Misadventures in Atlanta

By kinderbabe

November 27, 2006 08:35 AM | Link to this

GOOD MORNING ALL!!:) Hope you had a wonderful thanksgiving holiday. I will be cruising along til the Christmas break comes up. I am actually in a bind b/c I met someone just recently who has a birthday coming up in December (about a week before Christmas). I’m trying to decide if I should get him a gift or not…and if so, what type of gift is appropriate?? Also, do I get a birthday and a Christmas gift?? Thanks for your help!!

By Sexione

November 27, 2006 08:57 AM | Link to this

Morning All!!!

Hope everybody’s Thanksgiving festivities were safe and fun.

I’m single this holiday season so I don’t have this issue. In my last relationship I never bought him a gift because I knew that he would p** me off by not being around, so why bother. My favorite Christmas gift (in past relationships) was cash.

kinderbabe….How long ago did you two meet? If it was very recent (like a month ago), then I would say depending on how fast the situation is moving, I would not buy a gift. Maybe I would offer to take him to dinner or something. If you feel you all are at the gift giving stage, then I would say buy one gift and give it as a Birthday/Christmas combination.

By Ms. Elusive

November 27, 2006 08:58 AM | Link to this

Good morning all, I am glad to be able to check back in. It’s been too long. This discussion should be interesting.

My best friend says she is having a problem with this already. Someone she’s been dating pretty steadily (if casually) has thrown up the cold front recently. I suppose it’s possible that he’s met someone else. She is convinced, however, that it’s because he doesn’t want to get her a Christmas gift and that he’ll be Mr. Attentive again come January. Guys, please tell me that y’all are not this lame. shakes head

By JustMe

November 27, 2006 09:03 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All

I hope everyone had a safe and Happy Thanksgiving!

On the subject of gift giving to a new friend… I say a small token is appropriate if you have been dating for less than 6 months. If you have been dating for more than 6 months then I think you should make a decent effort to give them something that you know they will appreciate. Something geared toward a hobby they may have, i.e. new head covers for the clubs, tickets to a sporting event or buy a round of golf a an exclusive resort or feed into a fetish they may have i.e. I love handbags, shoes etc, so a gift card to an upscale boutique would be great, or if they dare to venture, get something from the boutique that fits their style.

JustMe tends to over do gift giving because I ALWAYS try to buy something that I would appreciate receiving if the gift were for me.

By 4theLongHaul

November 27, 2006 09:08 AM | Link to this

Morning everybody. Dragggggggging….

By attention06

November 27, 2006 09:12 AM | Link to this

I can say with all sincerity that christmas is the worst time of year, for exactly this reason. The touchy situation of “what do you” vs “what do I want to spend on you” is attrocitous. How do you place value on a relationship? Furthermore how do you feel when you think you have been slighted in “gift department” Sorry to take you question asking thunder, LANEY

I for one can say I don’t look forward to this time of year. My SO is under employed, screw it she aint got no job, so how can I determine what Christmas is going to look like? We have only been together for maybe 3 months. My birthday is on the 5th so I guess I will gauge my gift giving from what she gives me for my bday.

I hope to spend no more than $200 on her for Christmas. That is my final answer

By Sexione

November 27, 2006 09:14 AM | Link to this

Ms.Elusive…..that’s EXACTLY what he’s doing. Tell her to go ahead and find her someone else, or at least shake him loose. Doesn’t sound like it will be too hard right now, the real fun will start when he’s trying to come back, oh let’s say around late February (after Valentine’s Day). And yes, some men are that lame. The fellas will verify this when they get here. And I’m sure it will be hella funny, lol!!!

By Miss P

November 27, 2006 09:16 AM | Link to this

Funny, I was just having this discussion with my boyfriend last night. We’ve been dating one month and by the time Christmas comes, it will be two. We mutually decided not to exchange gifts. I think the best thing to do is to talk with your honey and see what you both want to do.

kinderbabe-My boyfriend also has his birthday a week before Christmas. I plan to give him a birthday gift but not a Christmas gift since we decided not to exchange gifts. Since you haven’t been dating a long time, its not necessary to give a big gift. You could do something special, but simple like make him a cd of your favorite songs or dinner…

By Ms. Elusive

November 27, 2006 09:31 AM | Link to this

LOL @ Sexione. I have to agree that the guys are pretty funny.

As for my take on the gift giving, whether or not to give someone something is very personal. For me it’s simple, because if I’m really into someone, I do, no matter the length of time. Ideally, you give because you want to, not to receive something in return.

If it’s only been a short time that I’ve been with a guy, but I’m into them enough to get them something, I recommend something smaller but sentimental… something that will mean something to them. For example, one of my exes and I had only been dating for about a month and a half when Christmas came. Our first date was to a Georgetown basketball game, which was his team. I was already gone on him, so for Christmas.. I just got him a Georgetown sweatshirt with a small card which read “in memory of our first date” cause guys don’t always get these things. lol Not too expensive. Now that I’m retelling it, this may be a better strategy for guys to do for women. We eat up this kind of stuff. wink

By JustMe

November 27, 2006 09:32 AM | Link to this

Ms E. I have that same issue in reverse - LOL

I started dating my Ex-So this past February, we met a week or so before Valentines Day, we did exchange small token gifts. His B-day was in March, and I was in a position to hook him up real nice with a B-day weekend and I did it. My B-Day was in April and he handled his bizness too. A few months later (July-August) thing started to fizzle out between us and we just stopped talking and dating. We have talked a hand full of times since then, but never about what happened to the “ship” we were sailing together on. Well last week out of no where, the subject came up (during a football conversation) and he has been trying to see me again. In the back of my mind, I wonder if it is because the Holidays are approaching, and he has previously been the benefactor of my gift giving.

By MusingLee

November 27, 2006 09:53 AM | Link to this

Morn’in All,

I’ve always lived by the rule, “It’s not about how much you spend it’s about the thought.”…You can get someone a slightly inexpensive gift, but if its very thoughtful it will be appreciated…I would take this approach if you don’t have alot of money to spend or if you haven’t been with the person long…Something as simple as a made it yourself jewelry box or 5lbs of lean steak/hamburgers from Omaha Steaks.

By NCgirlfromATL

November 27, 2006 09:54 AM | Link to this

*waiting for the first blog guy to say, “this is a chick topic.”

I don’t have an SO, so I’m easy breezy this Christmas! lol! I have been disappointed when a former SO that I’d been dating for several months seemed to forget it was Christmas. But, his azz was all smiles when he opened the box to that nice leather jacket I got for him. So, since then, I have asked if we are exchanging gifts. I have learned not to take gift-giving for granted, b/c I think most brothas would prefer not to have to spend the money or the time in the mall trying to find something their woman would like. Granted, I also think that by asking the question, it gives them an out, but if your guy is really putting the effort into your relationship, he’ll know if gifts are important to you or not (I’m not a big Valentine’s Day girl, so I can do without the flowers and candy).

By MusingLee

November 27, 2006 10:01 AM | Link to this

MsE Yes, some guys do get down like that…around the beginning of December guys will start to fizzle, especially if the girl has expensive taste in gifts…We ain’t trying to be her Cake Daddy when we know all we gonna get is a dayum hug and some socks…LOLOLOLOL

He’ll hit her up again trying to get some cut for New Years…then get ghost for Valentines and back on the grind about the 20th of Feb…hahahahahahaha

By 4theLongHaul

November 27, 2006 10:02 AM | Link to this

I know for me and my SOs first Christmas, I bought him a bowling ball because (at the time) we went bowling with friends a lot and he was just TOO thrilled because I got something he could actually use! (along with the suede coat I bought him) and he hooked a sister up too! I love buying stuff for him because he’s just always so wonderful to me throughout the year. He’s not real big on ‘holiday gifting’ because of the annual giving…but he does good nonetheless.

By Sexione

November 27, 2006 10:02 AM | Link to this

NCGirl….^5, I’m feeling “breezy” too!! lol ….seemed to forget it was Christmas…now THAT’S funny!!!

By JustMe

November 27, 2006 10:10 AM | Link to this

So how do you tell an Ex (different than the one in m last post) that you are not planning to exchange gifts when he has already pick yours out and may have already purchased it?

By DuShawn

November 27, 2006 10:14 AM | Link to this

Good Morning, yeah NCGirl this is a chick topic. I left Miami at 7:30 pm arrived in the ATL @ 5:00 am, was in the office at 8:00 and conducted a meeting at 9:00. I’m draggin this morning.Sexione I’ve often heard guys discuss the “dismiss a female before the holidays” technique of gift purchase avoidance, but rarely have I actually seen it practiced. Most men will just buy the lady their dating a small but tasteful gift. Unless the brotha is dating several women simultaneously and they all are expecting something. This can be quite costly. In that instance, it’s the man’s fiduciary responsibility to act an azz until after Valentines day.

By kinderbabe

November 27, 2006 10:17 AM | Link to this

thanks sexione and Miss P for your advice. sexione you’re right, we did meet about a month ago. things have been going well. we’ve gone on several dates which have gone great! i will follow your advice and get something small. i thought about taking him to dinner for his birthday. i figured, i’d play christmas by ear. i’ll get something small if i do get something. my birthday is on the 31st so i figure i’m setting the tone for how i treat his b-day…lol. i do like the idea of receiving some type of birthday acknowlegement.:)

By JustMe

November 27, 2006 10:18 AM | Link to this

DuShawn In that instance, it’s the man’s fiduciary responsibility to act an azz until after Valentines day. So if that’s the case, why do they even bother trying to get back at a later date? Why not just charge it to the game and let her go completely?

By NCgirlfromATL

November 27, 2006 10:21 AM | Link to this

4THL That’s good that you have a man that doesn’t just wait for a holiday. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve never been the woman who was just collecting stuff from men. In fact, on the few occasions (and I do mean few) when I have received a gift from a man, it has been such a big deal for me. I admit that I am usually the spoiler, not the spoilee. But, I enjoy buying gifts. It’s not to get something in return, but to see that someone knew I was thinking about them. My only complaint is that when the traditional gift giving occasions come around, howz about showing you thought about me? I must admit, the one who forgot about Christmas that year (nevermind that we’re both Catholic and attended Mass each week, nearly falling over the Nativity scene at the front of the church during the Eucharist!)…well, he and I were both in school and broke during my birthday. But, he called me that morning and said “I have $60, and we’ll spend it however you want today.” He took me to breakfast, to the movies, bought me a small cake and flowers from a local grocery store, and took me to dinner on the rest. It was one of the most fun birthdays I’ve ever had. Not b/c he spent a bunch of money, but b/c he made the effort.

Meanwhile, ex-SO claimed he couldn’t get a call on my birthday to go through b/c he was in the islands on business. So, 4 days later he sends me an IM asking me not to cuss him out. Yeah right! A sista couldn’t even get a phone call?!? lolol! But, on his birthday, he was looking for a ticker-tape parade from me. He got an email. (Hey, at least it was actually on his birthday!) And a few months later, we were done.

By Demigod...

November 27, 2006 10:21 AM | Link to this

MusingLee you have the disappearing dates down pack!!! MLB is viewing your 1001m for any violations

kinderbabe a simply dinner will do for most men…Lord knows how long it has been since a woman treats US for dinner…Just make sure it’s his favorite restaurant!!

Heeeeeyyyy LLL

By Sexione

November 27, 2006 10:25 AM | Link to this

DuShawn….I’ve never actually seen it practiced either, but definitely know it happens. Sooooo trifling, lol!!!

By runninatl

November 27, 2006 10:25 AM | Link to this

Morning folk. I need another 2 days off to recover from my time off!

“Sure, the material things aren’t the most important in a relationship, but it’s undeniable that the gifts exchanged for the holidays can be a good time to engender goodwill and affection - or to screw up big.”

Laney You seem to answer some of your own questions there and contradict yourself at the same time. Too much Sex and the City ladies…LOL.

I’ve seen how expectations and emotions can ruin a holiday moment so I let it be known upfront that I’m not exchanging gifts. I have a hard enough time dealing with my mom and her sisters fight over who’s having Thanksgiving dinner and trying to find gifts for my children, parents, and my sister, therefore I can do without any additional drama…LOL. Maybe that person was right, who said that the holidays are too commercialized now.

By aggressively witty

November 27, 2006 10:25 AM | Link to this

First off giving honor to god, Hail to the redskins!

Now, best gift I ever got from a broad I dated was a complete golf accessory pack. Tees, Balls, Towel, Shirt, bag, and the grand finale…redskins headcovers for my driver and 3 wood. This was a great gift cause I was just getting into golf seriously and I love the redskins.

Best gift I ever gave, hell I dunno cause if I am dating a broad around the holidays i just usually get her something she asked for. This year MWP asked for an excercise bike and some time at the stables…thats what she gets.

By Demigod...

November 27, 2006 10:28 AM | Link to this

I wonder if it is because the Holidays are approaching, and he has previously been the benefactor of my gift giving

LLL yep and plus he KNOWs you got the holiday Goodie-goods…Hell no!!! Give buddy the Amazon head-lock followed by the holidays drop kick to the curb…nykka please!!!

By Demigod...

November 27, 2006 10:30 AM | Link to this

Unless the brotha is dating several women simultaneously and they all are expecting something. This can be quite costly. In that instance, it’s the man’s fiduciary responsibility to act an azz until after Valentines day.

Yep, we brothers are going to hell!!!, LOL

By Sexione

November 27, 2006 10:31 AM | Link to this

JustMe…..because they are trifling!!! And they like to think that they always have the option of coming back. Well, I am one that can show ‘em better than I can tell ‘em, and I have shown quite a few that once you’ve completely blown it with me, AIN’T no getting back in!! I LOVE IT!!!!

Ms.E…..I told you, hella funny!!!

By kinderbabe

November 27, 2006 10:32 AM | Link to this

thanks demi i think i’ll go w/the dinner option especially since a man is endorsing it…lol. i will find out what his favorite restaurant is between now over the next couple weeks. that way he’s sure to enjoy it!

By DuShawn

November 27, 2006 10:33 AM | Link to this

Just Me “Why not just charge it to the game and let her go completely?” It doesn’t make sense to let her go completely. She’s done nothing wrong. Besides, she’s a proven starter and has already been through training camp. It’s easier to put her on the bench and start her again in a few months than it is to draft and train a new recruit.

By MusingLee

November 27, 2006 10:35 AM | Link to this

demi If MLB is gonna come down on me, they should get Dushawn too for telling about the multiple holiday girls get out technique…hahahahaha

JustMe Why should dude just let the girl go when that’s not what she really wants?!?!?! She knows she isn’t the main Woman but she hangs on his every word…In this instance it’s best to give her what she wants….LOLOLOL…However, this technique can breed stalkers out of otherwise good natured Women.

By Candidly Speaking

November 27, 2006 10:39 AM | Link to this

What up Folk???

Just stopping thru….

All I want fo Chritmas is a cute chick with a Ghetto bottie…a six figure income…corporate hustle with street smarts…that can rock-n-jock in bedroom…put it down in kitchen like B. Smith…keep the house clean like Florence on the Jeffersons.

But on the real…If you are deemed worthy of a gift…a gift you shall receive.

Where’s LL? We need him on here to break down the gifts based on yo tier status.

By Ghost

November 27, 2006 10:41 AM | Link to this

Baahhhh….humbug!!! Women are usually cheap when it comes to gifts. If you don’t tell them what you want, you may end up with a sorry az necktie, or a gay az sweater.

I’m so glad I’ll be saving money once again for myself. No SO again this year, and I have a new car stereo in my sights. Can’t wait.

By Ms. Elusive

November 27, 2006 10:42 AM | Link to this

JustMe Back in touch to get a gift? I’m going to have to agree with Demi. Hellll no. Helll nawww even. We’ve got some golddigger men in ATL.. but that’s a whole ‘nother discussion. Lame lame lame. shakes head

By Sexione

November 27, 2006 10:43 AM | Link to this

Ladies, this is what I suggest….(or should I say single or “loosely attached” women…be sure to have at least 3 in the lineup for the holiday season. That way, you always have a backup (for everything)!!!! LMAO

By JustMe

November 27, 2006 10:44 AM | Link to this

Hey Demi Thanks for the advice, I’ma give him a long hard kick to the nearest curb - just cuz Demi said too

Sexione I kicked this guy to the curb last year, and when I say he never stopped calling and wanting to come see me, I am not exagerrating at all. The longest he went without trying to contact me was maybe 2 weeks. I have seen him a few times in the last month, and he thinks errrthang is errthang again! He is persistant if nothing else.

DuShawn You are proof positive that men are dawgs! If she has all the starting line up qualities you describe, then why not make a small investment in her gift and cast the others to the bench? That way you at least know that you won’t lose her during her free agency period.

By JustMe

November 27, 2006 10:45 AM | Link to this

Candid You sick widit today - LOL

By NCgirlfromATL

November 27, 2006 10:46 AM | Link to this

Just Me “Why not just charge it to the game and let her go completely?” It doesn’t make sense to let her go completely. She’s done nothing wrong.

Plus, by that time, the poody has been tested, and is probably good enough for a return visit. Remember, most smart men don’t burn bridges. They may forget how to get to your crib when a gift is involved, but they never burn a bridge to a decent woman w/ average to better than average poody.

demi isn’t that in the MLB handbook? Got a peek over the weekend! lol!

By runninatl

November 27, 2006 10:48 AM | Link to this

“because they are trifling!!! And they like to think that they always have the option of coming back.”

Has the bitter man-bashing started already?….LOL.

By Sexione

November 27, 2006 10:48 AM | Link to this

Oh, and off topic for a minute…

THE FALCONS SUCK!!!!!!

Yes, I said it…..THE FALCONS SUCK!!!

I’m a native ATLian, been many places, lived here ALL my life, and every year it’s basically the same mess. Just trash the whole organization and don’t bother to start over from scratch. &%^$#!#$^*&^@!!$%^&

Okay, now back to the topic at hand..

By Demigod...

November 27, 2006 10:50 AM | Link to this

MusingLee…DuShawn screen name in it’s self is a violation of MLB…He’s married, so he doesn’t give a Dayum!!, LOL…

By MusingLee

November 27, 2006 10:51 AM | Link to this

Candid LOLOLOL…You gonna bring LL out huh…hahaha

But, you are right…The Woman’s status is directly related to the thoughtfulness and money put into her gift…LOLOLOLOLOL

Ladies if you get a ishhty gift, that dude might be telling you something.

By DuShawn

November 27, 2006 10:55 AM | Link to this

Just Me “If she has all the starting line up qualities…..then why not make a small investment” the answer is Salary Cap Restrictions Everybody on the team can’t receive bonuses. Some have to play for the league minimum. If you’re the starting tailback you’re gonna receive gifts, if you’re the third string kicker……..No haps.

By Demigod...

November 27, 2006 10:59 AM | Link to this

If you don’t tell them what you want, you may end up with a sorry az necktie, or a gay az sweater.

lolololololol….Well Dayum Ghost!!!

Heeeeey NCgirlfromATL

That’s a low blow…peeking in MLB guide for Men!! Lol

By MusingLee

November 27, 2006 11:00 AM | Link to this

NCgirl The rule states “Never discard the pooty until a pooty of equal or greater value has been procured.”…This is sure to get me in trouble with the MLB.

By JustMe

November 27, 2006 11:00 AM | Link to this

Demi I misread your post - LOL, He’s still catching the nearest curb though! Now you’ve got me wondering what in the Heck he wants this time. humming jeopardy music Ms E. any ideas?

By Sexione

November 27, 2006 11:02 AM | Link to this

JustMe….I know girl, been there, done that, got the t-shirt too!!! …at least know that you won’t lose her during her free agency period. See, that’s what they don’t realize. They think we all sitting at home, waiting for the phone to ring, hahahaha!!!

runnin…no bashing dear, just keeping it real. Read your fellow men bloggers comments…y’all really do think that.

Men, why is it that when you give it to us “straight with no chaser” it’s nuggets of wisdom. But when we return the favor, we’re bashing, or (my favorite) been “hurt or disappointed”? Let me guess, it’s that wonderful double standard, right?

This is toooooo funny!!!

By Demigod...

November 27, 2006 11:02 AM | Link to this

LL is chilling in Chi-town

Ladies if you get a ishhty gift, that dude might be telling you something.

And fellas the same…Good point Musin!!

Sup Runnin how’s life?

By JustMe

November 27, 2006 11:10 AM | Link to this

DuShawn So what happens if your 3rd string kicker gets antsy riding the bench and starts entertaining other teams and just when you are ready to have her rejoin the game for your team, she announces that she has been picked up by another team?

Musing “Never discard the pooty until a pooty of equal or greater value has been procured.”… This would explain the “It’s just not the same remarks” - LOL Dayum Skippy it’s not the same and dayum sure not as good!

By kinderbabe

November 27, 2006 11:11 AM | Link to this

i’m just taking in these comments about gifts and the meaning of them…interesting. making me think about if i’ll get a gift for christmas or my b-day…lol.

By Kym aka Rested and Relax

November 27, 2006 11:21 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

I am single for the holidays this year..but in past years I always ask the man in my life if we are serious what would he like…if not so serious maybe a nice dinner out(on me) and good convo..keep it loose and light.

Off Topic I am in so relaxed I didnt even throw stuff at the Steelers for all their bumbling yesterday(besides they have Superbowl rings) they need to work on that defense and Ben should have sat out a few more weeks. An the icing on the cake was watching the Fakecons lose yesterday to the Aints..Vicky flipping the fans the bird…Classic.

By DuShawn

November 27, 2006 11:23 AM | Link to this

Just Me the supply of third string kickers far exceeds the demand. If by some miracle, she’s picked up by another team, there are plenty more on waivers waiting to be chosen.

By Ms. Elusive

November 27, 2006 11:24 AM | Link to this

^5 Sexione - Preeeach girl! Such a double standard.

By runninatl

November 27, 2006 11:25 AM | Link to this

Sexione I’m just clownin but on the real, we think we can get back in based on past experiences. We have gotten back in before. No matter what the reasoning, we know we can get back in based on the women we are dealing with because we know she will let us back in. And let’s not pretend that there aren’t any women out here picking and choosing based on the gifts men are offering up to them.

Are there double standards? Sure, but I didn’t create them, I just operate within the guidelines that have been set before me…LOL.

Sup Demi, life is good, I’m blessed, can’t complain. Hope you are doing even better.

By Candidly Speaking

November 27, 2006 11:26 AM | Link to this

Musing

Mayne, I was just kickin’ it wit this chick a few years ago…I brought her a full set of Ralph Lauren towels, she got mad as H3LL!!! I thought it was a nice gift. A NO PRESSURE GIFT!!! Just a jesture. She looked disappointed as H3LL.

By MusingLee

November 27, 2006 11:27 AM | Link to this

kinderbabe You’ll get a gift as long as, you make that Man feel dayum special…If he is really digging you he’ll most likely get you something…Just make sure you do your thing for his birthday dinner, You’re sure to get a gift, even if he gets you something out of guilt….LOLOLOLOLOL

By JustMe

November 27, 2006 11:30 AM | Link to this

DuShawn sounds like no harm no foul to me - LOL, but it’s the coming back that I ??? If she was 3rd string to begin with then why even entertain such thoughts? You could end up with a situation like Bledsoe and Romo. The team that let Romo go previously has got to be kicking their own azz

Kym LOL I still love my Falcons, but I am very disappointed in their performance overall!

By MusingLee

November 27, 2006 11:32 AM | Link to this

MsE & Sexie Y’all stop slapping hands over there…hahahahaha

Both of you know that y’all are standing at the fence holding your game gear trying to get a tryout…LOLOLOL…Talking about “I can play that corner spot coach.”

By MusingLee

November 27, 2006 11:40 AM | Link to this

Candid But what did she get you?!?!? LMAOoooo….She bet not had gotten you a dayum Plasma or something….hahahahahaha

Plasma or Dry Off Towels?

Dry Off Towels or Plasma?

Hmmmmmmm.LOLOLOLOLOL

By Ms. Elusive

November 27, 2006 11:45 AM | Link to this

Musing Couldn’t help but let a giggle escape on that one. You clown!

By Sexione

November 27, 2006 11:49 AM | Link to this

Hey Kym….sounds like your vacation was on point!!

runnin & Musing……you two are such a mess!!!! lol

And for the record, Musing, if I’m not the only team member, you (not you directly) can go pick your team somewhere else. I don’t play well with others in that regard. No #1 for me, I must be The Only One. And if some random dude doesn’t think so, his loss!! smooches

AND, at what age do guys think that mess is no longer cute, or makes you “the man”? It seems that this type of thinking shows a serious level of immaturity. A truly ripe (mature) man knows that he can get quantity, but will not settle for that because he wants quality, and you can’t truly GET and KEEP quality unless you are giving quality. And let’s be honest fellas…..y’all can barely keep a good woman satisfied (in bed & out), ain’t no way in h3ll you can be satisfying more than one with true quality. Let’s just be honest for a moment….I know, yea right!!! LMAO

By abc

November 27, 2006 11:49 AM | Link to this

I think a lot of people expect WAY too much in the way of gifts. I can’t think of a single memorable holiday gift that I ever received from a woman! Perhaps that says more about me than the people who gave them, maybe not.

Laney, how could one “screw up big” in the way of giving a Christmas gift? I’m not talking about jokes like giving your wife a cookbook or a gym membership or something, I mean really, what would be a gift that would be a screw up?

By DuShawn

November 27, 2006 11:51 AM | Link to this

Just Me I’m just trippin with all the football analogies as it relates to holiday gift giving. All the women in my life will receive nice gifts because they deserve it for putting up with me for another year and I love them. People shouldn’t allow the holidays to add undue pressure to a relationship. to the ladies, an easy way to relieve that self-imposed pressure on the brothas is this … Tell the dude you’re dating that you want lingerie for Christmas. Let him know you got him a few pair of silk boxers. Then tell him to bring a log for your fire place. I guarantee he will be at your door step with a Victoria’s Secret box.

By Stinky Sullivan

November 27, 2006 11:51 AM | Link to this

Yo, i still ain’t movin’ from all that Turkey i threw down. Following a little “T-day” love this man was through!

winks at the ladies, sS

By Sexione

November 27, 2006 11:55 AM | Link to this

I forgot to add, that a “ripe” man is the most sexy of all. You can get a pass for quite a few missing/workable attributes for being “ripe”. Am I right ladies?

By runninatl

November 27, 2006 11:55 AM | Link to this

“Both of you know that y’all are standing at the fence holding your game gear trying to get a tryout…LOLOLOL…Talking about “I can play that corner spot coach.”

LOL @ Musing. Then they go home and sit by the phone, staring at the caller ID, hoping ol boy doesn’t call to try and get back in there because they know they are weak. Got him on the DNA (do not answer) phone list but they have his number memorized anyway so they can answer his call…lol.

Don’t make me have to go back and copy and paste that get back in there skit Musing did before….LMAO.

By NCgirlfromATL

November 27, 2006 11:57 AM | Link to this

Heeeeeeeeeey demi!!

Musings Thanks, baby! Just trying to stay up on the game! lolol!

DuShawn* You’se stooopid! lololol!! What about your other special teams players? Like, the one who holds the ball? hmmm??

ok, back to PG-13

I have never purchased a necktie, but I did by a sweater…for the DL guy, so I guess it didn’t matter if it was gay or not. lolol!

Sort of off topic My dad, like myself, is an electronics junkie. He has an Ipod (my gift last year), the big azz tv, a dvr, a cd burner and cd jukebox, XM (Father’s Day 2 yrs ago), a Treo, and a flat screen tv. Fellaz, help me out! I’m at a loss for Christmas! He’s not the PS3 type. But, I would like to get him something good. thanks in advance!

By Candidly Speaking

November 27, 2006 11:58 AM | Link to this

Musing

Mayne, she get me a $50 Men’s Warehouse gift card. A nice jesture. I couldn’t complain.

By Kym aka Rested and Relax

November 27, 2006 11:59 AM | Link to this

JustMe/Runnin…that Romo messed me up on the Fantasy Front I am in 6th place in one league..looking for a playoff spot. But I am in 1st on the other side. We had to stay overnight Monday in Jacksonville, I was in the same hotel with the Giants. **Wanted to track down the Giants defensive line down and cuss them out for cost me a game the week before.

By Sexione

November 27, 2006 11:59 AM | Link to this

DuShawn….good save!!! lol I have to ^5 your 11:51 post, I also like the gift idea.

By Ms. Elusive

November 27, 2006 12:04 PM | Link to this

Sexione - now you know

for the majority of men. lol

By JustMe

November 27, 2006 12:04 PM | Link to this

Sexione Let’em have it Girl!!! ^5 If I can’t be #1, it ain’t gonna happen!

DuShawn Exactly how many women are there, and how do you rank/tier their gifts?

By Julian

November 27, 2006 12:06 PM | Link to this

Speaking of dating. Laney, I saw a new dating website called urbanprestige.com. It looks promising. Just needs some more people on the site. It should grow in time.

J

By Jake

November 27, 2006 12:07 PM | Link to this

What up Blog:

LMAO…at Dushawns Salary Cap Restrictions…and chicks on the Waiver wires…

I really hate this time of year because of the expectations…Gift givin is cool, but I never go all out…I get hyper-religious around this time and talk about the true meaning of Christ-mas..usally gets rid of a couple of bugaboos. I’m with the get yourself want you want for X-mas and i’ll get me me…that way evrybody is satisfied…I like to keep it real simple with the holiday stuff so that neither me or SO is rackin the brain trying to get the right gift…”unnecessary headache”

By MusingLee

November 27, 2006 12:10 PM | Link to this

Sexi A Man will disband his team once he finds that “Mike Jordon” Chick…A Woman he can depend on to hit the J in the clutch and to always worry about the team and not her personal records, although she still gets that done too…When I met my SO I started handing out pick slips to my team…Some players thought that they should have been the Allstar…And they may very well could have been, just not for my squad.

By JustMe

November 27, 2006 12:13 PM | Link to this

Sexione being ripe will get you a pass or two, but if you require a 3rd pass, it most like comes with a boot attached.

Kym aka Tuffie Gone whip the Giants players cuz her fantasy team got jacked - LOL

By Ghost

November 27, 2006 12:13 PM | Link to this

I’m not into surprises. My best experience with gifts is when we’re both upfront about what we want. I hate it when women play games, and say “I want to be surprised”. Trust me, you WILL be surprised if you get something you totally don’t like. Don’t blame me, b/c I did ask. As always they’re upset, but try to hang in there until Valentines Day. Ladies, just tell the man what you dang want.

By DuShawn

November 27, 2006 12:15 PM | Link to this

Just Me* I have five women and they all rank equally. (Mother, Wifey, Sister, Daughters)

By Sexione

November 27, 2006 12:15 PM | Link to this

MsE…yeah, I know. I typed a whole sermon about quantity vs. quality and the blog ate it. Must be a man proofing the posts…..just kidding.

runnin….what you smoking? Puff, puff, pass…..hahahaha!!!! You needs to put that stuff out, got you talking crazy!!!! LMAO

By Demigod...

November 27, 2006 12:24 PM | Link to this

Ladies, just tell the man what you dang want.

Well said Ghost…while throwing “Black Power Fist” in air

By Sexione

November 27, 2006 12:27 PM | Link to this

Musing…..I hear ya! Do yo thang man!!!

JustMe….true, true….not too many passes can be handed out. lol

By Kym aka Rested and Relax

November 27, 2006 12:31 PM | Link to this

@Sexi yep trip was wonderful!! Still swaying from the rocking waves..but I am ready to go again.

By JustMe

November 27, 2006 12:35 PM | Link to this

DuShawn Unhuh Yeah, and that what we were talking about - LOL

By Bre'

November 27, 2006 12:36 PM | Link to this

Good Afternoon….sleep is kicking in I left the great city of ATL at 4am…its good to back in NYC just not glad to be at work.

On Topic…I’m too tired to make this deep so I will keep it simple. Time is not a factor in my gift giving, I’ve always been a giver. I do pretty good in the gift giving dept. If he is worthy then he gets something I listen closely and take notes. If the season comes around and I’m running a rotation at the time everyone gets a card nothing more nothing less. When I give I don’t look for something in return. Because whatever I do I do from the heart. If I get something then that’s fine, if not ohhh well I toss it up as a blessing that will come down one day.

By Demigod...

November 27, 2006 12:39 PM | Link to this

JustMe a brother only gets 3 passes…Dayum

By MusingLee

November 27, 2006 12:49 PM | Link to this

LMAO @ runnin…It’s like they waiting to be drafted….Sitting by the phone holding that Grizzlies Cap.

LOLOLOL

By kinderbabe

November 27, 2006 12:57 PM | Link to this

musing that’s my plan…to make his birthday special. i think i’ll take demi’s advice and take him to his favorite restaurant. i think he’ll like that. i’ll let his reaction to that gauge what i’ll do for christmas.:) my birthday is new year’s eve so i hope he doesn’t try to do a christmas/birthday special, all in one…lol. i’m not looking for anything big. at the very least i’ll earn a reciprocation gift like yous said, lol!! we’ll see how it goes!

By Hazel

November 27, 2006 01:22 PM | Link to this

hai Ya’ll!! It will be three months for me and my man, so i am expecting something nice, nothing extragavent though!! I am gettin him cloths, cause he can use a personal stylist/shopper aka ME!! He doesn’t dress all that. Anywho, Its more of the thoughts that go into the gifts then material things. I won’t mind a shopping spree though.. j/k..

By Mr. Fockyerdoder

November 27, 2006 01:32 PM | Link to this

Musin/runnin you would THINK, most women would tired from being bench warmers by now…Now calling bench warming Pam…Her bunns have got to be cold…

By runninatl

November 27, 2006 01:37 PM | Link to this

Kym I’m still in first place in one of my leagues, but by pure luck. I played the 2nd place kat this weekend and Marvin Harrison did absolutely nothing for him, neither did A. Crumpler, and he left Kevin Jones in the line-up on Thursday but he didn’t play. What about J. Addai who had 62 fantasy points by his dayumn self last night!

Sexione No smoking here, just calling it like I see it. So now all of a sudden…..”And let’s be honest fellas…..y’all can barely keep a good woman satisfied (in bed & out), ain’t no way in h3ll you can be satisfying more than one with true quality“….where did that come from? Aren’t some of ya’ll getting a little full of yourselves…LOL.

“If the season comes around and I’m running a rotation at the time everyone gets a card nothing more nothing less.”

Okay, so how come no women are crying wolf about this statement? Could it be because it’s coming from a female? So you can kill all that double standards noise now…lol.

Sup Bre, had to use some of your comments, no offense…lol.

By Bre'

November 27, 2006 01:48 PM | Link to this

Runnin No problem at all. I said it and that’s how I feel. It will always be some type of double standard out there.

By MusingLee

November 27, 2006 01:52 PM | Link to this

Runnin What about the Women that act like they want to be on the squad but only using the facilities for the sign on bonus then go on IR for the season…LOLOLOLOLOL

I had this one chick making waves in the gym…She was ducking on chicks, shooting the three, er’thang….So for Christmas I get her this nice necklace for about $250 that she’d been talking about for the whole month of December…LOLOLOL…Ol’Girl gets the necklace and all of a sudden she can’t make a dayum free-throw, she’s falling asleep in meetings, missing the plane to the game….She then puts herself on IR in mid January that year talking about she going back to her old team cause they short one starter…Man, I was ready to give that chick a key to the gym…Glad I found out early, but not before she got that dayum necklace….LOLOLOLOL

And Women wonder how Men become so heartless.

By kinderbabe

November 27, 2006 02:01 PM | Link to this

i am so over all these gym analogies…lol. guess you have to be a sports fan to appreciate it.:) it’s cute though…it’s cute.

and women wonder how men become so heartless poor musing…trust me, women have gone through about the same or worse and we seem to maintain just fine or at least appear to…lol

By DuShawn

November 27, 2006 02:02 PM | Link to this

Musing There is no loyalty to the organization any more. Free agency got the game messed up. That’s why, as an owner, you need to stay way from long term contracts for rookies and when productivity declines cut them immediately.

By Demigod's passing?

November 27, 2006 02:07 PM | Link to this

And Women wonder how Men become so heartless

or

And Men wonder how women become so heartless

It’s all the same, we as people love hurting one another and that all to it.

By NCgirlfromATL

November 27, 2006 02:09 PM | Link to this

Runnin What about the Women that act like they want to be on the squad but only using the facilities for the sign on bonus then go on IR for the season…LOLOLOLOLOL

Musings, et al Maybe if you guys could get the ball properly placed in our hands on a more regular basis, then we wouldn’t have to fake an injury to get off the field. LOLOLOL!! It’s not always about getting on the highlight reel once a season.

I’m loving the football analogy!! Good looking out, DuShawn!

looking for my Stickum…

By Sexione

November 27, 2006 02:11 PM | Link to this

zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

By MusingLee

November 27, 2006 02:13 PM | Link to this

Dushawn Man, you ain’t neva lied…LOL

Rookies, don’t get sign on bonuses for my team anymore…You have to be a proven veteran…Preferably without any rings under your belt. My limit is one ring and no previous team’s guarantee added on my contract (kids)….LMAO

By Demigod's passing?

November 27, 2006 02:13 PM | Link to this

DuShawn try telling that to the Falcon’s owner…good point

kinderbabe, being a non-sports fan. I wander how the good blog folks can remember all these players name…Hell I thought ricky williams was still playing for the Dolphin

By Jake

November 27, 2006 02:17 PM | Link to this

DayumnMusing, you got pimped on that one bruh.

Sorry bruh, that iz why I starve’em at Christmas, and V-day and see if they aight wit it for two reasons. One, are you really going to be beeyotch if you did not get something that day (nevermind the fact that I been treating that azz good all year) and Two, see #one…LOL…When I give gifts, its on a regular day when nothin was supposed to happen…the holiday deal feels forced and supeficial…If I do, its usaully something small and practical for holidays.

Yea LADIES, I’m a shtty guy to be with during the holidays, but dayum I make the other 364 good.

By kinderbabe

November 27, 2006 02:22 PM | Link to this

demi i’m glad someone else can relate…lol. i’ll check back in later when i don’t have to use sports terminology dictionary…lol

By DuShawn

November 27, 2006 02:24 PM | Link to this

Off Topic Isn’t that sad about the boy in New York that the police shot up the night before his wedding. One officer fired 31 shots (two clips) and these brothas were unarmed. What struck me about the article was that the groom-to-be and his potnahs were leaving the strip club where his bachelor party took place @ 4:30 am with a dancer. She was putting her bag in their trunk when the altercation started. She told reporters they were about to take her to dinner………yeah right. I’ve taken a few dancers to that same restaurant. They only serve two things……… tube steaks and milkshakes.

By Roseanne Rosanna Danna

November 27, 2006 02:26 PM | Link to this

What’s all this flap over Christmas?! Once again it just goes ta show ya, being Jewish has it’s good points. Those schnooks have several chances to get it right ofr us princesses! Santa’s got nuttin on Hanukkah Harry! Oy Oy Oy! On Abe, on Sol…

By NCgirlfromATL

November 27, 2006 02:26 PM | Link to this

Yea LADIES, I’m a shtty guy to be with during the holidays, but dayum I make the other 364 good.

LOLOL! Thanks for keeping it real Jake, cuz I was about to ask you how that was working out for you! lol!!

By runninatl

November 27, 2006 02:26 PM | Link to this

“There is no loyalty to the organization any more. Free agency got the game messed up. That’s why, as an owner, you need to stay way from long term contracts for rookies and when productivity declines cut them immediately.”

LMAO @ Musing & DuShawn….hahahahaha. The game has definitely changed, it’s survival of the fittest out there people!…LOL.

Sexione Are you bored? No woman laws to share or further man bashing?…lol. (just kidding)

See Bre, you are cool people.

By Demigod's passing?

November 27, 2006 02:37 PM | Link to this

The holiday deal feels forced and superficial…If I do; it’s usually something small and practical for holidays.

Real talk

AND

Yea LADIES, I’m a shtty guy to be with during the holidays, but dayum I make the other 364 good.

Who are you kidding…miss a holiday or birthday, all of your efforts were in vain!

By MusingLee

November 27, 2006 02:39 PM | Link to this

Dushawn Yeah, that’s pretty messed up…Ol’girl was about to make a few extra dollars…Man those NY cops don’t leave witnesses, they blast er’body…I bet ol’chick was dating that initail cop, and he caught her going to the spot with those dudes…Hellz, I don’t know.

By Sexione

November 27, 2006 02:50 PM | Link to this

yes Runnin, I’m bored because the topic has gone stale. We’ve been over most of this before. We get it, the men are superior and can have all the women they want. And the women are weak and will allow you all to do anything you want…..blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah,, blah, blah…….LMAO

Change of topic anyone?

By MusingLee

November 27, 2006 03:07 PM | Link to this

LOL @ Sexione pouting…Sexione I’ve always wanted to know why Women say “Ohh, it doesn’t matter where we go, you pick”…Then when I get to where I’m going they say “Ohh, you wanna eat here?!?! Didn’t you hear me when I said I had a taste for pizza?!?!”…WTF…LOLOLOLOL…My SO pulled that ishh on me this weekend…hahahahahaha…I said “Didn’t you see those 5 pizza joints I drove past to get here?”

By mista left his gate key

November 27, 2006 03:11 PM | Link to this

Looka here! I take a peek in after months on the sideline and guess what!?! SPORTS ANALOGIES!! My absolute favorite. Where do we being?

By mista grew a beard

November 27, 2006 03:14 PM | Link to this

Well look a’here I peek in after months away and guess what I find — sports analogies!! My absolute favorite! How ya’ll been?

By Demigod's passing?

November 27, 2006 03:15 PM | Link to this

Sexione that’s about sums it up…not all men feel that way…most women will not pay you any mind, if you DO NOT have a dozen women chasing you down. A man who’s not viewed has the prize, is a worthless man

Quality over quantity all day everyday here!

After sky diving, ole girl took me to a nice restaurant in Ky. You best to believe I rub her down reeeeaaal good with (warm) warm vailla suger body lotion, followed by…

By Demigod's passing?

November 27, 2006 03:17 PM | Link to this

mista done lost his mind sup bruh!!

By mista grew a beard

November 27, 2006 03:23 PM | Link to this

What the frick?! Talk about tripped up walking through the door! I guess when WebGeek 1.1 or Tom or whoever runs this blog says go back, it really means keep it moving. Anyway, hello folk. Hope you all had a happy holiday.

Looks like we’re off topic as usual, so how ‘bout dem falcons!?! I’m kidding…gifts. Here’s a change of topic Sexi: What do you the playas among us do at holiday time? I know some of ya’ll have anywhere between 3-5 maybes to buy for. Who gets the big gift? Who gets the hand-me-down? Who gets the shaft (pun intended)? Holla at ya folk.

By Laney

November 27, 2006 03:29 PM | Link to this

Yea LADIES, I’m a shtty guy to be with during the holidays, but dayum I make the other 364 good.

hmm, so why this attitude? why not make it a 365-day-a-year commitment? it seems like a lot of guys on here are trying to show how macho they are by avoiding any pretense of caring about the holidays. why the bluster? guys, wouldn’t you like to have a nice holiday and exchange special gifts with a woman you care about???

By Kym aka Rested and Relax

November 27, 2006 03:34 PM | Link to this

Has anyone noticed this topic has been posted twice on the blogs once hear and once under shop talk Just with a different headline..Wonder what is up with that?

By MusingLee

November 27, 2006 03:42 PM | Link to this

Leave it to Kym to blogvestigate, and find any previously used topics and throw them out for er’body to see…LOLOLOLOL…If one dude pooted at the million man march you could sniff him out and put him on blast…hahahahahaha

By Jake

November 27, 2006 03:43 PM | Link to this

@NC You might be suprised how effective it is when somebody just loves you for you…You can get away wit murder..LOL Demi I didn’t say miss them alltogether, that could be trouble, I just try to keep the holidays in perspective…I do it..I just don’t overdue it…Til I wife one…I’m going to keep downplaying the whole deal.

Yea, I’ve pyssed a few off over the years, but its all worked out so I’ll keep it going.

On the NY Incident

Every two years or so, they just fugg a nicka up don’t they…Now get ready to hear from Al “the perm” Sharpton.

By Demigod's passing?

November 27, 2006 03:54 PM | Link to this

Jake his old behind needs to stop with dem perms…are you certain Al isn’t wearing a wig?

guys, wouldn’t you like to have a nice holiday and exchange special gifts with a woman you care about???

Laney that’s the problem, not many guys on here have steady partners…I am not this way any more Its not that big of a deal with most men…Hell, we’re the ones with the most to loose.

$$$$$$$$$$$$

By Kym aka Rested and Relax

November 27, 2006 03:57 PM | Link to this

Musing shut up…it is on the front page right now.. same topic.. same author.. same post everything just with a different headline.

By Jake

November 27, 2006 03:58 PM | Link to this

My Dear Laney hmm, so why this attitude? why not make it a 365-day-a-year commitment?

Thanks for answering your own question…Because it does not matter how good you are to some ladies,they will still ask why you did not do it another way,like you just did….So I decided years ago to forgoe all the extravagant holiday ish and treat mine well always, that way when I say to her that holidays are not that big to me she says, “baby thats o.k., you do things for me all the time, we don’t have to exchange gifts, you are a gift”…LOL Okay that don’t sound real to me either, but it sounded real good didn’t it…HAHAHAHAHAHA

Now playing Christopher Williams “Never Satisfied” for all the Blog Ladies.

By DuShawn

November 27, 2006 03:59 PM | Link to this

If a guy is in an exclusive relationship or at least serious about the female he’s dating, the holiday gift giving is a no brainer. It gets tricky when you’re knockin off a few random females that you care very little about. On one hand, you don’t want to spend bread, buy them a gift and mislead them any further about your intentions or the inevitable outcome of the friendship. On the other hand, if they got you something, you know they will be expecting something in return and you don’t want to hurt their feelings before it’s time to dismiss them. That’s the dilemma countless playas are having as we speak.

By Bre'

November 27, 2006 03:59 PM | Link to this

@Jake He is already in town. There will be more to this NYPD story before its all over.

By abc

November 27, 2006 04:01 PM | Link to this

I’ll send some jewelry and a couple books of poetry to the girl, she’s out of state. Bet she sends me a new electric shaver, she’s anti-blade for some reason. I don’t see the gifts themselves as being such a big deal, it’s just a token exchange.

I’m looking forward to a quiet Christmas this year, kids will be with their mom, just me and the dog at my house. Shoot, I’m not even going to put up a tree! Anti-marketing, hype and jiveness; yall certainly know what Christmas is really all about, or do you need Linus to recite it for you again?

By mista grew a beard

November 27, 2006 04:01 PM | Link to this

Damn, I guess everybody went home early. See ya in 2007!

By NCgirlfromATL

November 27, 2006 04:06 PM | Link to this

Laney hmm, so why this attitude? why not make it a 365-day-a-year commitment?

It’s just setting women up for failure. Who doesn’t like to get gifts? I mean, really? How is anyone realistically supposed to pass that test without compromising their own feelings to feed the man’s ego or to prove he’s wrong about you? Come on! You guys act like we’re wrong for expecting a gift at Christmas, when we’ve been by your side, holding it down all year long. Only the most anti-social can say that they honestly don’t want gifts. A gift doesn’t have to be wrapped in a bow, either. It truly is the thought that counts, and if the thought is “I’m not going to get you anything at a traditional gift-giving time, just to see if you trip,” then the thought (to me) is that I wasn’t worth your effort in the first place. Let’s just call it a day and move on! I hear what you’re saying Jake, but really, it’s just insulting to test someone you supposedly care about like that, and then expect them to be cool with it. If they were worth it 363 days a year, then why do you have to test them on 2 other days when giving gifts is expected? That’s just cold, mayne! If somebody really loves you for you, then there is no need to test their love for you in that way.

waiting for Blue & Sean to pop out of the woodwork to cosign on Jake’s post

By MusingLee

November 27, 2006 04:08 PM | Link to this

LOL @ Kym…hehehehe

Now handing over some chilled blog green tea and vanilla ice cream

By MusingLee

November 27, 2006 04:11 PM | Link to this

Dang, Kym you were right…I guess we should demand “exclusivity” during blog negotiations at the beginning of the year…hahahahaha

By DuShawn

November 27, 2006 04:11 PM | Link to this

The scenario I outlined in my last post is the impetus of many pre holiday break ups and post Valentines Day make ups. It’s an immature and cowardly way to avoid the whole situation. Unfortunately, I must admit, when I was a jitterbug, I did that a few times….

By JustMe

November 27, 2006 04:13 PM | Link to this

Demi 3 if he’s lucky and supplementing his shortcomings in other areas.

About the recent police shootings….

Sorry if my views are directed at anyones friends, family or cousins cousins. That’s *JustMe **

By MusingLee

November 27, 2006 04:20 PM | Link to this

Now signing JustMe’s 4:13 post in chocolate…

If you buck at the cops, they gonna buck back regardless of age, sex, creed, or color….Hellz, they trying to make it home to their kids too.

By Demigod's passing?

November 27, 2006 04:21 PM | Link to this

waiting for Blue & Sean to pop out of the woodwork to cosign on Jake’s post

Oh yeah, now co-signing Jake’n’Dushawn post with my Platinum pen

By Demigod's passing?

November 27, 2006 04:25 PM | Link to this

Demi 3 if he’s lucky and supplementing his shortcomings in other areas.

LOL Funny-funnie JustMe

but who were the cops looking for again?

By B. Sandwich

November 27, 2006 04:30 PM | Link to this

Hey all! A little late on this one as I have been working my ace off since I got back from Florida for the holiday.

I love the idea of giving gifts, and not just on certain holidays or occasions. It doesn’t really matter to me if the gift I receive isn’t up to par on the gift I’m giving either. I agree with a bunch of you all out there. Give with your heart. I’ve been thinking long and hard about what I’m going to get the woman in my life…something nice, but not over the top. Hopefully she will love it.

By Demigod's passing?

November 27, 2006 04:31 PM | Link to this

And NCgirlfromATL if were just cut friends and you have other dudes in your life and me women, what is the point of you buying me a gift?

If a guy/girl is in an exclusive relationship or at least serious about the female/male she’s/he’s dating, the holiday gift giving is a no brainer.

If not, no gift exchange is needed. Plus no hurt feelings.

By JustMe

November 27, 2006 04:34 PM | Link to this

Yummmm Chocolate Thanks Musing!

NCATL <<<< On point as usual!

Why dudes gotta be playing games and testing women.

You only get 1 chance to make a first impression. If he dosen’t get it right the first time for whatever reason, don’t count on receiving the same fidelity the next time if ever. I

By Jake

November 27, 2006 04:40 PM | Link to this

NC

Now that you have put on your X-ray read too far into it shades on, we may need to move on. Its not a test per se, its just an opportunity to reveal characteristics that I don’t like. I like someone who has ability to be appreciative ME and US even if the material gesture is small. If framed properly by your SO, you wouldn’t say diddly poo…it depends on the folks involved. I never said that I expect anything, I think that aspect of Christmas can be very superficial Bah Humbug…LOL

Justme

I got my pen right here for your 4:13. I had this debate over the holidays, this new NY ish is some bull. The othr may be unforntunate, but totally justified.

By NCgirlfromATL

November 27, 2006 04:40 PM | Link to this

Oh yeah, now co-signing Jake’n’Dushawn post with my Platinum pen

Noooooooooo!!! Not you too, demi!! lololol!!

boogeying down the hall to “another one bites the dust…another one bites the dust…hey hey!

By Demigod's passing?

November 27, 2006 04:49 PM | Link to this

JustMe it’s just a holiday, nothing serious…There is always next year.

By Kym aka Rested and Relax

November 27, 2006 04:50 PM | Link to this

By the way Musing I thought it was interesting about them doubling the topic because ShopTalk is one of those blogs that doesnt close down at 5. People can post randomly all evening.

By NCgirlfromATL

November 27, 2006 04:52 PM | Link to this

And NCgirlfromATL if were just cut friends and you have other dudes in your life and me women, what is the point of you buying me a gift?

In that scenario, I agree. But, that distinction wasn’t made. If we’re dating exclusively, or you have given gifts on other occasions (which seemed to be the jist of Jake’s post), why shouldn’t I expect one at Christmas? If you’ve “been good” to me all year long (as Jake put it), why is it that on Christmas and Valentine’s Day (or my birthday) you have to trip?

Dat’s all I’m ak-sin!

By Demigod's passing?

November 27, 2006 04:54 PM | Link to this

NCgirlfromATL/JustMe LOL

Y’all ladies have a bless night!!

200 blog roses to the ladies lurkers

By B.Sandwich

November 27, 2006 04:58 PM | Link to this

DuShawn’s and Demigod’s earlier posts have been splitting my sides. LOL!!

By winegirl

November 29, 2006 02:35 PM | Link to this

Hi everyone! As a dating girl I completely understand how difficult it is to find a great gift for a guy so I thought I would share a good idea: as you can tell, I am a wine lover and an easy (and wallet friendly) gift to give is a wine accessory or a great bottle of wine. I like to give unique items so my favorite new site that I have found is www.thomasarvid.com. He is a wine artist and there are a few gift items that are cool but not too pricy. Wine gifts are easy for me since you can spend a lot of money/time coming up with something special or not so much if you aren’t sure of his interest. Best of luck!