Misadventures in Atlanta

By GA.man

March 29, 2007 8:14 AM | Link to this

Good morning Justme Kinder Qc Raqi Sexylexy Ladyw/dimples mocha Mo Ling Ling ling Peachazz

By SlimOne

March 29, 2007 8:21 AM | Link to this

Morning All Being in love does tend to make you probably do things you wouldn’t do otherwise. It’s a natural high and those crazy little things seem sometimes to keep that buzz going. It’s makes you more spontaneous, feel more exciting, and anxious. Being a little crazy in love may make you want to do things like drive 3 hours at 3 or 4 in the morning to get to your SO. It may make you want to run around outside bucket-nakked. It may make you want to drive to your SO’s job and use silly string to say I LOVE YOU on their car. It may also make you want to call in sick to work for two days because you don’t want to get out the bed with your SO.

I actually haven’t felt this “crazy in love’ feeling in a long time, so i’m not sure if these actions change as you get older. It seems to me to be more crazy when you’re younger…especially when you experience the feeling for the first time.

By Raqi

March 29, 2007 8:26 AM | Link to this

Morning.

Do you find yourself doing things you never thought you would ever do? Is this good or bad?

You know WiseDiva I went out with my girlfriends last night and we were talking about “just stuff” and I made the comment that in my lifetime I think I have done more things that I said I would not ever do compared to the things that I planned or wanted to do.

Do you agree with that? Being crazy and being in love is one and the same?

Yep. All day long. After this past week I know I must be crazy.

By SlimOne

March 29, 2007 8:43 AM | Link to this

Off Topic Hey you all with kids that’s off school for spring break next week….All the Hits Q100 is hosting a free ditch day at Six Flags. Admission is free ONLY between the hours of 6am-9am

http://www.allthehitsq100.com/events/DitchDay07/

By SlimOne

March 29, 2007 8:46 AM | Link to this

Amendment the day is only Thursday of next week.

By Chocolate Peach

March 29, 2007 8:50 AM | Link to this

Morning Good People, Long time no read. W/B Wise!! Bet U had a ball….

Yes, JAMIE is in town & I will see him Sat night. He’s so UNPREDICTABLE!!!

I wouldn’t say crazy, I think it’s INFATUATION, LUST. It’s a new beginning so yes you’re prone to do things out of the ordinary. However I beg to diifer on the statement being in love & being crazy is one of the same.

No, we’re NOT crazy for wanting love or wanting to be love. Everyone wants to be LOVE. It’s one of God’s greatest gifts.

How do I handle it? BALANCE! Dont see too much of said person, like you said don’t STOP having girls nite out, Keep your regular schedule routine, make a little time to add NEW person. Just Enough to show & keep interest, Maintain steady relationships w/my other guy friends (not sexual). FRIENDS!! Lol… & that gets the job done for me. Something I like to call PROLONG…………..

By abc

March 29, 2007 8:54 AM | Link to this

I’m familiar with the stomach butterflies syndrome. It’s symptomatic of being ‘in love’, another side effect of excess dopamine. You don’t age out of it; I’ve been having it a lot lately.

I equate it to having a mental illness. Being ‘in love’, in that regard, really isn’t all that pleasant.

By Sexione

March 29, 2007 8:56 AM | Link to this

Goodmorning Everybody!!

Slim Thanks…my co-worker was just telling us about that. I’m sure my daughter is spreading the word right now!! I’m taking vacation next week to be off with her….and I’m ready!!!

On topic…

There’s a thin line between love and crazy!!

By SlimOne

March 29, 2007 8:59 AM | Link to this

abc I wonder if we all just shot ourselves up with dopamine without having a significant other, would we just cling to the first person that showed us any interest, would we do plain old crazy things, or would we carry on life but just in a happier mood.

By Raqi

March 29, 2007 9:02 AM | Link to this

@abc I’ve been having it a lot lately. Good for you. LOL

I think the most important thing about that “fluttering” is it needs to happen throughout the relationship. Not every day and not even every month but that “being in love” feeling should be renewed IMO somewhere and at sometime to maintain.

By Chullato

March 29, 2007 9:04 AM | Link to this

Slim there is a word for having excess dopamine; it’s called schizophrenia b.k.a. crazy

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

March 29, 2007 9:06 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All

There is another side to the question of the day that I have been dealing with. First off, that feeling is real, but tends to get tempered as one grows older and gets a few scars. One of the most difficult aspects of relationships is that often the two people are not in the same place at the same time. What I mean is that if one is in the “crazy” stage and can’t get enough of the other, and at the same time the other may truly like and desire the other but not with that wild crazy infatuation, it causes problems. It is no secret that the older one gets, generally things become MORE complicated, not less in regard to time demands. We all have lives apart from the other and if one is in this “crazy” stage, he/she can’t understand totally that the other has job demands, children demands, housework demands, and a host of other time demands. People, particularly men, cannot hold up the touchy feely thing as long as a woman IMHO, and then the dreaded “questions” begin, i.e. “do you love me”, “I think you don’t care as much as I do”, and a host of things that are emotional and CANNOT be explained/defended in a LOGICAL way.

My point is “crazy” is good and fun, but PLEASE don’t totally lose your head, or you will get too far out front of your SO and things will then get screwy.

By Sexione

March 29, 2007 9:07 AM | Link to this

Sexi now ordering three cases of dopamine shots for herself and blog friends…..now typing up disclaimer to add to each shot label…

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

March 29, 2007 9:08 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone!!

Do you find yourself doing things you never thought you would ever do? Is this good or bad?

Yes, but they’re things that I think deep down I wanted to do!! I like when a guy can bring something out of you that’s buried deep…speaks to some deep connection…

Do you agree with that? Being crazy and being in love is one and the same?

No, and the crazies need to stay clear from me. I want someone to love enough to compromise and sacrifice…but to do something crazy doesn’t prove that you love me more….it proves that you’re crazy

By Got that?

March 29, 2007 9:11 AM | Link to this

If one starts doing crazy things, that’s a good indicator of infatuation, not love. Love takes time and there’s no rush. Love is a feeling that comes from within. Love is what happens when you accept yourself for everything you are and everything you aren’t and you allow someone else that opportunity. Love doesn’t make you crazy. It actually chills you out. Infatuation, however, is what makes you crazy. It’s like you have to prove something to the other person. That’s a good indicator that love has not shown up in the relationship even though we say that we love the person.

By kinderbabe

March 29, 2007 9:13 AM | Link to this

hey ladydark, slimone, randy, abc, raqi, chullato…everyone who has checked in this morning

i agree that being crazy and in love is not the same. i think it can be kind of crazy for some b/c of the unpredictable nature of love and emotions. it’s not always something you can control, so that’s bad news for control freaks…lol.

By JustMe

March 29, 2007 9:14 AM | Link to this

Good Moring Wise, Slim, Raqi, GA Man, abc, CP, Newbies, Lurkers and friends

On topic: The butterfly effect usually happens after a few very succesful non intimate dates, and when the anticipation of seeing my new friend again is on my mind. Like abc said, an exccessive amount of dopamine in conjunction with spending time with the object of your affection can cause you to do things you never imagined wanting to do let alone actually doing them. Your spontaneous mode kicks in, you let your hair down and throw caution to the wind so to speak because you are filled with joy and anticipation.

I admit that in my younger days, I did do a few things that I might not do again today, but I enjoyed them and I do not regret them at all.

When I feeling crazy in love, I start to think of new tings we can do and try together. I think about ways I can put a smile on his face etc….

By SlimOne

March 29, 2007 9:14 AM | Link to this

Slim now opening DHL box full of dopamine and placing it strategically throughtout her car, office, and home. As she places one of the bottles in her nightstand drawer something on the label catches her eye. Warning: May cause extreme crying fits, unexplainable behavior, illusions that other person doesn’t care as much as you do, extreme paranoia, broken car windows, flat tires, unnounced drive-by’s, and could ultimately lead in heartbreak and/or institutionalization.

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

March 29, 2007 9:16 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

HMMM what you wont do for love? I am thinking nothing to crazy I have done when in love but then when you are in love nothing you do seems crazy…

Paying for romantic weekends

Buying expensive gifts

Dancing in the waters at Centennial Park

Driving naked through the streets after midnight just to see them

ABC when I here you talk about your girlfriend I swear the “Little Milton Song Grits aint Groceries comes to my mind

If I don’t love you baby I tell ya grits aint groceries, eggs aint poultry, and Mona Lisa was a man… It’s blues week on my ipod

By JustMe

March 29, 2007 9:20 AM | Link to this

Got That You make a very valid point about infatuation vs Love. I am very slow to say the “L” word to a new prospect for that very reason, even if I feel it, I won’t say if for a long time. I think that my scars from the past have taught me that not every man is worthy of my LOVE, and I tend to hold onto it until I am really sure that when I speak those words that there is no confusion for either party.

By Mo

March 29, 2007 9:24 AM | Link to this

Morning ALL!! GAMan, Sexione, SlimOne, Kinderbabe (what’s up), Jake, Raqi, abc, Randyt, JustMe, ChocoPeach and all those soon to join!!

On topic, Do you agree with that? Being crazy and being in love is one and the same? No, I think that being in love makes you feel crazy. You know, the butterflies, the longing to be with said person, the newness of it all is a thrill in and of itself.

ChocoPeach totally agree with your post BALANCE!. That is one lesson I learned from my last relationship that I would NEVER do again. I stopped living Mo’s life and then when I got hitched tried to incorporate Mo’s life into the picture (within reason). What a disaster that was. I always said in my next relationship I would have balance, keep living my life while incorporating new found interest, especially since I have my little one!

By JustMe

March 29, 2007 9:25 AM | Link to this

Slim I think I will hold of on the dopamine injections for now. I might accidentally inject for the wrong dude and be trippin bout nothin’.

Off topic: My son and his cousins had the nerve to ask if they could drop me of at work Thursday, keep my ride and go to Six Flags…… guess I’ll be on MARTA Thursday dayum kids always bringing home good grades, how could I say no?

By SlimOne

March 29, 2007 9:25 AM | Link to this

All Do any of you recall that awkward conversation where you were ready to tell your SO that you love them? Then you get to breathe that sigh of relief when you find out they feel the same way.

By JustMe

March 29, 2007 9:29 AM | Link to this

Slim You gonna need to pass me a tissue for that memory….. yes I remember it like it was yesterday and it was years ago…….. none of the other conversations have compared over the years.

By Sexione

March 29, 2007 9:31 AM | Link to this

Sexi opens box of dopamine and is feeling so giddy she wants to share with everyone…..begins wrapping them with little cutesy bows and passing them out to everyone she passes….gotta remember to keep a few for herself…

By SlimOne

March 29, 2007 9:33 AM | Link to this

JustMe LOL, but girl that is a good problem to have…having to actually pay out for good grades/behavior. I might have to play hookie next week myself. I also heard on the radio that some companies are taking their whole staff out there that day. Must be nice.

By Chocolate Peach

March 29, 2007 9:34 AM | Link to this

FREE: Tix to the movie Peace Warrior A great!! Inspirational film. u can get up to 10 free pases!!!

http://www.thepeacefulwarriormovie.com/

By Sexione

March 29, 2007 9:36 AM | Link to this

JustMe ooohhhh, I am so NOT looking forward to those days…..mommie can I borrow the car? She is already bugging me about getting her learners permit, and I will let her when the time comes, but I’ve already made it very clear that she will only get to drive with me (or Grandma) in the car for a looooonnnggg time. I feel they need the time on the road for experience before they go it alone. Whew!!! But I am planning to drop her off at Six Flags on Thursday if she gets a large enough group together…….safety in numbers!!

By Raqi

March 29, 2007 9:38 AM | Link to this

SlimOne I remember with my first husband it came easy. With Whitebread it came even easier. But with my present husband I was like those words will never part these lips. It took me a long time to say it out loud and to even admit to having the feeling.

By SlimOne

March 29, 2007 9:41 AM | Link to this

Slim passes JustMe a kleenex as she also takes one for herself Yeah I can recall that memory as well. When i think about it i can almost feel my hands getting all clammy and my heart rate getting faster.

Slim now searching for a shot to counteract the effects of the dopamine….she took one too many MusingLee you sell anything that can counteract all this dopamine I’ve taken? I’d hate to have a dopamine overdose.

By C tha 1

March 29, 2007 9:42 AM | Link to this

If being in love equals being crazy, what happens when the person you’re in love with is legitimately crazy!!

In reading this blog I’ve read countless stories about how you ladies find these certifiable men, yet you still manage to conjure up some type of “love” for them. I don’t want to sound pessimistic but most women are in love with the idea of being in love…its like you’re in this constant search for some bombass magical weed.

Sometimes I think women will induce themselves to being in love (which is why some of you fall for some of the lamest lines/dudes). Some of yall want to be in love so bad that you’ll fall in love with Satan if you didn’t know better (and the sad part is some of yall have).

Don’t get me wrong … love is cool, its a fundamental to living life to the fullest. But in my world respect trumps love … mainly because respect doesn’t make you crazy. I kinda like my sanity.

By Jewel

March 29, 2007 9:43 AM | Link to this

Good morning Everyone!

Wise Diva Your first paragraph resembles a description of me right now. I met a very nice gentleman a few weeks ago. Our chemistry is amazing! Even more amazing (or not) is that in my previous relationship, we took things slow before becoming exclusive. We both wanted to be sure, and quite frankly, I was expecting him to end up in the same pile of crap. And we know the end of that story. But, I am still cautious for two reasons: (1) I will not allow myself to jump heart first into this; (2) I do not want him to be the “rebound guy.” The latter is highly unlikely because he is truly a wonderful person.

I would not call behavior when one is in love crazy. Giddy, perhaps. Having a silly grin, maybe. If one exhibits crazy behavior, they might have toxic love. But for me it is not love right now. It is, I like this person and look forward to exploring the possibilities…

One thing is for sure. My “remove my heart from the equation” statement in recent months? Happen not gonna. LOL! Regardless to the outcome of this “new adventure”, this hopeless romantic is keeping hope alive! LOL!

Have a Powerful, Productive, Prosperous and Positive Day!!!

By Chullato

March 29, 2007 9:52 AM | Link to this

When I think of Love, I think of Prince’s ‘Adore’ - Love’s too weak to define, just what you mean to me For feelings that are so great which grow from absolutely nothing. Simply two strangers spending time together is amazing. I think Love is closest we will ever become to being God like. Not to offend anyone, but to create something so grand out of thin air has to be given its praise.

On the crazy issue, on the outside looking in the different behaviors associated with being in love may seem crazy, but they are completely rational in that person’s mind. We say we won’t ever do something, but isn’t Love about doing things you normally wouldn’t. I see it as sacrificing your personal self for an idea that is greater than you. Love is one of our only universal truths and if acting crazy is a side effect of that, then my new name is Crazy.

By Jewel

March 29, 2007 9:56 AM | Link to this

ABC I knew it! LOL! I cannot wait to hear you sing “Cause I Loooove You! LOL!

By kinderbabe

March 29, 2007 10:00 AM | Link to this

alright jewel you go girl! i’m routing for you and your new spring love.:)

well Ctha1 like one old school song says, “it takes a fool to learn that love don’t love nobody…” lol

By Jewel

March 29, 2007 10:06 AM | Link to this

RandyT RE Your 9:06 post. Well said. It is important to maintain the life you had prior to meeting someone, as Wise Diva and others have stated. Balance. I expect the 40 and older group should have mastered this. In terms of time, quality should outweigh quantity.

By Chocolate Peach

March 29, 2007 10:08 AM | Link to this

Now days u have to be SUPER careful cause males are becoming.

DANGEROUSLY in Love!!!

That “if I can’t have you no one will” is not to be taken lightly anymore.

By Sexione

March 29, 2007 10:11 AM | Link to this

Chocolate So true! I instantly thought about the fool that killed, dismembered and grilled that girl recently……….now that’s crazy in love!! But I’m sure there are some that will say that she provoked him to do that……..NOT!

By Jewel

March 29, 2007 10:14 AM | Link to this

want someone to love enough to compromise and sacrifice…but to do something crazy doesn’t prove that you love me more….it proves that you’re crazy Lady Dark Touche!

LOL! SlimOne* @ the warning label! Your question reminds me of the scene in Girlfriends when Joan wanted to tell her boyfriend she loved him. William suggested she say “olive juice” in case the boyfriend did not reciprocate her affection.

By JustMe

March 29, 2007 10:17 AM | Link to this

Slim I got an email from my son’s teache on a Tuesday, she wanted me to come in for a P/T conference, Wednesday, Lil JustMe gives me an invitation to the A/B Honor roll luncheon…….. my head was spinning……. what could this teacher possibly have to tell me when he’s making all A’s and B’s???

Sexonie My nephews are 16 and 18, I have learned to go pay Allstate and Pray they don’t mess up - LOL

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

March 29, 2007 10:18 AM | Link to this

Jewel

*I expect the 40 and older group should have mastered this. In terms of time, quality should outweigh quantity. *

If this were true, half of my bills would not be late right now and my yard needing some work. It is amazing that I can manage other peoples lives well in my profession, but can’t seem to keep my own life in order (ahhhh but what the ‘haile’, relationships are more fun).. LOL.

By JustMe

March 29, 2007 10:21 AM | Link to this

C tha 1 You know some of these dude can lie better than satan, how were we to know - LOL

I feel you on the respect issue though. I learned the hard way that a man that I do not respect will not get JustMe to stand down when standing up (for my self and family) is what I have had to do for so long!

By SlimOne

March 29, 2007 10:24 AM | Link to this

A good song for this topic would be U Got It Bad:

U got it, u got it bad When you’re on the phone Hang up and you call right back U got it, u got it bad If you miss a day without your friend Your whole life’s off track You know you got it bad when you’re stuck in the house You don’t wanna have fun It’s all you think about U got it bad when you’re out with someone But you keep on thinkin’ bout somebody else U got it bad

When you say that you love ‘em And you really know Everything that used to matter, don’t matter no more Like my money, all my cars (you can have it all back) Flowers, cards and candy (i do it just cause i’m…) Said i’m fortunate to have you girl I want you to know I really adore you All my people who know what’s going on Look at your mate, help me sing my song Tell her i’m your man, you’re my girl I’m gonna tell it to the whole wide world Ladies say i’m your girl, you’re my man Promise to love you the best i can

By Jewel

March 29, 2007 10:25 AM | Link to this

Thanks, Kinderbabe.

RandyT LOL! I am still standing on the ledge…I see you have already jumped! LOL

By SlimOne

March 29, 2007 10:31 AM | Link to this

JustMe mabye she wants to discuss putting lil JustMe into some AP classes or some type of program for kids that do well in school. But if your little one is anything like me when i was in school, they are probably running their mouth too much in class even though the work is getting done. I used to be the comedian of the class but you best believe i got my work done. My mom would see my progress report with my A’s and B’s but then could never understand the ‘talks too much in class’ comments from all my teachers…LOLOLOLOL

By JustMe

March 29, 2007 10:32 AM | Link to this

Jewel Rocking back and forth like you are ready to jump in and double dutch - LOL

By Sexione

March 29, 2007 10:32 AM | Link to this

JustMe It may be a conduct issue…..the grades are good, so you know it’s not that. My chld went thru a period of elementary school where she just wouldn’t shut up…good grades, but a big mouth. lol Just a thought…

Funny, I was just talking with my 14 yr. old about boys and respect….I can just feel the gray hairs multiplying!

By For Real

March 29, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this

Morning Blog Fam!!! It’s a Diamond in Back Sunroof Top kinda of day with all that will be happen this weekend. On and let me say Big Ups to Public Enemy great show.

Ctha1 I agree with you because respect last longer than love. Respect also trumps all other feelings (love, hate, lust, crazyness, indifference). Respeck me first and then we can talk about love in greater detail.

By JustMe

March 29, 2007 10:34 AM | Link to this

Sexione He told some kid his shoes cost more than his whole outfit….. I was so disappointed in him!

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

March 29, 2007 10:38 AM | Link to this

Ctha! Your post made me think of the scripture:

However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

I’m sure we’re to love our husband as well, but we’re told to respect them!

By SeanJohnson

March 29, 2007 10:42 AM | Link to this

Morning Love Birds…i mean blog..just gonna sit back and lurk…since being in love is something i think can make you go crazy….and i am crazy enough.

By Sexione

March 29, 2007 10:42 AM | Link to this

JustMe hahahahaha!!! Okay, my bad…..that wasn’t funny…..those darned kids!!!

By Chocolate Peach

March 29, 2007 10:43 AM | Link to this

Ok…… @Sexione What type of mess is that? To strait charbroil a human being. Now that my friends is KRAZY!!!

And that paramedic wife, Theresa that’s been missing for over a week now. Hun…..dig deeper into the hubby there you will have the murderer.

LOVE: It makes every day worth living…. Gotta Luv it!!!

By Mo

March 29, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

SlimOne & JustMe I also had the good-grades-but-talks-too-much syndrome in elementary school! By the time I got to high school you had to pay me to participate verbally! I just wasnt feeling volunteering answers and things. Call on somebody who doesnt know this stuff..

Hey SJ & ForReal

By Jake

March 29, 2007 10:52 AM | Link to this

What up Blog:

Crazy in Love…once or twice, and yes you do things that you normally would not do, but thats the beauty of it. Its spring, so you can be sure there be a lot of craziness in the coming months.

Sexione Ready to be a looney for a while..LOL

JustMe

The lil one probably has the problem I had in school. The work was a breeze, so when it was done, I became the disturbance do to lack of things to do. A great student is a double-edge sometimes, makes it hard for the dumb-dumbs…LOL.

C tha 1 Nail on head my man, a true respect for another solves so many other problems.

By Sexione

March 29, 2007 10:57 AM | Link to this

Jake As long as you’ll be looney with me!!

By JustMe

March 29, 2007 11:04 AM | Link to this

Sexione I did not find it funny at all…… those shoes will have holes in them before I buy another pair and the next pair won’t be so nice - Mommy’s revenge - LOL

CP I thought the same thing about the Sheriff/hubby!

Jake I warned the Principle at the start of the school year. He was in Advanced Placment classes 3 of his 5 years in Elementary school…… They don’t put the 6th graders in advanced classes only the 7th and 8th graders. I can not wait for this year to be over (6th grade) He needs the challenge.

By Got that?

March 29, 2007 11:07 AM | Link to this

I found this list in a book I’m reading. It a list of the 13 most common, unhealthy things we do in search of love or a relationship in which we want to be loved.

By NCgirlfromATL

March 29, 2007 11:09 AM | Link to this

Hey y’all!

Ok, there’s crazy-good and crazy-call-the-po-po…which are we talking about here? Cuz, I’ve done some things that might have seemed to go above and beyond, but were good gestures for my ex-SO. Things like nice gifts, going to the store in the middle of the night when he was sick, helping him out when he was in financial straits (ok, maybe that wasn’t crazy-good, but I’ve learned my lesson!). I’ve never thrown bricks at a man’s window (one of my friends did tho!), or followed him to see if he was going where he said he was going, or checked his email/vm…no stalker stuff here. I’m all for letting love get me all excited about seeing someone, and doing nice things for him. I hope he’d be as excited about seeing me smile too….but there is a fine line between love excitement and being schizo!

And yes, SJ you’re crazy enough! LOLOL! (just joking!)

DuShawn Thanks for answering my question yesterday. I didn’t see it until I got home last night…court ran long yesterday.

By kinderbabe

March 29, 2007 11:13 AM | Link to this

gotthat? what’s the name of the book. i’d like to find it.

justme i feel you on the mom move you gotta make. i had a parent come in today who had to do an attitude adjustment…lol. kids definitely are more verbal than they were 20 years ago.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

March 29, 2007 11:14 AM | Link to this

Is jawjagirl out there? She posted a whammy yesterday around 5pm!!

By Mo

March 29, 2007 11:16 AM | Link to this

Got that? That lists hits soooo close to home with me its ridiculous, not all of them but a good number. You live and you learn..

By SeanJohnson

March 29, 2007 11:17 AM | Link to this

@ Moiesha & NCATLIEN…whats the deal?

By Mo

March 29, 2007 11:19 AM | Link to this

SJ you and that daggone “Moesha”!! LOL Gotta love it!

Lady Dark w/Dimples yeah, jawjagirl needs to bring that issue in now so we can properly blog on it!!! LOL

By Got that?

March 29, 2007 11:19 AM | Link to this

The name of the book is “In the Meantime - Finding Yourself and the Love You Want” by Iyanla Vanzant.

By JustMe

March 29, 2007 11:19 AM | Link to this

Got That I have been guilty of a few of those in my past.

Kinder Lil Just Me is an only child for life, so he is Blessed in many ways, but when he starts taking my hardd work and provisions for granted…… Ain’tNoWayNDaHayo I’m cool with that. He know what a butt whooping feels like, and restrictions are worse than my whoopings - LOL I take all his privi’s away for a good while…… When I say restrictions, he becomes the model child. I’ve only had to do it a few times, but the last time he was old enough to really rememer it (it killed me), but I kept him on for a whole sememster - 9 weeks.

By JustMe

March 29, 2007 11:20 AM | Link to this

LDD I wondered if she would come back too. You could repost her question for us - LOL

By Sexione

March 29, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this

JustMe Oh trust me, I was not laughing at the comment, but moreso at the fact that kids don’t know when to shut up sometimes!! I was just thinking about the same punishment….cheap shoes next time…see that everyone is not as blessed as others!

What school system is he in that will not put 6th graders in advanced classes? Just curious…….mine has been in Challenge, then TAG, and now Dual Magnet, TAG, Honors, and AP for the last 6 yrs. or so. They need to be challenged!

By JustMe

March 29, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this

Mo Wassup and ^5. I have learned….. I have learned!

By MusingLee

March 29, 2007 11:26 AM | Link to this

Morn’in All,

I’ll check in later…tooo busy to blog right now.

By JustMe

March 29, 2007 11:26 AM | Link to this

Sexi Clayton County. He went to EW Oliver Elementary. The school focuses on Math and Science mainly, but covers all of the basics. Now that he is in MS, he is waaayyy ahead in his Math and Science and the Language Arts is mostly review too. His teachers all say the same things…. He’s a great studuent, very intelligent, but when he get’s done with his assignments, he becomes a distraction to the class….. he makes noises, antagonizes the other kids, he whispers something and rply out loud and they get in trouble not him. It took aminute for the teachers to catch him at his games.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

March 29, 2007 11:29 AM | Link to this

From Jawjagirl

I’ve kept quiet for a long time, but I have a crisis in my life that I need some advice on, and this topic relates. Years ago, I learned that my husband was having an “inappropriate” cyber relationship with another woman. He said nothing happened, it was just role playing, etc. Subsequently I decided that I could “role play,” too. He was not too happy about that, but he went along with it. Then a couple of years down the road I found out that he had a serious thing going on with another woman he had hooked up with. After his relationship with her started, our relationship took a nosedive. When the truth came out, he said he was sorry, he wouldn’t have any further contact with her without my knowledge, and he would never do that kind of thing again. In turn I agreed that I wouldn’t have a more-than-friendship relationship with any other men, either. However, since then he has had two other relationships, and I recently discovered that he has continued to carry on with the one he was serious about a year or two ago. I think she broke up with him recently, though, and since then he has been fairly nice to me. But I’m very angry, and I’m considering confronting him about it, filing for divorce, and contacting the other woman’s husband to fill him in on what has been going on. What’s your advice?

By JustMe

March 29, 2007 11:29 AM | Link to this

Sexione The sad part is I’m gonna have to MAKE myself buy him the less expensive shoes. I like to see him look good. Hell his play clothes are that ragedy…… darn brat he is, he’s so lucky he is an only child, very few if any hand-me-downs, he does like to get shirts from my nephews, but htey are so big, I refuse to let him wear them. I have to pick up cookie dough today - LOL. The things I do for that boy…….. that’s why I need a man…. Lil JustMe can’t handle all this love by himself. Bless his heart!

By Mo

March 29, 2007 11:30 AM | Link to this

JustMe I have learned too!!! Whew!! Looking at that list I just shake my head like “dayum”! But at least I can recognize it now too. Experience is a good teacher, too bad all the lessons learned couldnt be pleasant..

By JustMe

March 29, 2007 11:31 AM | Link to this

LOL LDD You did it. I know you were waaaaay ahead of me :-)

By Wise Diva

March 29, 2007 11:31 AM | Link to this

why didn’t somebody warn me about taking vacations and coming back to work. IT’s like I need a vacation from the return from vacation days!

I am here, lurking with Musinglee, who apparently is also swamped!

Great comments so far!

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

March 29, 2007 11:31 AM | Link to this

It’s difficult to make choices, to commit to those choices, and to actually act on those choices. For everything you choose to do, you must also choose not to do other things. Each choice necessarily involves selecting one thing and rejecting a whole lot of other things, focusing on one possibility and putting the other possibilities aside. Making a choice means walking away from those possibilities you don’t choose. Why would you want to do that? Because the alternative to choosing one thing over all the others is to choose nothing. When you keep all your possibilities open, none of them ever becomes a reality.

Every aspect of your life is overflowing with possibilities, and you have the good fortune of being able to choose the very best ones. Yet if you’re too greedy and attempt to “have it all” you end up with nothing.

Choice can be difficult. Yet they must be made if you’re to fulfill any of those wonderful possibilities in front to you. Decide who you want to be, what life you want to live, what work you want to do, the ways in which you can make a difference. Make a choice and commit to that choice with your time, your effort, your attention and your passion. Rather than leaving all your options open, choose those you can build into a greatness all your own.

By SeanJohnson

March 29, 2007 11:32 AM | Link to this

@ Moeisha…Mo doesnt fit you…makes you sound like a dude that works in a diner or garage…your new name is Moeisha…

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

March 29, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this

jawgirl I don’t think you should contact the other woman’s husband…

But I don’t think your hubby is going to respect you either. An option could be to take a step back, separate, and seek counseling…like the poem I posted about Choices your hubby doesn’t want to make a choice…you’re in a tight situation, but I can understand why you’re angry and have no trust in what he says. No one wants to play the role he’s forcing you to play…you definitely deserve to be treated better. I definitely think you should confront him about it….but what next? Are you open for counseling?

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

March 29, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this

SJ thanx for the new name!!! LOL Didnt mean to mess up the mental picture with such a masculine name!!

*Mo now changing her gold nameplate necklace to read “Moeisha”…..yeah that’s a good look” :0)

By JustMe

March 29, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this

Mo I only feel bad about the experiences if I fail to learn something form the.

Jaw File for divorce and leave him. I always say if a man does it once he will do it twice. Based on your post I wasn’t wrong, he may have done it a 3rd and 4th time too. Haven’t you had enough? It’s time that you spread your wing and fly. Find peace of mind and happiness somewhere else. if you are reading this of course

By Got that?

March 29, 2007 11:40 AM | Link to this

Lady Dark, great point. Most people don’t get it. They think they can have their cake and eat it too.

By Raqi

March 29, 2007 11:42 AM | Link to this

Thing about crazy in love is it doesn’t “feel” crazy or even seem crazy at the time. Half of the time when we are behaving like that we are not saying in our minds “Man this is crazy” but when years pass and experience come you look back and say “Man that was crazy” or “I must have been crazy to do that”.

By For Real

March 29, 2007 11:43 AM | Link to this

Jawjagirl Sorry to say but you already know your husband is hooked on the fantasy of role playing and just any other addiction, he must not you making him want to stop. If you can’t deal with the process of ending his addiction then handle your business but leave others to handle theirs. With all of the women and men dying lately you don’t want that on your conscience as well.

By Raqi

March 29, 2007 11:46 AM | Link to this

My song dedication to the topic is:

You Make Me Crazy – By Utopia

Y’know you make me crazy

What you do to me

It’s a chemical reaction or an allergy

Y’know you make me crazy

You’re aware of that

Why don’t you come and put me away

By Jewel

March 29, 2007 11:47 AM | Link to this

I like that Lady Dark. I would only add to accept your choice and live life with no regrets. Beautiful!

By JustMe

March 29, 2007 11:48 AM | Link to this

LDD Excellent post! (Choices)

LOL @ SJ changing folks name to what he likes - LOL

LDD Counselning is a good option, but it would be hard for me to believe anything he says after saying so many times that he would stop……. why should he be honest now? Jaw has confronted him about his infedilities before.

By Sexione

March 29, 2007 11:51 AM | Link to this

JustMe Yeah gurl, you’ve got a little character on your hands. At least the grades are good…so half the battle is being won. Mine is an only child too, and whew, she has never had a hand-me-down…she doesn’t have anyone to get any from. But alas, she will be the only one for the rest of her life….I am DONE!! lol 3 yrs, 1 mth, and 27 days to go!!!!

Where is jawjagirl, she needs to be here……….I try not to tell grown folks what to do, so I can only offer my thoughts on what I would do if it were me………..GONE!!! I would have left his azz so fast, he would really wonder if I ever actually existed!! My .02 cents.

By SeanJohnson

March 29, 2007 11:52 AM | Link to this

@ JustMe…lol..i am known to do that…knowingly or unknowningly…got a co worker…initials start with SB…so i called her SB…she thought it was cute…little do she know…i gave it to her because of her shape…S.B….is short for Sponge Bob…lol

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

March 29, 2007 11:53 AM | Link to this

JustMe I agree….I think divorce is probably her only option, but I just hate telling people to get a divorce. The thing about his affairs (I’m not sure if this is common) but he seems to treat her negatively when he has someone and then nice when he doesn’t. I question whether he truly loves her because he definitely doesn’t respect her. I think she has to separate at the very least…I wouldn’t consider taking him back unless he moved out of the house, sought counseling, and then courted me all over again….don’t know if that would work- but I think you have to give marriage every opportunity before you leave….she may have already

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

March 29, 2007 11:54 AM | Link to this

Sexi LOL…

I would have left his azz so fast, he would really wonder if I ever actually existed!!

By JustMe

March 29, 2007 11:55 AM | Link to this

Sexione you hit the nail on the head - LOL character He is a trip. Do you think our children being only children will effect them in relationships and dating? Will they be selfish and spoiled? My son is ve accomodating towards me, he only balks after 5 favors LOL, but I wonder how he will be when he starts dating.

By Awwwwww...Dayum

March 29, 2007 11:56 AM | Link to this

Awwwwww…Dayum, Jawjagirl!!! U’re slow…There’s no telling how many kids dude is sponsoring…I wonder how many more lies she’ll swallow before waking up.

By JustMe

March 29, 2007 11:58 AM | Link to this

LDD I hate to even say the word, but I don’t see how she can stay. It might be JustMe, but when I am disrespected, I don’t sign up for a second tour of duty! She has been through a couple of wars with this dude. You are right, he does not respect her, and I can see how you could question his LOVE for her. Then to treat her nice - WTF when he has no one else. Jaw you seem to JustMe to be have pleaser personality, like you don’t want to dissapoint anyone. That’s not a bad thing at all, you just need to start pleasing yourself.

By kinderbabe

March 29, 2007 11:59 AM | Link to this

justme i understand what you’re saying. that’s your baby and you want him to look nice. i know too that you want him to grow up being respectful and appreciative of the sacrifices you made for him. you are doing a good thing by instilling those values in him. wish i had more parents like that in my class…lol he sounds like a wonderful young man. you are doing a great job with him. keep up the good work.:) oh, and i know you’ll be glad when he can get back into challenge classes…lol. he’ll have less down then.:)

By JustMe

March 29, 2007 12:01 PM | Link to this

LOL the Barbie Bank Robbers got away with over $10K

By JustMe

March 29, 2007 12:03 PM | Link to this

Kinder Yep yep! but if his RoyalKnuckhead ever says anything like that again, I swear I will take him to thrift stores for new gear. Someone suggested I take him to a homeless shelter and make him give his shoes away - ROFLMAO I don’t think I will go that far.

By kinderbabe

March 29, 2007 12:09 PM | Link to this

just me that last sentence is supposed to say “….he’ll have less down time then. ooops!

By JustMe

March 29, 2007 12:09 PM | Link to this

Waayyyyy off topic…….. watching the news

The lady who killed her 2 kids and assaulted her father pled guillty and got 2 life sentences + 20 years. She’s pregnant again!

I really believe that folks who committ haneous (sp) crimes should just plead guilty and save the tax payers money to be put to better use. You know you did it, we know you did it, and then we gotta sponsor a lawyer for you…..

By kinderbabe

March 29, 2007 12:10 PM | Link to this

justme that last line was supposed to read “…he’ll have less down time then.” ooops!

By Sexione

March 29, 2007 12:11 PM | Link to this

Raqi I agree, hindsight is 20/20!!

SJ Sponge Bob you know you wrong for that!! lol

JustMe That’s a good question….hmmmmm. I know for mine, she is not a selfish child, even though she has not had to share with other children (at home), she is actually quite considerate. And she loves working with younger kids, so that has given her a lot of insight. She tends to be a little lazy when it comes to her chores….but what teenager isn’t…and I don’t let her slide at all!! Now she is spoiled, so that may be a bit of an issue…..hehehehe. But hey, my only requirement is that she keep her grades up, and doesn’t lie and do sneeky ish behind my back. So somebody’s son may have a lil bit of a challenge there. But being only kids, we have to try to instill in them the thought of giving back (my daughter volunteers at one of the GS camps on the equestrian team), as well as sharing, and the fact that there are many kids out there that aren’t as blessed as they are.

By Raqi

March 29, 2007 12:11 PM | Link to this

After I parted ways from living with Whitebread my son being only 5yrs asked a ton of questions and I knew that was the craziest thing I had ever done and I swore I would never do that again. Neither would I entertain male overnight guest while my kids were at home. This is something I lived by. Didn’t need all that craziness. So what did I do instead, I found myself coming home at 4am in the morning from having been entertained by or having entertained the man, so that I could catch another hour of sleep and be there when my kids got up. And that was freakin’ crazy.

Now I am going to get a room and have a rendezvous with my husband. Yep. Crazy. We could just as well go home but what fun would that be.

Until whenever. If I don’t post another comment, everyone have a good evening. I’m out.

By JustMe

March 29, 2007 12:19 PM | Link to this

Sexi My son is selectively selfish…. he will tell his cousins NO! in a herat beat becaue he remember how they used to get at him when he was younger, but he will give away all my groceries if his friends say they are hungry or thirsty - LOL He loves being the big cousin to my brothers children and he likes kids in general…. just not my sister older kids. LOL only time will tell….. he tutors the kids in his class when he’s not getting them in trouble. WTH!

Raqi Stepping outside of the norm can be exciting. Go for it and have a great time!

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

March 29, 2007 12:22 PM | Link to this

JustMe but when I am disrespected, I don’t sign up for a second tour of duty! Good Point!

By Wise Diva

March 29, 2007 12:23 PM | Link to this

have fun RAQI! I am taking notes for when I get a hub, LOL.

By Sexione

March 29, 2007 12:23 PM | Link to this

JustMe You are sooo right, only time will tell. Kudos to you for being a good mommie!!!

By JustMe

March 29, 2007 12:37 PM | Link to this

Sexione Kudo’s to you too.

By Sexione

March 29, 2007 12:37 PM | Link to this

The psychology instructor had just finished a lecture on mental health and was giving an oral test.

Speaking specifically about manic depression, she asked, “How would you diagnose a patient who walks back and forth screaming at the top of his lungs one minute, then sits in a chair weeping uncontrollably the next?”

A young man in the rear raised his hand and answered, “A basketball coach?”

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

March 29, 2007 12:40 PM | Link to this

Hello all:

I’m new to the post, but I have been reading for the past two days. This topic is close to home. I thought I met a really nice guy and I’m trying to give him the benefit of the doubt, but there are just somethings I will not do in the name of love. I don’t actually think you have to be crazy to be in love, but I think you should look before you leap! Right now I’m debating on whether to push the new guy to the side and move on or to stick it out and see where it goes. As for love, who knows, maybe it will be listed as a mental illness in one of those medical journals….

By JustMe

March 29, 2007 12:41 PM | Link to this

LDD I try hard not to disrespent people in general……. I can not stand to have it done to me. I realize that somtime ish happens that I don’t like, cheating is the ultimate disrespect. It says to me I don’t respect your or this relationship and I am a wuss for not leaving, I chose to cheat on you instead!

By Jewel

March 29, 2007 12:45 PM | Link to this

Chocolate Peach, Mocha, Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream…is this a blog, or the Starbuck’s menu? LOL! Really, no offense ladies. I just think it is funny! LOL!

By JustMe

March 29, 2007 12:49 PM | Link to this

Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream Based on your name alone, it looks like you been lurking for a while….. LOL

You didn’t really give enough info to help you out, but based on what you did provide….. JustMe’s opinion is that you should not do anything you are not comfortable doing even in the name of Love. If you feel like he is manipulating you or cohersing you, you may want to tell him 1 time that you don’t get down like that (in nicer words) and that if you two are going to continue to be an item, that he may want to rethink the way he treats you. If he thinks he doing nothing wrong, the either you are a prude or he is a jackazz.

By Jake

March 29, 2007 12:50 PM | Link to this

JustMe/Sexione

On that good question:

I would say that it may be beneficial to make sure the little ones experience some sharing and compromising, teamwork situations, or somethin.

I would be willing to bet that both of your kidz have usually gotten what they have always wanted, and your comments about there schooling show that they have earned much of it. But here is the futre issue.

I have dated the only child-selfish as hell.

Not anybody’s fault, but when you don’t experience giving up things for the sake of others, it translates into a selfishness that the person will never recognize. Its hard simulate the give and take of siblings. The things such as, nobody gets Jordan’s because both of you need shoes, or you can’t get that because your sister has to go to camp…LOL (presonal ish)

The only-child syndrome does exist just as certain traits for middle-children and babies become apparent with age.

They are fiercely independent from time spent alone, and live an endulged life in many scenarios because they don’t have to share. The environment is not conducive to sharing, giving, and overall compromise; things that are very important in relationships.

By JustMe

March 29, 2007 12:51 PM | Link to this

Sexione does you daughter have a knack for telling jokes the way you do?

By Sexione

March 29, 2007 12:55 PM | Link to this

ROTFLMSAO!!!! I luuuvvv these blog names!! We are off da chain…

Mochalatte How long have you two been an item? How old are you two? Is what he’s asking you to do harmful to you (or anyone else) in any way?

By Jake

March 29, 2007 12:55 PM | Link to this

Excuse the spelling, ya’ll know what I meant…LOL

By JustMe

March 29, 2007 1:02 PM | Link to this

Jake,

You made some good points that I will keep in mind. However, my son has a clue about not getting something because…… I’m a single mom his sperm donor is a whole notha Oprah (not much help there), so he knows that just because he sees it does not make it hiseven with good grades. But other than that, he has not had to share much. He does look forward to donating his clothes/toys that he has out grown, he even tells me when it time to make room in his drawers because the stuff has gotten too small. But I can’t still help but wonder. I always encourage him to do well in school so he won’t have to depend on other people to supply his needs. He is very independent too. His big trip right now is being able to walk (like I don’t know he rides his bike) to CVS by himself….. LOL

By Jewel

March 29, 2007 1:06 PM | Link to this

Pushing JustMe aside b/c she wants all the juicy details…Mochalatte One thing I have learned: One person cannot carry all of the emotional weight in a relationship. If you are doing all of the heavy lifting for his benefit, eventually you will resent him b/c your needs are not being met. Like I have said before: Relationships are give and take. However, that does not mean one person gives their all AND takes all the crap.

By First and probably last time

March 29, 2007 1:10 PM | Link to this

Hello to everyone on the blog. I usually always lurk but I have a question for you guys. I was talking to this guy and I was having the feeling wise dive are talking about. We meet Oct.06 and hit it off pretty well. I didn’t take him very serious when he asked me for my number but I gave it to him anyways. He called me that night and I was like wow this guy must really like me. We live one exit down from each other and we had a lot of other things in common I was thinking I had found my soul mate. We talked on and off from 0ct.-Feb. Basically we became cut friends but I wanted much more than that. I really like him a lot. In Feb. I went to get my annual as I do at the beginning of each year. This year my results were not good. I found out that I had herpes. I had only had sex with 2 guys last year and I knew he didn’t give it to me. Since we were talking on and off and he didn’t answer his phone majority of the time I called him, I sent him a text and told him that I needed to talk to him ASAP, he was like ok but he never called. I ended up having to send him an email then sent him a text telling him to check his email. Like I said before I really did like him, I wanted to be with him. I told him that I wanted their to be an us but I knew that he probably wouldn’t have anything to do with me anymore in the email. I apologized several times throughout the email and I also asked him to let me know the results. He did send me a text later on that day telling me that he tested negative, he thanked me for telling him, and he also said that he would call me later on. I haven’t heard from him since that day. I really do still have feelings for him, I sent him a text just to say hello two weeks ago but he didn’t respond. I sent him an email last week but he hasn’t responded to it and I am sure he has checked his email buy now. What I want to know from you guys is, If someone told you that they had herpes would you stay or would you go? Guys would you even consider talking to a lady with herpes?

By Sexione

March 29, 2007 1:20 PM | Link to this

JustMe Yes, she is hilarious, and we have so much fun together. And ironically, she looks like my twin. So much so, that people - male and female, young and old - are constantly commenting on it….some even call us twins. She is blessed with her mothers sense of humor! But I always remind her that “I AM MOTHER!!, don’t get it twisted” lol

Jake You are right. That’s what I was saying about having my daughter involved with lots of activities. For instance…she’s a Girl Scout, she volunteers at one of the GS camps on their equestrian team (we love to horseback ride), she works in the nursery at church, she plays volleyball, has played basketball in the past, etc. And actually, she doesn’t always get what she wants, b/c being a single parent I can’t always splurge AND pay all the bills…so she knows a thing or two about sacrifice.

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

March 29, 2007 1:35 PM | Link to this

We have been going out since December. I’m 28 and he is 36. I like going out with older guys because I would hope they have gotten through their “playa” ways. But I think this one likes to be chased. He says he doesn’t but I’m not feeling the warmth that I think I should feel. Maybe I am a prude, or maybe he’s a J.A.? He wants me to take pictures and send them to his cell phone. I just don’t really get down like that and even if I did consider it, I think we need to be dating a little longer before we do a Tommy Lee and Pamela, ya know.

By demi

March 29, 2007 1:37 PM | Link to this

First and probably last time have you track down the other to dudes who could’ve giving you herpes?

And no…I value my life and whomever I am soon to be sleeping with next

A better question…Would you?

By SlimOne

March 29, 2007 1:39 PM | Link to this

Mochalatte So basically buddy wants to get into home movies but you aren’t feeling it?

By Sexione

March 29, 2007 1:41 PM | Link to this

Mochalatte Can you say internet. You already know the answer……I think we need to be dating a little longer before we do a…..don’t let anyone force you to compromise your beliefs. If he disappears b/c you won’t, be thankful…he will have saved you some major heartache!!

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

March 29, 2007 1:42 PM | Link to this

Exactly, I just don’t see myself up on the big screen unless it’s fully clothed. If he wants to see my body that often he might as well buy a season pass to the theme park, ya know? I just don’t think we’ve been seeing each other enough to do all of that. Do you think I’m being a prude? I just don’t want to split up and my pic is out there floating for all to see!

By Got that?

March 29, 2007 1:43 PM | Link to this

First and last, would you have a relationship with someone who has an STD?

By SlimOne

March 29, 2007 1:43 PM | Link to this

First I’m going to be honest and say NO, i wouldn’t consider dating a man I knew to have herpes. I don’t want to have to live a life that scary.

Also, EVERYONE have you ever heard of getting a test back for herpes in only one day? I got tested for everything earlier this year and it took more than one day. I don’t know if it was because of the number of things being tested for or what.

By JustMe

March 29, 2007 1:43 PM | Link to this

MochaChacaLatay……. Girl do not fall for that BS. It’s might be cool…….. after the Honeymoon but before………. nada, zero, zip, zilch. I have a few things that fit into that category and that’s one of them!

By JustMe

March 29, 2007 1:44 PM | Link to this

Jaw I just listend to the perfect song for you……….

Vivian Green: Gotta Let It Go!

By First and probably last time

March 29, 2007 1:45 PM | Link to this

demiI know who it is. He can’t do no one else any harm now. You can’t die from herpes.

By Sexione

March 29, 2007 1:45 PM | Link to this

first and last I’m a little confused. Is it the new guy (the cut buddy) that you were trying to contact, that would not return your calls or answer his phone? And how do you know that he wasn’t the one you got it from? Just curious…

By demi

March 29, 2007 1:46 PM | Link to this

Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream LOL…SJ can you short’n her name for me?

Don’t do it!! Most real men do not keep their SO in their phone…Players do!!…I sound lika hater fo-reel fo-reel now.

Alvin: Go head girl, DO NOT listen to Demi!! Give buddy your pic, so I can see your Mochatteness for myself!!

By First and probably last time

March 29, 2007 1:48 PM | Link to this

demiI know who it is. He can’t do no one else any harm now. You can’t die from herpes.

By JustMe

March 29, 2007 1:50 PM | Link to this

Jewel Sometimes you gotta ask - LOL

By SlimOne

March 29, 2007 1:51 PM | Link to this

Mochalatte You should never feel forced or coerced into doing things you
don’t want to do for the sake of keeping the relationship together. And in
regards to home movies and photos, in today’s world there’s no telling what
you’ll see after googling yourself on the internet if you were to split up. If
he cared about your feelings he wouldn’t keep asking you to do those types of
things. If you asked him to run around Atlantic Station nakked wearing a sock on his dyck and clown shoes for your pleasure, do you think he’d do it?

By SeanJohnson

March 29, 2007 1:52 PM | Link to this

@ Demi…she has to post more…i need more from her to get a personality profile….

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

March 29, 2007 1:55 PM | Link to this

First He wouldn’t answer your phone….why are you still calling dude to say hello? He doesn’t care or want to hear from you. Now to your question, I don’t know….I might would deal with a guy who I know had herpes….but he’d have to be a super guy! but so would any guy date so hmmmmmm….

Mocha He just wants to show your photos to his boy…don’t do it!

By First and probably last time

March 29, 2007 1:57 PM | Link to this

Sexinone I just had a feeling it was not him. So it had to be the other guy. I had two sex partners last year and I had not had sex in an entire year before I meet the herpes guy. the new guy tested and came out negative. At least that’s what he told me.

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

March 29, 2007 1:58 PM | Link to this

Wow!!! Thanks everyone for the great advice. LOL @ Slim One. Knowing this guy he would probably do it just for the free advertising. I told you he likes the chase. We had the hardest time getting out on our first date because I would not conform to his “dating scenario”…

By Sexione

March 29, 2007 1:59 PM | Link to this

LMSAO @ Slim Atlantic Station nakked wearing a sock on his dyck and clown shoes hahahahahaha

First He can’t do no one else any harm now. How can you be so sure? Is he dead?

By Got that?

March 29, 2007 1:59 PM | Link to this

Mocha…uh…if you don’t want those pictures showing up somewhere where it may cost you something in the future, don’t do it. Besides, if the guy really cared all that much about you, he would respect your wishes. It’s your life. You have to make the choice that is right for you.

By demi

March 29, 2007 2:01 PM | Link to this

First and probably last time This is the First and probably last time you should be using First and probably last time as your blog names!!!! LOL

I know I know…You can’t die from herpes, but it’s not something I want to be thinking about either, while with my lover.

You see, I have this mean trick that involves food and…Other stuff non blog postable

Your Mochattaness/w all the bells and whistles: DO NOT listen to Alvin, he’s evil!!!

By Sexione

March 29, 2007 2:02 PM | Link to this

First At least that’s what he told me. Exactly!!! So how do you know it wasn’t him? And who in h3ll gets a test result that fast? Something about that sounds fishy!!!

Mochalatte his “dating scenario”? Lawd, I’m almost afraid to ask….lol

By Wise Diva

March 29, 2007 2:03 PM | Link to this

ok, I can hardly keep things straight, we have a lot going on today. I’ll sit quiet and let you guys keep dishing out good advice.

Welcome to our new commenters, hopefully the blog forum can be of help to you!

By Alvin

March 29, 2007 2:07 PM | Link to this

Sexione I was thinking the same thing…So how long ago was buddy gunned down?

Demi How are you going to call me evil, aren’t we the same person?

By First and last time

March 29, 2007 2:07 PM | Link to this

sexione I had stopped talking to him around July. but I found out in Dec. He had went to jail.

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

March 29, 2007 2:08 PM | Link to this

Thanks Wise Diva! While “Mocha” bathes in the glow of the “Wise One”

I have definitely gotten some great advice. I’m going to let him know that if he wants a show then he needs to go down to Magic City or Strokers!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

March 29, 2007 2:08 PM | Link to this

SJ trying to get used to this new name! LOL

First and probably last time wow. Sorry to say I wouldnt willing date someone with an STD. There is alot to deal with as is when it comes to dating and that adds a whole notha dynamic.

By First and last time

March 29, 2007 2:10 PM | Link to this

sexione I had stopped talking to him around July. but I found out in Dec. He had went to jail.

By Awwwwwww..Dayum

March 29, 2007 2:11 PM | Link to this

We had the hardest time getting out on our first date because I would not conform to his “dating scenario”…

Awwwwwww..Dayum!!!! Dating at it’s lowest…WTF type of dude is this…a writer, movies producer…What???!!!

By For Real

March 29, 2007 2:13 PM | Link to this

JustMe I agree with Jake but I want to add try to give your boys an understanding of how society will view them once they are men because as we all know society does not feel the same way about them as their mommies do. This will help ease some of the shock of manhood. and Sexi1 if she has her mother’s genes don’t spoil youngsexi1 too much because she is going to be hell on some young bruh one day.

Mochalatte I need to know if you have tonsils first before I can help.

First and probably last time You may have given him a VD because of your “irresponsible ways” but you want him to look past that because of your feelings. As Demi stated Would you?

Alright which one of you blog ladies killed that whale shark at the aquarium. PSA ladies leave the white tennis skirts home when you go to the aqurium.

By black coffee

March 29, 2007 2:13 PM | Link to this

*Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream * Don’t send dude your pics…..he sounds like my ex….initials RM???

By First and last time

March 29, 2007 2:14 PM | Link to this

sexione I had stopped talking to him around July. but I found out in Dec. He had went to jail.

By SeanJohnson

March 29, 2007 2:16 PM | Link to this

@ Mochallate Peach…since almose every female have a little exihibitionist ..take the pics…minus any tats…and no face pics..that way..no one can prove its you unless that know know u

@ First and Last…according to statitics..half of adult americans have herpes…u were being real responsible for giving dude the heads up and giving him a choice. Although I dont have it…and most of the folks on the blog are going to say they dont..if half of adults have it i am sure most have come in contact with it whether they know it or not..yall be responsible and safe and protect yourself…at all times..

By First and last time

March 29, 2007 2:17 PM | Link to this

sexione I had stopped talking to him around July. but I found out in Dec. He had went to jail.

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

March 29, 2007 2:20 PM | Link to this

He’s a barber. But you would think he was “Lucky” from Poetic Justice

On the first date he asked me to pick something I wanted to do because he didn’t want to be the reason why the date went bad. So I picked the skating rink because I love roller skating. He actually ended up not going to the rink that night because he went out of town and ended up not coming back until it was almost time to hit the rink. I was slightly peturbed by the whole situation because he didn’t even have the balls to call and say that he would be late or would make it at all. He recalls the story as “getting our wires crossed”. I should have known better to even consider a second date, but the rest is how they say… HIStory!

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

March 29, 2007 2:22 PM | Link to this

Black Coffee My current SO has the same initials…..hmmmmmmmm

By SeanJohnson

March 29, 2007 2:23 PM | Link to this

@ Moeisha…say it slow 10x…lol…with you and Mocha..and now Mochallatte Peahes..with a cream soda on the side…yall are killing me…by the way…do females call themselves Mocha because of their skin complextion is that color?

By SlimOne

March 29, 2007 2:24 PM | Link to this

LMAO @For Real so we are back on tonsils huh? Hey wasn’t someone supposed to get there tonsils removed not too long ago? I wonder how that’s turning out…..lol

By demi

March 29, 2007 2:25 PM | Link to this

SeanJohnson, I am starting to think some women enjoy being strung along…

Mochalatte, he is a nice guy because…

By SeanJohnson

March 29, 2007 2:30 PM | Link to this

@ Demi…women like drama…soap oprah/opera type ish….even if they have to manufacture it…a good man..is boring to women till they get 40.

By For Real

March 29, 2007 2:30 PM | Link to this

If the MLB is interested here is pictorial history behind Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream name:

Picture #1: There she is laying on the beach. This shot inspired Homer Simpson to say mmmm Mochalatte

Picture #2: See that now I am sure you can see the resemblance to a peach. See the little fuzz…

Picture #3: Here is the picture that inspired Prince write “CREME”

By BLACK COFFEE

March 29, 2007 2:30 PM | Link to this

Lady Dark w/Dimples Is he a little shady? Get your wires crossed alot? Have a good excuse for everything? How old is he? 36-38 range?

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

March 29, 2007 2:32 PM | Link to this

SJ for me, Mo is a part of my name so it has nothing to do with skin complexion! LOL

But thanx anyway!

For Real you are too funny with that last post!

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

March 29, 2007 2:32 PM | Link to this

black coffee Yes on the age range…no on the wires crossed and excuses….but where is he from?

By Chocolate Peach

March 29, 2007 2:33 PM | Link to this

Ok, I’m with Jewel now, WTF? Now I see a Black Coffee…….Geesh!!! Lol

My ex of 13 yrs gave me my special name “CHOCOLATE PEACH”

I fell asleep on the blog. Darn….

By First and probably last time

March 29, 2007 2:36 PM | Link to this

I can’t lie before I found out that I had it I probably would not have given a guy a chance if he told me before I got to know him. If I had started catching feelings for him and he told me, I don’t know what I would have done.
for real I was being responsible, you can contract herpes when having safe sex also.

demi I know LOL

seanjean Thanks, The doctor told me that 1 and 5 women have it. So guys, for every 5 woman you have slept with one of them most likely had it.

By First and probably last time

March 29, 2007 2:38 PM | Link to this

I can’t lie before I found out that I had it I probably would not have given a guy a chance if he told me before I got to know him. If I had started catching feelings for him and he told me, I don’t know what I would have done.
for real I was being responsible, you can contract herpes when having safe sex also.

demi I know LOL

seanjean Thanks, The doctor told me that 1 and 5 women have it. So guys, for every 5 woman you have slept with one of them most likely had it.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

March 29, 2007 2:39 PM | Link to this

I was being responsible, you can contract herpes when having safe sex also.

awwwwwwww…..Dayum I didn’t know that…then I probably wouldn’t date someone who had herpes.

By demi

March 29, 2007 2:43 PM | Link to this

SJ I do understand where women are coming from, concerning “nice guys”. I was one until I turned 22. An older woman turned me out…far far far far…Left.

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

March 29, 2007 2:44 PM | Link to this

A person can have the herpes virus and never have a outbreak or “flair-up” but as a carrier of the virus they can pass it on.

By QC

March 29, 2007 2:45 PM | Link to this

Hey Bloggers I hope you all are having a great day!!! i’m not even going to try to catch up on here, hey Awwww Dayum

well i’m gone i just wanted to pop in to say hello…..have a great evening bloggers….HOLLA

By Sexione

March 29, 2007 2:49 PM | Link to this

I’m outta here….everyone have a safe evening…..one more day!

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

March 29, 2007 2:53 PM | Link to this

Thanks Everyone! I still have another hour and 45 to go before the end of my day! LOL @ SJ, Alvin and Chocolate Peach. I named myself for this blog. I was tired of using my old nickname. Decided it’s a new day and I gave myself a new one that I may use from now on….

By MusingLee

March 29, 2007 2:54 PM | Link to this

Musing sticks a straw into Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream and takes a long sip….

Back to lurking/wurking.

Musing wipes cream/glaze from his mustache

By black coffee

March 29, 2007 2:58 PM | Link to this

Lady Dark w/Dimples From Atlanta…tall

By SeanJohnson

March 29, 2007 3:00 PM | Link to this

@ DarkDimples….is it trouble in paradise?

By demi

March 29, 2007 3:02 PM | Link to this

People don’t realize how important their bodies are. Imma wild boy, but testing is a must. We are not 23,24,25 anymore.

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

March 29, 2007 3:08 PM | Link to this

Black Coffee, what do you consider tall, because you were describing my guy until you gave his intials. Any he’s a pale brother. And let’s just say he’s the one who is always right.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

March 29, 2007 3:08 PM | Link to this

black coffee okay, different guy…my SO is from New York

By demi

March 29, 2007 3:09 PM | Link to this

MusingLee If you are slipping through a straw…How did you end up with cream/glaze on your mustache?

Was it that good you drove into it?

I know it’s a gay question, but I had to ask.

By abc

March 29, 2007 3:10 PM | Link to this

So guys, for every 5 woman you have slept with one of them most likely had it.

That is simply not true, it demonstrates a lack of understanding of probability. Not to say one shouldn’t be wary.

By SlimOne

March 29, 2007 3:13 PM | Link to this

Demi if Musing pulled back too soon then that would explain the glaze in his mustache…not unless the straw had a hole in it.

By black coffee

March 29, 2007 3:14 PM | Link to this

Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream Tall=6’4-6’5.. Pale brother? What is that? Guess not the same…he is “paper sack brown”…..See, ther ARE all the same…LOL

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

March 29, 2007 3:15 PM | Link to this

Wow you guys are too much!! LOL @ Musing and Slim1!!!

By "Longtime Lurker"

March 29, 2007 3:20 PM | Link to this

Hello All..

No,ya boy LL is not dead, just been travelin a lot. Three different countries in four weeks and boy I am worn out and miss home!

I am currently in Asia and headed back to the US on Monday.It is currently 3:15am Friday and I am headed to bed!

Welcome back Wise Lurker, we missed you! No comment on the sub, I am out!!!

Talk to y’all next week!

By demi

March 29, 2007 3:23 PM | Link to this

SlimOne I thought, if you pull back too soon, it’ll just squirt all over you…be like Awwwwww…dayum, got myself a squirter!!! What is us gon do?

By Awwwwww…dayum

March 29, 2007 3:28 PM | Link to this

Awwwwww…Dayum…3 days until the return of LL…I bet the ladies are readying their grills as we speak.

By SlimOne

March 29, 2007 3:30 PM | Link to this

Demi you’re absolutely right…Just so happened that Musing’s mustache was the bullseye. “Whatout der now! Looks like we got Ole Faithful on our hands!”

By First and probably last time

March 29, 2007 3:34 PM | Link to this

abc That’s what the Doctor said

By Jake

March 29, 2007 3:34 PM | Link to this

First&Last

For one, you should be concentrating on you. How are you handling the new developments?

The way you described his behavior leads me to think that he may be the culprit. I am well versed in psychology and behavior. The fact that the dude is being super-cold and won’t even have a conversation means one or two things. neither are great scenarios:

That just my take.

As for question of dating, I don’t know, but I do know that it is not as uncommon as we would like to think. I have seen the stats that SeanJ spoke of, and they aren’t playing all those commercials for no reason…LOL

Take care of yourself!!

By Chocolate Peach

March 29, 2007 3:36 PM | Link to this

Readying their grills….What does that mean?

I’m entitled to a slow moment err now & then……Lol

By First and probably last time

March 29, 2007 3:37 PM | Link to this

abc That’s what the Doctor said

By SlimOne

March 29, 2007 3:37 PM | Link to this

Jake to add to what you’re saying I thought it was strange to get a herpes test result in the same day. She said she emailed him about it and he responded with his results later that day. Am I just uninformed that this can be done in the same day?

By NCgirlfromATL

March 29, 2007 3:39 PM | Link to this

LMAO @ Musing’s straw that skeeted on his mustache!

By Awwwwww…dayum

March 29, 2007 3:40 PM | Link to this

Chocolate Peach ask me again when LL speaks next week.

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

March 29, 2007 3:41 PM | Link to this

First & Last:

I really think you shouldn’t even give this guy the satisfaction of knowing that you are thinking of him. A real person would let someone know when they are no longer interested and then move on. They wouldn’t leave a person out there to wonder. It’s crazy what people will do. Now as for me, I would not date a person with it either, but that’s a personal choice based on the type of relationship I want from my partner. But I’m sure that there is someone out there that is willing to treat you alot better.

As for the thought that maybe he gave it to you? I wouldn’t put it past him. Especially since he came back so quickly letting you know that he didn’t have it. You don’t know what goes on when the doors are closed and you definitely don’t know who or what he was doing before he oozed into your life!

By abc

March 29, 2007 3:41 PM | Link to this

Let’s hope his knowledge of medicine is better than that of probability.

By familiarface

March 29, 2007 3:49 PM | Link to this

Hello All, First Time— I’m sorry about your results but all signs point to your cut buddy giving it to you and he knew it all along. JMO (not the one in jail)

By first and last time

March 29, 2007 3:51 PM | Link to this

Jake I am doing fine, I have never had an outbreak and hopefully will never have one. I am taking the daily valtrex pill. I feel the same way you do on your first scenario. He just seemed like the type of guy who would have at least called to see how I was doing. That’s what I told him in the email I sent.

slimone his text said that he had some “emergency procedures.” If he had called me I was going to ask questions about those fast results because it did take mine a little over a week to come back.

By abc

March 29, 2007 3:55 PM | Link to this

Let’s hope his knowledge of medicine is better than that of probability.

By first and probably last time

March 29, 2007 4:00 PM | Link to this

abc it was a lady and I take that back. Her example was for every 5 woman out there in the waiting area 1 of them have herpes. So I thought that would be the same. I thought you were say that they 1 out 5 woman wasn’t true. Misunderstood you.

By Jake

March 29, 2007 4:05 PM | Link to this

Slim

In my professional world, I investigate a lot of things. The description she gave immediately rose a flag, I did not want to say he was the one, but he was the one.

The factors On the day he received the information, he came back with results.

1.Very unlikely that he mentally processed the possibility, of having the STD in a matter of hours*

Conclusion

The perp in question is most likely the shooter. Evidence leads one to believe that he would not be able to secure an appointment to be tested in such a small window. Standard testing procedures for bloodwork, (which would have needed) take a number of days to receive the results. The perp has also distanced himself from any contact with the victim, an shows no remorse or concern for her plight.

Guilty as charged!!…LOL

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

March 29, 2007 4:06 PM | Link to this

Mochalatte throwing creamy smooches and making her exit

Good Evening All! Hope to see you again same time, same station.

By kinderbabe

March 29, 2007 4:09 PM | Link to this

what in the sam hill??? i can’t even catch up on all of this stuff…lol. firstandlast i think that you did your part in contacting the last person you were with and letting him now how your test turned out. i think it’s kinda shady how he took so long to respond to your communication efforts. are you sure he wasn’t the one you contracted it from? also, i think that it is very possible for you to have a healthy relationship w/someone in the future. managing your outbreaks and being well informed on the mostly ways of transmitting herpes can help. ask your doctor a lot of questions so that you can be comfortable sharing info w/potential partners.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

March 29, 2007 4:11 PM | Link to this

If anyone plans on going to Thailand please don’t insult the king…man got 10yrs for insulting their king….it was reduced from 75yrs

By kinderbabe

March 29, 2007 4:11 PM | Link to this

jake i’m w/you on that one. sounds like he’s the guilty party.

By familiarface

March 29, 2007 4:12 PM | Link to this

LOL, I concur Jake…

By SlimOne

March 29, 2007 4:23 PM | Link to this

Jake Great deductive reasoning. He simply acts too dayum guilty. Plus if they were cut buddies, why all of a sudden stop getting the nookie and being evasive…Just doesn’t add up. Buddy has the package and is probably spreading it to whoever will give it up.

By Jake

March 29, 2007 4:29 PM | Link to this

No more “I Spy” for today, I’m gone ya’ll be cool and wear yellow tomorrow, might as well, the pollen is going change the color of your cothes anyway…LOL

By MochaTreat

March 29, 2007 4:38 PM | Link to this

I leave for a week and somenone else id given my name….WTF…Thanks a lot SeanJ and Demi…I thought ya’ll loved me…I guess I was wrong!!

Good afternoon MO, QC, Raqi, Kinder, Sexione, GAman, Slim, Foots, Wise, Randy, Jake and crew

@Wise welcome back! I hope you had a wonderful vacation!!

By kinderbabe

March 29, 2007 4:42 PM | Link to this

hey mochatreat i had been out of the loop as well. lot of new names…lol. i did peep out the mochalatte name. i almost got confused and thought you had switched it up…lol. how have you been? big plans for the weekend?

By Chocolate Peach

March 29, 2007 4:43 PM | Link to this

First&last, I guess that’s who everyone seems to be given advice too.

You should have sent that lil white van to his house.

Can U please put a HPB out on him. We women need to know who this guy is. You might as well tell dont protect him, he didnt protect you.

Peace ^ Chocolate Out

By MochaTreat

March 29, 2007 4:45 PM | Link to this

@Kinder I am doing wonderful…I finally got a new job…I am teaching in DeKalb county.

As for the weekend…I am going to a Spelman function Saturday morning with my mother and my sisters…then it’s off to a wedding. How about you? Do you have a lot planned for the weekend?

By kinderbabe

March 29, 2007 4:48 PM | Link to this

@mochatreat that’s great! congratulations. what grade are you teaching? do you like it?

are you alum of spleman? just thought i’d ask b/c i went to cau. i was entertaining the idea of going to the urban teachers’ ball on saturday night. it’s at a club called motion in the underground. also, i thought about going to rare soul tapas tomorrow night.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

March 29, 2007 4:48 PM | Link to this

Hey Mocha & Kinderbabe!! SJ changed my name so I have a new one.

Mocha are you enjoying your new job?

Kinderbabe You sound just like my sister when talking about the parents and kiddies. You guys teach the same grade.

this has been quite a blog today

By kinderbabe

March 29, 2007 4:54 PM | Link to this

hey *mo you’re right is was quite a blog from the bits and pieces i read…especially the part after 1 or so. i will keep an eye out for your new name b/c i didn’t know that moeisha was you…lol. o.k. now i know. so you know about how teachers talk about their little kindergarteners.:) they’re a lot of fun. i wouldn’t trade them for older kids. i like the little guys.

have you ever been to rare soul tapas? i was thinking of going there tomorrow and was looking for some feedback.

By MochaTreat

March 29, 2007 4:54 PM | Link to this

@ Kinder Thanks…I am teaching 7th and 8th grade Sp ED…language arts and math….so far so good.

No, I am not a Spelman alum…my mother is…

MO I am enjoying my new job…I can’t wait until tomorrow at 3:30….Spring break here I come….my first day was very hectic and stressful…but I made it through…my first week is almost over.

By demi

March 29, 2007 4:55 PM | Link to this

MochaTreat(ver.1) It isn’t sj and I fault that your nametake has been abused…Welcome back

By MochaTreat

March 29, 2007 4:59 PM | Link to this

@Demi Do I have to point to the blog comment that suggested that mochalette name be shortened?

Thanks…it’s good to be back…I ahve had a chance to get on line this week…I have been mad busy!

By kinderbabe

March 29, 2007 4:59 PM | Link to this

mochatreat that’s cool. glad to hear you’ve survived your first week.:)

hey demi:)

have a great evening everyone. i’ll blog w/y’all tomorrow.

By JustMe

March 29, 2007 6:23 PM | Link to this

Lawd WD you must be jet lagging…… you forgot to turn off the light……. I goy you! Go back to sleep!