Misadventures in Atlanta

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 08:29 AM | Link to this

Holy cow manure, DJ the F/K Drama and the “White boy”, has been bust for bootlegging…The black martket is in turmoil

Good Morning All!!!

By SlimOne

January 17, 2007 08:33 AM | Link to this

Morning bloggers

I wouldn’t use such a strong word as ‘dilemma’ to describe single women dealing with fellas possibly being gay. However, we can’t dance around the fact that Atlanta has a large gay population. As times have changed I have become more aware of gay society and have found myself on more than one occasion trying to decipher via mannerisms/behavior whether or not a guy was gay. I have never out right asked a guy if he was gay but i may jokingly say something to measure what his reaction is. I think its more accepted to have a guy ask a women if she likes women than it is to ask a man if he likes guys. You mess around and ask the wrong guy, there’s no telling what he would do, because he feels offended that you would even question it.

will sneak back in shortly

By MochaTreat

January 17, 2007 08:48 AM | Link to this

Good Morning

Do you outright ask a guy if he is gay, straight, or taken? Do you think men use similar techniques to find out if you are gay, single, or taken?

It depends on what type of relationship we have…if we have just met and there is no chance we will be seeing each other after this encounter then no I wouldn’t ask him if he was gay or straight. However, if we are seeing each other with the intent to become intimate…then I asked him if has ever had sex with a man…I have learned through the years that there are some men who may have experimented in college and or jail, but they don’t consider themselves gay.

I come straight out and ask a man if he is married or in a relationship… some time they are honest about it, but other times they are not. I started doing this after I was dating a guy for about 3 months and found out he was married with children..I dropped kicked him to the curb without an explanation…I could not believe that he would lie to me (Omission is a lie). He never told me he had a wife or any children.

How do you think you are perceived on the dating scene? Is image really everything?

A lot of men think I am mean…so they are afraid to approach me. Yes, I think to men image is everything. To me looks are not the most important thing…I do have to be able to look at you in the morning!!

By GA.man

January 17, 2007 08:49 AM | Link to this

good morning Yes slimone to a point you are right..i got no problem if women ask me..my answer is HELL NO but the problem for most of us guys is that so many brothers are on the D/L you ladies just don’t know..i will repeat what i said several times on this blog before tell the truth a lie is a lie no matter how you dress it up..some of my female friends dated guys guys who went both ways…and no one really knew..you can lie to others but you can’t lie to God and yourself..please don’t put someone’s life in danger with your lies..see this is why some guys are justed p** off…we have to deal with the dogs that lie to women and we meet you ladies afterwards..then now come the undercover brothers stop lying stop lying and yes this is coming from a guy who is just p** off to the 10th power about this sh*t because i have sisters(from my mom) and i love them

By Raqi

January 17, 2007 08:55 AM | Link to this

Predetermining the status of a possible interest can save you a lot of time and headache. Although it is unfair to an extent it is somewhat necessary in the day we live in. People are so dishonest now. Everyone wants their cake and to eat it to. It is evident that more women are finding themselves mixed up with a DL (DL is gay) or unknowingly with someone else’s spouse. The problem is there in no real formula or test to accurately determine someone’s status, so we take our chances. It would be ideal if one actually existed.

When you are out scaling the dating scene there is no surefire way to know who has strumming your magnetism strings. Singles today are faced with the heterosexual, homosexual, ubersexual (or metro), asexual, pomosexual, bisexual, pansexual, and the autosexual. What is a person to do, LOL?

WiseD I know you weren’t going that deep but this is something my friend Lacy talks about constantly. She made mention of the show just Saturday.

By Sexione

January 17, 2007 08:56 AM | Link to this

Happy Hump Day!!!!

I have no problem asking a man if he is gay, has ever had relations with a man, or anything similar….you have to be specific these days because not all men that have had relations with a man considers himself gay…WTF?? lol On the same note, I am not offended if a man asked me if I am gay. (I’ve actually had it happen because when I tell some men that I am single, they are like “WHAT?, You don’t have a man? Do you have a girl?” I simply laugh and say, “HELLZ NO!!!!, can’t an attractive woman be single?” Or I’ll jokingly say, “You know it’s hard to find a good man these days, you know how y’all are!!”. That usually gets a good laugh from them as well.

As far as reading a persons body language, we do that (male & female) to determine a number of things, including the level of interest. So I don’t really see it as “stereotyping” until you begin to try and label a person…..and then maybe sometimes it is necessary considering that person could be on the DL, or just crazy, or on drugs, etc. Mean or unfair…well, maybe, but such is life!!!

By SlimOne

January 17, 2007 09:00 AM | Link to this

One of my best friends is gay and most times when she comes into town she likes to hang out at…you guessed it…gay spots. So, I have gone with her on many occasion which are normally just girls. Now not too long ago we went to a different spot that catered more to the gay men. I was so devastated and depressed after I left that place. I mean, I saw SOOOOO many guys that looked straight and/or masculine as a board that were embracing other men!!! I guess because most of the time we were in the female spots it never bothered me, but seeing all those guys that I would probably be attracted to REALLY FREAKED ME OUT! For about a week I didn’t call anyone, I didn’t go anywhere other than work, I was honestly shocked, appalled and sad. It was something I just wasnt prepared to see. But you best believe while i was there, I tried my dayumnest to look at and remember any faces of the guys that would possibly be DL brothers!

By QC

January 17, 2007 09:00 AM | Link to this

Morning!

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

January 17, 2007 09:08 AM | Link to this

I think I will just lurk on this one. I have never been asked if I was gay by a woman (usually dispell that myth real quickly by actions anyway, not by words) and seldom been asked if I was married/single. Women do usually drill me on ‘recent’ relationships, just to see if I am just serial dating or sneaking out on the sly since I almost never date more than one lady at a time, but that is usually not an issue for very long.

By SlimOne

January 17, 2007 09:10 AM | Link to this

Raqi I didn’t realize there were that many —sexuals. ubersexual (or metro), asexual, pomosexual, bisexual, pansexual, and the autosexual

You might have to school me on what all of those are so I’ll know what kind of ammunition to use. lol

By Sexione

January 17, 2007 09:15 AM | Link to this

Slim….OMG!!! I was so devastated and depressed after I left that place. I mean, I saw SOOOOO many guys that looked straight and/or masculine as a board that were embracing other men!!! See, that’s the dayum problem right there!!!!!!!!!! Looks can de soooooo deceiving!!!!!!

But you best believe while i was there, I tried my dayumnest to look at and remember any faces of the guys that would possibly be DL brothers! I know that’s right!!!!!!! Take mental pictures……….lol

By T-Mango

January 17, 2007 09:15 AM | Link to this

Good morning all.

Yes, on the dating scene I am concerned whether a person is gay, single or taken. First, I don’t deal with men that are not single or currently unavailable(taken/in a relationship). The gay ‘bucket’ is a tough one for single women because it rests on a man telling you the truth about his sexuality. There are plenty of men out here that do have intimate relations with men, but they do not consider themselves gay. That’s scary. It’s not always the metrosexual man that is the “gay” one. It’s your thug, too. In the final analysis, I think you have to follow your gut and be very perceptive. Being gay or having tendencies which orient you as a man to other men while actively seeking out relationships with women is called deception. Nuff said. Be careful out there…there are alot of folks that lack honesty and integrity.

I’ll check in later. Have a great day all:-)

By Jewel, Restoring Her Luster

January 17, 2007 09:16 AM | Link to this

Good morning Everyone!

I have two primary questions: (1) Are you married? (2) Are you on the DL? Of course his answer to both questions is no. However, I listened to his body talk as well as what is coming out of his mouth. Not leaving him too much time to respond, I unapologetically state my case: “Well if you are, please move on. There are plenty of women who will date a married man. Do not try to trap me in that drama. And if you are on the DL, I am not here to judge you. But I do not want to be a part of it.”

Stereotyping is unfair, to a degree. However, self-preservation calls for this, at least on some level. I would call it my instinct. Whenever I listen, my instinct has never steered me wrong. Honesty is not the best policy anymore for most people. Society has departmentalized integrity. People tell “good” lies, “little” lies, lies of omission. IMO, this is a selfish way to relieve themselves of guilt.

BARACK OBAMA – 2008

Have a Powerful, Productive, Prosperous and Positive Day!!!

By GA.man

January 17, 2007 09:18 AM | Link to this

waiting on musing to break it down can’t wait to start laughing

By MusingLee

January 17, 2007 09:25 AM | Link to this

Morn’in All,

I’ve never been asked if I was gay. It’s very obvious how much I love the female body. I have had a Ms. Potential drill me about how many Women I was seeing at one time. I’d say “no one”, but she was convinced I was lying. After dealing with her I wished that I did have a squad in rotation. LOLOLOL

By SlimOne

January 17, 2007 09:26 AM | Link to this

For the life of me, will someone please tell me how a guy can deal with men and NOT consider himself gay????

I have picked up on some of the lingo from being around my bf…you have tops and bottoms. This guy told me some guys that are on the DL are tops…where they don’t do things but get things done to them.

By Michael

January 17, 2007 09:28 AM | Link to this

I was just talking to a girl about something similar to this last night. She assumes because Im single, straight, living in Atlanta, and that I go out quite abit that I already have a boat load of women on demand. Not true really. Now in regard to people and their status, thats their business. More women for me :).

By MusingLee

January 17, 2007 09:30 AM | Link to this

Ladies, a good way to find out if your dude is on the DL….Place one of your toys on the couch when he comes over. If he is on the DL he will try to sit on it…The DL booty is magnetically attracted to loose wangs laying around.

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 09:33 AM | Link to this

I do have to be able to look at you in the morning!!

MochaTreat I’ll make you smile while I am sleeping…Thinking: Dayum, how he get his ABS like that!!

Heeeeeey QC

By Sexione

January 17, 2007 09:34 AM | Link to this

Ubersexual…a male who is similar to a metrosexual but displays the traditional manly qualities such as confidence, strength, and class - leaving no doubt as to his sexual orientation

asexual….a person who is not interested in or does not desire sexual activity, either within or outside of a relationship.

Pomosexuals..(postmodernism sexuals) are individuals who challenge assumptions about gender and sexuality.

pansexual….A group which is open to members of all sexual orientations or gender identities including straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual, transexual, or transvestite.

autosexual….sexual orientation toward oneself; that is, preferring self-gratification over other forms of sexual activity.

Did I miss any?

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 09:37 AM | Link to this

GA.man co-signing your 8:49 post with my 9mm

By "Longtime Lurker"

January 17, 2007 09:38 AM | Link to this

Greeting folks!

I have been to Japan,Africa,Sweden and now back to the ATL and I tell ya, there is no place like home!

On the subject, I find that many women eliminate many men for a variety of reasons, based on what they initially see(i.e. his dress, a certain behavior,height,etc),without simply being open minded to the possibilities and just meeting and interacting with these guys and learning more about what makes them who they are.Let’s face it, when you eliminate, based on height requirements, etc. what do you really have to choose from? And you wonder then why are you single???

Dating and selecting a mate should be based on obtaining the best qualities in a mate,that best compliment you and your lifestyle vs. all the cosmetics,height requirements and material trappings.

Example: If I was a woman, I would say let me position myself to meet a man who is successful in his own right,demonstrates responsible behavior,supports his woman,family oriented, goal oriented and has a plan for our future!

Notice height is not mentioned,notice where he works is not in the mix, notice his physical is not in there and a few others common mentions are not mentioned, because these should be options and not requirements!

I have been prejudged many times by women, including twice this week. The sad thing about this is that the woman “often” looses out on meeting a great man vs. that man missing out on meeting a great woman, because there is no shortage of quality women in this city.

Prejudging is something we all do, but to a woman I believe is designed as a safeguard, but in all actuality, it is preventing to you from expanding your rainbow of potential mates.

By Jewel, Restoring Her Luster

January 17, 2007 09:39 AM | Link to this

Raqi There might not be a formula in determining someone’s status, but a man gives me cause for pause if he can only be reached during the day and early evening (before 9pm).

DL Tendencies:

You are at a restaurant, engaged in an interesting conversation. A man walks past your table and his eyes follow him, rather than pay attention to the fabulous point you just made.

He overcompensates on gay bashing statements.

He realizes his wrist is bent the wrong way, and glances at you quickly, wondering if you noticed.

By Sexione

January 17, 2007 09:39 AM | Link to this

Musing….the toy test…..LMAO!!!!

By Raqi

January 17, 2007 09:41 AM | Link to this

By JustMe

January 17, 2007 09:42 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All

Do you outright ask a guy if he is gay, straight, or taken? Yes, and I don’t wait a long time to do it either. If you are married, you can’t do anything for me but go home to ya wifey. Same thing if you are taken….. go home and keep her happy!

Do you think men use similar techniques to find out if you are gay, single, or taken? I think men wonder without asking until they find out how open you are willing to talk with them and on what level. I have been asked that question by more women (trying to hit on me) than men.

Isn’t it slightly mean and unfair to stereotype dates and scrutinize everything about them so harshly? Not at all, you have to look out for yourself first and foremost. In this day and age, you can’t depend on the next person to tell you the truth everytime, in fact you almost have to expect a lie from time to time because, it will eventually be right in your face.**

All of us are unique individuals that don’t always fit into neat little boxes. I wonder what men judge about me when they first meet me? I have often wondered this too, I think that it depends on what environment I am in when a guy first sees me. I think initially my mean muggin with bright eyes throws them for a loop, then the ones who dare to venture over to me end up seeing my big bright smile and wondering why I was mean mugging… It’s a natural defense mechanism, to keep the riff-raff out of my face.

How do you think you are perceived on the dating scene? I am a laid back person, so when I go out with a guy, I’m usually in let’s have a good time, good conversation, and a few laughs mode. I may be on my way to becoming a serial dater. Is image really everything? Image is 2 things 1) Image is how you carry yourself for the world to see you, and judge you. and 2) Image is an opinion that another person has of you based onhow they perceive that you carry yourself.

By SlimOne

January 17, 2007 09:43 AM | Link to this

Thanks Prof Sexione Class in now in session for SexologyBlog 101

I think you hit all the ones I never heard of.

By Jake

January 17, 2007 09:43 AM | Link to this

What up Blog:

I think I can come out to play today…LOL

Ladies, I feel for ya’ll, but I don’t think the DL ish is quite the epedemic that it is portrayed as. I not saying it doesn’t exist, but brace yourself (it has been fed to you through the mainstream media, it is another attempt to assassinate the character of black men, and it is working) Truthfully, we live in a city that is very accepting of alternative lifestyles, but I’m reading your posts and ya’ll talkin like its 6 out of 10 or somethin. Now, any guy who is that way needs his Azz Whupped, but he is no more dangerous than a dude who doesn’t strap up with a variety of women, at-risk behavior is at-risk behavior. Real talk

As for the perceptions, you determine that through your actions. I am a breath of fresh air, somethin like a dream, Cooler than a Polar Bear’s toenails…Oh yea I’m laid back and humble…..HEHEHEHE

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 09:45 AM | Link to this

SlimOne I feel your 9:00am post. Sometime I just wanna slap them dudes at LaFitness.

Slap

look at some ussy

Slap

look at some ussy

By GA.man

January 17, 2007 09:50 AM | Link to this

musing i knew you wouldn’t let me down

By Jewel, Restoring Her Luster

January 17, 2007 09:51 AM | Link to this

Besides relationship/marriage status and sexual orientation, I think it is also necessary to know a person’s health condition. A close friend of mine adamantly advises me of this. She has been married for nearly three years. A year into her marriage, she found out her husband has health issues he did not disclose prior to marriage. Yesterday, someone mentioned being caught off guard by a man in a wheelchair. . Casual dating may call for different rules. But if the two of you are pursuing an exclusive relationship, don’t deny a person’s right to make their own decisions. Withholding information says that you have some self-acceptance issues, in my humble opinion.

By GA.man

January 17, 2007 09:56 AM | Link to this

demigod lololol thanks for the breakdown Prof sexione

By Raqi

January 17, 2007 09:56 AM | Link to this

My friend Marissa is an attorney by day, a personal trainer on the weekends and is in superb shape. Her body is very well toned and she wears her hair short for the sake of low maintenance. And her hard shell attorney act shows even when off duty. Because of this she has been perceived as being gay. She use to get offended by this but now she just lets it roll off her back and keep going. She has been in a monogamous relationship and lived with the same man for 3 years. Proof that looks can be deceiving.

By Sexione

January 17, 2007 09:57 AM | Link to this

LL…because there is no shortage of quality women in this city….Oh really??? You are sadly mistaken, IMO!!! But I do agree re: all of the requirements, you have to be a little flexible….a little

SlimOne….no problem, let the class begin!! lol

Heeyyyy Jake, we’ve missed you!!

Demi….u r crazy!!! slap em again!! lol

By MusingLee

January 17, 2007 09:58 AM | Link to this

Jake Brotha, you bring up a good point. The Media (news reports, books, people who don’t know ishh) want to contribute the growing AIDS epidemic to the DL lifestyle. The powers that be want to distract us from the real and more likely cause of our problems so that we don’t perceive the more immediate threat. While the DL does contribute their share, the truth is HIV/AIDS are spread by m/f’s that are out there just humping away without regard for their health or the health of others. But lets not get into this discussion today.

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

January 17, 2007 10:03 AM | Link to this

I know there CAN be exceptions (but I personally believe dayum few), but I do not think a man can truly be bisexual. To me, a ‘so-called’ bisexual man is just gay in denial. Men, I don’t think, ‘experiment’ in college or elsewhere. They are either straight or gay (or pedophiles, which are the most dangerous of all).

Women, I do believe, often do have a streak of ‘bi’ in them, or at least more than men. I have known several who were primarily ‘hetero’ but ‘bi-curious’.

Regarding gay ladies, I have hit on one or two not knowing, but have usually been put in my place relatively painlessly (all were great looking, which is rare, and used to men not realizing). One of them became a great friend of mine (but I never stopped thinking of…).

Okay, now I put on my blog Kevlar vest, in case the blog bullets fly.

By GA.man

January 17, 2007 10:03 AM | Link to this

it can all be dealt with it we all JUST TOLD THE TRUTH This public service message brought to you by GAMAN

By "Longtime Lurker"

January 17, 2007 10:06 AM | Link to this

@Sexione I am from Atlanta and I know where to go if I want to meet quality women and I have never had a problem in that area.

I also know where to go,if I want to meet hoodrats,random broads,etc. Atlanta is a big bowl of choices ya know. Pick your social spots carefully!

By GA.man

January 17, 2007 10:07 AM | Link to this

hey musing someone else had to put on bullet proof vest before we did lololololol

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 10:09 AM | Link to this

You are at a restaurant, engaged in an interesting conversation. A man walks past your table and his eyes follow him

This is some scary ish…I may need to start walking around with ‘cutie sweater’, just to keep cats from staring at my a$$,LOL

By Jay

January 17, 2007 10:11 AM | Link to this

Judging by the wrong cover What does it mean, you look like youre married? If I choose not to live in a Bachelor’s pad does that mean red flags go up. It’s sad that I have to go on defense about being gay. I understand the number of gays in this city. If you want to ask, thats fine. Dont judge me by the wrong covers, just ask. I think we all miss out by the way we judge others. People lie so much. Its hard enough as it is with dating. It has to be a easier way.

By MusingLee

January 17, 2007 10:15 AM | Link to this

GA.man Yeah, I saw that too. LOLOLOL….Randyt Take that dayum vest off….You need to have your ishh pushed in before you get a vest. Hahahahahahaha

Foots Please turn down that bullet, the humming is making my computer screen flicker. hahahaha

By SlimOne

January 17, 2007 10:16 AM | Link to this

Randy waving a white flag from around the corner I come in peace. I thought pretty much all hetro men had a fantasy that emcompassed them and two other women. But in having many male friends, I’ve come to find out that some guys are actually not as interested in that as I originally thought. I wonder if it has anything to do with the man’s fear that in the midst of it going down, that the two women will forget about lil ole him.

By Dr. Kym aka Rested and Relax

January 17, 2007 10:19 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

I ask first about you as a person if you are someone I want to know further, then I ask single, married, gay, straight etc..period.

Prejudging is something we all do, but to a woman I believe is designed as a safeguard, but in all actuality, it is preventing to you from expanding your rainbow of potential mates.

SoLL if women prejude as a safeguard then why do men prejudge? Because in your example the same can be said for me. She is too dark, she is too light, she has no butt, she has too much. How often do men really go about the process of meeting a woman to really know her and not her favorite sexual positions?

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 10:22 AM | Link to this

Sexione would if I could. I’ll just love them as a person, but hate their lyfestyle…Mayne, these ladies are working them black boots this winter!!!

GaMan I vote you for Mayor of this fine city.

Heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeey JustMe

By GA.man

January 17, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this

ooook here we go!!!! slimone you wrong about the lil ole him most guys just don’t want two women…if you are serious about thw woman, why would you even need another to fill a void…tell hell thru your daily convo what you are missing in your sex life and maybe come to a comprimise

Dr KYM Good point, i would like to add that most in this blog might agree when you meet a person you like them for what you see…then you have some dates, then find out things as they come…i think we can agree if you see someone and you don’t even like the way that person looks you won’t even put forth an effort to get to know them, hell you might not even talk to them Exp. you are approached by someone and your first instinct is that this person is ugly or you don’t like the way they appear (in dress) you will probabaly blow that person off. The beauty of having an open mind is not judging a person..then getting to know the inner part of that person

By abc

January 17, 2007 10:29 AM | Link to this

This is yet another example of ‘yall watch too much TV’. Most of the time, a man couldn’t care less whether some random chick thinks he’s straight, gay, taken, single or the man in the moon. If you’re not a random chick, investigate his azz if you have questions like that.

By Mista's 2007 debut

January 17, 2007 10:29 AM | Link to this

Wise, of course men are concerned about the gap between how we see ourselves and how others see us. And for years men have done what they can to close that gap — excessive weightlifting, muscle cars, that thing Hammer had in his pants on the Pumps and a Bump video — but to what end? To remain scrutinized. It’s a reality in dating that we all must continue to live with.

And since you wanted to know what people think about you… I’m kidding.

Hello Everybody..How the feds gonna arrest my favorite mixtape DJs?!?

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

January 17, 2007 10:30 AM | Link to this

@SlimOne

There really are hetero men not interested in a threesome? Nahhhh, can’t be. If a guy would lie about that, he might lie about other things too. LOLOLOLOL. I can’t speak for the rest of the male gender, but for me, nope I would not worry at all about being left out (the worst that could happen is it would be fun to watch, and anything from there is wonderful OR BETTER).

By the way, you did not ask if I have ever explored this…well the answer is…you will never know unless you were there.

By MusingLee

January 17, 2007 10:30 AM | Link to this

SlimOne That’s because we don’t want to come home and find the two of them going at it and leaving the dude out.

Musing coming home from a hard days work

Musing: Dang, I’m hungry. I wonder if anyone of my Ladies cooked.

Musing walks up stair to find his bedroom door locked….he hear some muffled sounds of two Women getting it on

Musing: WTF…Open this dayum door. Open it….Let me in…I want some too…Dayum you sneaky beoatches.

By GA.man

January 17, 2007 10:30 AM | Link to this

Randyt no vest until you stir up some drama..lololol then musing will issue you one..mine has pockets

By Jewel, Restoring Her Luster

January 17, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this

it can all be dealt with it we all JUST TOLD THE TRUTH Oh GA Man, that is simply too easy! Some men and women get a rush from telling an outlandish lie.

By "Longtime Lurker"

January 17, 2007 10:34 AM | Link to this

@Dr. Kym Men don’t put all the stipulations on meeting women as women put on men. A man’s only stipulation is that if it looks good, we will holla! If we are on a road trip,we will holla at a 6 in some cases.

I have never heard a man say “I aint gonna talk to that female cause she is “5-2”! I aint never heard a man say “I aint gonna talk to that female cause she has no car”

My question is this, if the average height of a man in the U.S. is 5-10, how every chick out there gonna marry a dude 6-0 and over??? And why is that more important and than who is as a man!

Height is a “option” not a requirement to having a productive relationship!

By GA.man

January 17, 2007 10:35 AM | Link to this

demigod thanks for the vote…i need another 24,327 anyone else

By SlimOne

January 17, 2007 10:35 AM | Link to this

Mista’s kudos for my first hard laugh of the morning… that thing Hammer had in his pants on the Pumps and a Bump video LMAO

By SeanJohnson

January 17, 2007 10:35 AM | Link to this

Sup Blog…cosigning Jake and LL’s comments…women get caught up too much on image..what the media/potrays what is attractive..and who and what we are…and what that does is give women unrealistic views of men and dating…but it also balances things out…because the same way you look at men from head to toe…peeping his style..shoes…guessing his income and status to determine whether he is good enough for you…smart men know that the same high chair u sit it also comes along a boat load of insecurities because you compare yourself to the same fake images you see on TV…so the next time you say want a real man…ask yourself are you a real woman…

By GA.man

January 17, 2007 10:41 AM | Link to this

by jewel i know it is a lot to ask for the truth..i know it won’t happen but i am sticking to my guns..and i will do my part by telling the truth ..then i won’t have to worry..cause when i find out her azz lied..Kicked to the curb..hard ready for blog bullets (come on,,come on)lolololol

By GA.man

January 17, 2007 10:42 AM | Link to this

^5^5 sean johnson ^5^5 longtime lurker musing i think we will have friends in the bulletproof vest gang before long

By purplepassion

January 17, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this

Good morning Hey Foots WOW this topic is the heading of one of my many horror stories in the dating life. Here it goes, I met a guy online we talked for about 2 weeks either on the phone or chatting via email/IM. I asked him to send me a picture which he said he didn’t have any, but will take some and send them to me, well it never came. Anyway we made arrangements to met at church (but my old faithful instinct crept in) instead we met at a local restaurant. I’m sitting there in great anticipation to met the guy whom had great conversation, great sense of humor and decribed himself as a decent looking man dispite no photo to back him up but looks wasn’t the big issue unless he came in looking like a three claw slough. Oh yeah he makes a good a good living too. There he was walking up to me the closer he got the more I was saying OH NO HE DIDN’T. This man hair was raggy, hair going all down his back, I couldn’t tell where his nap ended and where it began and his lips was so cracked up even blistex ran away and on top of all that he was gay. I was soo p** I wanted to slap him for impresonation and misrepresentation. I should take him to Judge Mathis and sue him for chosing that night to come out of the closet. That night ended early of course> He had the nerve to asked me what do I think about him and I told him flat out I think he is gay of course he denied it and had the nerve to ask me what did he do for me to think that and I narrowed it down to him like this: 1. Female physical jestures, 2. The way he said WELL (flamers always say well and sway their head a certian way and last 3. The waiter kept saying I remember you from somewhere.

By Dr. Kym aka Rested and Relax

January 17, 2007 10:45 AM | Link to this

@LL So does a person weight have that same option..how about breast size, and butt size? Men put just as many stipulations on meeting women as women put on meeting men. An please spare me with the height thing or car, because we have already poll the peanut gallery on the I dont date women with kids, or women who have a weave, blah blah. The gander is just as picky and unwilling to expand their horzions as the goose.

By MusingLee

January 17, 2007 10:47 AM | Link to this

SeanJ You get the first blog bullet proof vest of the day…

*Now handing SeanJ a bullet proof vest and two scoops of raisins.

By SlimOne

January 17, 2007 10:47 AM | Link to this

GA.man That will be true for some guys not caring too much for a 3-some but I’ve heard it also that some would like to experience it at least once in their lifetime. You say to sit down and talk about your wants but if one of his wants is another you, do you send her off to be cloned or what? lololol

Randy So there isn’t a such thing as too much JUST watching? hehehehe

Musing point taken LMAO!…sneaky beotches! But 3-somes can go another way also…where the guy ends up sneaking behind the main girls back messing with the other chick. H3ll even in BIG LOVE Bill broke the scheduled nights with his other wives to mess around with the main wife. It all goes back to having your cake and eating it too

By MissUnderstood

January 17, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

LMAO, I see I haven’t missed a daggone thing since I have been on hiatus. Good Morning Blog Fam.

I think it’s rude to come right out and ask a person about their sexual status. I think some investigating and paying attention to actions will tell you what you need to know.

A DL bruh told me once that there are little subtleties(sp) that will let you know what’s up. They can’t control every action and lets face it menfolk, you can’t help but let those eyes wonder when you see something you like. It’s in your nature. LOL

By Mista 2007

January 17, 2007 10:53 AM | Link to this

Teacher: Well class, who wants to be first to call purplepassion a hypocrite?

Mista 2007: Me, Me, Me!! Oooh, call on me!!!

By GA.man

January 17, 2007 10:55 AM | Link to this

slimone you are right, but if she wants it to be two dudes…then she just gotta go.lololol there ain’t no other way to say it…i want “1” woman and she should want “1” man..i guess that is why some of us are still single..just have to wait

seanj congrats on the vest..Gaman hands seanj club rules for blog bulletproof vest* club musing President Gaman Vice-Pres. welcome to the club get ready

By MusingLee

January 17, 2007 10:56 AM | Link to this

PurpleP LOLOLOL…dang…hehehehe

You sure you didn’t go out with a homeless gay crackhead….LOLOLOL

By Sexione

January 17, 2007 10:57 AM | Link to this

Dr.Kym….break it on down!!! My BS detector is going crazy over here…..grab your helmets, shields, and $hit boots, cause it’s getting pretty thick!!!! Puuhhhleaazzeeee!!!

GAman said it earlier…..just tell the dayum truth and we won’t have half the problems and misrepresentations that we are forced to endure….no matter what your preferences are….because we ALL have them!!!!!!

By QC

January 17, 2007 10:57 AM | Link to this

hey Demi, Musing, JustMe, erry’body

By GA.man

January 17, 2007 10:57 AM | Link to this

hhhhmmm musing i think we might need another vest quick!!!!! i think mista 2007 just became a recruit lets see how this goes down!!

By Jake

January 17, 2007 11:00 AM | Link to this

Hey Sexione I got some winks and kisses for ya. Thanks for the definitions earlier…I’ve been in the gym studying for my test..lol

Musing you right, that is for another day, but I had to say it.

As for prejudging people, everybody is prejudice to some degree. Its human nature to notice differences in people, but for the dating debate. The purpose of all this ish is finding a suitable mate, now if you have thing you feel determine whats suitable, who cares, just know you cut your possibilities down.

By purplepassion

January 17, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this

LL and SeanJohnson I agree to disagree to what you are saying. Most women don’t put situlations on a man except for him to treat her good and be a good provider. I know what I want and looks is not a big factor. Neatness is a big factor, I can’t be in the company of an unkept man. We can’t fix the world, it is filled with people with all types of dreams and desires when it comes to finding a mate. You just have to know what you don’t want. LL as far as height most men feel insecure when it comes to their height I think that’s where the nepolean complex (I think that’w what it’s called) comes from. I take it that you are a short man and most woman don’t list I want a 5’3 to 5’7 man etc etc on her list but not all women look as height as a set back.

By purplepassion

January 17, 2007 11:03 AM | Link to this

Mista a hypocrite?? I beg your pardon? Please explain yourself

Musing LOL naw he wasn’t.

By NCgirlfromATL

January 17, 2007 11:03 AM | Link to this

LL, SJ Point taken. However, there is a difference btw “hollerin’” at a man/woman and entering into a relationship with that person. I think many of the women on the blog would agree that if a nice looking guy approaches, then we’ll often give him a chance to give his pitch…and probably go out with him. It’s a whole different ball game when you start getting to know someone, and bones start falling out of their mouths. I agree with Musing/Jake that the media has probably blown the DL thing up into epic proportions. However, it is a real concern for single women. Chances are, you know a woman who has dated a DL man. It’s scary on many levels.

Personally, I don’t ask the question about sexuality until I have reason to believe there may be an issue. Perhaps that’s naive, but I am willing to give a brutha the benefit of the doubt. I do want to know if he’s single/married/just out of a relationship. But, that’s b/c I ain’t trying to fight some crazy woman in the parking lot!

By Sexione

January 17, 2007 11:05 AM | Link to this

All this threesome talk reminds me of a dude I met a few yrs. ago that wasted very little time in telling me over and over how he and a couple of his boys liked to do a threesome with an attractive female. Now I’m thinking, “Fool, please”….but I also was thinking, “how many straight men really want to be that close to another naked man?”. I quickly came to the conclusion that either this fool is gay (actually on the DL cause he claimed to be straight) or just plain what?, GAY!!! Oh yeah, this was the same fool that lied about his real name…..go figure!!!!

By SeanJohnson

January 17, 2007 11:10 AM | Link to this

@ DrDooLittleKym…okay..you yave a height requirement..most females do…but that has to be the silliest dating rule ever…and this is coming from someone who would pass your requirement..not to single you out..and not saying you are insecure about your height because you shouldnt be…be why would you cross a man off your potential list because you are thinking about how yall would look together in public..we are all the same height horizontally.

By "Longtime Lurker"

January 17, 2007 11:12 AM | Link to this

@Dr. Kym It’s like this…The cosmetics can always change! If I was a woman having the limited options y’all claim you have, I would be more practical in my approach to dating and loose all the stipulations.

Many women are they own worst enemies, when it comes down to meeting men in general! I have been prejudged, as well as just about every brother on this blog and y’all loose out out, not us!

I think if you take meeting men on a case by case basis and use a open minded,non-baggage approach,non-judgemental approach and see what that man has to offer, you would be surprised not in all cases, but more than a few!

With breast and butt size with men, we will still talk to that sistah and there are sistah’s out there, that fall in that category that get dates and get married.

I got a boy that only dates skinny chicks, been that way his whole life! Look at Hollywood and LA, that is all the dudes want out there!

By GA.man

January 17, 2007 11:12 AM | Link to this

musing blog bullets are about to fly from purplepassions gun—>mista2007

By Mista 2007

January 17, 2007 11:12 AM | Link to this

This is what you said:

…but looks wasn’t the big issue unless he came in looking like a three claw slough. Oh yeah he makes a good a good living too. There he was walking up to me the closer he got the more I was saying OH NO HE DIDN’T. This man hair was raggy, hair going all down his back, I couldn’t tell where his nap ended and where it began and his lips was so cracked up even blistex ran away and on top of all that he was gay.

What I took from it was looks don’t matter unless you’re ugly. Does the blog agree with my assessment? Face it, you went on a date with the GEICO caveman…

By GA.man

January 17, 2007 11:15 AM | Link to this

lmao@ sexione lololol

By Sexione

January 17, 2007 11:16 AM | Link to this

Jake….alright now, that’s what I’m talking about…being prepared!!! I’ll take my winks and kisses now……hugs and kisses coming your way!!

purple….that’s exactly what’s it’s called, and it can be an ugly thing….but not ALL men who are height challenged have that problem, I think, lol

By Jake

January 17, 2007 11:18 AM | Link to this

Dr. Kym/LL I gotta be a double agent on this one. LL yes it is true that none of your preferences will stop you from gettin at a woman if you feel right about and the appeal is callin, but Dr. Kym we do some of that ish too, I will be the first to say that I do not want a woman who, has no job, multiple children, and is lookin for a hand out. I don’t care how good she looks, how great the “snapper” is. She will find herself immediately placed in the “cut buddy” zone, (MLB 6.9-386-I don’t want her as my woman, but I didn’t say I wouldn’t hit it….HEHEHEHEHEEHE)

Sexione How tall are you?

By Jewel, Restoring Her Luster

January 17, 2007 11:18 AM | Link to this

GA Man I agree 100%! I have already experienced my first post-relationship casualty because of my honesty. I had to repeatedly tell a man that I was not looking for a relationship. And for his own sake he did not need to call me everyday inviting me out. Of course he never mentioned tickets to the Alvin Ailey show. just kidding…

By GA.man

January 17, 2007 11:18 AM | Link to this

^5^5^5^5mista yes i think she did go out with the caveman …..lmao…lmao…lmao

By GA.man

January 17, 2007 11:19 AM | Link to this

mista2007 you have truely shown you’re worth of the bullet proof vest by not being scared to blog what you really feel and will say it no matter what!!!!

By "Longtime Lurker"

January 17, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this

@purplepassion I am 6-2 1/2, and I respect but don’t agree with your comments.

Short guys are overlooked 90 percent of the time by women, therefore they have a reason to be upset or have a complex.

It is not their fault, that they are short and their height has no measure on their ability to take care of their business, be responsible and support a good woman, but many times, they never get the chance to show and prove, based on their height!

By Sexione

January 17, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this

Mista leave purplepassion alone……sounds like she met a male buttahead, and daaayyuummm, I don’t care how nice you are, who wants to be with someone you can’t bare to look at? I know no man on this blog does, so cut it out!!!! Sounds like you’re being the hypocrite here. Would you date the female version of what she described? HELLZ NO!!!! LMAO

By Offended Caveman

January 17, 2007 11:23 AM | Link to this

WTH u trying to say?!

By MusingLee

January 17, 2007 11:23 AM | Link to this

Mista07 Man, Stand behind Randyt. He’ll shield you with his vest until your new one arrives. GA.man Please put in the order for Mista’s vest and Red Dog boots.

By SlimOne

January 17, 2007 11:24 AM | Link to this

Mista In my world the term for the ‘being’ you encountered is BARACUDA

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 11:25 AM | Link to this

SlimOne That’s why God created hands…baby, lift sweetie’s leg up a little for me please…Ahhhh…Now enjoying another ‘Autosexual’ moment.

By Sexione

January 17, 2007 11:27 AM | Link to this

Jake…..I am 5’2 barefoot, appr. 5’5 - 5’6 dressed (almost ALWAYS in some sexy heels, except for the occasional sweats day). How tall are you?

By Jake

January 17, 2007 11:28 AM | Link to this

Sexione Dude probably was talkin bout a Chatanooga Choo Choo, but if she was a real live freakazoid she was good for one in each end. Mouth full with a dog barking behind her…LOL

I don’t think dude would have been talkin about it if it was some gay ish…

By MusingLee

January 17, 2007 11:29 AM | Link to this

Sexie There is no straight dude trying to be nekeded with no other dude…Unless I just played four quarters and I’m making 6 figures a game. And even then, I’m wearing a long’azz towel.

New Lady: Musing, I hear you have some strange post game rituals?

Musing: What do you mean?

News Lady: Team mates claim you shower fully clothed.

Musing: Dayum straight…I ain’t trying to have those m/f’s looking at my d/k…The only way they seeing it is if they have an MD at the end of their name and the ishh is itching.

By "Longtime Lurker"

January 17, 2007 11:30 AM | Link to this

I think many of you are still gettin it twisted!

Two categories exist here in this dating process!

Requirements equals goals,education,security,etc.

Options equals height,material trappings,cosmetics.

The requirements should always come first and the two categories should never be confused with each other.

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

January 17, 2007 11:31 AM | Link to this

@Sexione

Re: *but I also was thinking, “how many straight men really want to be that close to another naked man?”. *

NOOOO IISSHH!!! I’ll leave that to someone else.

Several years ago, there used to be a show on Comedy Central about a guy who had gotten a divorce, and I cannot remember the name of it. One night Courtney Cox made a cameo appearance and left him a key to her room in the hotel. Unbeknownst to him, she had given a key to his best friend also. When they run into her in her hotel room, she told them she wanted them both. She looked dayum fine and both wanted her, but the whole rest of the episode was watching the two guys try to deal with being in the same bed together (as far away from each other as possible).

As for me, uh no, actually helz no!!! It may be downright unfashionable to be straight these days, but I am quite content to like women ONLY.

By GA.man

January 17, 2007 11:31 AM | Link to this

Gamanstands in front of mista07 to help randyt shield him from blog bullets…musing i put the order in and i asked for rush delivery..it will be here in 20 mins. it needs to hurry..

Caveman yup they said U G L Y you ain’t got no alibi..you UGLY uuum huh you ugly

By Mista 2007

January 17, 2007 11:33 AM | Link to this

@ Offended Caveman: I didn’t make the rules partna. You had a cell phone in the commercial with the therapist…why didn’t you take a picture for purp?

Sexione: I don’t have any problem with the situation — we all meet people we find unappealing physically. But she ain’t no victim and that’s what she is not off the hook for.

Slimone: It wasn’t me.

By Raqi

January 17, 2007 11:33 AM | Link to this

Ms. Wise One I have a topic idea for ya:

Judging A Book by The Cover:

Some books have nice glossy eye catching covers but the contents and storylines are just boring. No real umph. Blah to say the least.

But then some books have covers that are not that eye catching and may be a bit worn but turns out to be the best read you have had in a long time because its contents are informative, stimulating and just down right entertaining.

On that note I am out.

By Sexione

January 17, 2007 11:35 AM | Link to this

Jake I figured that too, but still, that’s a little too close for naked wangs, don’t you think? Either way, he turned me off completely with that mess!!! Oh lawd

Musing……you’re making my stomach hurt!!! LMAO!!!!!!!!

By DuShawn

January 17, 2007 11:36 AM | Link to this

I had a female to question my sexual preference once. Initially, it was humorous, but then it became insulting. We were in an intimate moment, but I was still exhausted and drained (literally) from a previous date. During the foreplay with this sista, I sensed my soldier might not want to salute. This was our first sexual encounter and my ability to lay pipe had yet to be established with her. So, instead of embarrassing myself by trying to smash it in soft, I told her I just wanted to hold her and talk. That’s when she asked, if I was gay. She insisted that no heterosexual man could hold her nude body without making love to her. My rebuttal was that she overestimated the value of her vagina. Actually, I’m secretly praying for Johnson to wake his azz up and represent. Long story short, I couldn’t believe she could seriously think I might be a punk. It was funny at first. Then my laughter turned into aggression. I got a few hours sleep, woke up with morning wood, rolled over and punished her, got dressed and left thinking this chick tried me last night.

By "Longtime Lurker"

January 17, 2007 11:36 AM | Link to this

@MusingLee LOL at your 11:29! You aint right man..LOL.

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this

Mista 2007 naw bruh…purplepassion gets a free pass on her long a$$ post…the dude lied and was bi-sexual

By Dr. Kym aka Rested and Relax

January 17, 2007 11:38 AM | Link to this

SeanJ and LL My height requirement has nothing to do with looks in public, nor does it have to do with sex. Just as majority of the menfolks on this blog have stated they want sister fine fine, I prefer mister look me in the face so I dont have to pat you on the head.

I dont see many guys on here saying I met this great lady name Sandra that has 3 kids, no job, a GED, and lives with her sister. I think I will date her and see how it goes.

No, you are not dating Sandra in your mind and that of your other counterparts in the gallery Sandra is only good for late night creeps in the back of the Save-A-Lot parking garage. An tell me gentlemen why is Sandra not good enough to stand by your side at social functions with clients, or family, I mean after all should you expand your dating out of the box? How do you know Sandra is not a smart woman who made some mistakes and is getting it together?

My point is please do not get on here with your psycho babble of the perils of women and dating, as if Men have it all figured out, the same patterns in dating that women have so do men.

By QC

January 17, 2007 11:39 AM | Link to this

lol @ Musing!

By purplepassion

January 17, 2007 11:39 AM | Link to this

Mista looks does not matter but the way you keep yourself up does. You can be born butt ugly, I mean torn up but if you have are spoting a nice hair cut, clean clothes, teeth shining and everything eles is in order then I you look good to me.

By GA.man

January 17, 2007 11:41 AM | Link to this

musing i agree ^5 i ain’t gonna be in no situation where i am nakked with another dude PERIOD unless he is a doctor and i still might want a female doctor….! woman+ man= GAMAN

By Jewel, Restoring Her Luster

January 17, 2007 11:42 AM | Link to this

The Geico Caveman! LOLOLOLOL!!!

By For Real

January 17, 2007 11:43 AM | Link to this

What up Blog?? I am new here and I like the convo… Well here are my two cents.. I don’t think that there is a “DL” problem.. i think the problem is women fool themselves when they see a man that floats their boat… the DL should mean “Didn’t Look”… One night I was out eating diner and I walked past a table full of women to look at the deserts… while standing there I heard the ladies say… ooh his is fine & cute, oh his is married, naw no ring he is a playa and finally naw he probably gay. So I went from fine to married to playa to gay in 3mins.

By purplepassion

January 17, 2007 11:43 AM | Link to this

Yall are cracking me up in here. Caveman LMAO….

thanks Sexione

By Jake

January 17, 2007 11:44 AM | Link to this

Sexione I have full foot on you baby, 6’2.

By Sexione

January 17, 2007 11:45 AM | Link to this

Kym again ^5^5^5

Yes, Demi, you hit the nail on the head. It was more about the fact that he LIED, than what he actually looked like…..hence the no picture up front!

By MusingLee

January 17, 2007 11:46 AM | Link to this

Dr Kym Who the hellz is Sandra…And how did this buttahead get a name all of a sudden…LOLOLOLOL

No dude knows the real name of his buttahead….It’s just Kiki, Ice, or Thug Passion or some other ishhh….Sandra?!?! LOLOLOLOLOL

By GA.man

January 17, 2007 11:47 AM | Link to this

DR kym as you and everyone on this blog knows we have disagreed on several topics…..So what you are saying if you met a guy and he had 3 kids lives with his mother no Job and a ged you would give him a fair shake and possible marry him or atleast date him one on one for the possibilities of marriage…hhmmmm YOu have Dr in front of your name but i don’t know what you do for a living but how would you feel when your friends or co-workers asked your “Man” “So what do you do for a living?” i am sure it will come up……..hhhhhmmmmmm

By SlimOne

January 17, 2007 11:47 AM | Link to this

Mista oops sorry

purplepassion this was for you: In my world the term for the ‘being’ you encountered is BARACUDA

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 11:50 AM | Link to this

“Longtime Lurker” I don’t see you hollin at no fat H@e no time soon…U like what you like and that’s all to it.

By purplepassion

January 17, 2007 11:52 AM | Link to this

**Mista, Musing, SJ, Jake and the other male bloggers question, does looks really matter to you? Would you date Caveman’s sister? Would you stroll down Park Ave. with Caveman twin sister?

By Mista 2007

January 17, 2007 11:54 AM | Link to this

Stop it purp! Looks don’t matter but (add your reasons for thinking so here)…I’m leaving this one alone.

@ Demi: He lied about what? The topic of discussion is perception — he may not think he’s ugly, but she did. Whose standard of beauty wins in the end?

You know the inside story on this one?

By SlimOne

January 17, 2007 11:54 AM | Link to this

DuShawn you didn’t administer torture procedures did you? lol

By Sexione

January 17, 2007 11:55 AM | Link to this

Jake I’m cool with that…it’s the total package that I’m interested in, not (so much) the pieces that make the package!! I have actually dated guys from my height to yours….so I am well-rounded in my thinking and choices!! Plus, sounds like you could wrap me up in all that……lol

purple no problem girl, you know we ain’t going out like that!! lol

By NCgirlfromATL

January 17, 2007 11:56 AM | Link to this

Dr. Kym ^^5 ^^5 ^^5!! breaking out the platinum, Mont Blanc superior writing utensil, with the 24k gold nib to CO-SIIIIIIIIIGN!

The truth is, we all pre-judge. Men and women both have physical, financial and mental criteria that we hope and pray the person we are talking to will meet. Some have more minimalistic requirements, but requirements none the less.

By purplepassion

January 17, 2007 11:59 AM | Link to this

Mister are you??? Caveman???? you’re taking this a little too personal and I’ll say it again looks does not matter to me, physical looks, (appearence matters the way you carry youself does). There is a big difference.

By GA.man

January 17, 2007 12:01 PM | Link to this

purplepassion nope i would not date caveman’s twin sister look at him if she looks like him nope..nope..nope

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 12:02 PM | Link to this

Soooooooo…None of you dude been to a sex party nor a porn shoot. There is none wrong with screwing a wife while he’s screwing your girl in the same bed…Hellz we both work his wife to sleep…Gay is when you have sex or enjoy kissing a member of the same sex

By For Real

January 17, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this

DuShawn you missed an opportunity to see your girls skills when it comes to arousing the pocket rocket… Purp to answer question, if she had a body like Serena Williams I ain’t holding her hand I am riding Cavegirl’s back all the way down Peachtree Street with a big Kool Aid Smile…

By Sexione

January 17, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this

DuShawn that’s what you get for trying to give that tired azz wang to two women in a matter of hours……JUST NASTY!!!! Now, what do you think would have happened had you been man enough to tell woman #2 the truth about why Mr. Wang couldn’t play? Sounds like somebody was playing manwhore……….lol And what if woman #2 had refused to let you hit it because some other man had knocked the walls out already? You’d be calling her all kinds of ugly names!!! Double standard my azz, it goes both ways!!!

By Jay

January 17, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this

I think looks matter. if your mate really looks like buttahead. they are not coming to the company Christmas party. I found that women that I know wants a man that taller than she is. She feels like he is a shield to a degree, protector. Caveman…..that is still funny.

By Jewel, Restoring Her Luster

January 17, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this

I don’t care how nice you are, who wants to be with someone you can’t bare to look at? Sexione So true! I met a man online a few years ago who said he was “easy on the eye.” We met and I’m thinking, Whose eye Stevie Wonder? He immediately got a nonstop, one way flight to the friend zone!

By MusingLee

January 17, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this

LMAOOOoooo @ the dayum Caveman showing up…Hahahahahaha….Priceless.

Purple No, I only date Women that I don’t mind looking at directly in the face. If people turn and stare after you walk by and you’re not a celebrity, then you’re probably ugly as hellz or super fine-fine….But which one?!?!? Hmmmmmmmmm

By MELO

January 17, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this

Now, any guy who is that way needs his Azz Whupped, but he is no more dangerous than a dude who doesn’t strap up with a variety of women, at-risk behavior is at-risk behavior. Real talk-JAKE My own interpretation of this is’you are GAY’ YOURS HETEROSEXUALLY, MELO!

By Mista 2007

January 17, 2007 12:06 PM | Link to this

On the phone with Offended Caveman. Turns out he works in IT. LOL

By Jake

January 17, 2007 12:06 PM | Link to this

Sexione As for the close wang question, yes it sounds like close quarters, but gentleman have an uncanny abilty to not realize anything else in a room when his wang is being serviced. Wouldn’t know that other “wang” is there….LOL

By Dr. Kym aka Rested and Relax

January 17, 2007 12:09 PM | Link to this

Well GAMan since you apparently want to in the words of my baby sister“Test my gansta”

I have dated the gambit in regards to men, short, tall, bald, unemployed, underqualified, and overqualified. I date people who interest me and that I have good conversations with to start. Next my family is nosy as anyone else, but they dont have the stick up their azz mentality because I come for a family of hard working, salt of the earth people, that means my family runs the gambit in regards to education level, jobs trade, etc.

In other words, if mister man is a janitor that came to a party or social outing with my family, he could talk with anyone there and they wouldnt talk above him, or down to him, or over him. All he has to be is himself. If my aunties or uncles want to know more about him or question his intentions they are coming to me, and if he is not working they will be the first to say well baby there is always work at the post office. The same can be said for my friends.

By For Real

January 17, 2007 12:10 PM | Link to this

I with you S1.. I look for the total package… but I won’t date a lady if she looks like and has the body of an 11 yrs old. Just something nasty about to me…

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 12:12 PM | Link to this

Mista 2007 I just know from experience, most women will date ugly a$$ hell men (regardless of his wallet), as long as he bring something else to the table. Hellz had she been a chick, the date would not have lasted .5 nano seconds apron seeing the visuals.

Most of us would have Spiderman jump our a*******es out the nearest window at Apple Bee’s

By "Longtime Lurker"

January 17, 2007 12:15 PM | Link to this

@Dr Kym I am surprised by your last comment!

As a professional and educated woman, how can you say…

I met this great lady name Sandra that has 3 kids, no job, a GED, and lives with her sister. I think I will date her and see how it goes.

And equate that with a height requirement?

The things you mentioned above are moral issues, that the average person with values would not consider, but a height requirement for dating someone is in my opinion shallow and does not have anything to do with moral values. I am speechless and very surprised at your comment!

By Jake

January 17, 2007 12:17 PM | Link to this

Sexione I could wrap you up, put some sauce on you and make you a Human Chulupa. You’re 5’2, that means I could Donkey Kong you when you act up. Hit you right on the top of the head…no bruises…HEHEHE ( just kidding..I have never hit a woman…I Love my MAMA) Hey Jake, quit covering your own azz..LOL

By GA.man

January 17, 2007 12:17 PM | Link to this

Dr Kym i can respect thank i just wanted to clarify…thank you again

By For Real

January 17, 2007 12:18 PM | Link to this

Now hold S1, I say if you got bullets in the gun then you should shoot them until you are empty. Bang, Bang S1!!

By purplepassion

January 17, 2007 12:18 PM | Link to this

* the late great Ray Charles* juged a womens buty by her wrist size. I wonder was he ever off?

Caveman is that you???

By Offended Caveman

January 17, 2007 12:18 PM | Link to this

I’m outta here! You all r really testing me today! Going to my therapist! Can’t we all just get along?!

By QC

January 17, 2007 12:18 PM | Link to this

y’all are off da chain 2day

By JustMe

January 17, 2007 12:20 PM | Link to this

Afternoon all NO time to catch up, so I’ll just jump right in….. I hope there are no blog sharks!

Heeeeeeeeyyyyyyyyyyy Demi

We in this blog agreed long ago that physical attraction is the initial attraction between men and women in most cases. With that being said, I want every blog guy who regularly hollas at pplus size women to be account for today and please share with us what it is you like about a thick-chick!

By Sexione

January 17, 2007 12:20 PM | Link to this

Demi not the window again, but you are telling it straight up!!! LMAO

now I’m going to eat my lunch….y’all play nice lol

By Mista 2007

January 17, 2007 12:21 PM | Link to this

Oh purp, don’t try to turn this on me. Don’t front because someone put the spotlight on your lame sob story. You invited the man to church, so be Christian on Wednesday too. Wise presented us with a genuine topic to discuss and you trivialized it. Now back to the questions Wise asked…

Yes looks matter. We as society make them matter. Purp had an aesthetic standard for Caveman and he was below it, no matter how much she wants to deny it now, and most of us have a standard for the people we meet and mate with.

By MELO

January 17, 2007 12:24 PM | Link to this

Short guys are overlooked 90 percent of the time by women, therefore they have a reason to be upset or have a complex-LL

They must’nt be upset because there are short women out there who like such men. Iam 6,3 and i like my woman a shade taller or shorter, not my ‘waist height’ short.

By For Real

January 17, 2007 12:25 PM | Link to this

“I met this great lady name Sandra that has 3 kids, no job, a GED, and lives with her sister. I think I will date her and see how it goes.”

Now that’s funny LL… but you should have added 4 baby daddies

By JustMe

January 17, 2007 12:32 PM | Link to this

tapping LL on the shoulder

I am Not shallow. I am tall.

Melo I don’t overlook them intentionally, it’s just that they are out of my line of sight…..

By purplepassion

January 17, 2007 12:33 PM | Link to this

LOL, I’m sorry laptop froze on me, I meant to say Ray Charles judged a woman’s look by her wrist I wonder was he ever off?

By Mo

January 17, 2007 12:34 PM | Link to this

Hey Bloggers Ya’ll got this thing poppin in here today!! Lay off da short folks, I am 5’0 and of course I prfer my men tall, dont have much of a choice!! LOL On topic I agree with your last post Mista, looks matter period. Everybody is entitled to want what they want, period!

By "Longtime Lurker"

January 17, 2007 12:34 PM | Link to this

@For Real Dr. Kym said that, not me!

By purplepassion

January 17, 2007 12:35 PM | Link to this

Mista I’m going to lunch, I don’t want to see you anywhere on 285.

By GA.man

January 17, 2007 12:38 PM | Link to this

whhhhhooooaaaaaa it is getting hot in here!!!! say what you mean and mean what you say!!! i will say it again…Dating is like shopping, if you look at something and realize you don’t like it put it back on the shelf..sometimes you have to try it on then you think nnnaaahh that ain’t for me!! we all do it

By Mista 2007

January 17, 2007 12:39 PM | Link to this

All these skyscrapers on the blog. Can any of y’all hoop?

By Foots

January 17, 2007 12:40 PM | Link to this

Hey purplepassion, hey blog! I haven’t had time to read everything, but just wanted to stop by and speak.

By Dr. Kym aka Rested and Relax

January 17, 2007 12:43 PM | Link to this

@Lurker

In your previous example you made these statements:

If I was a woman, I would say let me position myself to meet a man who is successful in his own right,demonstrates responsible behavior,supports his woman,family oriented, goal oriented and has a plan for our future!

So who is to say the woman Sandra I described is not working toward those goals, remember I said she had admitted mistakes and is working on those mistakes. So does that mean she is undateable. After all didnt you go on to say in that same earlier post that job status, and other physical things are options?

An please explain to me how dating a woman like Sandra is a moral decision?

By Jake

January 17, 2007 12:43 PM | Link to this

@Melo If you can’t realize that my statement was an intelligent look at what goes on in our community, so be it dawg, cause I don’t know you. I hope you protecting yourself when you do what you do;or do practice at-risk behavior. DO YOU KNOW YOUR STATUS? I was explaining how the media destroys the image of black men, and how over-hyped the DL issue is. Now, don’t get it twisted folks, I’m far from being a “punk”, born and raised right here in the A, and I still got my hood stripes, I’m just a grown azz man who can see through the bullskit, try it.

By T-Mango

January 17, 2007 12:45 PM | Link to this

Ok, I think I’m caught up now…

Keep it real, if two people are strangers the attraction stems from what you initially SEE. It could be their physical attractiveness, how they dress, etc. Then, as you get closer you experience the details. It could be how he smells, how he talks, they way he moves or just that “something” about his swagger that you can’t put your finger on. I like the total package in a man. I’ve met some very handsome brothers who I could not stand once I got to know them better because they were stuck on themselves. I’m sure there are some brothers that can make the same argument about women.

So, one’s attractiveness may take you in, but it is their inner beauty that will keep you intrigued. That is… if you’re really about pursuing quality people to date. In contrast, if you’re superficial, attractiveness with no content will work for you.

Anyhoo…Everyone has their own preferences. Those preferences may shrink the pool of potential partners depending on how stringent they are…but that’s a personal choice. For example, I like men that are as tall or taller than me with nice builds. They may not be Tyson Beckford (love the body)or LL(love those lips) calibur, however, if he exudes confidence and he is comfortable in his own skin then he will capture my attention.

Will all the grown and sexy please stand up?this text will be italic

By "Longtime Lurker"

January 17, 2007 12:47 PM | Link to this

My question to the female 5-6 and below.. How the hell ya gonna say I only have a preference for men 6-0 and taller, when yo azz is short? Talk about the double standard!

Now for the sistah’s 5-8 and higher, you are not the norm, so I can kinda understand your preference a little better than some short broad who is in love with the thought of having a superhero/capt’n save a ho.

By Dr. Kym aka Rested and Relax

January 17, 2007 12:48 PM | Link to this

LL An if dating someone who I can look in the eye is shallow, well then I will take a seat next to your friend who only dates women who have the Hollywood and Vine look.

We can all sit together in the shallow section but we will have to snuggle close cause it will be tight.

By MusingLee

January 17, 2007 12:51 PM | Link to this

In a mysterious bit of monkey business, a female at a chimpanzee sanctuary has given birth, despite the fact that the facility’s entire male chimp population has had vasectomies. Now managers at Chimp Haven are planning a paternity test for the seven males who lived in a group with Teresa…

Dayummm even the monkeys are getting “Baby Daddies”

Chimp 1: Nah, playa that ain’t my baby, I had a vasectomy.

Chimps 2-7: Yeahh…Me too!

Girl Chimp: Y’all some lying m/f’s.

By Mista 2007

January 17, 2007 12:54 PM | Link to this

Go ahead to lunch purp and come back with a clue.

By SeanJohnson

January 17, 2007 12:55 PM | Link to this

@ PurplePassion…i have never dated a female that wasnt attractive..and thats in my eyes…not to say another man would say all of them were attractive..one mans trash is another mans treasure..

By "Longtime Lurker"

January 17, 2007 12:58 PM | Link to this

@Dr. Kym I will go on record and say that I would never date or consider a lady like Sandra!

Even though she has made past mistakes, I am at a point in my life, where I need someone who compliments me and makes good decisions.

At the mid thirties (where I am am)I am willing to accept certain flaws in an individual and move forward, but Sandra’s track record will affect my bottom line,so I would have to take a pass on her!

Her situation is like someone who defaulted on a few loans, but has expressed a desire to honor the next loan she is trying to get, despite her past circumstances. If you were Bank of America, would you give her a loan or say go see Title Max?

9 times outta 10 a persons past behaviors will dictate their future behaviors and I want no part of a person who has no direction.

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

January 17, 2007 01:03 PM | Link to this

Okay, I’ll step forward with some honesty…Life is toooo short to be with an ugly person (or it is for me at least). As long as I can find a woman who is basically all of the good things mentioned above in the blog, and still get one easy on the eyes, then guess which one I’ll take? I am as shallow as the next guy when it comes to looks. I do not feel good about that, but at least I am honest with myself about it. After having said that, my standards may not be as high as some others, do not need real beauty, just do not want serious ugly.

Nope, beauty may be only skin deep, but ugly cuts all the way to the bone.

By Sexione

January 17, 2007 01:11 PM | Link to this

so much for playing nice* lol

Jake I’m a native too!! How old are you? Oh, and I got your Human Chalupa…as long as you’ll be my plate…..lol

By Foots

January 17, 2007 01:13 PM | Link to this

LL Aren’t men generally taller and heavier than women?

By binford

January 17, 2007 01:15 PM | Link to this

It would be nice if a woman even tried to determine my eligibility status - for real.

Apparently, I must be the most visually repugnant man because even though I’m educated, gainfully employed and in shape, I get no play. For a while I though it was the parachute pants, but not even a nibble on the hook when I updated to the 90’s - who knew? Scary enough though, some female friends have called me the “M” word - which totally offended me. (metrosexual for you wondering).

Seriously, I do worry I don’t project the person I truly am. Because I have no problems meeting friends or being social - so apprently whatever I am doing is not attracting single ladies my age. But all the older ladies I know say they would date me and I don’t know if that’s a good thing.

It is a little harsh to scrutiize a little too closely, but I think both genders are equal in the regard. I try not to be too harsh myself. But Diva , you really don’t want to know how guys are judging you - you really don’t.

I will experiment with the image thing and see if I can dress so hot, the women that don’t even bother looking up from their soup at the food court take notice. I’ll let you know.

Let’s hope life is more like a Sprite commercial.

By For Real

January 17, 2007 01:16 PM | Link to this

Dr. kym you have to know where you are at in your life before you can go out and date someone like a Sandra. Dating Sandra isn’t a moral issue. It’s an issue of place and time. Sandra wouldn’t be in the right place or time for me bc she is still trying to overcome her mistakes. And since we all come with a “bag”, we have to access if we willing and capable of assuming someone else’s “bag”. Now I will get off my soapbox… back to the Caveman jokes and why does a woman want to date a man that she has to look at his pocket rocket when they standing?

By For Real

January 17, 2007 01:19 PM | Link to this

Muse does MF mean Monkey F**ker.. lol

By GA.man

January 17, 2007 01:19 PM | Link to this

^5 foots you are correct…this whole blogs shows us that we all have a picture of the person we want to be with…and that is why we are all good people..there is someone for everyone..just choose what you want and maybe that person will choose you, but in the end we all will find that someone to connect with…like randyt said ugly does cut to the bone and i do want to be able to wake up and look at you without going ddaayyyyyuuummmm what did i do?

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

January 17, 2007 01:19 PM | Link to this

@Musing

Sidebar to Musing (do you think with all this talk about ‘height’ they are going to get started on ‘does size matter’ like on the late night infomercials? there might be some serious lying going on then).

By "Longtime Lurker"

January 17, 2007 01:23 PM | Link to this

Foots That is a blanket question! There are many women that are taller and heavier than most men.

Just depends on what part of the country you are in. The U.S. has the largest percentage of over weight and taller women, than let’s say Japan or China.

By MusingLee

January 17, 2007 01:23 PM | Link to this

Randyt Man, I ain’t even bring that up…Although I have had no complaints.

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 01:26 PM | Link to this

binford how old are you 28?

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

January 17, 2007 01:28 PM | Link to this

binford

I’m not Dear Abby, but I have dated ad had serious talks with countless women. If there is one single thing that they almost all say, it is that they like a man who projects confidence. I am as insecure as any man, but I have learned to fake it til I make it. You might try that. Just a thought…good luck.

By Foots

January 17, 2007 01:31 PM | Link to this

LL Naturally speaking, though… If you took a male skeleton (no fat, no muscle) and put it beside a female skeleton, wouldn’t the male skeleton be larger, on average? If you don’t think so, we can certainly pull some info.

The point is, why are you making height such a big deal when the vast majority of men are taller than women anyway?

By SlimOne

January 17, 2007 01:33 PM | Link to this

binford I’m curious as to what you Do look like…Hmmm?

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 01:33 PM | Link to this

“Longtime Lurker” what about women who are 5’8 in heels calling another 5’5 w/o heels short? That isn’t right.

By JustMe

January 17, 2007 01:38 PM | Link to this

Randy not to be in you and Musing’s Kool-Aid, but sizes does matter…….. but only for so long (no pun intended). Be it a woman measuring the length and girth of a mans drum stick or a man measuring the circumference of a womans butt, if in the end the size is to our liking but the person is an azz, I think the issue with size will be out weighted PDQ because unless both people are very shallow and conceited, no one will put up with a jackazz too long.

By Foots

January 17, 2007 01:39 PM | Link to this

LL And I know you like stats, so here you are…

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Humanheight#Averageadultheightaroundtheworld

Demi what about women who are 5’8 in heels calling another 5’5 w/o heels short? That isn’t right.

You right!! I’m 5’ 5.75”, so I round up to 5’6”. When I’m in heels, I’m 5’9” and I think other women are short. I think I’m taller anyway even barefoot, since my legs are so long. LOL!!

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 01:40 PM | Link to this

I am as insecure as any man, but I have learned to fake it til I make it.

now signing post with my .45

Foots good question, he’s 6+, so he’ll never experience that form of rejection.

By ThirdWheel2007

January 17, 2007 01:41 PM | Link to this

Hey Everybody!! This blog is funny today! I am sitting at my desk with tears in my eyes! I just want to say I like short men. but if they come up to my knee caps then I might have a problem… I don’t need to be propping anyone up on my knees… with that being said why is it that men these days like skinny chicks that weigh like 25lbs and could be kin to Karen Carpenter?? Inquiring minds would like to know!

By purplepassion

January 17, 2007 01:43 PM | Link to this

Randyt ‘does size matter’? Heck yeah. I can’t rock the boat with little willie, it just aint happenin. I ‘m a grown azz woman and I need big willie to stand up and represent.

By GA.man

January 17, 2007 01:44 PM | Link to this

^5justme the size of a woman or her beauty will be gone if she has an inner azz

By Jake

January 17, 2007 01:45 PM | Link to this

Sexione Yea, the gloves have been taken off…LOL

I’m 30.

By "Longtime Lurker"

January 17, 2007 01:45 PM | Link to this

@Foots I am making height such a big deal, because females in general make it such a big deal!

That is the number one hang-up you guys have in dating! It puzzles most men, because we don’t make it an issue, when dating women. Yeah, we want fine big booty and breast, but we are not going to turn our noses up at a chick that does not quite fit the profile we want/desire like y’all will.

I know y’all naturally want to feel safe and protected by height, but there is maaaany a dude that is short and will kick some azz a whole lot better than some of the NBA profiles.

By SlimOne

January 17, 2007 01:46 PM | Link to this

I’m about 5’6” and have dated guys around 5’8” and up…not on purpose, just coincidental.

By Foots

January 17, 2007 01:46 PM | Link to this

Blog LL said earlier that “Education” should be a requirement (11:30), I assume that this means level of education achieved. How important is this to you? Is it a requirement for you?

By JustMe

January 17, 2007 01:47 PM | Link to this

As a tall woman……. speaking with regards to the height of potential SO’s. I can not say that I have NEVER been in a LTR with a man who was shorter than me because I have. What made me accepting of him at his height was “him”, his self confidence, his ability to make me smile, and the level of enjoyment we shared together. Now with that said, I do still prefer a man who is taller than JustMe, but I am no longer going to disregard them altogether (until they start with the corny lines)

Corny lines to a tall woman

Any of the above and dude is outtahere!

By "Longtime Lurker"

January 17, 2007 01:50 PM | Link to this

@Foots Good info and this backs up what I said earlier, about the average height of a dude being 5-10 in the US,so what is the problem with all these chicks wanting NBA profiles, if there are not that many out there?

All y’all chicks can’t date/marry the same 5 dudes!

By Sexione

January 17, 2007 01:50 PM | Link to this

Third…..why is it that men these days like skinny chicks that weigh like 25lbs….girl that’s not true for all men, h3ll, that’s not true for quite a few men!!! Don’t let TV fool ya…lol

GAMan…the size of a woman or her beauty will be gone if she has an inner azz……Trus, true, for women AND men (including the size of Mr. Wang)!!!!

By JustMe

January 17, 2007 01:51 PM | Link to this

Hey GA Man ^5 backatcha!

Foots according to your stats……. JustMe is taller than the average male in every country - LOL

By Foots

January 17, 2007 01:57 PM | Link to this

LL It puzzles most men, because we don’t make it an issue, when dating women.

The reason why height is not an issue to most men is because on average, most men are taller than women. A lot of men are attracted to “dainty” women. A lot of men refer to women as “shorty” because they are shorter than they are. What would be the issue for men?

It doesn’t seem like the shorter guys on the blog have any trouble attracting women. Looks like they are doing fine to me…

By JustMe

January 17, 2007 01:58 PM | Link to this

LL yeah men don’t make it an issue, they make it a fantasy!

Foots To some degree education does matter. It would seem highly unlikely that a well educated man or woman would fall for a person who is uneducated. That would make for some strange conversations, the maturity levels may differ, extracuricular activities may differ, lifestyle may differ, beliefs may differ, back grounds may differ etc…. I’m not saying it could never work, but I think it would be the exception to the rule in cases where it did work unless one party was looking for a trophy to parade around and be seen not heard. IMO.

By purplepassion

January 17, 2007 01:58 PM | Link to this

LL, men a woman can increase the breast and her butt size in a matter of hours with plastic surgery. Would you date a women who has gone under the knife to increase her size?

By GA.man

January 17, 2007 01:59 PM | Link to this

hhhmmm well since i am 5-10 can’t change it but since i am that height i really never had the problem with the hieght..you are right sexione it does goes both ways….smiles to all the ladies..even you Dr Kym and i promise not to test your gangsta for atleast 15 more minutes ok lol

By Foots

January 17, 2007 02:00 PM | Link to this

LL And who said that the women wanted a dude who was 6’7”, NBA-size???? Most just say that they like their men to be taller than them, but if not, cool. It’s a preference, some people have them, some don’t.

By purplepassion

January 17, 2007 02:01 PM | Link to this

hey Foots

By Foots

January 17, 2007 02:03 PM | Link to this

JustMe Are you speaking of education level or maturity/intelligence? Would you be okay with dating an intelligent man who does not have a degree?

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

January 17, 2007 02:03 PM | Link to this

I am afraid of tall women ever since I saw that tall blonde, with the ‘glamour shots’ pictures on match.com who turned out to be a transexual.

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 02:04 PM | Link to this

Foots I was at the Leopard Lounge a last weekend talk with this sexy as hell 6 footer. U should have seen how quickly her 5’4 - 5’8 w/heel friends pulled her away. Saying all short iggas are dogs…

I don’t mind being call a dog, but at lease let me prove that I am not.

By MELO

January 17, 2007 02:04 PM | Link to this

Women prefer taller men because that usually translates to a bigger nd longer pipe.But I know short men too(like my young brother) with mean looking cobras!!

By For Real

January 17, 2007 02:09 PM | Link to this

Demi you are right why do women always say how tall they are in heels

LL I agree with you on that one.. what if he is 6’3 but weight 180lbs?

Demi, Sexone, *Purple Passion, Foots, and Just Me give the men on this board the vitals that you look for in a man and I bet most of the men here fit the bill: Height: Weight: Skin Tone: Hair: Education: Salary: Age: Sexual Orientation:

By Sexione

January 17, 2007 02:09 PM | Link to this

As for education level…that is not nearly as important as intelligence level. For you see, they don’t always mean the same thing. I know plenty of folks (male & female) with degrees, that can’t communicate verbally or written as intelligently as some without the piece of paper. My daddy used to say, “there’s no worse fool than an educated fool”. I also know quite a few people (male & female) that you would never be able to tell don’t have a college degree unless they told you. So, you see, I really am not concerned with your level of education (you should at least have a high school diploma, though) as much as your level of intelligence. But again, we each have our preferences.

Jake what high school did you attend?

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 02:10 PM | Link to this

Would you be okay with dating an intelligent man who does not have a degree?

You mean like a Bill Gates?

By Offended Caveman

January 17, 2007 02:10 PM | Link to this

Back from my therapy session. Not to be barbaric, but MELO, ummmm…..dude…i don’t know how to say this…but…uhhhhh….now u sound gay. No offense.

By purplepassion

January 17, 2007 02:10 PM | Link to this

Foots I think education goes in with who’s the bread winner in the relationship. I’ve read several articles where men feel inferior to women who make more money than they do.

By JustMe

January 17, 2007 02:12 PM | Link to this

Foots in terms of education mainly. If a woman has travelled the world and speaks 9 different languages, I seriously doubt that Pookie gonna be her type of man.

It would not be the first time I’ve done it :-)

So long as a man can be a man without crying about what the “white man” has taken from him so be it. But when the excuses and the moaning and groaning come into play, I tend to think that the guy is an excuse maker and that he is never (going to be)wrong and that all his shortcomings in life are (going to be) someone else’s fault rather than his own.

Randy Wow! JustMe is all girl born and raised - LOL

By Foots

January 17, 2007 02:14 PM | Link to this

MELO I can agree with and disagree with both situations. I was with a short guy that had me so surprised, I thought it was fake!! I wanted to measure it, just so I could tell people. It’s so individualized when it comes to parts of the body since we have such a huge gene pool that our parts can come from.

By SlimOne

January 17, 2007 02:14 PM | Link to this

MELO You are so right. I dated a really tall guy once but I guess there weren’t enough ingredients to make a whole cake down there….and I’ve dated a really short guy and boy he had an overflow down there.

short guy and slim getting a little frisky

short guy pulls it out to prepare the strap down

Slimone’s eyes pop out of her head as if she was a cartoon

Slimone: ummm, what is that?!!

Short guy: lol what do you mean, you know what it is.

Slimone: and what the h3ll you think you’re going to do with that!?!! uh-uh

Short guy: I’m sure you can handle it, i’ll be gentle with you…at first.

Slimone: I’ll be right back, gotta freshen up.

next sound is the screeching of tires out of the driveway and a cloud of smoke

By "Longtime Lurker"

January 17, 2007 02:14 PM | Link to this

@purplepassion I have dated at least 5 women, who have gone under the knife prior to meeting me and I have no problem with it! If it looks good and you are fine with it, then I am fine with it.

By Sexione

January 17, 2007 02:15 PM | Link to this

Foots girl, you reading my mind….I just made the same comment….I’ll take intelligence and maturity over edumacation lol anyday…but that’s just me!

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 02:16 PM | Link to this

MELO Then why dont women just choose men base on there D/K sizes…cause I wish they did

Randyt LOL the was low…but true

It doesn’t seem like the shorter guys on the blog have any trouble attracting women. Looks like they are doing fine to me…

Ya Dayum Right!!!

But I am working to slow my roll

By Jake

January 17, 2007 02:18 PM | Link to this

Melo Women prefer taller men because that usually translates to a bigger nd longer pipe.But I know short men too(like my young brother) with mean looking cobras!!

And you was questioning me…LOL

By For Real

January 17, 2007 02:20 PM | Link to this

Sexione your dad is a wise man. Alot people hide behind their degrees…

JustMe I am 5’11 6’1 in heels can you put a brotha in the game lol

Melo Melo, Melo???????????????

By MusingLee

January 17, 2007 02:23 PM | Link to this

Randyt You know you have an insufficient wang when your lady friend makes sly statements about your size like;

By JustMe

January 17, 2007 02:23 PM | Link to this

For Real Height: Weight: Skin Tone: Hair: Education: Salary: Age: Sexual Orientation:

Height: 6’0” preferably

Weight: depends on height 6’+ = 230 - 265 <6’ should be porportionate to his height.

Skin Tone: I’ve never dated a white guy, but I have dated black men in a variety os sexy chocolate shades from vanilla/caramel to plum purple.

Hair: Neat and groomed however he wears it long or bald

Education: Preferably a college graduate but not an absolute.

Salary: Enough to support our lifestyle should I not be able to provide income for whatever reason.

Age: 35-45

Sexual Orientation: HETEROSEXUAL ONLY!

By SeanJohnson

January 17, 2007 02:23 PM | Link to this

somebody might wanna hand dude a man law book…

By Sexione

January 17, 2007 02:25 PM | Link to this

For Real Where are you meeting these shallow women that would list those things as requirements? Come on now!!! Yes, height/weight should be proportionate (not too fat, not too skinny, and definitely not shorter than me-h3ll I’m already only 5’2), age yes (I don’t want to date someone my childs age or someone that could be my granddaddy), and sexual orientation HELLZ yes (cause I don’t want any of the above mentioned $hit-straight no chaser, that’s it!!)……but hair and skin tone, I’ve already stated how I feel about education vs. intelligence, and salary (not too important as long as you’re not needing MY help to pay YOUR bills, h3ll I’m a single momma already)…those things are beyond superficial, and life is too short to be hung up on that mess!!!! Come on now!!!

By purplepassion

January 17, 2007 02:27 PM | Link to this

For real Height: really doesn’t matter prefer someone taller than me - 5’8 and taller will do. Weight: Again not a factor but has to be neat about his weight Skin Tone: Not a factor Hair: prefer bald but if he has hair has to be neat. Education: Street smart and book smart Salary: Negotiable Age:not a cradle robber Sexual Orientation Straight

By ThirdWheel2007

January 17, 2007 02:27 PM | Link to this

Education does not matter to me. As long as they have a high school diploma and can spell Cat with a c instead of a K then I am happy. Now of days you can’t tell which people have a high school diploma or college degree.

By MusingLee

January 17, 2007 02:28 PM | Link to this

SlimOne Dayumm….LOLOLOLOL….You didn’t get the hellz on, did you?!?!?! hehehehehehe

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

January 17, 2007 02:28 PM | Link to this

JustMe

JustMe is all girl born and raised

…Just, I already knew you were quite a woman, now it is nice to know for sure you are a woman.LOL (but to be on the safe side, do you have a prominent Adam’s apple…just wondering??? LOL

By JustMe

January 17, 2007 02:29 PM | Link to this

For Real I am 6’0 in my stocking feet 6’4” most days of the week. You can get in the game, but can you become a starter is the real question ;-)

By GA.man

January 17, 2007 02:29 PM | Link to this

^5 to seanj Rule number #1 no looking at other man wanker even if it is your brother i am sitting at my desk lmao

By For Real

January 17, 2007 02:31 PM | Link to this

@Slimeone That’s funny as hell

@SJ Hell Yeah and make him read it 3 times.. I hope no one works for DFAC is on this blog…

By Jake

January 17, 2007 02:31 PM | Link to this

Sexione

I gotta hold the presses right there, TMI, I’ll save that answer for test time…LOL Gone to a meeting, catch you in an hour.

By Sexione

January 17, 2007 02:32 PM | Link to this

SlimOne u r crazy girl, but I feel ya!!!! LOL

For Real 6’1 in heels? OKAY!!!!

Musing Yes, either of those statements might be a hint….lmao

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

January 17, 2007 02:32 PM | Link to this

Musing

As one guy I used to work with said, he reckoned he was big enough because it was long enough to get him off.

By kinderbabe

January 17, 2007 02:33 PM | Link to this

what in the katmandu is going on up in here?? lol i missed a WHOLE lot. i’ll keep reading….

By SeanJohnson

January 17, 2007 02:34 PM | Link to this

@ GaMan @ Jake…thought that was a “unsaid rule” then to be giving blog high 5’s with the females…that was price less…lol.

By SlimOne

January 17, 2007 02:35 PM | Link to this

Musing I had to dip out, get my weight up, and my mind right before I could go back into the trenches. H3ll, I only weight 106lbs….LOL Like binfold said earlier, I would’ve gotten punished back there.

By MusingLee

January 17, 2007 02:37 PM | Link to this

shades from vanilla/caramel to plum purple.

JustMe Where the hellz did you find a Purple Man? Hehehehehe….Dang.

Salary: Enough to support our lifestyle should I not be able to provide income for whatever reason.

What reason would you not be able to provide income?!?!?!

JustMe: Baby, I’m dying. I won’t be able to provide income anymore for our lifestyle.

Dude: Don’t worry, you can still provide after I donate you to the Bodies Exibit.

Now catching the first AmTrak to Hellz

By Foots

January 17, 2007 02:37 PM | Link to this

Demi I guess that Bill Gates is a good example. Talk about potential!

But there are a number of men I know who are intelligent as hellz, well-spoken brothers who did not attend college. Other races too. When I started my career in engineering, most of the white men I worked with had worked their way up to their positions as engineers and managers. They were super bright, but started low and worked up, or received training in the military. It would be different if they were indeed “Pookies”, but having the financial ability and time to attend college does not mean that a person is any more intelligent than someone who didn’t have the opportunity. It’s all relative to me.

Now to me, being intelligent is not the same thing as being smart. Intelligence is the capacity to learn and understand. Smart is having the knowledge and being able to apply it. I know folks that are one and not the other. I like folks that are both.

By MELO

January 17, 2007 02:38 PM | Link to this

MELO Then why dont women just choose men base on there D/K-Demi They do,why do u think some women will cheat because they are not getting it right at home.

If the wang aint right, trust me, thats an issue with most women.

By GA.man

January 17, 2007 02:40 PM | Link to this

seanj i will give them credit when they deserve it..but you are right it was an unsaid rule…i hold my own when it comes to defending the guys point of view on topics i think anyone here can back this up….i still am a true believer tojust tell the truth i have earned my blog bullet proof vest for a reason…lol

By MochaTreat

January 17, 2007 02:41 PM | Link to this

@ For Real Height 6’ plus Weight 200-240 Hair doesn’t matter as long as it is neat. I have dated guys with locs to bald heads to everything in between. Skin tone I prefer dark skinned men, but I have dated men of all different complexions. Education Perfer a college degree, but you had to have graduated from high school. Salary < 0 (must have some type of job, even if it not your dream job) Age 34-40 Sexual Orientation HETROSEXUAL ONLY…ALL OTHERS NEED NOT APPLY!!!

By For Real

January 17, 2007 02:43 PM | Link to this

Thanks ladies…

Sexione It’s not about being shallow, I think knowing what women are looking for in a man is beneficial to men and I think women would like to know what men are looking for in a lady.

JustMe I am “even-handed” and I have never rode the bench

GA.man That’s Rule Number 1 and 2

By Foots

January 17, 2007 02:43 PM | Link to this

For Real I’m 29, so I usually look date men in the 27-38 range. Younger guys and guys my age never approached me much, mostly guys 4-6 years older than me.

I like men who are taller than me, but I have dated men that are a little shorter. Not too much shorter, not too much taller, or it feels weird when we hug (standing up or laying down). And we are NOT the same height horizontally. You can be face to face laying down, but dude’s feet might only come to your knees. That ain’t cool for me.

Other looks: He just has to be attractive to me, that includes weight, skin tone, hair, smile, whatever.

I don’t have a requirement about education level. I need an intelligent man who can carry a conversation with me and have an opinion of his own.

Same with salary, as long as you are gainfully employed and supporting yourself and don’t owe everybody every dime you make, you cool with me. Anything you bring to the table is appreciated.

Dude must be straight though. Requirement! LOL!!

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 02:43 PM | Link to this

Education does not matter to me. As long as they have a high school diploma and can spell Cat with a c instead of a K then I am happy.

Hell is home a place to call home…sup 3rd

JustMe You are sooooo Dayum lucky…now I think every chick over 6ft is JustMe, LOL

By kinderbabe

January 17, 2007 02:47 PM | Link to this

hey demi, musing, slim, justme, qc, sj, sexione, jake, randy, blog fam

i feel like i’m way too behind to make comments..lol just wanted to say hey to you all. i’ll catch up tomorrow.:)

By JustMe

January 17, 2007 02:48 PM | Link to this

Randy Just to be sure, I checked both mirrors - LOL NO dear there is no adams apple here :-)

GA Man / SeanJ LOL I was wondering what obscure rule he had broken - LOL I guess that rule wasn’t that obscure.

Y’all really got JustMe thinking about this education thing…….. I’m gonna have to go and stand alone in the blog corner on this one, I have no desire to date the village idiot with or with out a degree. Now he can be a comical as Musing as gangasta as Demi used to be, as insecure as RandyT, as tall as LL, , and a dong like JHolmes but if dude can’t keep/maintain a JOB JustMe is gonna keep it movin’ I’m not raising another woman’s son, that is her job not mine. Call me what you want but it is what it is and I am JustMe

By Ms. A

January 17, 2007 02:49 PM | Link to this

Wow…miss a few hours and it gets off the meat rack in here!! I have been busy reading…it is outta control in here today…all I can say is…GaMan when is the meeting??? Get to it!! lol

By Mista 2007

January 17, 2007 02:49 PM | Link to this

I thought the demographic profile thing was cool, so here’s mine:

Age: Into my late 20s… Height: 6’2 Weight: 245 Skin Tone: In the middle Hair: Managed by a professional Education: Bachelor’s degree; 9 hours short of a Master’s degree Occupation: Journalism/PR Salary: in the 25% tax bracket Etc.: Baptist, no children, never married

By NCgirlfromATL

January 17, 2007 02:50 PM | Link to this

Melo you don’t honestly believe that women choose men based on d/k size, do you? I mean really?! Can someone please hip him to Woman Law #429b-1A5? “…it doesn’t matter how big your SUV is or how blinged out. If you don’t know how to drive it, it will result in a terrible accident!”

It is a factor in determining how good sex might be…but even the biggest d/ks can’t keep a woman at home if the man attached to it ain’t treating her right.

By Dr. Kym aka Rested and Relax

January 17, 2007 02:51 PM | Link to this

Let me get this straight…based on Melo’s comments..3 different men have just prejudged him to be homosexual.

By Wise Diva

January 17, 2007 02:52 PM | Link to this

my goodness, you can NEVER tell which way the discussion will turn on this blog, ha..soo unpredictable!

I think the Geico caveman comment just did me in, LOL.

@Musing, maan, so what are you trying to say? I am charming in person! giggle

By Strap-on Saleman (not Demi)

January 17, 2007 02:53 PM | Link to this

If the wang aint right, trust me, thats an issue with most women.

Fellas, are you ashame of turning off the lights or straight Superman diving into the covers went it’s time to do the do?

I have a product just for you…let me stop, I have no idea what a strap-on for men is or would look like…

By Strap-on Saleman (not Demi)

January 17, 2007 02:56 PM | Link to this

kinderbabe Heeeeey sista!!!

By QC

January 17, 2007 02:57 PM | Link to this

Hey kinderbabe it’s been a busy day for me, i’m trying to catch up but it’s not working….

By MusingLee

January 17, 2007 02:57 PM | Link to this

Now doing sexy soul spin and facing the camera

I’m a Sag….Baby I want you, you, and only you…..I love romantic dinners and smashing in the back of a classy movie……Float, Float Onnnnnnnn

Now spinning around and giving the camera “the guns” and stepping to the side

By GA.man

January 17, 2007 02:57 PM | Link to this

Attention Attention i am working on the meeting…looking at places and i will even have some food there along with some music..for those of you that don’t know we are all getting together to have a big blog day come if you want to..let me know if you are interested…to contact me and let me know email me at manswellp@yahoo.com

By JustMe

January 17, 2007 02:58 PM | Link to this

Musing Ever heard of the purple pie eater ;-)

If I were to be off for an extended time due to illness or an accident, I would not want to be recovering knowing our mortgage is beehind, the ar notes are not getting paid, the lights are off, the TV is on local only….

Melo Did you answer ya dayum self? I thnk ya did. hmmmmm

For Real Ok Dude!

Demi How does being taller that 82% of men make me lucky?

By Fungirl

January 17, 2007 02:59 PM | Link to this

I read this blog from time to time and really enjoy it. LL, I think the height issue is not as serious as you are taking it. I am 5’5” and don’t wear very high heels all the time, but when I do, if a dude is shorter that that, he’s really short. That is not a deal breaker with me, but he better come out the gate swinging with the confidence and nice personality quick. You see, I am an equal opportunity dater and I have dated short guys in the past. In fact, when I look over my dating history, 5 out of 7 were shorter or around my height. That is all I seem to attract, for some reason tall dudes don’t approach me much. Well, I liked each for different reasons and their height was not an issue for me. EVERY LAST ONE HAD NAPOLEON COMPLEX, no joke, in varying degrees! As Randy said, with us ladies it is all about the confidence! Do you and do it well and you can have damn near any woman you want, tall or short! One of those guys really hurt my feelings because I was 120lbs at the time and he told me I needed to lose 30 pounds because I was big as an Amazon! And this was all because he was skinny and he had a problem with himself, I thought he was handsome until that fell out of his mouth. To the left!! I did not feel as “protected” at that point because he suddenly became very little to me! So yes LL, a lady would be a little shallow if she held hard and fast to the height requirement because it is hard enough meeting nice guys. But yes, if I could wave a magic wand and get everything I wanted in a guy, he would not have to be NBA-tall, but I would like to wear heels and he would still be taller. Napoleon would not be an issue and we could face the “real” problems of the world together! :)

By GA.man

January 17, 2007 03:01 PM | Link to this

NO DR Kym no one accuse anyone of being gay..read all of it..we just advised him not to be looking at others wankers…lololol he was making a point so we picked on him for a minute ..atleast he didn’t come off that way goodness lady stop it stop it

By For Real

January 17, 2007 03:02 PM | Link to this

Dr. Kym Melo took the time to inform the blog that he looks at his little brother’s pocket rocket. What other conclusion is there? What he is pre-med and he is practicing at home????

By SlimOne

January 17, 2007 03:05 PM | Link to this

NC but even the biggest d/ks can’t keep a woman at home if the man attached to it ain’t treating her right.

not only do you get a ^5 but i’m adding two snaps and a twist on that. *

By GA.man

January 17, 2007 03:05 PM | Link to this

NO DR Kym no one accuse anyone of being gay..read all of it..we just advised him not to be looking at others wankers…lololol he was making a point so we picked on him for a minute ..atleast he didn’t come off that way goodness lady stop it stop it

By For Real

January 17, 2007 03:05 PM | Link to this

Dr. Kym Melo took the time to inform the blog that he looks at his little brother’s pocket rocket. What other conclusion is there? What he is pre-med and he is practicing at home????

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 03:05 PM | Link to this

but even the biggest d/ks can’t keep a woman at home if the man attached to it ain’t treating her right.

But it will keep her in the dark for 5 - 10 years….smiles

How are you doing sis?

By Ms. A

January 17, 2007 03:05 PM | Link to this

NCGirl it doesn’t matter how big your SUV is thank you.. I agree 100%

By MusingLee

January 17, 2007 03:07 PM | Link to this

Wise I’m sure you’re quite the charmer in person….Have me waking up the next morning wondering when Musing Jr. is gonna show up. I’d put that joint on my cell phone calander.

Musing: Ok sooooo Jan 17th….On Oct 17th if I don’t get a call I’m in the clear.

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 03:11 PM | Link to this

Dr. Kym Yeah…My and my little bro shared a few women in the same room and I don’t even know what his manhood looks like…That’s not for me to know.

By SlimOne

January 17, 2007 03:11 PM | Link to this

Hey there kinderbabe

By MochaTreat

January 17, 2007 03:14 PM | Link to this

@ Kinder What’s up??

By NCgirlfromATL

January 17, 2007 03:15 PM | Link to this

But it will keep her in the dark for 5 - 10 years….smiles

Ummm…you meant, minutes, right? LMAO!

Heeeeeeeeey demi!

By Raqi

January 17, 2007 03:15 PM | Link to this

(A comment that has absolutely nothing to do with the topic but just because I can I am posting it.)

Today I had one the tastiest lunches I have had in a long time. The Man asked me to come home for lunch because he was going to cook. (He doesn’t do it that often so I have to take him up on it when he offers). He made Omelettes with feta cheese and spinach. I have never eaten feta in anything other than stromboli’s and once I had chicken breast stuffed with feta. It was very different and tasted pretty good.

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 03:17 PM | Link to this

JustMe I wasn’t think of that at all…I am out of your height range, so God has spared you from me. COOL?

By SlimOne

January 17, 2007 03:18 PM | Link to this

For Real pocket rocket??? I almost choked reading that!

By GA.man

January 17, 2007 03:20 PM | Link to this

kinder where you been hiding?

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 03:23 PM | Link to this

Fungirl 5 out of 7 and all short men has NAPOLEON COMPLEX…LOL…I feel what you’re saying, Heheheheheheee.

By MELO

January 17, 2007 03:24 PM | Link to this

Melo you don’t honestly believe that women choose men based on d/k size, do you? I mean really I did not say u choose based on that, no. But it is a factor, all things being equal.

Dr Kym—If only they knew my race,my culture,my nationality,my country of origin,my marital staus,my sexuality…prejudged, h3ll yeah. I wonder wonder “African american man laws!”

By For Real

January 17, 2007 03:25 PM | Link to this

@Fungirl 5’5 120lbs and he told you had to lose 30lbs??? Dayum!!! What grade was he in?

By binford

January 17, 2007 03:27 PM | Link to this

Demigod three-three I’m darn close to 28, darn close.

Randyt I consider myself quite a confident dude. However -comma- ya have to face facts on occasion and realize your rung on the pecking order and the rungs around you. Over time, I have established these. My “place” isn’t bad, it’s just finding single ladies. The married ladies and too old / too young LOVE me. It’s just my own demographic I need to find.

SlimOne I’ve been told I look like a more muscular & healthly looking Tom Green believe it or not.

By JustMe

January 17, 2007 03:28 PM | Link to this

NC You gave them a nugget, I wonder if they noticed.

Hey Kinder

By MELO

January 17, 2007 03:29 PM | Link to this

*Dr. Kym Melo took the time to inform the blog that he looks at his little brother’s pocket rocket. What other conclusion is there? What he is pre-med and he is practicing at home????-For real * Wow, I am enjoying your ignorance people.

By JustMe

January 17, 2007 03:31 PM | Link to this

Uh Demi I was wondering why you thought I was lucky… that’s all.

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 03:31 PM | Link to this

NCgirlfromATL I homegirl was nearly killed over it…dude beat her a$$

By MELO

January 17, 2007 03:32 PM | Link to this

For the record and a refresher,this is Wise Diva’s topic headline”Judging by the wrong cover” And boy does it show.

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 03:36 PM | Link to this

binford I thought so. I am 27 and I get no play from younger sisters at all. Once you turn 30 the younger ladies will notice you…Just chill them mature sisters for a while and just have fun!!

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

January 17, 2007 03:37 PM | Link to this

Just I noticed, but decided not to touch that one ;-)

By JustMe

January 17, 2007 03:38 PM | Link to this

Melo We all judge by something, it just so happened you were judged by your looking at another dudes peter weter.

By ThirdWheel2007

January 17, 2007 03:39 PM | Link to this

What’s up Demi! You are off the chain today.. LOL

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 03:39 PM | Link to this

binford and since you are bout-it-bout-it, are viewed as a dog until you hit 30 as well, live wit it, LOL. ‘

And MELO is a woman…

By SlimOne

January 17, 2007 03:42 PM | Link to this

binford are we talking as in used-to-be-married-to-drew barrymore-Tom Green????

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 03:42 PM | Link to this

JustMe Hellz, it ain’t your fault most men aren’t readly to step up to the plate…you are still my number #2 blog homegirl, sorry Storm and QC stole first

By GA.man

January 17, 2007 03:43 PM | Link to this

in all fairness..melo you are the one that said what you said about your brother..if you don’t want your comments responded to then maybe a blog isn’t a place to put them..yes we are clear about the topic judging by the wrong cover but come on man…making statements then to get upset by comments people make over them….chill out it is a blog..when you say something..something will be said about it..all of us has had a comment slammed by more than one or more people in this blog..but that is it it is a blog

By SeanJohnson

January 17, 2007 03:43 PM | Link to this

@ DrDoLittleKym….we didnt prejudge dude..just clowning him like men do..and trust me..we took it easy on him…stop taking things so serious.

By SlimOne

January 17, 2007 03:46 PM | Link to this

Demi & binford I am 28 and either really young cats like 21/22 try to talk to me or either older dudes from 35-52 try to talk to me. It seems the guys around my age are playing too many games or have multiple personalities. :-(

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 03:47 PM | Link to this

For Real is 120lb a grown woman weight…just j/k fungirl

3rd just waiting for the Diva to boot me off here…How is life?

By NCgirlfromATL

January 17, 2007 03:47 PM | Link to this

NC You gave them a nugget, I wonder if they noticed.

Nah, they don’t hear me. lol!

WomanLaw #5: Men with big wangs don’t want to hear anything about their technique. Assume they think they are the best…and hope that it’s true!

By kinderbabe

January 17, 2007 03:49 PM | Link to this

hey mocha nothing much up here. just maintaining chile…lol. i think i overdid it at the gym this weekend. i went to cycle class yesterday and felt like i could fall off the bike…lol. how were the weekend festivities? miami, right?

GAman i’ve been lurking today. the server at work has been acting up. now that i’m at home i can check in. so, by choice and technological glitches i’ve had to sit back and watch the fireworks. lol it’s nothing wrong w/being a spectator once in a while.;)

By Dr. Kym aka Rested and Relax

January 17, 2007 03:52 PM | Link to this

I see so when men prejudge it is clowning all fun and games, when women prejudge, they are limiting themselves also take notice not one woman or one “known” woman said anything “out on the open blog” about Melo’s sexual orientation.

By JustMe

January 17, 2007 03:53 PM | Link to this

Demi Usually #2 is not for JustMe but I’ll make an exception for you!

Kym and Melo sitting in the tree, Melo told Kym he let me look for free!

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 03:57 PM | Link to this

NCgirlfromATL for the last 3 years I’ve been trained by some gifted 37 - 45 years old sisters…I am open minded as Oprah…Are you a good teacher?

By SeanJohnson

January 17, 2007 03:58 PM | Link to this

@ JustMe & NCATLIEN..we heard you loud and clear..but most of us know that..besides some of us dont have to walk around with our resumes…when applying..if needed references can be given…

By GA.man

January 17, 2007 03:59 PM | Link to this

ok well some people wear thier feelings on thier sleeves…but it is time for me to go..like i said earlier if anyone is interested in the blog meeting let me know stroll up and get the email address..ok until tom. or until i get an email…watch what you say and eat..lolololol putting back on my blog bullet vest peace

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 04:01 PM | Link to this

mocha how was your trip…and who you met

By Fungirl

January 17, 2007 04:07 PM | Link to this

Okay, I sent a post a few minutes ago, but it must not have gone through. Demi/For Real, yeah that stuff was crazy! We were both jr’s in college and he was my 1st serious boyfriend. He went to the Air Force Academy so you would have thought brother would have had a little more confidence. Last I heard he was married w/ 4 kids and living in Japan. I wish him nothing but the best. But for a minute(just a minute)I had get it together and realize it was he who had the problem and not me. Like I said, do you and do it well and good people will gravitate to you. Wise Diva great topic!

By For Real

January 17, 2007 04:07 PM | Link to this

D33 Amen to you on your Melo comment…

And 120lbs is little light for my taste. I’m 220lbs so I prefer a lady that’s 5’5 to be about 135 - 145lbs. Yeah I know blog but I likes what I likes.

NCgirlfromAtl and JustMe It didn’t go over the grown men heads. We already knew. Its the young cats that are slow…

By MochaTreat

January 17, 2007 04:07 PM | Link to this

Kinder Miami was great!! I did not want to come back yesterday!! We walking around South Beach on Saturday whenwe arrived (couldn’t check in until 3). That night we wen to an irish pub and then to the Clevelander to watch MO spank up on Philly. Sunday went got up and went to the beach…Sunday night we ate a a nice Italian restarunt next door to Prive. After dinner we wen to Mango’s for Salsa dancing…we thought about going to Prive, but everyone had on jeans going in and we were way too cute to waste it on a bunch of brothers in jeans(lol)! Just kidding, we wnate to experience something other than hip-hop and R&B. Monday we had our spa day…we arrived at 11 and we didn’t leave until after 5…can you say wonderful!!! We spent Monday night in Coconut Groove.

By kinderbabe

January 17, 2007 04:08 PM | Link to this

jay i didn’t forget about my weekend getaway…lol

By MochaTreat

January 17, 2007 04:12 PM | Link to this

@ Demi

My trip was wonderful…I didn’t really meet anyone until yesterday at the airport…I met a guy from Haiti…he asked me was I from Jamaica…I guess I looked Jamaican to him because I wear locs!! I learned how to salsa dance. It was a lot of fun…we are planning another trip to Miami!! I can’t wait….

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 04:13 PM | Link to this

SlimOne y’all worst of the dating age, what is your age group problem…26 - 30 is the age most men and women make the hardest decision…Question: Where do I see myself 5 or 20 years down the road*

By JustMe

January 17, 2007 04:14 PM | Link to this

Sean Your sisters do not qualify as references :-0

GA Man I emailed your email address to me at home……. I’ll be in touch!

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

January 17, 2007 04:17 PM | Link to this

NCgirlfromAtl and JustMe

Yeah, most of us noticed, we just did not rise to the bait. As the guy said in “Sweet Home Alabama”…”Honey, just cause I talk slow, don’t mean I’m stupid”.

By NCgirlfromATL

January 17, 2007 04:18 PM | Link to this

ForReal Its the young cats that are slow… I think you just summed it all up.

I’m ooooooout!

G’night all!

By SeanJohnson

January 17, 2007 04:19 PM | Link to this

@ JustaboutMetheTree…lol…what ever…just because you are 5’11 doesnt mean you cant be broken and rode like a wild mustang.

By Fungirl

January 17, 2007 04:19 PM | Link to this

For Real- I feel ya, but this is 15 years ago and a sister is 140lbs now! I pointed it out to show the craziness of it all. I was already small and 30lbs less and you would not be able to see a sister! LOL!! Just goes to show how some will try to tear down your confidence to build themselves up! Something we all want to avoid!

By MusingLee

January 17, 2007 04:19 PM | Link to this

I’m out blog…Everyone stay safe.

By QC

January 17, 2007 04:19 PM | Link to this

Night all…..stay warm

By SlimOne

January 17, 2007 04:20 PM | Link to this

Demi I have no earthly clue but it does get frustrating. I don’t think that many folks that ponders that question.

By kinderbabe

January 17, 2007 04:22 PM | Link to this

And 120lbs is little light for my taste. I’m 220lbs so I prefer a lady that’s 5’5 to be about 135 - 145lbs. Yeah I know blog but I likes what I likes. nice to know that the curvy girls are still appreciated:) thanks forreal ;) i’m representin for the “damn shawty, you thick” girlz” lol

mocha your weekend sounds fabulous! y’all had a ball! i feel you on wanting to experience something different while you were there. if i went down there, i would want to go to some different clubs too. the r&b/hiphop scene can be done here in atlanta. i’m glad you had fun

By ThirdWheel2007

January 17, 2007 04:27 PM | Link to this

Hey Demi Life is good. Still in school looking for a man… Thinking about going Lez or becoming a nun :) How you doing?

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 04:27 PM | Link to this

MochaTreat I am half Haitian, leave haitian men alone…they’re charming and abusive…I am glad your trip was great…Ahhhh…the “Grove”.

For Real you like them short, cute, and thick wit huh…LOL

By For Real

January 17, 2007 04:28 PM | Link to this

Fungirl - Yeah I bet if he saw you now he would change is mind. I bet that 140lbs is sitting just right on your frame huh?? There will always be people that have a need to tear others down in order for them to feel better about themselves. They only have power if you give it to them…

JustMe good one

By ThirdWheel2007

January 17, 2007 04:31 PM | Link to this

Hey SlimOne You are not the only one!! I am glad that I read this blog today. I recently signed up for a dating site called True. com and the only people who keep hitting on me are people between the ages of 18-21 and 45-90. I want someone around my own age. I am took young to be changing someone dependos and too old to not date someone who just started voting but can’t drink. I am 26 by the way.

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 04:34 PM | Link to this

kinderbabe I love women 145lb - 180lb tone and not sloppy and cute…so becareful, Alvin be in them gyms

SlimOne we just keep missing each other…Smiles

By For Real

January 17, 2007 04:34 PM | Link to this

Mocha my getaway spot is Mexico. Its cheaper and the beach is off the change.

Kinder I got much love for the Curvy Girls

By kinderbabe

January 17, 2007 04:42 PM | Link to this

demi that’s me..definitely toned not*sloppy i go to the gym 4-5 days a week…so it’s definitely *right see and i just cancelled my membership to l.a. fitness..lol. couldn’t leave my hood joint alone, i’m back up at metro fitness (sigh)

forreal thanks for the love.:) you can be the president of the curvy girls fan club…lol.

By Fungirl

January 17, 2007 04:44 PM | Link to this

For Real Tho Yes, the curves are just right, I’ve been told! I was curvy even in the skinny days! :)

It’s been “real”! I’m out, everyone be careful driving home.

By For Real

January 17, 2007 04:45 PM | Link to this

3rdWheel lol on becoming a lez or a nun. Don’t leave the game yet tho…

D33 If you add she ran track to the list I would throw a ring on her finger… lol

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 04:47 PM | Link to this

3rd stop looking for a man and just relax and have fun!!

By binford

January 17, 2007 04:49 PM | Link to this

SlimOne Yea, THAT Tom Green, some people say Tim Allen or Adam Sandler - but I don’t see any of it.

By Jake

January 17, 2007 04:51 PM | Link to this

Just got back…I see it got wild in here. You guys are crazy, be easy.

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 04:53 PM | Link to this

kinderbabe I just may drive by metro after my La workout…looking for a sista Fine-fine

By SlimOne

January 17, 2007 04:54 PM | Link to this

ThirdWheel why do you think that is? I’m feeling like I should change my name to DAUndesirable lololol..not funny

Demi I guess so…maybe we should wear a certain color shirt so that we’ll stand out to each other and quit missing the mark.

By Demigod three-three

January 17, 2007 04:56 PM | Link to this

For Real Imma lady track fan groupie…please for give me

By demi

January 17, 2007 05:02 PM | Link to this

now flying through the ‘A’ wearing looking for SlimOne t-shirt.

DAUndesirable…Never That

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