Misadventures in Atlanta

By Dee

November 28, 2006 09:18 AM | Link to this

This is one I’d love to have an answer to. Thursday I sat silently at the table while a discussion was had about my nephews not having cousins. Granted, my parents had largely held their peace for the last few years, but this seeming relapse was both surprising and disturbing. Do they think I TRY NOT to meet a nice guy? Can they not be content to have a healthy, employed, stable, happy single 30ish daughter?

By Roseanne Rosanna Danna

November 28, 2006 09:22 AM | Link to this

How ya gonna satisfy a nosy relative?! Rosanne gonna turn your headline around an say “Kiss my tail and everything!” Thassa what Roseanna gonna do!

By MusingLee

November 28, 2006 09:51 AM | Link to this

Morn’in All,

When I was single, my aunts would ask about my love life…I think it was because their kids (my cousins) had started having children and they just wanted to stick me with some too…LOL…Now, I can tell my mom is starting to want grand-children…But she’s gonna have to wait on that a lil’longer…If you’re not my parents or grandparents, you’ll get the “Well, whenever the time is right” answer…LOLOLOL

By Suddenly Single

November 28, 2006 10:06 AM | Link to this

Right now I’d be happy just to have a love life for people to pry into!

By NCgirlfromATL

November 28, 2006 10:10 AM | Link to this

Dee I feel your pain! I am an only child and the oldest grandchild…the only one w/o kids or a spouse. My grandmother, in her not so subtle way (which, by the way, my mom has inherited), said to me last Christmas, “(big ole sigh), I guess your mom is never going to get any grandchildren.” Now, to put this into context, we were not talking about men, boyfriends, husbands, children or anything even remotely close to that. As I recall, we were talking about what to cook for dinner!!! All I could do was laugh and tell her I didn’t know if she would either! My mom was so excited when I started talking about the ex-SO (when he was the current SO). I swear, she had already planned the wedding…which wasn’t hard since I am convinced she had planned the wedding w/ the previous SO too. I’m so convinced of that that when the ex-ex-SO’s name came up in conversation this Thanksgiving (my dad plays golf with him…how weird is that?!), I asked if either of them had ever met his new wife. My mom said she’d seen her, and pointed out that she looked just like me. I felt bad, b/c I wanted to tell her that ex-ex was not pinning for me. He just liked light-skinned women w/ long hair and some thickness. lolol!!!

By Noelle

November 28, 2006 10:11 AM | Link to this

I’m nearly 38 and single (and not planning to have kids anyway), but I’ve been lucky not to have much prying from family and friends. I do have a standard (and Miss-Manners-approved) answer ready when it comes up: “Oh, when I have something to tell, I will!” — followed by a smile and a change of subjects.

By Ren

November 28, 2006 10:11 AM | Link to this

I don’t have the conversation over the holidays luckily, but the question was asked to me by my mom a few months back as to why it is that I’ve been in Atlanta for nearly 10 years and I don’t have a relationship after all this time.

If your parents were born in the 50’s or before, they don’t understand how difficult dating has become and that dating is no longer dating at all. It’s not like it used to be some time back when you dated for the purpose of finding a spouse.

Nowadays men (and some women) are mainly only looking for sex and it’s difficult to meet a guy that wants to something as simple as go out and have a cup of coffee. I had to explain to my mom that men these days don’t even want to take women on dates anymore—they just want to head sraight to the bedroom and not have anything to do with a woman outside occassional sexual encounters. Going on dates implies relationship—something that most men are trying to avoid.

People these days want the benefits of being in a relationship without being in one.

Also, a lot of people are choosing to put their careers first and work on personal achievements before fiding long-term relationships.

It’s just a different age. Either people are not looking for commitments or they want to delay it for various reasons.

I break it down and tell people how it really is. I had just had to tell my mom that the reason why I’m in a relationship is because the men I’ve met don’t want relationships, they only want sex.

You may have to be honest with people and break it down to them that times have changed and people don’t court for marriage anymore. Maybe you are still single because you’ve chosen to focus on you. Not everyone dreams of the house, the picket fence, the spouse and 2.5 kids.

By Slim

November 28, 2006 10:27 AM | Link to this

Just wait until you get into your upper 40’s and cannot find anyone to go out with. My mother asked me why I can’t seem to find anyone to go out with, since the divorce rate of men my age is so high. I tell her the guys my age are out with younger women, looking for the arm-charm 20 year olds. However, my brother recently divorced, and he has had no problems finding women to go out with.

By Demigod's demigod

November 28, 2006 10:27 AM | Link to this

MusingLee check it:

While at the mall with my grand mother a year ago

Granny with old granny’s voice Alvin, you need to go to church and find yourself a GOOD Christian wife.

Alvin thinking to myself: Hell nawww!!! Them bi-bis are crazy!!! Well you see grandma, a good woman is hard to find. Soooooo I will continue weeding the gardens until my “EVE” arrive.

Granny If you keep on weeding, your “EVE” will pass you by.

Alvin Dayum that was cold Yes Granny…I understand.

By MusingLee

November 28, 2006 10:28 AM | Link to this

He just liked light-skinned women w/ long hair and some thickness

NCgirl I am currently starting a fan club for this exact type of Woman…I currently have the Club for “Coke Bottle Shaped Dark Skin Women with Big Bootys” of which I am the Founder and past President.

By G

November 28, 2006 10:31 AM | Link to this

Not just during holidays…….but every chance my family, friends, and co-workers get, they pry. They just cannot figure out how a hetero guy like me can be single in Atlanta. They’re like…….”Everything seems to be in place, so you NEED someone to share that with”. I just don’t share that same sense of urgency. Everyone suggests the same thing…….”Just get a steady to hang out with, just because”. “Just because” is a waste of time to me. Even though the quantity of women are high, I still need to find someone that fits me. I’m patient enough to wait. If I don’t find her, life moves on.

BTW….My response always ticks them off. However, nothing seems to deter them from prying. Especially the married folk.

By Mo

November 28, 2006 10:31 AM | Link to this

Morning All I fixed this problem early on…I kept saying I didnt want children so that by the time I got married, no one DARED to ask what about children (at least not in MY family) and my SO is so PRIVATE that his family wouldnt dare even ask him what the weather is like! I have a son now and when I announced I was pregnant, no one could believe it! I know it seems extreme but I didnt want to be asked everyday from my college graduation to wedding day about having children!

By MusingLee

November 28, 2006 10:36 AM | Link to this

demi My grandmother has always wanted me to wait for that right Woman…She’s met my Ex when we were serious, but never quite liked her…LOLOL…So when she met my SO I was thinking “Ok, here it comes”…but, she said nothing. She loves this girl, and if my grandfather was 45 yrs younger I’d have to shoot his’azz getting fresh…hahahahahahahaha

By Demigod's demigod

November 28, 2006 10:38 AM | Link to this

I had to explain to my mom that men these days don’t even want to take women on dates anymore—they just want to head sraight to the bedroom and not have anything to do with a woman outside occassional sexual encounters. Going on dates implies relationship—something that most men are trying to avoid.

Wow, that’s straight out of MLB hand book!!!

Now signing with my Digital Micro-Soft pen

I tell you what sweetie, I will treat some unknown sister out for dinner this weekend…I am falling off my game

By Ren

November 28, 2006 10:39 AM | Link to this

Slim,

I think people really don’t realize how much harder it is for women out there, especially if you are an older woman, have been divorced or have kids.

Men in the same situation expect to and can get women with no problem, but women on the other hand are seen as having too much baggage, hence not good prospects. It’s unfortunate.

I’m hoping that once I finish school, I can get a job over there and move to Europe since I want to go there so bad. Maybe I’d have better luck over there. American men are way too superficial. The don’ts that apply to us don’t apply to them apparently.

By Sitting_Pretty

November 28, 2006 10:43 AM | Link to this

I’ve been the victim of inquiries regarding my personal life on several occasions. If it’s a concerned relative, I may let it slide. For example, my grandmother wanted to know if I was “courting”. I just laughed as she proceeded to inform me that “Now is the time, you’ve graduated from college, you have a career, so now start looking for someone to share your life with.” I could appreciate that coming from grandma, my mom, dad, or any other immediate person (family or close friend) with whom I have had conversations regarding this matter previously. What I don’t care for are random individuals (read: people I’m not that cool with) prying into my personal life. I usually brush their questions ( “So…who are you dating ?” or “Have you met anyone?”) off with a pleasant and canned answer such as “Well…I’ll keep you updated.” I try not to let the questions bother me. I’ve been told to take it as a compliment. It means they think you’re a catch and can’t understand why you’re single. (Like G said) So, for now I’ll deal with a few questions unless it turns into an interrogation. At that point, I’ll have to object and let them know the question has been asked and answered, so go meddle in someone else’s life. :)

By sJeaSexyCool

November 28, 2006 10:46 AM | Link to this

so…um…laney…who have you been kissing?

seriously, though…i didn’t know that mono still existed…and really, how DO you get it? besides kissing, that is?

By Demigod's demigod

November 28, 2006 10:52 AM | Link to this

Ren/Slim women in their 40’s are often looking to settle down….so get a 27-35 dude and just have fun

By The management

November 28, 2006 10:54 AM | Link to this

Well, if no one else is going to say it, i will. Sorry you’re sick.

By so st.louis

November 28, 2006 10:56 AM | Link to this

Me and NCgirl really really need to holla at each other!! Make it happen AJC

By Tiff

November 28, 2006 10:59 AM | Link to this

Morning,

I don’t ever have to field questions about my personal life from my family members. No one in my immediate family (including 2 sisters and a brother) are married so its not a subject that ever comes up.

At work, now thats a different story. I’ve had older women try to hook me up with their sons, nephews, godsons, etc. because they thought I was such a nice girl and would make a good wife. I’ve even had co-workers send me personal ads they found online of guys they thought would be perfect for me. WTF!!

While I do want to be married, with the house and 3.5 kids, I don’t think I’ve hit the desparation stage yet where these type of things (no matter how well intentioned) are necessary. I’m fairly young IMO (early 30s) so I think I have more than enough time but my co-workers don’t agree. Now everytime I get asked about my personal life I just smile, say “I’m good” and change the subject.

By Laney

November 28, 2006 10:59 AM | Link to this

aww, thanks The management.

SJea, it’s just a virus like a cold or whatever - not airborne, but you can get it from sharing a drinking glass, water fountain, etc. Some people also are carriers for it - they have it once in their lives and can’t get it again, but can pass it on to others. Sigh.

Hope everyone ELSE here is feeling healthy, wealthy and wise!

By Demigod's demigod

November 28, 2006 11:02 AM | Link to this

Infectious mononucleosis

The virus is typically transmitted from asymptomatic individuals through blood or saliva (hence “the kissing disease”), or by sharing a drink with friends/family, eating utensils, being coughed on, or being in close proximity of an infected person. The disease is far more contagious than is commonly thought

By Becca

November 28, 2006 11:05 AM | Link to this

Oh oh how I pity you all. I am the eldest child been married twice and I have the “only” grandchild. No one is saying ANYTHING to me about giving them more grandchildren or “settling down” but my siblings (late and early twenties) get grief every Thanksgiving. It’s no ones business. That’s why I eloped…didn’t want to hear it! My child gets into this “I want cousins” stuff with my bros and sisters but my parents are actually pretty cool about not presuring their kids.And it’s really nobody’s need to know who you’ve been kissing to get mono. Sorry you have it, hope you feel better soon!

By Demigod's demigod

November 28, 2006 11:06 AM | Link to this

WTF is 2.5 or 3.5 kids????!!! .5 = pet????

that math isn’t adding up

By MusingLee

November 28, 2006 11:14 AM | Link to this

demi LOLOLOLOL….It’s either 2 or 3 kids…The Women might say the .5 is their husband…hahahahaha

By Tiff

November 28, 2006 11:17 AM | Link to this

Demi You are right, the .5 is the pet.

By runninatl

November 28, 2006 11:22 AM | Link to this

Morning folk….(said as I spray my cubicle down with lysol to avoid any germs and possible sickness)

LOL @ Demi and the real conversation with grandma.

Musing I’ve got to run for Vice President of your coke Bbttle, dark skin fan club!!!…LOL.

I don’t have any problem with family prying, I’ve only brought potential wifeys or baby mamas around anyway so they probably don’t care to meet any more women I date unless it’s at the wedding…lol. Now my co-workers on the other hand, are a real trip. If my cell phone goes off, if I’m text messaging, if I eat lunch with a member of the opposite sex, if I sit next to a woman at a meeting or company function then I’m bombarded with emails and inquiries. And then there was the painful joy of trying to be fixed up with everyone’s daughter at work and having to answer uncomfortable questions at the coffee area. Women, I love em but I don’t think I can work around so many of them much longer….lmao.

By the way, just curious how did the topic turn from family prying to how hard it is for women to date/how men only want sex in 06’?….LMAO.

By Ren

November 28, 2006 11:22 AM | Link to this

Demigod,

I’m not in my 40’s, nor am I looking to settle down.

By CrazyDude

November 28, 2006 11:23 AM | Link to this

Personally, I’d love to catch Mono. The disease runs 4-7 months, and you can make good money selling plasma once a week when you have Mono. They use the plasma to make, of all things, mono tests!

Lol…

By sJeaSexyCool

November 28, 2006 11:32 AM | Link to this

feel better…

By runninatl

November 28, 2006 11:36 AM | Link to this

Almost forgot, my family did pry once, back in high school, the first time I brought a white girl home. That was more like a two part interrogation, first my mom and aunts, then my dad and uncles. That was a trip, still laugh about that one to this day. I don’t think men get questioned by family and friends as much as women do. Could it be another gender bias out of our control?

Tiff So when did you start working in my building?…lol.

By Demigod's demigod

November 28, 2006 11:43 AM | Link to this

Ren as long as you are attractive, men will flock your way…nothing beats a sexy mature woman walking in dem 3’in heels and…

Let me stop, I am known for tracking down someones foxy mama…hell here I come

By Foots

November 28, 2006 11:53 AM | Link to this

My mother never asks me, I guess because she already knows what’s going on with me in the dating department. With both my mom and my sister, I only tell them something when there’s something to tell, otherwise they don’t bother me.

Before I got to the house on Thanksgiving day though, my aunt did ask my sister if I was seeing anybody and her big mouth self said yes. My aunt told my cousin and she asked me flat out about it. I had to clean it up, “no, I don’t have a boyfriend, I just have friends right now” and all that. What’s funny is that they hardly ever ask me directly, usually through someone else. And no one in my family has EVER said anything to me about children. To Ren’s point, I think that they are finally getting the idea that it’s not going to happen for me like it happened for them.

By Sitting_Pretty

November 28, 2006 11:57 AM | Link to this

LOL Tiff….Tell them not to search the personal ads for you.

People are hilarious. Co-workers especially. I’m new to my job and one day one of my co-workers was asking if I was married/single. I informed him I’m single. He, my boss, and another co-worker proceeded to tell me they don’t know what they’d do if they were single in this day and age. (Not very motivating, right?!!) My boss says “I don’t know where I would even begin looking for a spouse!” My co-worker’s answer “Match. com” PRICELESS

By Foots

November 28, 2006 11:59 AM | Link to this

Demi as long as you are attractive, men will flock your way…

Oh, I don’t think that any woman will dispute that. Frankly, level of attractiveness doesn’t matter either. As G says, quantity is high. But finding someone of quality that you can deal with and build with, who wants what you want, and at the right time is difficult. For everybody.

By Tiff

November 28, 2006 11:59 AM | Link to this

Runnin LOL Its the same everywhere I guess.

I get most of my inquiries from married women although these are often the same women that say they wouldn’t get married again!! I can’t figure that out.

I never get these types of questions from divorced people and their number is steadily climbing in my department. Most of them tell me to hold out as long as I can if I feel like I have to get married.

By DuShawn

November 28, 2006 12:04 PM | Link to this

I can’t relate to this topic. My parents rarely asked about my personal life or who I was dating. They knew their son was out of control when it came to women. Most of the footdraggers I used to date would never get a chance to meet my ole girl. Years ago (before my lifestyle changed), my mom did ask me when she would get some grand children. My response was “you had about eight already.” She said where are they? I said. “The abortion clinic.”

By NCgirlfromATL

November 28, 2006 12:09 PM | Link to this

Musings/so st. louis Y’all are so sweet! (eyelashes batting)

demi I think our grandmothers must be in some granny network together. East Coast Chapter, perhaps? lolol!

Here’s an off-topic rant: Somehow, I’ve become known as the Matchmaker in my gym! I don’t know how this happened, since I haven’t actually hooked anyone up! lol! But, people that normally wouldn’t talk to me have been asking me to hook them up w/ other people in the gym that I do talk to. But, nobody is hooking me up!! lolol!!

By Bre'

November 28, 2006 12:13 PM | Link to this

Greetings this morning to all….okay what’s up with this weather? Not complaining but very concerned.

On Topic…..this year I felt a little pressure from the family regarding a relationship. But I’m straight to the point with them so I only had to be asked once. “Ask me again and you will be driving me to the airport sooner than later” That usually drops the topic real quick like. I was the only one home without a significant other…and there was only one grandchild running around getting very spoiled. I realize that parents just want there children happy and I get that. As I get older they see my life as it is keeps me happy(single, satisfied and stacking chips). However after seeing all the married/boyfriend/girlfriend drama over the holiday’s I’m cool as a summer breeze all by myself.

By Tiff

November 28, 2006 12:14 PM | Link to this

Dang Dushawn I know you didn’t put it out there like that!!! LOL

Sitting I’ve also gotten the referrals to match.com, speed dating (not sure what that is), and key lock parties. I just think that they are all a rather extreme way to try to meet a spouse IMO. Maybe in 10+ years I’ll think differently but right now it seems a little bit much.

By Slim

November 28, 2006 12:15 PM | Link to this

Ren, thanks, but I am already settled. Don’t get me wrong, I still like to have fun, but there aren’t many single 40ish men wanting to have fun with a settled 40+ woman, with a teenager (16 years old).
I just never thought I would be “alone” at this age, and unable to find a decent man to “play” with.

By JoyMonique74

November 28, 2006 12:23 PM | Link to this

Yeah, I get the prying @ Thanksgiving or when all my family gathers for an occassion. My aunt’s (mother’s sisters) are usually the ones to drill me about who I’m dating and “what’s the status” bit, but they’ve come to understand that I don’t put any emphasis on “gettin’ married” to anyone’s son at all. If there’s something to tell, then that’s when I’ll tell them. I recently visited Kansas City, MO. a guy I met here in Atlanta. I met this man in April and we started to see each other for a few months, but he decided to relocate due to a career oppotunity. At first I was surprised that he invited me out to visit, but I’m glad I went. Mind you, I didn’t even tell my aunts that I’d been seeing someone, but I told my uncle (who can’t hold water) that I was going out of town for a few days, so if he should call I wouldn’t be home. By the time I could get home from the trip, I had voicemails and emails all over the place from my aunts. I just gave them the basics, his name, where he works and that he and I were cool….nothing more, nothing less. I guess they figured becuase I was invited(he paid all my expenses) to see someone, he’s thinking about getting serious. Honestly, I just went to have a good time and enjoy the man’s company.

By JoyMonique74

November 28, 2006 12:27 PM | Link to this

What’s a Key Lock Party?

That’s a new one to me….

By NCgirlfromATL

November 28, 2006 12:46 PM | Link to this

Tiff Match.com isn’t that bad, actually. I don’t know about finding a spouse, but the dating is usually ok. I’ve had a few weird experiences, but nothing alarming. Well…ok, there was the one guy who wanted my email address so he could send me pics of him…and they turned out to be nearly naked, and not cute! After I picked myself off the floor from laughter, my next thought was “ok, who did he con into taking these pics?!” Let’s hope he had a timer on his camera, and it wasn’t one if his boys on the other side of the camera!

Crazynakedguy Hey man, I need you to do me a favor.

HisBoy Aight, dog. Whatchu need?

Crazynakedguy I need to have some pictures taken.

HisBoy Aight den…wait, whatchu doing, dog?

Crazynakedguy (back turned, making strange noises) Just getting ready for my picture.

*sound of the camera dropping on the floor, loud, running footstep and a door slamming…HisBoy (from the parking lot) Aaaw h3ll naw!!!

No naked pics, please!!! lolol!!

By Demigod's demigod

November 28, 2006 12:46 PM | Link to this

Yeah NC, more like Granny’s Grand Babies Hookup Network line.

Oh, I don’t think that any woman will dispute that. Frankly, level of attractiveness doesn’t matter either. As G says, quantity is high. But finding someone of quality that you can deal with and build with, who wants what you want, and at the right time is difficult. For everybody.

Dayum, y’all hearing folk are asking a lot from your mate, LOL

By runninatl

November 28, 2006 12:49 PM | Link to this

Back from early lunch, got a serious case of the itis!

Bre You make it clear every day that you are not trying to settle down with a man at all, and happy about it…LOL. Yeah, what’s up with this warm weather? If I see another camisole underneath a tight jacket with some open toed stilettos I’m gonna end up back in HR for sexual harassment training…LOL.

LOL @ CrazyDude, that’s some hot mess but I’ll keep that in mind…lmao.

By Tiff

November 28, 2006 12:50 PM | Link to this

Joy I was told that its a party where women receive a lock and guys receive a key upon entry to the party and you go around the room trying to find the lock that fits your key. The intent is to give you a reason to initiate a conversation with the opposite sex.

By Demigod's death?

November 28, 2006 12:53 PM | Link to this

but there aren’t many single 40ish men wanting to have fun with a settled 40+ woman

Now this is true. My uncle (who’s 47) only date woman ages 21 - 27, for short term only. Ren/Slim y’all are still looking for long term relationships and that’s not cool.

By Sitting_Pretty

November 28, 2006 12:58 PM | Link to this

@Joy When I was in school, we used to have what was known as a Lock & Key party. It was an event in which upon entrance women were given a lock and men a key. Men and women would approach each other to see if their key could open the lock. Basically, just an ice breaker, so you could feel free to approach anyone that you may have wanted to get to know. (I’m assuming this is what Tiff meant)

By MusingLee

November 28, 2006 01:01 PM | Link to this

NCgirl LOLOLOL…That was a good one…hahahaha

By slim

November 28, 2006 01:03 PM | Link to this

Demigod’s death? Why is it not cool to look for a long term relationship? I thought that’s what we all wanted????? I certainly don’t want a bunch of one-nighters!!! I’m not looking to get married again (maybe eventually, but not now), but I am looking for a companion/playmate to go do things with, go out to dinner/shows, road trips, just an adult to talk to sometimes. I get tired of being the “fifth” wheel around all my coupled friends. I have a good life, just missing the companion. Although I have been single for so long, it’s hard to picture myself in any type of relationship. That’s sad.

By NCgirlfromATL

November 28, 2006 01:08 PM | Link to this

demi I’m seriously beginning to think we’re related!! I have an uncle who is also 47 and only dates women my age. In fact, he recently told me I was getting to old (35), and he was going to have to go younger. But, if I could hook him up w/ one of my friends, he’d be ever so grateful! lolol!

By CleanGuy

November 28, 2006 01:09 PM | Link to this

Mono? Where yall been puttin yo mouth? And for the woman with the baggage that can’t hook a guy, it’s a guy’s market out there. You’ve got to compete and have something to bring to the table besides kids and weight to get a man now days.

By GaNative

November 28, 2006 01:13 PM | Link to this

Geezus Demigod’s Death, I’m thinking what is wrong with your uncle 47 and dating little giggly twenty year olds? I’m 54, my oldest daughter is 30. I wouldn’t be caught dead with a woman anywhere near my daughter’s age and definitely not with anything younger than she is. And if I saw some guy my age messing with my daughter, you’d probably read about him in the obituaries.

By QC

November 28, 2006 01:14 PM | Link to this

Good afternoon Bloggers, i hope all of you are having a great day…it’s soooo busy around here i just wanted to pop in to say hello….

By runninatl

November 28, 2006 01:21 PM | Link to this

LOL @ NCgirlfromATL, but that story is a major violation of the MLB so that could never really happen!!

I need to start a dating website, that’s where the money is. It will be a one-stop shop for pleasure, everything from meeting your future spouse to freaks with fetishes all on the same site, just pick and pay me for your poison!…LMAO.

By Jo

November 28, 2006 01:26 PM | Link to this

Oh, Laney, I’m so sorry to hear that! I hope you’re feeling better & getting lots of rest & that this won’t impact your holidays. Anyway, I was lucky when I was younger & single. I was so “out of the loop” (i.e. unnattractive & socially unskilled) that no one ever thought of me as having the capability of ever meeting a guy so I wasn’t expected to date. The down side was, by the same token, no one would consider introducing me to men (“Why bother? He won’t like you & he’ll never speak to me again!”)& ironically, those who can’t meet anyone are the ones who can most benefit from introductions! Luckily, that’s all in the past.

By SeanJohnson

November 28, 2006 01:28 PM | Link to this

Wassup Blog…regarding the topic…being that my family is made up mostly of women..i was always asked who i was dating but i made it clear early…stay out of my business..and they pretty much got the idea…I dont think u have to be rude but sometimes u have to nip questions in the bud…

By Slim_shady

November 28, 2006 01:30 PM | Link to this

hello there. First of all, are there any white people on this blog? You have to have something to offer a potential mate, you have to understand who your competition is- there are plenty of dumb young thangs for men to date- what makes you special? Maybe your standards are too high? If you 1. want to find a S.O. and 2. arent getting any dates then you should, 3. lower your sights so that you will get dates, the alternative is being single the rest of your life.

people arent honest with themselves- they thing mr or mrs right will come along when the odds are stacked against them. Be honest with yourself, and you will find somebody and be happy (at least for a while)

By MusingLee

November 28, 2006 01:32 PM | Link to this

Runnin I call that Cyber Pimp’in…LOLOLOLOLOL

By NCgirlfromATL

November 28, 2006 01:33 PM | Link to this

LOL @ NCgirlfromATL, but that story is a major violation of the MLB so that could never really happen!!

Then, it’s time to start revoking some MLB licenses, cuz that was a HOT MESS! It wasn’t just the various states of undress that were disturbing, but the constant state of…ummm…BEING. And the big ole cheezy grin on his face like he was the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.

By slim

November 28, 2006 01:33 PM | Link to this

Cleanguy - Unfortunately with men, ya’ll are visual and can’t get past a woman’s chest. Unless a women is drop dead georgeous with 3 inch heals, you don’t give her a second chance, you have no idea what is on the inside. Do you not realize by now, that all the georgeous woman are phoney, fake, and very high maintenance, fake nails, fake tans, fake hair color, fake boobs, etc. Why would a man want that, over a mature intellegent woman, with a successful job, intellegence, and able so support herself? Then ya’ll figure she doesn’t “NEED” a man, she is self-sufficient. Maybe I should dye my hair, get the fake nails, etc. but that’s not me. But then again, most men don’t mature until they are in their late 40’s, so I am looking for someone that age.

I’ve also come to realize that all the drop dead georgeous men are jerks and need someone to stoke their egos. No thank you. I don’t want to “maintain” someone, I want to enjoy them.

By Demigod's death?

November 28, 2006 01:40 PM | Link to this

However after seeing all the married/boyfriend/girlfriend drama over the holiday’s I’m cool as a summer breeze all by myself.

Now signing post with my Microsoft pen

slim you are just going through a Lonely-ness spell cause by three back to back holidays…Cure: Just look sexy everrryday, bake cookie for no reason at all and just have fun!!!…It’ll pass.

By Demigod's death?

November 28, 2006 01:42 PM | Link to this

Be honest with yourself, and you will find somebody and be happy (at least for a while)

Will the real Slim Shady please stand up!!!!

By Not Cool

November 28, 2006 01:45 PM | Link to this

My Mom made up cards with my name, picture, phone AND ADDRESS WITH APARTMENT NUMBER, and handed them out to men she met at church, shopping, work, etc. Unknown to me! This all stopped when my apartment was broken into and I was beaten and raped for several hours. The police caught him and he had one of the cards from my Mother in his pocket.

To this day, she has never forgiven herself. I forgive her, although it took a long time, because I know she is not knowledgable.

By SeanJohnson

November 28, 2006 01:45 PM | Link to this

@ Slim…u are right…men are visual creatures…one good thing about that is most men arent hard to please visually as you might think. women are far harder on their on appearences than men…from reading your comment ..the solution to your problem is easy..get a ugly dude that will treat u like a queen..

By runninatl

November 28, 2006 01:47 PM | Link to this

LOL @ Musing, no doubt bruh, there’s an untapped market out there of lonely people. It’s time for someone else to make some money off of it…hahahaha.

NCgirlfromATL It’s sad but true that there are quite a few ML violators out there who have a bootleg copy of the book they use to recite bits and pieces to run game. There are bad apples falling off both sides of the tree.

Hmmmm….I sense some tension between slim, cleanguy, and slim_shady…lol.

By Jay

November 28, 2006 01:49 PM | Link to this

I am 40ish. I have experienced match makers. I have met the girl next door. Even at the age of forty, dating is over rated. Women wants their bills paid, men wants a lil nookie. Dating does not exist anymore. I am single with no kids. I get tired of telling my story. What happen to courting?

By Demigod's death?

November 28, 2006 01:53 PM | Link to this

NCgirlfromATL NO WE ARE NOT RELATED!!

I have enough fine as Hell cousins…I do not want you on that list!!!

Be like, Dayum NC is fine. Boy stop! That is your cousin

WTF

Now that’s what you call a Nightmare on Blog ST.

By Demigod's death?

November 28, 2006 01:57 PM | Link to this

Not Cool Baby girl I am so sorry to hear that…

By Bre'

November 28, 2006 02:01 PM | Link to this

Hey runnin what’s up? From the hard knocks of dating and going thru the ups and downs of dating. One gets to a point of self satisfaction. So many woman and some men live there lives to settle down. Which is cool whatever floats your boat. But there is a point in life depending on ones maturity level and self love that you open your eyes to the fact that being single is not so bad. Being in a relationship is not for everyone and that’s all I try to point out. I can only speak for me….and every now and then spill some other folks business.

By MusingLee

November 28, 2006 02:05 PM | Link to this

I can see demi now

demi: So she is uncle Joes, second niece in law, on Mamas side next to the Burger King???

GrandMama: Yep, that’s right.

demi: Sooooo, that makes her my 6th cousin?!?! What?

GrandMama: Demi, if you try to f/k your 7th cousin, I’m gonna whoop yo’azz!

By Demigod's death?

November 28, 2006 02:05 PM | Link to this

GaNative my uncle got hella long bread and no kids…he’s having a blast

Slim you cut Cleanguy like rice paper, LOL good post!!

By Slim

November 28, 2006 02:06 PM | Link to this

Alright Jay where can we meet? LOL

Runnin no tension, just trying to figure things out……

I know part of the problem is getting out and meeting men my age. Where are they? Also, I just don’t really get out alot, because I don’t know where to go. Not too many places have banners trying to lure in the “oldies” LOL. I hate bars, never been comfortable in them, unless I am with a crowd.
Again, I ask, where are the 40+ single men? And by single I mean, not separated, not married, not in a relationship, etc. SINGLE!!!!! And I don’t care if you have been married before and have kids. I love kids, I even have one of my own…..LOL

By slim_shady

November 28, 2006 02:08 PM | Link to this

now ladies, its easy to hate on other ladies that men pass you over for. I have many lady friends who are so jealous they call other women whores and sluts becuase men find them attractive. I say, stop with the jealousy, and focus on yourself. Get in shape, buy some nice clothes, try to be more refined by using proper manners and grammer. Men dont want a hood rat, they want a classy lady who makes them look good.

By Demigod's death?

November 28, 2006 02:10 PM | Link to this

..the solution to your problem is easy..get a ugly dude that will treat u like a queen..

LOL such a low blow SJ.

By Jewel

November 28, 2006 02:12 PM | Link to this

Good afternoon Everyone!

I hope everyone had a safe, enjoyable and feastful (I know that is not a word) Holiday!

In light of today’s topic and the depressive moods the holidays invoke within people who are “single”, I would like to share a portion of an article I received in an Ezine for encouragement. A daily practice of self-love and self-care eliminates the weight of the expectations from our family and friends. With or without a relationship…In fact, you can only become a better you. Let things take care of themselves.

Do you still have dreams? And are you interested in making them come true? Start by writing your dreams down, the clearer the better. Don’t judge the possibility, just write whatever comes to your mind. Remember, what the human mind can conceive it can achieve! Be outrageous! Think big! You can do it - if you really want to. Maybe the poem written by Marianne Williamson demonstrates what I mean. The words are very powerful and were used by Nelson Mandela in his Inauguration speech in 1994…

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be! Our playing small does not save the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking, so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. You are born to make manifest to the glory of God that is within us; it is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fears, our presence automatically liberates others.”

Let these words inspire you to go all out to reach whatever it is you dream of. Because it seems that during the course of our life we forget the big dreams we had when we were young and believed we could do anything. The question is, why does life get in the way? Why do so many of us arrive at a stage where there seem to be more obligations than motivations?

The main reason is that we are “programmed” for mediocrity. We have not been taught that we can be powerful beyond measure. Since early childhood we are conditioned to swim with the swarm, to stay in the crab basket called humanity and there will always be people who will remind us of it - but in spite of all this, we have a choice at any one moment of our life.

We really can do what we are here to do - if only we do! And exactly here is our next challenge. To dare something new we must move out of our comfort zone and that takes courage because we feel safe and secure with what we know even when we are in a miserable situation.

By Shawn_Alexander

November 28, 2006 02:16 PM | Link to this

hi everyone, just a quick question….how do you think the black community would be different had abortion not been legalized? It seems like many of you use abortion as a form of birth control, and im not knocking it, im just curious as to whether peoples lifestyles would be different if they didnt have that easy way out

By Jake

November 28, 2006 02:16 PM | Link to this

Not CooL That is a heartwrenching story and I am so sorry for you went through that. God Bless you sweetie.

By runninatl

November 28, 2006 02:19 PM | Link to this

Demi You are a fool. I got a fine azz cousin in NY. My sister clowns me at the family reunions because she saw how I was looking at her the first time I saw her (and didn’t know she was my cousin)…LOL.

Bre You keep it real, not mad at you boo. I gotta try and push someone’s buttons on here at least once a day though…LOL.

Not Cool That is some sobering ish right there, I don’t even no what to say. I’m just sorry that you or anyone would ever have to go through something like that.

By Sexione

November 28, 2006 02:21 PM | Link to this

Heeyyy Everybody!!

NotCool….I’m seriously hoping you are just joking. But if not, I am sorry to hear that.

By Demigod's death?

November 28, 2006 02:25 PM | Link to this

Bre’ I that lonely, but happy. A person needs to learn how to be happy by themselves. Before you jump all over poor lil Demi…some days are full of loneliness, but most days are full of nothing but happiness…U know that feeling: Today’s gonna be off the chain and everything will go my way

By Jay

November 28, 2006 02:25 PM | Link to this

SLIM We can meet at your place of perference. When I say Single….. I mean single.

By Sexione

November 28, 2006 02:37 PM | Link to this

Foots, remember this guy’s story..

PUTNAM, Conn. — State police arrested two men Tuesday in the shooting of a man waiting in line to be one of the first to buy a PlayStation 3 game console.

State police said William J. Robertson, 20, of Woodstock, and Andrew Patnaude, 17, of Putnam, were charged with attempted murder, robbery, assault and other crimes. They were being held in lieu of $1 million bail pending court appearances set for Tuesday and Wednesday.

Early the morning of Nov. 17, Michael Penkala was shot by two gunmen who tried to steal his cash as he waited in line to buy one of the new PlayStations at a Wal-Mart in Putnam.

Penkala, 21, of Webster, Mass., said he was shot when he refused to give up his wallet, which held more than $2,500 in cash. He is still recovering.

By DuShawn

November 28, 2006 02:43 PM | Link to this

The grass is always greener on the other side…… All yall single folks out there, enjoy it. Don’t’ rush to change your situation. The married with children thing is no joke. Your life is no longer your own. Every decision carries a lot more weight. Solitude becomes a precious rarity. Noise and disorder are in constant abundance. When I was single, I would come home to a quiet, orderly, immaculately clean crib. I would grab a cold one and the remote, chill and decide who would be the lucky lady for the night. When I come home now, I get bum rushed by three little ones. My wife is exhausted because she has been dealing with them for hours before I arrived. It’s like, change diapers, feed them, bathe them, help with homework, read bedtime story, pray, tuck them in. Occasionally, I may check out a happy hour after work to enjoy a cocktail or two and watch the beautiful sistas walk around. Sometimes, during those moments, I can’t help but imagine what it would be like to be a bachelor again. Be careful what you wish for.

By Jewel

November 28, 2006 02:43 PM | Link to this

Jay I celebrated my 40th birthday this year! In fact, I am still celebrating! LOL! I have always been attracted to older men, even in high school, which was dangerous and I was clueless. Drove my stepfather insane! I look for maturity and wisdom. I expect an older man to be able to teach me something about life.

Well, LIFE has taught me that this is not always the case. Some older men are tainted and have a difficult time separating the “new lady” from the old mistakes. I have had to tell my SO several times during the course of our relationship that I cannot and will not pay for what other women have done. Every woman does not want a man to pay her bills. Segregate your past experiences from the woman before you and give her a chance. Embrace those experiences for your personal growth, not as a beating stick. IMO, all men at any age needs to deal with the emotions that they are full of (Yes, men are emotional too!) and channel the hurt into something positive, rather than flipping it to something negative about women.

By Slim

November 28, 2006 02:45 PM | Link to this

Ya’ll are so nice, I think I’ll visit this blog more often….

Jay are you in the Atlanta area?

By Demigod's death?

November 28, 2006 02:45 PM | Link to this

Runnin I am not going to lie, the women in my family have greatly affected my dating life…nothing less than dime/quarter/half-dollar piece

MusingLee If God release the same in law marriage banned, I would marry one of my cousins tonight!!! They all got good jobs and are hella cooks

Call me COUNTRY!!!

By CleanGuy

November 28, 2006 02:45 PM | Link to this

OK SLIM, I’m not all visual. I could care less about a woman’s chest. In fact, she could have a masectomy and I’d still go for her. If I’m guilty of being visual, then my eyes are more focused on the hair. Older Mature Women always seem to cut their hair, I like to see hair on the pillow when she lays down. Visual Guys think the singer Beyonce Knowles is ALL THAT. I couldn’t deal with her because when she talks SHE SOUNDS LIKE A HORSE.

By Tiff

November 28, 2006 02:46 PM | Link to this

LOL at jay and slim getting the hook up on the blog. Runnin will be charging you both a fee so look for the bill in the mail. LOL

Demi I’m like you. At times I’m lonely but I’m never unhappy. During those lonely times I just think how lucky I am NOT to be in a bad relationship like some of the ones I have experienced in past years. That’s when I began smiling and go do something by myself like see a movie and enjoy my singleness.

By Stinky Sullivan

November 28, 2006 02:48 PM | Link to this

Laney, Sounds like you been following in my footsteps, sista.

Just remember mono goes away, real STDs don’t.

Let ‘em hit it and let ‘em quit it, but just make sure u bein’ SAFE!!!

Winks at fine-a*, mono-a* LANEY

sS

By JoyMonique74

November 28, 2006 02:53 PM | Link to this

NotCool My heart and prayers go out to you. No one should have to endure that kind of pain. Thank for sharing your story.

By Jay

November 28, 2006 02:53 PM | Link to this

Jewel I’m enjoying my 40’s. I think I want to share it with someone. I would love to have kids. There’s a lot more that has to happen. I believe in giving something back like wisdom. Teach me something as well. I guess I need to go back to work.

By Demigod's revives

November 28, 2006 02:56 PM | Link to this

I look for maturity and wisdom. I expect an older man to be able to teach me something about life.

Jewel LOL this is the funnies posting I’ve read in a hot minute!!!

By Jewel

November 28, 2006 02:56 PM | Link to this

Dushawn Why do people always wish for what they do not have, rather than enjoy and embrace what they do? When my daughter graduated from high school two years ago and left home for college, people where asking what are you going to do now? HAVE FUN…was always my not so humble response! Of course you miss your child. But I am content with parenting from a distance.

By runninatl aka cupid for the day

November 28, 2006 03:00 PM | Link to this

slim I think Jay just hit you with a decent proposal…lol. Now is where you two exchange email info, then start your little individual $25 background/criminal record checks (Jay do one on her too because it’s 06’ and you don’t want to wake up in a tub of ice with a few organs missing and a note on your chest). Then you exchange photos, talk on the phone then agree to meet in a nice open area. Make sure you both have your homeboys and homegirls in the general vicinity. If all goes well, my fee will only be $49.95. If Jay gets some booty in the first two weeks then my fee is a non-refundable $109.95…LMAO. Cash, MO, Visa or MC only pimpins.

Why give match.com your money when you can give it to me…LOL.

Who’s next???

Sexione, when was the last time you had a date? I know you like a man with a sense of humor, so let me set you up with demi and I’ll give you 5% off…lol.

NCgirlfromATL Someone said you have long dough…lmao. Standby, I’m trying to get LL on the line right now….hahahaha.

Laney When you are well and vacinated, holla at ya boy! I know some dudes in the street pharmacy field…LOL.

By Notanissue

November 28, 2006 03:00 PM | Link to this

To shut everyone up at the dinner table, just tell everyone you are gay. Not only will they stop hounding you, they might not even talk to you anymore. Problem solved. Mom sobbing upstairs, Dad and Grandma both shooting you dirty looks, cousins busy eating those green peas everybody hates and not looking at you anymore Weird Uncle maybe hitting on ya, but nobody else bothering ya anymore.

By Bre'

November 28, 2006 03:01 PM | Link to this

Demi LOL you are too funny.

By Jewel

November 28, 2006 03:04 PM | Link to this

Well Jay…looks like Slim is jockeying for the opportunity! Welcome to blogmatch.com! LOL!

Musing I’m sure you can create a personals ad for blogmatch.com…

By Jay

November 28, 2006 03:04 PM | Link to this

Slim Yes I am. OTP…LOL. So whats up?

By Slim

November 28, 2006 03:04 PM | Link to this

My daughter is beginning to have a life of her own, now that she is almost 16. I find myself alone at the house, quite a bit lately. I don’t mind most of the time, because I do enjoy my time alone, and I do like myself. I just sometimes would LIKE (not want)to have a companion (not husband) to do things with. I’m not depressed during the holidays, actually depression is not a word in my vocabulary. Everyone gets lonely sometimes. There is a difference between being alone and being lonely.

By JoyMonique74

November 28, 2006 03:06 PM | Link to this

Thanks DuShawn. I have a couple of girlfriends now who are wanting to be married and have the 2.5 kids. They litterally cry about it sometimes. In my opinion, it’s a blessing to be single because of the freedom and flexibility that is available to us. So yes, I admit the The grass is greener on this side of singlehood. I’m not even complaining. Not one bit!

By SeanJohnson

November 28, 2006 03:06 PM | Link to this

@ Laney and WD…it might be a good idea make the blog the way it use to be …so people can contact each other via sidebar…Looks like runningsmatch.com have holiday hookups pending..

By NCgirlfromATL

November 28, 2006 03:07 PM | Link to this

Not Cool I am so sorry to hear that! Be strong, girl!

Be like, Dayum NC is fine. Boy stop! That is your cousin

demi I hear ya! Ok, officially, we are NOT related! lololol!!

SJ That’s right! Ugly men need love too! J.Anthony Brown always says, “Give ugly a try!”

By runninatl aka cupid for the day

November 28, 2006 03:09 PM | Link to this

slim I think Jay just hit you with a decent proposal…lol. Now is where you two exchange email info, then start your little individual $25 background/criminal record checks (Jay do one on her too because it’s 06’ and you don’t want to wake up in a tub of ice with a few organs missing and a note on your chest). Then you exchange photos, talk on the phone then agree to meet in a nice open area. Make sure you both have your homeboys and homegirls in the general vicinity. If all goes well, my fee will only be $49.95. If Jay gets some booty in the first two weeks then my fee is a non-refundable $109.95…LMAO. Cash, MO, Visa or MC only pimpins.

Why give match.com your money when you can give it to me…LOL.

Who’s next???

Sexione, when was the last time you had a date? I know you like a man with a sense of humor, so let me set you up with demi and I’ll give you 5% off…lol.

NCgirlfromATL Someone said you have long dough…lmao. Standby, I’m trying to get LL on the line right now….hahahaha.

Laney When you are well and vacinated, holla at ya boy! I know some dudes in the street pharmacy field…LOL.

By MusingLee

November 28, 2006 03:10 PM | Link to this

LMAO @ demi…Man that is country…You know you have a fine cousin when you’re trying to figure out how many degrees of separation are acceptable by the family….LOLOLOLOLOLOL

demi: But, granny she is fine. And she’s separated by 7 degrees.

granny demi: Well sorry baby, acceptance starts at 8 degrees of separation.

demi: so if has a 2nd cousin just as fine as her I can holler at the 2nd cousin.

granny demi: demi, if you try to bone your 7 1/2 cousin I’m gonna whoop yo’azz.

By Bre'

November 28, 2006 03:10 PM | Link to this

Demi LOL you are too funny.

By Demigod's revives

November 28, 2006 03:10 PM | Link to this

Tiff That’s great you enjoy spend time by yourself…While at Joe’s Crabshack in Southlake…I Spotted this cute as hell sister killing some crab legs.

I am treat her for dinner tonight, LOL

By Jay

November 28, 2006 03:16 PM | Link to this

Slim I’ll be there for the holidays and there afterwards. Mna this is the best$110 I’ve spent in a long time. Thanks Santa…LOL

By Slim

November 28, 2006 03:17 PM | Link to this

Alright Jay, you’re on. Where OTP? How do I discreetly send you my e-mail without everyone on the blog pretending to be you, or vice verse…..

Running you crack me up…missing organs and a note pinned to your chest….ha ha ha ha ha.
notanissue ha ha ha ha ha ha ha at telling the fam you are gay!!! I wonder how many bloggers will use that at Christmas?

By runninatl aka blog hookup one day sale!

November 28, 2006 03:19 PM | Link to this

slim & Jay I know you too are ol skool but you are messing with my commission. I need you both to step your game up and stop frontin. Let’s make this happen so I can have your pics up on my website for success stories. Jay put it on her, get her sprung, and slap a princess cut diamond on her finger and I’ll break you off a little referral fee for the honey moon. Make it happen!

You heard it right folks, blog hookups.com one-day only sales extravaganza. I’ll fix you up and your wildest dreams will come true. We do background checks and drug screens. Fellas, if you are looking for a little something strange for a piece of change, then I can find her! Ladies, put down the Harlequin romance novels and step back into reality and meet Mr. Right, Right now, just for tonight, or deep pockets. One-day only people, act now!

Tiff I appreciate the shout out, you get 25% off….lol.

By Notanissue

November 28, 2006 03:21 PM | Link to this

To shut everyone up at the dinner table, just tell everyone you are gay. Not only will they stop hounding you, they might not even talk to you anymore. Problem solved. Mom sobbing upstairs, Dad and Grandma both shooting you dirty looks, cousins busy eating those green peas everybody hates and not looking at you anymore Weird Uncle maybe hitting on ya, but nobody else bothering ya anymore.

By CleanGuy

November 28, 2006 03:22 PM | Link to this

LOL Slim, you just might get your wish for a man, or at least a pair britches. Try placing an ad like the woman this woman did. She advertised I want a man that won’t leave me, a man that won’t beat me and a man that’s good in bed. One day her door bell ranged and when she answered there was this quadraplegic laying on a skateboard. She asked “may I help you” and he replied I’m answering your ad. I have no legs so I won’t leave you, I have no arms so I won’t beat you. She said yeah, but are you good in bed and he replied “how do you think I rang the door bell” :)

By Jo

November 28, 2006 03:22 PM | Link to this

Slim-Shady, yeah, I’m white. Not Cool, my God, girlfriend! My heart goes out to you! Did you get any professional help/support after that? God bless you, sweetie..

By Tiff

November 28, 2006 03:22 PM | Link to this

LMAO at Runnin’s fee schedule breakdown. I agree with SJ It may be a good idea to go back to where you could hit someone on the sidebar..this way you can avoid Runnin’s inflated hook up fees. LOL

By MusingLee

November 28, 2006 03:24 PM | Link to this

Blogmatch.com Personals

Musing: Hello I’m Musing…I have a job, a car, and a nice wang…I am hetero, milk chocolate complexion, 6 feet tall, and have good hair…I am a thug with a soft side. I wear Johnston Murphys during the day, Timbos in the evening, and lay down the wood at night…I currently have a stable of 4 potential starters and looking for 1 more lady to fill my team…If you think you can be the Allstar on my M-Squad please apply below.

Note: League standards require that I disclose dating hours may reduce during the peak of holiday seasons

By Jewel

November 28, 2006 03:25 PM | Link to this

Slim I do not know your interests or hobbies, but try filling those times with the things that you love to do, and can enjoy doing alone. With or without a companion, it is wonderful to be able to enjoy yourself, in my humble opinion. My daughter was the same way. Watch out though…if your daughter sees that you are capable of having fun without her, she may try to stay closer to home! LOL!

By Not Cool

November 28, 2006 03:28 PM | Link to this

Thanks everyone for your comments.

I think actually what hurts as well, is I really thought my Parents (mostly Mother) had a higher level of common sense and intelligence that to do something so incrediably stupid. No, they never meant to put me in harms way. No, they (mainly she) were not passing out these cards on the street. But still, how stupid. How incrediably stupid.

I might has well posted a sign on my car and drove around that said, single attractive, frail, 24 year old, lives all by self in a brand new big city.

By Hot Sauce

November 28, 2006 03:30 PM | Link to this

Background/Criminal Check, did someone say they “need that done?” Hello everyone how’s it going? I’m doing well; hey Musing, Demi

By Hot Sauce

November 28, 2006 03:32 PM | Link to this

lol @ Musing put me on your team baby ;)at least you’ll have All Star Protection 24-7

By Demigod's revives

November 28, 2006 03:32 PM | Link to this

Alvin Hey Granny, I would like marry cousin So’n’so, who is 9 tier down the family tree.

Granny is now removing rusty .9mm from handbag

Granny Alvin, marry who?

Alvin then change into the Demigod as shots are fired…

(while flying in air)

Alvin Granny is tripping, she IS 9 tier down!

By Notanissue

November 28, 2006 03:36 PM | Link to this

Sorry for the double blog. But that comment (However untrue) will shut the old folks up for a while. Then you might get the curious ones (or should I say the closet ones) that start asking you all about how you “meet” people. Too funny. Beat telling the folks the truth, that all you date are the losers, jailbirds, married men and the ones that say that they will call.

By Jay

November 28, 2006 03:38 PM | Link to this

SLIM I’m not sure. We can go tresure hunting and I will be at the end of the rainbow. I have an emaill address. It’s Exit 44 off I-20@yahoo.com. smile

By runninatl aka blog hookup one day sale!

November 28, 2006 03:39 PM | Link to this

Tiff I’m a little insulted that you called my fees inflated. I challenge you to comparison shop and ask those match.com users how much they pay. So go ahead, all you match.com users, let’s hear it, how much bread are you breaking?…LOL.

slim To answer your last question, create a temp free email account that you will only use for that purpose (blog hookups.com can provide you with 5 email accounts for a small fee of $29.95) or may I suggest going through one of our third party vendors, either Laney or Wise Diva. That way they can verify who’s who and you can blame and sue them instead of my company in case Jay is a certified serial killer and we missed it. Happy hunting…lol.

Musing Your profile goes up on our site every week with no hits, just let it go!….lol.

By Notanissue

November 28, 2006 03:39 PM | Link to this

Not cool, how horrible. Seriously sorry bout your situation. Some moms mean so well, but are so hoping to get their little darlings hooked up so they can have grandchildren asap.

By Demigod's revives

November 28, 2006 03:39 PM | Link to this

Heeeeeyyyy Hot Sauce!! How’s D.C??

By Tiff

November 28, 2006 03:40 PM | Link to this

Joy Don’t pay any attention to Dushawn Everyone has their days when they remember when. Even though I don’t know Dushawn personally, I know from his posts that he wouldn’t trade his wife and kids for anything. Some days are harder than others but it all goes away when you see a little face light up when they see you.

I don’t have any kids, but I feel good when my friend’s children run up to me and hug me or call me and tell me that they miss me. I can only imagine how that feels for some parents. Maybe that’s why your girlfriends feel so sad that they haven’t experienced that yet. Singleness is good now but that’s because I haven’t experienced the other side of life. That’s not to say when I get married I won’t miss those times when I could have a moment to myself. I’ll just do as Dushawn does and go out alone and reminisce then carry my behind home.

By Ren

November 28, 2006 03:42 PM | Link to this

Not Cool,

I am so sorry you had to go through that. I guess your mom really thought she was helping and wasn’t thinking of how unsafe it was for her to do that.

I am so happy the police caught the guy.

By MusingLee

November 28, 2006 03:44 PM | Link to this

LOLOLOLOLOL @ demi…Dayum man, your granny throwing shots at you?!?!?!…hehehehehehe

HotSauce Still spicy I see…LOL…Hellz, with cops bucking at er’body I might need that protection…Have you riding shotgun, holding a shotgun, 70’s shades, a skintight cop katsuit, with motor cycle boots on….LMAOOoooooo

By Tiff

November 28, 2006 03:46 PM | Link to this

LOL @Runnin You don’t have any overhead since the ajc is sponsoring your site so you can lower the prices! LOL However, I am interested in knowing how much people pay for sites like match.com.

By Sexy Shaft

November 28, 2006 03:46 PM | Link to this

Jay, I WILL be watching you. Slim, call Sexy Shaft’s office if body guards are needed…I have 5 straight cell block D sisters on stand by

Be safe!!!

By Ren

November 28, 2006 03:46 PM | Link to this

Ren, If you never listen one single thing a guy tells you ever again, Listen up: Women have all sorts of power over men. When it comes to females, men (myself included, get real stupid, real quick). I’ll let you figure out the rest, trust me on this one.

By slim

November 28, 2006 03:54 PM | Link to this

Jay Exit44ofI-20@yahoo.com?????

“treasure hunting with you at the end of the rainbow” oh my fanning myself like a southern belle.

By DuShawn

November 28, 2006 04:01 PM | Link to this

Jewel/Tiff “Why do people always wish for what they do not have, rather than enjoy and embrace what they do?” That’s a question for the ages… I guess its human nature. Four decades of life, a few graduations and a few probations have taught me that the destination is not nearly as fulfilling as the journey. I recognize where I am on mine and I’m grateful to be there. My previous post implied that I sometimes want be a bachelor again. Ironically, several months ago my wife and kids went out of town for a couple of weeks. The first few days, I’m ballin out of control, hanging out late with the fellas, we Magic City, Body Tapin it up, having a blast….. but that got old real quick. I found myself missing my kids running around making noise and breaking stuff. I got tired of coming home to that big empty house, I longed for a shtty diaper to change. I missed the comfort, security and stability that my family brings to my life. Their absence made me realize, I’m no longer at that point on my journey and I could never go back.

By Thug_4_life

November 28, 2006 04:02 PM | Link to this

wassup playas???

Deez nutz was up in a black sista last night, but all of a suddon, I gotz me a whiff of her SWAMP A*….nastay biach dont wipe too good…persinal higenge is a nucessity

By Jewel

November 28, 2006 04:05 PM | Link to this

Demi Sounds like your Granny’s name is Madea! LOL! That was too funny!

By Foots

November 28, 2006 04:10 PM | Link to this

DuShawn Four decades? I don’t know why I thought you were in your 20s…

By runninatl aka blog hookup one day sale!

November 28, 2006 04:12 PM | Link to this

Jay I’m afraid you haven’t stepped your game up. I realize that you are an ol skool playa, trying to play things all calm, cool, and collective but we have a code 1130 over here, ol skool diva down, diva in distress, diva fanning herself like a southern belle. I got other pimps, I mean playas, I mean gentlemen ready to make their move so if you don’t act now Jay I’m afraid…….I’m going to need a $150 non-refundable deposit to hold on to slim for the rest of the day. Please remember, Cash, MO, Visa or MC only.

May I help the next person in line….

Tiff Hey, how are you, nice to see you, looking ravishing as always boo. Let me have you take a look at SJ’s profile right here. He is gainfully employed, no baby mama drama, 2 arrests but NO CONVICTIONS. STD free and he is an organ and sperm donor so there is potential for little Tiffs to be running around the house in a few years so let me put you two on instant messenger right quick.

Who’s next?

By JoyMonique74

November 28, 2006 04:14 PM | Link to this

WTH is Thug4life smoking? Is this Kramer from Seinfeld on the blog now?

My goodness!!!!

By Jewel

November 28, 2006 04:15 PM | Link to this

Slim & Jay Make sure you read the fine print in Runnin’s contract…after said rendezvous, both parties agree to kiss and tell everything on the blog where said match originated. LOL!

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

November 28, 2006 04:18 PM | Link to this

Hey Blogmates! Just caught a breather…

So, Jay and Slim are trying to do the damn thang huh???

By MusingLee

November 28, 2006 04:20 PM | Link to this

JoyM As you blog more you’ll notice lames posting stupid ishh on the blog…We all just ignore them. They eventually leave for another blog where they can rile other bloggers up…Don’t sweat it.

By Sexy Shaft

November 28, 2006 04:21 PM | Link to this

Jewel think about it. If my granny was Madea…I doubt I’d be in any position to post anything…In a long long loooooooong time, LOL

By CleanGuy

November 28, 2006 04:21 PM | Link to this

DuShawn, after 31 years of marriage I’d love to be SINGLE AGAIN. If something ever happened to this marriage, you can bet your life I would never marry again. Love is funny. After 31 years of it, you’re not Romantically In Love. At least I’m not. I love my wife, but the love gets to where it’s sorta like the way you love your parents or siblings. It’s not Romantic.

By Jay

November 28, 2006 04:21 PM | Link to this

Hey Runni I put it out there. I’m here waiting.Thinking I should go to Barnes and Noble and get the book, Get your woman in a day……LOL

By DuShawn

November 28, 2006 04:25 PM | Link to this

Foots Well…nearly four decades. The youthful vernacular I choose to express myself with in this forum and my light hearted and somewhat immature responses to certain topics would lead one to believe that I’m a much younger man, but I’m real grown or ripe as some young lady stated yesterday. I only act act an azz on the blog. The anonymity allows me to do so without repercussions. Normally, I’m a very serious brotha.

By Tiff

November 28, 2006 04:26 PM | Link to this

LMAO @Runnin You stoopid..and obviously a hustla too. Do you take EBT? LMAO!!

By demigod

November 28, 2006 04:29 PM | Link to this

Thing happens

By DuShawn

November 28, 2006 04:30 PM | Link to this

CleanGuy*…….I truly feel you

By Hot Sauce

November 28, 2006 04:32 PM | Link to this

Musing I got you baby cause for imma ride or die Chick hey Demi i’m not with DC* anymore sweetie, and i’m sooooooooo dayum glad cause they done went skrait crazy out there shooting up erry thang i’m out y’all i’ll check back when i can

Musing, i do have a Black Cat skin tight suit for real ;)

By Jewel

November 28, 2006 04:33 PM | Link to this

DuShawn

The grass may be greener on the other side, but it still has to be mowed. Yeah, there are moments when I desire to be married; then my SO says/does something to annoy me, (You know the usual things men do when they are being a man.) and I am sooo happy he is not coming home to me that night! the destination is not nearly as fulfilling as the journey. That is a priceless statement. As long as we are alive, we will continue on the journey of living and loving. Each phase is filled with its own lessons, tears, laughter, joys, sadness, etc…

By Jake

November 28, 2006 04:36 PM | Link to this

@CleanGuy

No disrespect intended..just askin?

You say not romantic…so is the trill gone with wifey, or do you just get piece of strange here and there. I ain’t tryin to pry, but that was an interesting statement, behind Dushawn’s I want to be single again post(Du-I saw the second one too) When did it change bruh?

By Maggie

November 28, 2006 04:37 PM | Link to this

You’re just at an age where people are going to ask. Next, you’ll have all married friends wanting to know when you’re going to tie the knot, and friends with kids asking if you’ve got plans for babies soon. The best advice: Answer such questions honestly and confidently, but in as few words as possible…then change the subject.

By Jake

November 28, 2006 04:45 PM | Link to this

Dushawn

You truly feel Cleanguy, if I keep listening to ya’ll, I’ll never make down the aisle. Hear that Musing, its over for you dude…LOL Me stay single forever, get a babymama or two….HEHEHEHEHEHE

Now reachin over to boombox and blasting Cameo’s “Single Life”. Single ladies clap your hands…so I can come dance withcha

By MusingLee

November 28, 2006 04:50 PM | Link to this

Night All,

Be easy er’body.

By CleanGuy

November 28, 2006 04:52 PM | Link to this

LOL Jake, yep, THE THRILL IS GONE, but not by choice. And NO, i’m not into a piece of strange. As you grow older the body changes. When I was in my 20’s I could stand at the bathroom door and pee across the floor into the toilet without spilling a drop. Now I stand over the toilet and still get it on my shoes sometimes. When I was in my 20’s Orgasms used to be a earth shattering and trembling experience. Now it’s barely noticeable.

By runninatl aka blog hookup one day sale!

November 28, 2006 04:53 PM | Link to this

Jay You are right, you did put it out there, slim just ain’t ready. You can have half your deposit back…LOL.

slim Stop fanning and step your game up!…lol.

Tiff I accept anything that can be quickly liquidated into cash! Keep us posted how my bloghookups.com treats you and SJ…LOL.

Ya’ll be easy.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

November 28, 2006 04:54 PM | Link to this

Dang, Jake, I started feeling the same way.

Like a bubble was burst or something after reading DuShawn and CleanGuy. But I’d rather hear the good and bad as opposed to just the fairy tale.

By Jewel

November 28, 2006 04:56 PM | Link to this

The world has lost another beautiful, black soul…

Bebe Moore Campbell

By DuShawn

November 28, 2006 04:57 PM | Link to this

Jake If its part of your journey, you won’t be able make it happen nor prevent it from happening. I’m happy…and grateful, but I feel what Cleanguy was saying. It takes effort to keep it right.

By demigod

November 28, 2006 04:59 PM | Link to this

LOL NIGHT ALL

By Jake

November 28, 2006 05:00 PM | Link to this

Hey Dark

Good to know Iwasn’t alone with those thoughts.

By slim

November 29, 2006 09:29 AM | Link to this

Runnin and others, if you all stop by this blog today, I stepped up my game at 9:30 this a.m.

By Wheels

December 1, 2006 10:41 AM | Link to this

Slim,
Like you always said dress like your gonna meet Mr. right or Mr. you might do! And those chocolate chip cookies, I bet if you dabbed one behind your ears when you go out (you know it is the visual and then the stomach) that Mr. “you might do” will follow you home! But please make sure he has all his teeth and no nicknames that end in a vowel ;)