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Wednesday, February 7, 2007
Lessons from a romance consultant
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
I think it must be every guy’s fantasy: 25 or so cute twentysomething girls, in their pajamas, sipping mimosas and playing with sex toys.
In this case, though, it was a pre-Valentine’s Day party hosted by a friend of mine, to which many of my close girlfriends were invited. We modern girls don’t do Tupperware parties — instead, we get a “romance consultant” to visit and offer us the chance to purchase lubricants, “heighteners,” pheromone-based perfumes, edible undies, and … erm…. adult toys.
There were vaguely phallic-shaped doughnuts. There was impromptu karaoke with … um, well, use your imagination about the microphones. ;) There was a lot of giggling. Especially when the hostess’ roommate’s boyfriend — who we didn’t know was in the apartment — emerged from an adjacent bedroom and asked loudly, “So, um, who was it that said they like to do it in the rain?”
But overall, I was so impressed by the maturity and frankness with which all my gal pals and I could discuss sex and our sexual preferences. None of us were shy about sharing what we were buying, or providing consumer reports on the products we already owned, or asking for recommendations on what to purchase and how to best use it.
I wonder if we’d feel so comfortable talking about these things with our partners!
Have you ever felt the need to spice up your sex life by introducing new ideas? How did your partner react? How comfortable do you feel asking your partner if you can bring a sex toy or other product into the bedroom?
How would you rate your sexual communication abilities? Are you able to talk to your friends more or less freely than your partner about your sexual needs and desires?
One of my friends commented to me: “Whenever I start a new relationship, I can’t wait til it’s OK to break this stuff out!”
Do you ever hesitate to introduce new things into your sex life? When in a relationship do you feel comfortable doing so?
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