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Monday, April 23, 2007
You can’t be serious
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
I had a conversation with a great guy this weekend. He is officially my guy decoder (GD). He has been dating successfully (his words) for at least 10 years. He told me that he advises his sisters about men all the time and he never sugarcoats things. I asked him to give me a few tips about dating men, as if I were his very own sister. What he shared was quite enlightening. I will try to cover some of what he said in more depth this week.
The first thing he brought up was the best type of guy I should take seriously. Generally, men reach a point when they are ready to settle down and find a wife. This is when the type of woman he will seriously date changes.
Guy Decoder said that all men show signs of whether they should be taken seriously or not. Women almost always overlook these signs.
Party Guy: If he is hanging out in bars and clubs to meet women, he probably is in his partying phase. This means that he is focusing on quantity instead of quality.
Mystery Man: He is ambiguous and vague with you. Honest and openness are signs that men are ready to have someone special in their lives. If he is Mr. Mystery about everything, he has a great deal that he is hiding from you, for good reason.
Mr. Right Now: This is the type of man that doesn’t have a clue about where he is going. He is sort of coasting along in life with no real plans to do anything. This could reflect on his maturity and responsibility.
Ladies, have you dated any of these 3 types of guys?
I told GD that all these signs can be found in women, and he agreed. Guys, do you have indicators that let you know when a woman should be taken seriously?
Can any of you share what signs you may have missed when you dated someone in the past? In retrospect, should you have known they were not ready to be serious with anyone?
How can you tell when someone you are dating is ready for something meaningful? If they can’t be taken seriously, do you wait on them or move on?
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