of the conversation (and the person) that counts ..for me anyway… not how much money you spend..case in point.. Hubby came out to Cali to visit me for the first time (many moons ago), I was trying to impress him and we pulled up at one of the uberrestaurants in Hollywood. I was going to show him! Got a new job, new little salary.. I was doing it! Don’t you know b4 we even get to the place.. he’s gonna ask “Ling, do they serve Turkey Wings and Rice?” … WTH!!!!.. You can take the man out of Brooklyn, but not the Brooklyn out of the man!

By kinderbabe

April 30, 2007 1:13 PM | Link to this

sj now, i’m not dating no broke *hole, lol…well, i wouldn’t date a rich one either. seriously though, i would date someone who did not make as much as i do assuming that everything else was in order (good chemistry, great conversation, good manners, etc.) i have never been the type to let someone’s paycheck determine if we’re gonna date or not. if you make more, less, the same or whatever, just have a J O B…lol. that’s the main thing, legal employment..lol. as we spoke about earlier, it’s about common interests and a good vibe. you can’t buy that.:)

By Sexione

April 30, 2007 1:15 PM | Link to this

do you/will you date down financially?

I have (in the past) and will date a guy who makes less than me. That’s not really an issue. To me it’s more about how he spends the money he does make. Bills paid on time? Taking care of kids (if there are any)? Spending more money on his car than anything else? Buying $250 shoes and can’t go to dinner? Does he desire to earn more? What is he doing to advance professionally and financially? Will he attempt to lean on me financially? A man whose priorities are in the right order can overcome his current earning status. My .02 cents….

By ENOUGH

April 30, 2007 1:18 PM | Link to this

Sexione ENOUGH already with the jokes. Everyone gets those same tired emails passed to them 100x. GOODGAWD!

By Linguist

April 30, 2007 1:19 PM | Link to this

Soooo… we gotta keep it simple huh?…lololol… Okay, LorDemi and C tha 1… I was just going to start talking about the objectification of psychometrics.. ((heavy sigh)), but since that causes some men headaches… I’ll stick to subjects that some of you know best.. “what do you want me to make you for dinner?” .. (winks)

By Sexione

April 30, 2007 1:19 PM | Link to this

Slim if i dated down financially, i would be left to date the unemployed or homeless. Guuurrllll, ^5!!!

kinder I agree about the chemistry, common interests, good vibe…..hellz these days, I would be shocked at even meeting a guy that had those qualities. lol

By Randyt (aka "Been there, Done that, got a closet FULL of t-shirts)

April 30, 2007 1:21 PM | Link to this

Hey Slim

Would you consider going ‘dutch’ at Cici’s if I have a ‘buy one, get one free coupon’ (“Baby, you know we’ll have enough money left over for the ‘Dollar Cinema’ and I’m sneaking in a couple of Sam’s colas and a bag of M&M’s from the Easter markdown rack at Walgreens! By the way, do you happen to have BP card, I’m a runnin a little thin on the gas gauge?”

By Sexione

April 30, 2007 1:22 PM | Link to this

ENOUGH just for that I will continue to post them…..and by the way, they are not emails….duh!!! Now be man/woman ENOUGH to use your regular blog name……punk!! lol

By LorDemi

April 30, 2007 1:24 PM | Link to this

KB I am doing very well, how long before this school year ends?

By SeanJohnson

April 30, 2007 1:26 PM | Link to this

@ Ling..question wasnt loaded…and i am not speaking of your example..we all know when we are young…financial status isnt that important…i mean if u had to start over and where u are in life right now..

@ KB..sounds like you are in the middle grown on this one…lol..he has to be make a little something..but as long as the chemistry is there

@ Slim and Sxeone…i know the pickings for you too cant be that slim

By C tha 1

April 30, 2007 1:28 PM | Link to this

Objectification of psychometrics?! That’s cute, you just a big ole nerd ain’t cha Ling;)

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 1:31 PM | Link to this

Randyt i’m literally cracking up over here! I would surely be down for a buy one, get one, go dutch deal. As far as the Dollar Cinema i’ve been known many times to sneak in my own beverages-n-snacks. To me that would be a fun date acting like we were teenagers. Matter-of-fact, we’d have to go to Cinema 10 in Fayetteville because on Tuesdays it’s only 75cents. Talkin bout a deal!

BUT hellz no on the gas. I don’t need a dude mooching off my .98 banquet microwave meals. lol

By mickiedee

April 30, 2007 1:32 PM | Link to this

Sean Johnson … yeah, you were putting words in my mouth. Cause I was specifically talking about that if men (in general) only want women they can take care of financially what do women who don’t need that help supposed to do? quit our jobs and work in something that pays less?

This is what happens to me in dating - one of three options: 1) guy makes about the same as me (he works in IT also) but he only wants me as a side chick. He ends up with a main woman that is low tech and lower salary (educated but might be a teacher or something like that); 2) guy makes less than me and stays around for one date but i never hear from him again (believe me i don’t flaunt anything - my car is 9 years old). or 3) guy makes less than me and pretends like he wants to start dating but nothing ends up happening (maybe one or two dates but he keeps in touch all the time after that) and talks about how he plans to go to school and change jobs or blah blah. some of them even make up stuff about their job or education (I find out this later).

By NCgirlfromATL

April 30, 2007 1:35 PM | Link to this

SJ @ your 12:57 post…I want to date a good man. If that means we eat at Golden Corral (aka “the GC”) more often than we eat at Bones, I have ZERO problem with that. I’ve told the story about the guy I dated that took me to ahem…(sorry Slim) Biscuitville on our first date. Cost him all of $6.50, but I had a great time! And the biscuit was slammin! Later, we went to Outback for my birthday, and other, much less expensive places. He did have some issues w/ our income difference (which didn’t become evident to me until he came to my house for the first time), and we eventually broke up (after I caught him w/ another woman, whom he said was more “compatible”.) Oh well. You live and you learn. But, I’m not going to be limited by income. Just have one. If I had to put any kind of income limitation out there, it’s that perhaps being a 38 yr old man working the fries at McDonalds, maybe it’s time for an upgrade. But, to me, that’s an ambition issue more than an income issue. Just my opinion.

By ENOUGH

April 30, 2007 1:35 PM | Link to this

Well, I’ve read the same jokes in a form of email. So you’re getting those jokes out of a joke book? even more pathetic. Anyway, many on here are thinking it. They’re just not man/woman enough to tell you. And the name calling? very childish.

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 1:36 PM | Link to this

SJ I think you missed the hidden point that me and Sexione were making. But i did leave out one category if i were to ‘date down financially….full time students. lol

By LorDemi

April 30, 2007 1:37 PM | Link to this

Linguist LOL, I will have jerk chicken and rice…

Slim I was refering to my body, but you stand correct…All natural here, LOL.

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 1:39 PM | Link to this

mickiedee i’m curious, have you ever tried not telling a guy you’re in IT to see if he continues wanting to date you thereafter? OR have you ever wondered if it could possibly be something other than your line of work that turns these men off?

By Sexione

April 30, 2007 1:42 PM | Link to this

SJ you would be surprised…or maybe not!!! Seems that I may be in that transition age group. I don’t want one too young or too old…….and what do I meet, some dude in his mid to late 20’s (thinking that I am about his age because I look it) or some dude who’s 50+. WTH????

By NCgirlfromATL

April 30, 2007 1:43 PM | Link to this

randyt Your scenario is fine…after we’ve been dating for a bit. I suppose it depends on the impression you’re trying to make. If it’s presented as a man who is hustling everyday, going to work, paying his bills, but has a little extra set aside to treat his woman, then I wouldn’t have any problems with the whole thing. In fact, I might clip a few coupons myself for the next date. But, if the impression is that you’re just a cheapsake, and we roll up in your brand new Lexus, and you pull out a wad of cash to pay for your half of the meal, then perhaps not. It would give me the impression that being in my company is not worth the $15…opps $16, forgot about the movie, it might cost you that night. No one wants to feel like they aren’t worth the effort.

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 1:46 PM | Link to this

LorDemi I know honey. Just messing with ya on this Merely Monday. It’s all love. Slim now trying to picture demi’s all natural hard body…Hmmmm

By SexyLeggs

April 30, 2007 1:46 PM | Link to this

Good afternoon everyone. I would never dumb myself down to have a man interested in me. While I was obtaining my BA in Criminal Law, men have asked me on numerous occasions why do I speak w/proper English and why my vocabulary is as rich as it is. WTF….never saw them again. Shoot, by yourself. If you’re smart, you’re smart.

By mickiedee

April 30, 2007 1:46 PM | Link to this

Slim, How long could I keep it a secret? About turning off, I’m not sarcastic, condescending, or nasty. I am kind of reserved until I get to someone better. Other than that, I don’t know what it could be.

By LorDemi

April 30, 2007 1:47 PM | Link to this

mickiedee just do you, a real man respects your accomplishments. You’ve dated a few busters so what…What type of men are you choosing to go out with?

SJ an even better question: Men will you feel comfortable in a relationship were your spouse make more than you, but doesn’t throw it in your face?

Believe it or not, most guys avoid those types of relationship.

By Linguist

April 30, 2007 1:47 PM | Link to this

:) :) … Hee Hee Hee and Tiddley Winks to you C!.. said while now putting on glasses..dayum those contact lenses!

SJ Okay, If I were starting over… again, heavy sigh.. I don’t know that I would be willing to support a man that had tremendous financial burdens - where all that is financial is on me.. Been there done that.. However, if we are talking about simply going to dinner/movie, etc… I don’t have a problem with keeping it simple..and cheap… If he would take me to a 5 star restaurant - then great, and conversely, if he could only afford a simple place, than as long as he were honest about it then I wouldn’t have a problem.. But Ling doesn’t do “McDonalds and Jim Bob’s BBQ” all the time either Does that explain my position better… or has the meaning falling down into an abyss somewhere?

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 1:49 PM | Link to this

Sexione OMG! you have that same issue too, either they’re jailbait or oldbait. I know i’m not that old or anything but this 22 year old tried to holler at me at a local sports bar a few weeks ago. It just felt wrong plus i could tell by the things he was saying that he was trying to say things he felt i’d want to hear.

By NCgirlfromATL

April 30, 2007 1:50 PM | Link to this

Sexione Your jokes are great! Keep posting them. We need a bit of levity…opps I meant we need to get our hardy har on (wink wink C tha 1) on the blog e’rynowanden!

By Randyt (aka "Been there, Done that, got a closet FULL of t-shirts)

April 30, 2007 1:51 PM | Link to this

Hey NC

That is one of the many things I like about my current SO. She has had the money, the fine cars, etc., and ultimately realized that none of that is important to her. Do I spend money, sometimes a lot. Do I sometimes go to the Dollar Cinema on Roswell Rd., sure, she showed me how to get there. Ultimately the fact is that we thoroughly enjoy each other’s company, and doing the picnic thing, or stretching a blanket out by the ‘hooch, and just watching the people, or wandering through antique stores is great. It is the quality of the conversation, not the $$$$ on the menu that is what bonds one to another.

By MusingLee

April 30, 2007 1:55 PM | Link to this

Sexi Girl, you keep posting your jokes…I really liked the old man tying dudes balz to the rock and the bed…LOLOLOLOLOLOL

By SeanJohnson

April 30, 2007 2:03 PM | Link to this

@ MickieDee…sounds like u make a decent salary and you TELL men that in so many words..just like in chocopeaches friends case…u are using it as leverage directly/indirectly. what i have learned about people..and again..i am not speaking of you..dont know u personally…but people who talk about their money with the opposite sx is either shallow or trying to use it to make up for short comings in other areas…either personality/conversation wise or physical short commings..

@ Slim…i didnt miss the piont….i dont care how much u make…u cool with me….thats not an issue with me in dating..i am more concern on if you can manage it rather than make it..

By C tha 1

April 30, 2007 2:05 PM | Link to this

Oh yeah Ling, a brotha like fried chicken … its about the only thing I got in common wiht Flava Flav. But if gettin your Aunt Jamima on will distort your body image and lower your self esteem I’ll settle for som KFC (winks)

By simpleman

April 30, 2007 2:05 PM | Link to this

Is someone who is getting there PHD (in Education, probably) in somthing (in Education, probably)and who works as a high school guidance counselor really that smart as to be “intimidating”? Please.

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

April 30, 2007 2:07 PM | Link to this

SJ Yes. To answer your earlier question. I would date down. As long as the gentleman is a gentleman and is not talking stupid(calling me shawty,old lady, broad, chick or gal), has some generally good convo(read some kind of book…comic books dont count unless he is into sci-fi or such) and enjoys something more int the way of music other than “it is hard out here for a pimp” then we might be ok for starters.

Now Handy Dandy Randy I wouldnt mind “Dating on a Dime” because with the price of gas and other items we need to live in comfort. It is smart to date with a budget in mind. I would have enjoyed a nice date this weekend at Inman Park…Marta was 3.75 round trip. A gyro 7.00 bucks, looking at the bands and all the artist with their wares cost me zero.

By Randyt (aka "Been there, Done that, got a closet FULL of t-shirts)

April 30, 2007 2:08 PM | Link to this

Sexione

It is funny how many guys fifteen, maybe twenty years younger than my current SO and most of the ladies I have dated, hit on them. The reaction of the women is WTF, and they think the guys are just kidding. They are equally surprised to find out that those guys see a ‘hot mama’ (translate, “MILF”) and find them dayum attractive, and unfortunately they also hope they are easy for a ‘one nighter’. They never seem to realize how ‘hot’ they really are.

A lot of those ladies do ultimately try the ‘boy toy’ at least once. It is the ‘validation’ thing that so many divorcees go through. Happens all the time if the lady is pretty hot (oh crap, I hope I don’t get Biff started).

By NCgirlfromATL

April 30, 2007 2:09 PM | Link to this

Men will you feel comfortable in a relationship were your spouse make more than you, but doesn’t throw it in your face?

Great question, LorDemi!! I appreciate you asking your blog bretheren this question, b/c quite often we women get put on the hotseat to answer a question for which we can’t possibly have the right answer.

randyt See, that’s exactly what I’m talking about. A good balance of spending. I’m sure there are plenty of women in ATL that expect a 5star dinner each time you go out, but I’d bet the vast majority just want to have a good time. I’m the type that loves those hole-in-the-wall places with really good food and drinks for cheap. Especially Mexican! Yumm! LOL! randy Your SO is a lucky woman to have you back! Best wishes to you both!

By Sexione

April 30, 2007 2:13 PM | Link to this

You are a punk if you can’t tell me that while posting as usual. My feelings aren’t hurt,hellz I don’t even know you, nor you me. All I’m saying is say what you mean and mean what you say. If you have to change your name to say it, then it is what it is!!!! And what does it matter where I’m getting the jokes from……….did someone p!ss in your cornflakes this morning? Or do you simply have a tiny sense of humor? Whateva……

By Cassie

April 30, 2007 2:14 PM | Link to this

NCGirl -

I know that it’s valid advice. My ex husband and the following boyfriend both felt like I was being the “man” in the relationship, and that they had no reason to contribute anything! It’s a power play, I know.

And if I’m really honest….if I’m the one bringing home the bread, and my partner isn’t either bringing it home or bringing home as much, I expect said partner to pick up more of the chores at home.

After all, that’s what housewifes were expected to do, why not house husbands?

By mickiedee

April 30, 2007 2:15 PM | Link to this

SeanJohnson…I’m sitting here trying to figure out how you think that I tell men anything. Don’t you think that when a man hears “systems analyst” they just assume decent salary? But I don’t know if it is the salary or the kind of work that turns them off? IF it was the same salary but in a lower tech field they might not have a problem with it. I don’t know.

By Linguist

April 30, 2007 2:16 PM | Link to this

SJ… okay, I’ve pontificated about this long enough …Opps! sorry! … I mean.. uh.. I’ve thought about it … if I were doing it again… dating, that is.. Can I get a man that has all his teeth.. and maybe clean fingernails?? :)

By LorDemi

April 30, 2007 2:17 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs hey you!!!

Slim I know sis…*you can catchademi in Lafitness 7pm - 8pm m-f…you can watch me do my sexy man workout for only 19.95 a month…

CASH ONLY Checks and credit cards are not accepted per management

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

April 30, 2007 2:18 PM | Link to this

mickiedee what leads you to think that it’s your job? I understand that you may not know what it is….so why focus on the job?

I just think if women are running into these insecure men the answer isn’t to hide what you’re doing…one may find it to be fascinating about you or cover up your educational accomplishments…PhD does NOT translate into 6-figure salaries automatically. I dated a guy while he was finishing up his PhD in neuroscienc biology. So yes SJ I will date someone who makes less than me. NEway, he made around $50K after graduation because he took a post-doc job and worked under a scientist in his lab…I think it’s all about the type guys you meet and those YOU decide to invest your time and energy into….some just aren’t worth it!

By SeanJohnson

April 30, 2007 2:19 PM | Link to this

@ Demi…u are right…most guys avoid those types of relationships…but in all honestly…the way things are set up women will always have more opportunities in corporate america than we will…not complaining..just the way things are..and will always be…females look around..its always a bigger percentage of yall than us…but me personally…i am comfortable dating a female that makes more than me..and will marry one….and if mess around and really be bringing home the bacon…i will have a talk with her and become a stay at home dad…raise the kids..clean..cut grass.COOK..rub her back and feet when she gets home…AND i wouldnt be stingy with the SeanJohnson…

By Linguist

April 30, 2007 2:20 PM | Link to this

Simpleman … interesting choice of Moniker given your thought provoking - and argument inducing -statement…who works as a high school guidance counselor really that smart as to be “intimidating”? Please… care to elaborate? … no, really…

By Sexione

April 30, 2007 2:22 PM | Link to this

Thanks Musing and NCgirl, it’s all in good fun!!!

Randyt I understand what you’re saying. I know a lot of these young guys think older women are hot, some think we are desperate…or much more tolerant of certain things. Either way, it’s often quite comical……..like fishing in a big pond with a teeny tiny rod!! lol

By T-Mango

April 30, 2007 2:25 PM | Link to this

but people who talk about their money with the opposite sex is either shallow or trying to use it to make up for short comings in other areas…

True.

By Linguist

April 30, 2007 2:25 PM | Link to this

Cassie 2:14 ^5^5^5… your entire post…

By mickiedee

April 30, 2007 2:26 PM | Link to this

ok everyone. I have to admit I don’t meet men often. I can go a year or two and not have any dates. So I make the mistake of accepting one from someone I shouldn’t.

By LorDemi

April 30, 2007 2:29 PM | Link to this

Cassie putting how much you make aside, you don’t want a man, but a dog…

Another day of dog training in Cassie’s mega manson:

Cassie: Sit charlie, sit.

Charlie: Woof!! (<==== a little dog bark.)

By Sexione

April 30, 2007 2:31 PM | Link to this

Signs That You’re Broke At communion you go back for seconds.

You think of a lottery ticket as an investment.

You’re formulating a plan to rob the food bank.

Long distance companies don’t call you to switch.

You give blood everyday.. just for the orange juice.

McDonald’s is the supplier of all your kitchen condiments.

American Express calls and says: “Leave home without it!”

Your idea of a 7-course meal is taking a deep breath outside a restaurant.

You’ve rolled so many pennies, you’ve formed a psychic bond with Abe Lincoln

By SeanJohnson

April 30, 2007 2:38 PM | Link to this

@ MickieDee…maybe thats your problem..u should date more…DarkDimples gave some good advise.

@ Linquist..u can keep the “big” words coming..i keep my dictionary handy..lol..about the clean finger nail thing..do i have to remind you how a females nails look when she scratches her head when she has color in it? dont worry though..i make sure my nails are clean when my fingers do the walking…

By Sexione

April 30, 2007 2:38 PM | Link to this

Demi good question!! I have one to add. Men, will you feel comfortable in a relationship where the woman makes less than you (but is employed), and may need help from time to time with her expenses? What if she needed help often?

Disclaimer: Not the “shopping before paying her bills” type OR the “trying to impress her friends” type….I’m talking about a hard working, serious minded woman who just needs help, period!

By NoNonsense

April 30, 2007 2:42 PM | Link to this

This topic is always an interesting one for me when I read it here because I just so happen to have more education than my husband but our relationship was never threatened by it. Neither was it threatened by my ability to earn more which I did for the first 10 years of our marriage.

You should not doubt the depth of a person’s bank of knowledge based on whether or not it came with a piece of paper. I found that while dating we had the best conversations about things that I had no idea about. We would sit in the park and he would point out different flowers, birds and butterflies and would tell me all there was to know about them. We had debates about history based on what I learned in a classroom compared to what he learned studying the bible. The is so much now that he continues to inform me about that has to do with day to day living and what he encounters everyday. So while my degrees may allow me to earn more in a shorter time frame his never ending will to learn more and more keep us entertained.

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 2:44 PM | Link to this

Sexione gurl don’t bother with that but you did remind me of something one of my guy friends use to say, “Who P!ssed in your Grits this morning?” lol

LorDemi how about a payment plan? You’ve got to work with a sistah lol

SJ managing is a big part of it, you’re right. I just hate when folks feel they are superior and/or better than you because of the comma’s in their bank account balance or by the amount of degrees on the wall. I’m a laid back chick trying to make it in this world. Love it or leave it is what i tell em.

By Joel K. Jones

April 30, 2007 2:45 PM | Link to this

I am not the intelligent one, but looking at some of the highly educated women, I am most sure that I wouldn’t want anything to do with them,. Take for instance Condeleeza Rice. With all of her smarts, why doesn’t she have a man? I would bet that it is because she wears her education on her sleeve, and never has a smily on her face.

By mickiedee

April 30, 2007 2:47 PM | Link to this

I wish it was that easy to date more. But I just don’t run into anyone to date.

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 2:50 PM | Link to this

mickiedee i only asked if you tried the vague approach about your job just to see if that in fact was the issue. I’m not sure what else it could be either. Maybe we should send you on a mock date with one of the dudes here and start a dating profile on ya.

Sexione I’ll be sitting back waiting to here the guys responses to that question.

By Sexione

April 30, 2007 2:51 PM | Link to this

A high school English teacher reminds her class of tomorrow’s final exam.

“Now class, I won’t tolerate any excuses for you not being there tomorrow. I might consider a nuclear attack or a serious personal injury or illness, or a death in your immediate family, but that’s it, no other excuses whatsoever.”

A smart azz guy in the back of the room raises his hand and asks, “What would you say if tomorrow I said I was suffering from complete and utter sexual exhaustion?”

The entire class does its best to stifle their laughter and snickering. When silence is restored, the teacher smiles sympathetically at the student, shakes her head, and sweetly says, “Well, I guess you’d have to write the exam with your other hand.”

By kinderbabe

April 30, 2007 2:52 PM | Link to this

demi all is well in kinderland…lol. we are out in 19 days! yippee!!

sj you’re right, i am on the middle grown when it comes to income. maybe i would make a good libra…lol.

sexione it definitely would be nice to meet someone that has good energy…let’s see what the cards hold for us this summer. gotta be some good brothas out there!:)

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

April 30, 2007 2:54 PM | Link to this

slim Maybe we should send you on a mock date with one of the dudes here and start a dating profile on ya

How about LL or truth?

Nah, that’s just plain cruel! LOL

By mickiedee

April 30, 2007 2:55 PM | Link to this

Oops! I posted before I finished typing. Slim, I don’t live in ATL anymore but I am thinking about moving back.

By Sexione

April 30, 2007 2:57 PM | Link to this

I’m outta here….but I will drop in later to read the remaining posts. Peace!

By SeanJohnson

April 30, 2007 2:57 PM | Link to this

@ Sxeone..depends on the relationship…”just dating” maybe not..but if we are in a relationshp..a serious relationship…i wouldnt have a problem helping her…we should have each others back in all aspects..including financially..as far as often…we would talk about your financial situation..get you to watch some suze orman..to get u on track to your financial independence..

By NCgirlfromATL

April 30, 2007 2:57 PM | Link to this

Joel K. Jones What do you mean Condi doesn’t have a man? She’s had a man for the last 7 years! She just loans him out to his wife for photo ops. LOLOL! (Yes, I’m jokingly talking about Dubb-yah.)

But, I get what you’re saying. In her case, I do believe there is a true element of intimidation. I can only imagine how hard it would be for a regular, 9-5 guy to step to her. I don’t think she wears her education on her sleeve so much as she’s a public person with a hugely important job. She can’t escape her career, and even if she quit today, I imagine it would still make dating a guy she met in Starbucks difficult. That’s a power perception more than it’s an education thing.

Cassie I hear what you’re saying. All I’m saying is that the dating pool shrinks dramatically when you exclude men who make less than you. I’d rather have a hard-working, good, respectful, loving man who makes less than me, than a baller who treats me like crap anyday!

By NCgirlfromATL

April 30, 2007 3:00 PM | Link to this

Lawd Lady DD don’t wake up LL! LOL!

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 3:01 PM | Link to this

LDD if we do that, she’ll lose all hope of men and she might consider switching teams. You think Musing would do it if it was in a controlled setting? lol since he’s engaged and all

By Deidre

April 30, 2007 3:01 PM | Link to this

why does it matter if Ms. Rice is smiling at work? Why don’t they ever say that about male politicians who are “not smiling” for the cameras. She isn’t trying to get a man while she is helping that fruitcake run the country, anyway.

Maybe she smiles in SOCIAL SETTING, like when she wants to. With all her accomplishments, “she doesn’t have a man” means WHAT exactly? Her life isn’t whole until that happens? You can not be serious.

By Cassie

April 30, 2007 3:02 PM | Link to this

V funny, Lor…

Seriously, I’m gonna work 70 hours a week while I let someone sit on their butt and then have the nerve to ask me what’s for dinner?

All I’m asking is for a little equality. If the roles were reversed, and I was the one making less, you’d bet your a* that I’d be at home, making, dinner, cooking and cleaning because that would be the right thing to do. Isn’t that what a man would expect of his non working wife? Why shouldn’t I expect that of a non working man?

And dogs at least have enough sense to love you no matter what you do (speaking as a proud dog owner).

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 3:05 PM | Link to this

mickiedee where are you living now?

Joel K. Jones also people that’s in the public eye, especially politics, have a certain image to uphold. true that it doesn’t work all the time but could you really see Condi being able to ‘let her hair down’ so-to-speak enough to attract a guy? You shouldn’t be able to catch her sneaking in the dollar theater with a big mac meal and a St. Ides and some raisinettes. It just wouldn’t look right.

By Cassie

April 30, 2007 3:05 PM | Link to this

NCGirl - that was dead funny! You’ve got some wit.

I’m not saying that I rule it out entirely, dating someone who makes less bank than I. I don’t even discuss it when I go out on dates, but most men make an assumption when they ask “what do you do” and I tell them. Somehow, those are the dates where I always end up buying! LOL.

If I found a man that made me feel like a princess, like the apple of his eye, none of this would matter.

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 3:10 PM | Link to this

Cassie someone just told me this joke today. What’s the difference in a dog after a year as apposed to husband after a year?………

A dog is still excited to see you when you get home.
When my ex wasn’t working, you better believe that i expected some extra effort from him when i got home. I didn’t tolerate me being the sole financial provider but have to come home to a trail of his clothes throughout the house, the cat litter running over, and no dayum food! It was only a matter of respect for him to make sure those things were taken care of by the time i got home.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

April 30, 2007 3:12 PM | Link to this

NC and Slim I know…Musing would be good, but I don’t want to get him in trouble. I thought about SJ* but I don’t think she’ll be able to handle him….SJ will have her in his home office doing a pap smear….I think Jake would make a good candidate…if not, then try randyt

By mickiedee

April 30, 2007 3:16 PM | Link to this

I live in Tampa, Fl

By Randyt (aka "Been there, Done that, got a closet FULL of t-shirts)

April 30, 2007 3:20 PM | Link to this

OOOPS NC and Slim and LDD

I missed something here. Who am I the FOURTH CHOICE for, Condi? If it is any consolation, I do find her intriguing, but again I wonder if she puts away that “corporate personna” when alone with a romantic interest. Also would have to wonder, can she turn that DAYUM CELL PHONE/BEEPER off? No calls allowed, even from the head honcho if we are embracing!!!LOL.

By mickiedee

April 30, 2007 3:22 PM | Link to this

Y’all are so sweet. If I move back then y’all have to help me out. I need a dating coach(es). Do you all have blog get togethers anymore?

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 3:26 PM | Link to this

LDD we might need to leave Randyt out as well. They just got back together. Ohh maybe we could try *For Real but he might try to take inappropriate pictures.

By NCgirlfromATL

April 30, 2007 3:27 PM | Link to this

Lady DD Now you know, Musing would be on the date looking all down her throat to see if she still had her tonsils! Randyt just got back w/ his SO, so he’s off the market (a good candidate if he was available though). Somebody needs to check Dr. SeanJ’s credentials…somehow I don’t think that medical degree from the Upper College of Lower Acworth is legit. (Get it, UCLA! LOL!) Jake hmmm…I dunno…you might want to run a background check on him…you know how free he is with the kisses and hugs…he might be involved with that madam up in DC or something. (totally joking!)

By BlatinoBrutha - back from hiatus

April 30, 2007 3:35 PM | Link to this

Hey, Ya’ll! Not much to add on this topic, just sayin hey to my peeplz. I’ll be lurking, though……

By LorDemi

April 30, 2007 3:39 PM | Link to this

SeanJohnson I am now signing your 2:19 post with my Ford F350!!!!

By NCgirlfromATL

April 30, 2007 3:39 PM | Link to this

Randyt I was trying to look out for you. You’re never 4th choice in my mind! You could teach a few of the blog men a thing or two! Frankly, I’d bet Condi is a freak behind closed doors! That’s why her hair looks a hot mess some days. No time to get into the White House beautician to get that ‘do done! LOL! But, you’re right, you’d always be competing w/ that cell phone. Kind of reminds you of the C.J. Cregg character on West Wing. Exciting job…no personal life.

By SeanJohnson

April 30, 2007 3:41 PM | Link to this

@ DarkDimples & NCATLIEN..i see yall got jokes…didnt go to UCLA..went Tech..and..no not GaTech like you Dimples…Vagina Tech..yall just make sure yall clean and fresh before coming to get a pap please..

By john collins

April 30, 2007 3:41 PM | Link to this

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By SeanJohnson

April 30, 2007 3:45 PM | Link to this

@ NCATLIEN…something about condi tells me that too…a female like that likes to be dominated behind closed doors…i got money on it…

By MusingLee

April 30, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this

Slim & NCgirl…I could still be a dating coach for mickieD…..

Musing: Ok, todays lesson…How to order dinner with a dude.

Musing and MickieD sitting at the dinner table…Musing orders a shrimp dish at $24…MickieD places an order for a $32 steak…..

Musing: Nooooooo! That’s why you’re single….The Woman must always order a meal no more than 1/2 minus $3 of your dude….Your limit is $9.

MickieD now ordering the Kids Chicken Fingers

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this

NC have you been sneaking drinks from behind the blog bar, because you are funny breaking all the blog men down. UCLA=Upper College of Lower Acworth LOL

Yeah SeanJ we need to see your resume…we might have a job for you. Are you available or what? stats please.

By LorDemi

April 30, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this

Sexione I am not 21-25 anymore, I expect a woman to be able to handle her own without my help in anyway…I date mostly mature sister, so it is your fault that I turned out this way.

By Randyt (aka "Been there, Done that, got a closet FULL of t-shirts)

April 30, 2007 3:47 PM | Link to this

NC

I’d bet Condi is a freak behind closed doors!

That is EXACTLY WHY I only date (at least more than once) intelligent women. The smarter they are, the more inventive and exciting they are “behind closed doors”. I tend to agree, she probably is something else when she lets loose.

By Jake

April 30, 2007 3:51 PM | Link to this

Hey RandyT, I just got back in, i guess I’m thrird tier…LOL

NC kisses and hugs for you baby…HEHEHE

By LorDemi

April 30, 2007 3:54 PM | Link to this

SlimOne how does $5.00 a week sound? But if we start sweating together, it’s free!!

By SeanJohnson

April 30, 2007 3:54 PM | Link to this

@ Slim…u know medical records are confidential…once u get a pap info is not discussed in a public forum like this..

By LorDemi

April 30, 2007 3:59 PM | Link to this

mickiedee where do you live now?

By Vic

April 30, 2007 4:00 PM | Link to this

I am attracted to intelligence in a woman. If we can’t have an intellectual conversation at lest some of the time, I will easily get bored. My mind has to be stimulated along with the other parts.

The men who are intimidated with women who make more than them usually end up with women either at or below their level. That makes them feel secure. I am secure man, and I feel what’s hers is mine, and vice versa. If she feels that everything is separate, then we have a problem.

By MusingLee

April 30, 2007 4:03 PM | Link to this

NCgirl & Joel K I’d beat my Adidas that Condi Rice can work a “stick shift”..and is a skrait freak’em girl behind the doors…She probably into some crazy ishh.

Dude tied to bed waiting on Condi to exit the bathroom

Dude: Hey, why are this pummel horse beside the bed

Condi then races out the bathroom jumps onto the gym apperatus and does a full twist, no hand, triple sow-cow, p-dussy busta onto the wang…

Dude: Ahhhhh Ishhhhh

Dude is now in wang therapy er’Tuesday and Thursday.

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 4:04 PM | Link to this

Musing well according to your example, i’m not sure how good of a coach you would be. Isn’t the chick supposed to order first?

In negotiatian mode, Slim writes on a piece of paper and slides back over to LorDemi

How about $2.50 a week with a kiss in a different spot w/o all the sweating?

By Just a Thought

April 30, 2007 4:07 PM | Link to this

Hi all! It’s been a while since I’ve added my two cents, but I felt the need to contribute to today’s topic. I didn’t read ALL the post before mine, but a majority of what I’ve read seems to lean towards the same conclusion. Most of you don’t agree with “dumbing” yourself down. I don’t think I agree with that idea either, but there are times when I have been guilty of toning myself down. It all depends on the calibre of man I’m seeking. If it’s someone I meet at the club and all I want is a free drink (if one free drink makes me a goldigger, then hand me a shovel), do you think when you ask me what I do that I’m going to say, I am under 25 and work for a world reknowned engineering company, and I’m attending one of the top 10 engineering schools in the country working on my masters? I don’t think so! That type of man, who’s all up in my face, doesn’t want an intelligent beauty. All he sees is someone to run game on. Well, game peeps game. There’s a book called 48 Laws of Power. One of the “laws” states, “Play the fool, to play the fool.” If you don’t understand that you’re probably getting played quite often. Sometimes to get what you want, you have to get down on someone else’s level. It’s not manipulative…it’s life..it’s about making that connection. Some people don’t think they can connect with others because they are better educated, better paid, etc. I definitely don’t feel this way, but I am aware of it. So, yes I am guilty of toning it down. I don’t tell you what I do unless asked and I definitely won’t go into detail. Hearing people tell me, “you don’t look like an engineer” gets really old.

By LorDemi

April 30, 2007 4:08 PM | Link to this

mickiedee honest what do you for fun or to relax. Tampa is a great city to meet people…Well, at lease for me…You live 2hrs from Orlando, 5 hours from Miami, and a few minutes from the beach…You must be in your early thirties.

By mickiedee

April 30, 2007 4:09 PM | Link to this

Tampa, FL

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 4:09 PM | Link to this

SJ I didn’t want your pap resume, but your stats, are you single? MickieD needs a dating coach.

By Randyt (aka "Been there, Done that, got a closet FULL of t-shirts)

April 30, 2007 4:11 PM | Link to this

Behind Condi’s door

What was it Jeff Foxworthy said in a skit about how single men have the best stories…”there I was, naked and handcuffed to the bed, 30 weight motor oil smeared all over my body. She walked into the room carrying a saddle and a set of jumper cables…”

Yup, I could imagine some interesting times between cell phone calls!!!

By Bella

April 30, 2007 4:16 PM | Link to this

Wow, guys! You’ve been great today! Thanks for all the thought everyone put into this. Can’t wait until tomorrow…

By LorDemi

April 30, 2007 4:21 PM | Link to this

Slim LOL, I guess there is always tomorrow…I can’t out do you on the prices.

By Linguist

April 30, 2007 4:25 PM | Link to this

Slim Whatever you do, don’t.. I repeat Don’t let ForReal be MickieDee’s dating coach! He’ll start off innocently enough, and then start taking pics for his “magazine”.. oh, wait, make that his MLB handbook! lololol

By SeanJohnson

April 30, 2007 4:26 PM | Link to this

@ Slim…single and up to no good…BEWARE of Dog…

By NCgirlfromATL

April 30, 2007 4:30 PM | Link to this

Musing/Randyt Look at y’all! Got Condi all twisted up in the game! LOLOL! And MickieD ordering from the kid’s meal is too funny!

Slim (hiccup) Ssshhhhh girl! Why you gotta put a girl on blast like dat…(hiding my Cuervo from Blue)

Jake Nooooooooo not 3rd tier! Never! LOLOL!

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 4:30 PM | Link to this

LorDemi hey, can’t hate a girl for trying. lol

By Cosigning w/ ENOUGH

April 30, 2007 4:35 PM | Link to this

The jokes are getting old, as is the blog bar. A couple of jokes a blog will suffice, but DAYUMMMMMMMMM your behind inundates (wink) the entire blog with your nonsense. Also, all this blog bar talk has gotten pretty dumb. To go to the extent of having an imaginary donation jar for such tragedies as the Bluffton bus accident is re-dayum-diculous. I have been reading this blog since Mia herself was writing it, but it’s really starting to go down hill. Can we agree to try to limit dumb a__ comments to 2 per person, per blog? Now putting on my imaginary blog vest! (sarcasm 101) LMAO…no really I am!

By Linguist

April 30, 2007 4:38 PM | Link to this

You know.. one of these days… we, the ladies of blogsville, are going to find out what makes the men here… tick.. why they are really single (except for LL,Truth,Justin,WillC, Biff.. we know why they are single!)lol… hmmm, inquiring minds want to know… Bella, Laney and WD this might make a really good topic on one of these rainy days… just a thought .. :)

By DuShawn

April 30, 2007 4:38 PM | Link to this

Sometimes to get what you want, you have to get down on someone else’s level. I agree with that. I think Men “dumb themselves down” far more often than women. In my dating experiences, I have found myself to be a chameleon. I’d adjust the exposure of my intellect to that of the young lady I’m dealing with. I prefer the company of intelligent women. However, if she was fine and dumb, we could still get it down. I would just limit the topic of conversation to areas of her interest, like the latest Jeezy video or some other foolishness. When dating a woman with a lesser level of intellect, you have to be careful not to make the difference in educational achievements obvious. If you flex your wit too much in that situation you may be perceived as arrogant and not her type. I have been as dumb as a back alley foot dragger and as smart as a corporate executive. It depends on the female……..and my patience.

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 4:39 PM | Link to this

SeanJ Slim would be weary of a guy like you but her alter-ego Tiffani doesn’t take heed to warnings…Proceed with caution.

By SeanJohnson

April 30, 2007 4:43 PM | Link to this

@ Slim…shaking my head…just like a gemini..said while SJ leaves a trail of bread crumbs leading to a dark room for slim

By Randyt (aka "Been there, Done that, got a closet FULL of t-shirts)

April 30, 2007 4:44 PM | Link to this

Condi…walking toward the bed with the jumper cables attached to the DieHard Randy did not see before being handcuffed…

Randyt: “Hey Baby, this is cool, but could we discuss some foreign policy first?” (nervously hoping the cell phone WILL ring).

Condi: “You can trust me, big guy. I represent your government, here to serve YOU!!!”

Randyt: “What exactly are the jumper cables and the saddle for?”

Condi: “Baby, first let me put this blindfold on, I want you to be totally in touch with your feelings!!!”

Randyt: Oh ish!!!!

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 4:46 PM | Link to this

Cosigning w/ ENOUGH Can we agree to try to limit dumb a__ comments to 2 per person, per blog? well i guess you’ve used your first one on this comment alone. Thank you for your deposit. clock start ticking, voice comes out of no where ‘YOU HAVE 14 MINUTES 23 SECS AND COUNTING TO SUBMIT YOUR FINAL DUMB @SS COMMENT ON THIS BLOG

By Linguist

April 30, 2007 4:49 PM | Link to this

Okay, people.. What gives.. Huh? I’ve been posting here now, pretty regularly, and it appears that only those that truly “lurk” feel compelled to come out of lurksville (oh, excuse me let me find a more universally excepted term: Hiding) and make some vitriolic statement about those of us that joke, laugh, etc… So you’ve been “lurking” since the “Mia days” huh?.. Okay, so does that give you cart blanche to brow beat those of us that haven’t been around that long? Or the regulars? Don’t like what is being said? Get a real moniker, not hide behind another anonymous person and get on board.. We’ve had too many arguments on this board.. Too many real, substantive discussions to stop b/c of people like you that don’t agree with a joke… It’s a blog, plain and simple… so, get name.. A real one, join us and believe it or not… have fun..

By LorDemi

April 30, 2007 4:50 PM | Link to this

Randyt Dude, for a minute…I really thought you were dating the RICE.

By Linguist

April 30, 2007 4:53 PM | Link to this

Slim …said while popping gum and hands on hip… This evening only… drinks.. from the Musing’s Block Pary Blog Bar are on the house.. that’s right.. from the blog bar…oh, but btw… only approved monikers allowed…

By LorDemi

April 30, 2007 4:55 PM | Link to this

after handing out roses to Slim and Ling…Demi exit stage left

Good Night Too All!!!

By Randyt (aka "Been there, Done that, got a closet FULL of t-shirts)

April 30, 2007 4:56 PM | Link to this

As Condi walks toward the imobilized Randyt (who can’t decide whether to be excited or scared ishless) she says softly, “so tell me Baby, who did you vote for in the last election?”

Randyt thinks, “oh ish!!!, could she know I wrote in “Jack Bauer” from “24”???, and wondering if he is truly fugged this time.

By NCgirlfromATL

April 30, 2007 4:57 PM | Link to this

LMAO @ randyt and the Die Hard (was there a pun intended?) battery! A better question:

Randyt: What exactly are you planning to jump with the jumper cables and saddle?

Condi: Heh Heh (cracking the whip)

Randyt: Bbbbbbbbbrrrrrrrring….brrrrrrrrrrrrriiiiingg…(nervously) Hey Condi, don’t you hear that?

Condi: What?

Randyt: (realizing his fake cell phone ring is working) bbbbbbbbbbbrrrrriiiiiiiing!! It’s your celly! You might wanna answer that…it could be Dubb-yah.

Condi: (intelligent, but not too bright) Hmmm…I thought I told him not to call me between 3am and 5am. (grabbing not-ringing phone) Hello?…Hello? This thing must not be working right…hello?

Randyt is last seen making a Musing-like escape through the bedroom window dressed in dark blue boxers and black socks, and running down the street screaming “BRRRRRRRRRRRRRIIIIIIIIINGGGG!!!”

By Randyt (aka "Been there, Done that, got a closet FULL of t-shirts)

April 30, 2007 4:58 PM | Link to this

Randy walks through the airport to a private plane, and some Dude with a weird grin says, “Guantanamo is nice this time of the year!”

By SlimOne

April 30, 2007 4:58 PM | Link to this

Slim high fiving Ling while doing a patron body shot off of SeanJ

Peace out folks…till we meet again

By Linguist

April 30, 2007 5:02 PM | Link to this

Nighty Nite… good people… Sweet Dreams.. Let’s play nice tomorrow.. okay?

By SlimOne

May 1, 2007 8:41 AM | Link to this

Are we bootlegged blogging today?

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

May 1, 2007 8:57 AM | Link to this

SlimOne we must be!! Blog is out of order again!!! Sigh

By Sexione

May 1, 2007 8:58 AM | Link to this

Slim Apparently so!! Morning!!

By Sexione

May 1, 2007 9:01 AM | Link to this

It’s May!!!! 19 more days and I’ll be grown……..hehehehe

By Jake

May 1, 2007 9:13 AM | Link to this

Good Morning bootleggers.

How is everyone this beautiful morning! I feel great today, ready to leave work already…lol

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

May 1, 2007 9:25 AM | Link to this

Jake I am co-signing your post with my feather pen!!! Is it quittin time yet?!?!

By MusingLee

May 1, 2007 9:25 AM | Link to this

Morn’in All.

Hey QC!

By QC

May 1, 2007 9:26 AM | Link to this

Ain’t nothing better than starting my birthday month of with BLB

13 more days until my special day

Have a great day bloggers!!!!

lol @ Jake, i 2nd that motion!

By SlimOne

May 1, 2007 9:31 AM | Link to this

Morning To all my Bootlegged Bloggers

@Jake, you must be having one of those kinds of mornings. Here, have a muffin and a glass of O J.

By SlimOne

May 1, 2007 9:34 AM | Link to this

I hope all the ignoramuses (yeah new word) aren’t compotent enough to find us in our secret hide-a-way today.

By QC

May 1, 2007 9:35 AM | Link to this

Hi Musing how are you?

By Raqi

May 1, 2007 9:40 AM | Link to this

I have something somewhat interesting that you all can discuss on the BLB. One of my husband’s female cousin told him that she has decided to give up dating men due to her being tired of putting up with their crap and their unaccountable attitudes. She is now in a relationship with a woman. She feels that a woman can better relate to what another needs when it comes to having a meaningful relationship. As he was telling me all of this I could tell from his responses to what she told him, he as with most men assume it has to do with sex although she told him it had nothing to do with the act of sex. While I don’t share her sentiments I can understand what she is saying. Why is it that most men automatically relate a women’s desire to go the other way to be a sexual issue? There is a woman here where I work that is a lesbian and I have heard her say she chose that life style because men just don’t get what it is that woman need emotionally to in a relationship.

Something to ponder while waiting for Bella to post her new topic.

By Cee

May 1, 2007 9:45 AM | Link to this

SlimeOne come up with a topic.

By SlimOne

May 1, 2007 9:58 AM | Link to this

Hey guys i believe the new topic is now up for today. Let’s go on over.

By MusingLee

May 1, 2007 10:07 AM | Link to this

QC I’m doing well…I’ve been sneezing alot, I think it’s the grass pollen.

…I have heard her say she chose that life style because men just don’t get what it is that woman need…

Raqi I find it interesting that she thinks this way…In a relationship sex WILL eventually happen in a committed situation…Your co-worker and his cousin were curious before hand about this…Hellz, there are plenty Woman that don’t get me, but that doesn’t mean I’m gonna hook up with a dude…Hellllzzz Nawwww…You just keep searching.

By Jake

May 1, 2007 10:08 AM | Link to this

Raqi

Ain’t nothin Slick to a can of oil, she has been bi-curious for years. She is justifying her fondness foor the same sex by projecting the thought of men don’t understand. It appears that this lesbian relationship in all likely hood goes against her own belief system, therefore, in order provide herself some comfort in her choice to go ahead and try it, she is projecting that men have failed her and that’s why she is going that way, instead of just admitting that she enjoys female company. Now lets all say it together (cough,cough..Bullshyt)…LOL

By SeanJohnson

May 1, 2007 10:14 AM | Link to this

Sup Blog…said while walking in the flea market blog..

@ Raqi…thats sooo WEAK..and i have heard that so many times from females…why not just admit that she is bi or lezbo and or got turned out by another female rather than blame men. If you are sensitve and emotional there are men that are the same way and can fulfill those needs. Getting hurt by the opposite sx is normal and will happen…for a female to think that if she dates women she wont get hurt…emotionally or PHYSICALLY she is sadly mistaken…women are masters of emotional games….lesbians are insecure men haters…and they are constantly getting physical with there women…beause of the insecurity of not having a penis..and the fear of her lady wanting and or going back to a real one…sorry ladies..plastic dotn beat the real thing..but u already knew that..

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

May 1, 2007 10:50 AM | Link to this

Raqi I must say that I agree with Jake and SJ on this one. Sounds like your friend has been a ahem, Cat Burglar in hiding for a while now and just decided to let it be. No need to blame men for that. Like SJ said, we will all be hurt by the opposite sex, so that excuse is lame.

SJ let me know what you find in the Blog Flea Market, got some time to kill..what better to do than shop!!