Misadventures in Atlanta

By JustMe

October 18, 2006 09:00 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Laney and All

How about y’all? Do you keep an active roster of currents and potentials? Or, like me, do you just always sort of keep some people in the back of your mind? I used to be a one man woman. If things were headed in the right direction with Mr. Here-and-now, I let any other guy who I was in the FZ but wanted more fall to the way side. That was the old JustMe I made myself a promise after Ex-SO that I would not do that again because when the “ship” we were on headed south, there was no one there after the fallout, and my social life was a bore; Thank God that only lasted a week :-)

Do you feel restless or uncomfortable if there’s absolutely no one on the horizon? I feel more bored than restless or uncomfortable.

Has it ever backfired to have backups? Or saved you from a bad situation? I am learning that men need to know that someone else desires the object of their affections. It seems to keep them on their toes (no pun intended) when they know their replacment is only a phone call or email away.

I have started to refill my roster, I used to start with a “New 3” to sift through, I think I’ll step it up to the new and improved “FZ5” and sift through them to see if any potential SO are present.

By Foots (aka SugarFoots)

October 18, 2006 09:08 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone

Do you keep an active roster of currents and potentials?

This is the basic, underlying principle of my master’s level course Rotational Studies 8000. Just like in Spades, a pretty good hand for me was 5 and a possible. LOL! It works well when you don’t want to focus on one person, kinda spreads the feelings out. But sometimes it’s good to clear the decks, so to speak, when you realize that everyone you are seeing don’t add up to the one you’d REALLY like to be seeing. That way you can make room for that one when they come into your life.

I try not to fall back on ex-loves. I’ve learned from experience that sometimes it’s best to keep it moving forward.

By JustMe

October 18, 2006 09:20 AM | Link to this

Foots I like that! 5 and a possible ^5 2U

By Sexione

October 18, 2006 09:21 AM | Link to this

‘Morning All!!

I used to always have a backup (or two), back in the good ole days!! :-) Then that got old and eventually I thought I had THE ONE, so I dropped the “net”. When that went so far south I swore I was seeing the little red man with the pitch fork, I kinda wished I’d kept ole faithful around.

Now, there are no prospects on the horizon, and most times I’m too busy to notice. I guess I’m truly in that “all about me” mode. But one things for sure, I’m keeping my eyes WIDE open, and given the RIGHT goods and opportunity, it won’t be this way for long. But I refuse to settle, so if the goods aren’t good enough, oh well…..I’m marinating. LOL

By Sexione

October 18, 2006 09:28 AM | Link to this

^Foots, I think it best to keep it moving “forward” too. If I stopped seeing him, then 99.9% of the time it was for a good reason….no need to revisit that mess!!!

By QC

October 18, 2006 09:28 AM | Link to this

Morning……..

By LaniT

October 18, 2006 09:30 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

I used to always keep a few back ups on hand until I met “The One”. Well, “The One” turned out to be one of the worst break ups I ever dealt with and dealing with the new little Thundercats that thought that this was the perfect situation to get some rebound action from got on my nerves so I ended up getting back in touch with some of my old back ups and I will never let them fall off again.

By JustMe

October 18, 2006 09:38 AM | Link to this

Foots, Sexione Maybe a blog dude can answer the age old question……. Why do Ex-SO’s mess up and then want to come back?

By Foots (aka SugarFoots)

October 18, 2006 09:43 AM | Link to this

JustMe LOL!! I managed to clear the last of the “Clubs” out of the way the very weekend I met the New Guy. We were in the car riding and my phone rang. I picked it up, looked at it, put it down, and I told him “Oh, that’s just residual”. I never returned that call. So I’m down to just one. But he’s the “Big Joker”, so I’ll still be winning if I play it right.

I do think it’s important to be alone for a while from time to time, to learn how to be alone without being lonely. I’m never truly bored in my “single time”. It is during these times that I always find a new hobby, activity, or place to travel, as well as have time to meditate on what I really want. I have learned so much about myself in the times when I could define myself, rather than be defined by who I am to someone else. And by the time I get myself off the bench, I come back to the game refreshed and energized with more skills than I left with.

By abc

October 18, 2006 09:44 AM | Link to this

I consider this to be shallow and vapid behavior. Keeping backup people when you say you have a significant other is sabotage to any potential relationship you may have with them, whether they’re the SO or the backup. If I thought a female friend considered me as a backup, I’d certainly temper the friendship. If I thought my SO kept backups in reserve, to avoid even a single week of loneliness should a rift form between us, I’d certainly consider that they would use that as a weapon to use against me should I not behave as they dictate. JustMe said exactly that. Craziness.

By Foots (aka SugarFoots)

October 18, 2006 09:53 AM | Link to this

JustMe

Why do Ex-SO’s mess up and then want to come back?

Girl, yeah! I’m still in one of those dude’s radar right now. I couldn’t have made him stay five months ago if I would have tied his feet together and had Ruben sit on him! But now, he emails all day, letting me know how much he thinks about me, asking to take me to lunch or meet for drinks and such. I know what that’s about, either the woman that he was in such a hurry to get to didn’t amount to much, or he senses this other dude around me. I’m so over that it’s a shame and I’ve told him that I would rather us just be friends. I think he expected me to be around when he decided he was ready or something. Oh well….

abc So the new woman friend that you were speaking of yesterday, although she was attractive enough to approach, you wouldn’t consider her as backup in case things with your fierce interest don’t work out?

By MusingLee

October 18, 2006 09:53 AM | Link to this

Morn’in All,

When I was dating, sure I had a crew of three that I dealt with…Women are a lot of work and three was my limit…2 I really talked with and 1 that I didn’t have to keep tabs on, but I could call when I needed to talk or just grab some grub….When I met my SO, I eventually dropped them all.

By Sexione

October 18, 2006 09:54 AM | Link to this

JustMe….Guuurrrll!!! Don’t get me started on that one. I’m living it right now. I’ve told bits and pieces of that story before…..ole boy had it good (read here: I was down for him, RIDE OR DIE!!!)….and he BLEW it, big time!! Now, it looks like I’m gonna have to change my cell number because he won’t stop texting/calling, as well as my home number because his mama is blowing that one up. All I can say is daayyyuummmm, LEAVE ME ALONE!!!

By JustMe

October 18, 2006 09:55 AM | Link to this

Foots My social life was boring, but not my life overall - LOL

abcI have done the 1 guy at a time thing for more years than I care to divulge. It has not worked for me. Now granted when I first meet a guy and I tell him I have friends, he wants to know what can be done to eliminate the competition so to speak, but then when said dude finds out that he’s your one and only, said dude gets all swole and starts thinking that my self esteem had gone out the window or something - WTFE - LOL, so he starts slippin and actin a fool thinking that a nice girl like myself wouldn’t replace his azz. So I stick to my guns on this…….. when dudes know they can be ousted at any given moment, they act like they have some dayum sense! To further clarify your misunderstanding of my post; When I have a “Real SO i.e. exclusive relationship” then there are no other men that I am involved with emotionally or sexually. But until we have the talk and both agree to walk the walk together, we are still dating in the FZ no matter the emotional bond (I had to learn this the hard way too). I do not try to dictate how a guy should act, he should always be himself and NEVER send his Representative to meet JustMe

By ImAPeach404

October 18, 2006 09:57 AM | Link to this

Aaaah Foots I like you more and more each day! Everything in life can be related to spades.

By Bre'

October 18, 2006 09:58 AM | Link to this

Greetings to all this morning, gosh its early… sexione I totally agree with what you said. After this summer Rotation I’m cool, pretty much just chilling I’m getting older and wiser. If one comes my way that is worthy of my focus then its all good if not I’m solo. Sometimes people come for a reason and a season. You have to accept that no matter even if you have backups whatever is to be in that relationship it will be.

By abc

October 18, 2006 09:59 AM | Link to this

Foots, absolutely not. I consider her a friendly acquaintance who has a boyfriend; I’d not want to intrude on her relationship, and I hope she doesn’t consider me any kind of ‘backup’ to her relationship. I would hope she’d have the same respect for me.

By Foots (aka SugarFoots)

October 18, 2006 10:00 AM | Link to this

Sexione This is kind of random, but did you know that some cell phone companies try to charge you $35 to change your number?? I’m still a little hot about that.

Okay…Back on topic….

By Hot Sauce

October 18, 2006 10:02 AM | Link to this

Hello everyone, no type of back up plans for me; of course i had several back in the day but not now. Hey Musing i hope you all have a great day!

By JustMe

October 18, 2006 10:04 AM | Link to this

Foots, Sexione

Me too - LOL I dated this guy from Augusta last year, errrthang was cool til I told him I wanted to spend a weekend in his town, and all of a sudden the molehill became an insurmountable mountain. TO this day he still calls, still want to come see me, still want to cut the grass, wash the car and do whatever else I will aloow him to do to be around……… NOT GONNA HAPPEN 4 DUDE!

My last SO (now Ex) has started calling again, (it’s all Demi’s fault) wants to know how I’ve been doing, how my son is doing in school yada, yada, yada……. Can you say Sorry Sucka!

The Ex I ran into in Detroit - Still thinks a reunion is in the works - It’s been 10+ years, I don’t see it happening with 800 miles between us.

Off to my 10 AM meeting!

By C tha 1

October 18, 2006 10:06 AM | Link to this

Keeping backups is a friendly way of saying you’re a playa. At least that’s what men are called when we have a rotation. A dude cannot have a legitimate rotation and completely ignore all of them for his SO. He has to have a plan. Each one plays specific role as he fulfills something in their lives. The only fault in this line of thinking is that it is not wise to make anyone feel secondary. Women just like to call them backups to save face from doing the same thing they resent most men for. But if any dude (or woman for that matter)is on his p’s and q’s he can read between the lines and know he is being played or just doesn’t agree to the FZ and bounce.

By Bre'

October 18, 2006 10:09 AM | Link to this

Foots If you tell them its due to wrong numbers and harrasement the will do it free of charge. Just don’t say you want to change it for no reason.

Many people must be thinking of the past. After talking to a few of my associates this week everyone is talking about how the ex’s are calling up. Is there something in bottled water going on?

By Foots (aka SugarFoots)

October 18, 2006 10:13 AM | Link to this

abc That’s cool. You guys are still in the beginning stages, so I guess it’s fine to keep meeting new people. I usually do that too, unless the guy I’m in the beginning stages with has real potential, a true first round pick. Then I sit it down somewhere to see what I could develop with said dude and start turning down requests for numbers from walk-ons.

By Sexione

October 18, 2006 10:16 AM | Link to this

Foots….that is ridiculous, I think VZ only charges $15. However, because I have also been getting quite a few wrong number calls, and I told them so, they offered to waive the fee. :-)

By Chink

October 18, 2006 10:20 AM | Link to this

Mornin

I agree with you ABC, having backups show insecurity and you aren’t able to put 100% into the relationship. Not to mention the threshold to handle issues is low since there are others who you can run to.

I have always been a one woman to one man, it just takes to much energy to make 2 many people happy - Guess what You won’t - and my life is not based on relationships/ ie men…I can find other things to do on my spare time.

Single but not looking

But if my dream guy comes around - I will definitely look …touch….etc

By Foots (aka SugarFoots)

October 18, 2006 10:21 AM | Link to this

Bre’ Oh, that’s good info! I didn’t even think of trying that. Thanks.

Peach I haven’t played in SO LONG!! Everytime somebody gets a game up, I’m too scared to get in cause those fools act like they playing to keep their own body parts or something. Way too much drama and emotion! LOL!!

C tha 1 A dude cannot have a legitimate rotation and completely ignore all of them for his SO Now, I don’t put “rotations” and “SO” in the same context. The SO to me is the one that is the last one standing in the rotation, the one that makes you get rid of the others in the rotation. Once you’ve established a relationship and have a SO, then all the other “friends” should fade away.

By ImAPeach404

October 18, 2006 10:23 AM | Link to this

I have to agree with everything abc said. In casual dating, a team is ok, but if you are in a relationship, even ONE ace in the hole is unacceptable. In between relationships… ITS OK TO BE ALONE! I promise it is.

By 4theLongHaul

October 18, 2006 10:26 AM | Link to this

Nahhhh. Always a one man woman! MORNING ERRRYBODY!

By Sexione

October 18, 2006 10:34 AM | Link to this

@Peach….yes, you are exactly right. IT IS MORE THAN OKAY, and quite peaceful!!!

@Bre and Foots….that’s exactly what you do, and it works every time.

By Thick

October 18, 2006 10:37 AM | Link to this

Good Morning I have a really bad headache this morning.

I don’t have the two and a possible, and lately there has been no one on the horizon. I’m just cool being single right now.

By Deep Dimples formerly aka Darkbuty

October 18, 2006 10:48 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone!!

I’ve never had a rotation of guys that I view as backup. I have several male friends that I know like me and I will hang out with, but whether I’m in a relationship or not I would not get with them. I’ve never been able to romantically entertain more than one guy at a time. My mind and heart doesn’t work like that….I just like to focus on one guy at a time and then move to the next. I don’t have caller id at home so anyone who calls me I have to want to talk to…

By NCgirlfromATL

October 18, 2006 10:49 AM | Link to this

Sadly, I rarely have a backup to keep. I tend to be more like a triage unit when it comes to relationships: treat ‘em and street ‘em. My mom says my love life is like an African desert: feast or famine. I was feasting for a while, but I’m pretty much in a holding pattern of not-quite-in-a-relationship but I see potentials everywhere…but no action. Which means I’m headed back into famine. lol! I don’t really want a back up. I’m a one man woman, and I don’t like to share or be shared. Like Peach said, it’s ok to be alone. I just don’t like being lonely. (Had a rough morning, ya’ll…sorry for the less than jovial post today!)

By Sexione

October 18, 2006 10:59 AM | Link to this

@NCgirl…..it’ll get better, keep your head up!!

Obviously, a reserve stash can mean different things to different people. For some, there is nothing sexual involved, just someone to hang out with/talk to. For others, this can be quite the opposite. And all views of this can (and should) evolve as you get older and wiser.

By G

October 18, 2006 11:01 AM | Link to this

A relationship isn’t different than any other investment. Why invest all of your money in one account? What’s wrong with a little nest egg? You don’t even have to touch it.

By Pharress_Beuller

October 18, 2006 11:06 AM | Link to this

Morning Peeps,

I think when you’re single without a serious SO it’s healthy to keep a so-called “roster” just for the social interaction standpoint. You get to recognize what you want and don’t want…weed out the slackers.

Now, keeping a rotation that becomes emotional attachments to multiple women is exhausting (physically & mentally) and usually there is one out of the bunch that has the potential that you’re looking for and the rotation can take away from the energy you could put into “Miss Brown Suga”.

I don’t knock the rotation theory and it can be VERY fun when it is what it is, but in my experience it gets old and you want that one that embodies the most compatibility. The others tend to either fall off or at least get put on the back-burner a.k.a. the E.G.C. (Emergency Chick in a Glass).

Break in EXTREME emergency.

By Deep Dimples formerly aka Darkbuty

October 18, 2006 11:08 AM | Link to this

@G: the problem with that little nest egg is that she won’t sit quietly for long without some more attention….your little nest egg is going to want a return on her investment as well!

By SeanJohnson

October 18, 2006 11:11 AM | Link to this

Morning Blog..

I think people either are back ups/options or they are a one person at a time type…those with back ups…doesnt mean u necessarily are sleeping with the back ups because they can serve different purposes..and those type of people are less likely to get hurt or disappointed. Now the one on one type at a time…are easily let down or dissapointed and tend stay in relationships that are meaningless or not going anywhere.

By Jake

October 18, 2006 11:11 AM | Link to this

Good morning Blog

Not to big on the back-up cuddy, if I’m in, I’m all the way in. If its going to be casual, then that should be clear. Otherwise, you have to sneak-n-skeet and juggle women who both have their I’m number one foam finger on, too much trouble!!

By QC

October 18, 2006 11:13 AM | Link to this

Hope you feel better Thick

I agree i’m cool being single right now, but when the Holidays come around that’s when i start feel blue :(

By ImAPeach404

October 18, 2006 11:22 AM | Link to this

I don’t have the two and a possible, and lately there has been no one on the horizon

This really makes me think…

Right about now im having a really cool experience. Because I haven’t been in a relationship for years, I have always had a team - different dudes for different puproses. Then, for a little while this year, there was NO ONE! I mean, I could leave my cell at home all day and when I finally get home, I would have no missed calls. It was like that for a little bit, but you know, oh well. Its like that sometimes

But now, when I look across the dinner table and I see my new guy, I’m just like “where in the world did you come from???” For a while there was absolutely no one and now, next thing I know, Im take my phone with me when I use the bathroom b/c I don’t want to miss his call. Whenever we’re sitting down watching tv, i’ll look over at him and think “When I met you at the grocery store a few months back, who would have thought it would be this?”

Having a team, backups, 3 and a possible is cool, but there is nothing like the big joker that kills’em all!

By Deep Dimples formerly aka Darkbuty

October 18, 2006 11:23 AM | Link to this

@Thick: Get a coke this morning…they work for me!

@NC: the afternoon will get better…the blog is bound to make you laugh at some point

Tell abc to come with his mama jokes..

By MusingLee

October 18, 2006 11:26 AM | Link to this

Hey QC

What’s Up to dem Sauces and Sweet-T!

By Foots (aka SugarFoots)

October 18, 2006 11:31 AM | Link to this

Peach Go Big Joker!! LOL!

By Thick

October 18, 2006 11:33 AM | Link to this

Thanks so much Deep Dimples & MissQC, this friend of mine (male of course) just gave me a message on the back of my head and neck, my headaches gone. At first I didn’t even want him to message, but he offered and insisted on trying out this technique. That man got skills! Make note to self never to be alone with him, might loose self control.

By ImAPeach404

October 18, 2006 11:35 AM | Link to this

Everytime somebody gets a game up, I’m too scared to get in cause those fools act like they playing to keep their own body parts or something. Way too much drama and emotion! LOL!!

Foots where are you from??? Everybody can’t play spades in tha Dec!

and quite peaceful!!! LOL @ Sexi

Sorry about your rough morning NC, it will get better - after all, its Hump Day

By MusingLee

October 18, 2006 11:37 AM | Link to this

Now handing NCgirl a Coke and strawberry bagel, followed up with a quick hip wiggle and pelvic thrust…just to get her thinking about this evening

By SeanJohnson

October 18, 2006 11:38 AM | Link to this

@ NCATLIEN…got one joke for u since u are kinda down today..

A black baby was given wings by God..the baby ask God..does this mean i am an angel now??..God laughed and said….nah n$gga you a bat…Happy Halloween.

By Deep Dimples formerly aka Darkbuty

October 18, 2006 11:39 AM | Link to this

@ Thick: He got skills??? What’s his name? LOL

just playin…

By 4theLongHaul

October 18, 2006 11:41 AM | Link to this

THICK I know that’s right girl!!!! Gotta know your limitations! Ha ha! Play with fiya and you shall get burned!!!! But if that’s ever your goal……..hmmmmm…..you know where to go……

By 4theLongHaul

October 18, 2006 11:42 AM | Link to this

SJ Haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!! That’s just WRONG!

By Foots (aka SugarFoots)

October 18, 2006 11:43 AM | Link to this

NCGirl Yeah, once abc brings the jokes you’ll be perked up in no time. Or Demi can bring the cape out.

For anybody else that’s feeling a little on the low side, here’s my ultimate pick-me-up: Every counselor and therapist should have “She’s a Bad Mama Jama” piped in their offices in surround sound and play it on repeat until the woman feels better. LOL! No matter what I’m feeling or why, if my head is low, that song puts it back in the air where it should be. You can’t help but love who you are and where you are when Carl Carlton is telling you “you’re poetry in motion, a beautiful sight to see”!! That’s my jam!!

By Deep Dimples formerly aka Darkbuty

October 18, 2006 11:44 AM | Link to this

@SeanJ…LMAO…that was funny!

@Musing…make it a blueberry bagel and head my way!!!

By LaniT

October 18, 2006 11:47 AM | Link to this

A back up to me doesn’t mean that they’re a friend with benefits. It just be a good conversation, that one that is always out somewhere to meet up and shoot the breeze or just someone to call and share a laugh with when something funny happens in life so I like being trump tight while I’m waiting for the “Big Joker”. :-)

By Foots (aka SugarFoots)

October 18, 2006 11:48 AM | Link to this

Peach I’m from South Georgia, but I live in Cobb now. One of my mom’s friends taught me how to play when I was 12. He and my mom would play against me and my sister. He would get so emotional that he would actually get up and leave if he thought that my mom was trying to help us win. I couldn’t play much in college cause they were way too serious. Even now, one of my friends (hey girl) has game nights sometimes and I am TERRIFIED to play with them. They crazy!! :-)

SeanJ ROTFLOL!!!!

By Jewel

October 18, 2006 11:49 AM | Link to this

Good morning Everyone!

I too am a one man lady. I prefer to focus my energy, affection and attention on one man. Having others in the mix can lead to madness and confusion, unless this is the way you “play.” I guess it works only if you are not in a serious, monogamous relationship. A confession: Last winter, my SO & I had a brief breakup. During this time, I met another man. Now initially, I saw him as a business prospect. His interest was something more. One day while talking to him on the phone, I slipped and called him by my SO’s name! After a pregnant pause, I apologized to him. He asked if I was still in contact with my SO. Of course I was and he knew it before he asked the question. In that moment, we both knew it wasn’t going any further between us and I’m asking myself, “Jewel, what are you doing?” During the breakup, I realized how much I cared for my SO. I tried to use the other man as a distraction from my feelings and the possibility that we might not work through the conflict. That was not me.

IMO, a “backup” or “Plan B” is another way of saying “I am not too sure about this person, even though I like him/her. Rather than run the risk of being left in the cold, I must have others to fill the gap.” This is a sure sign of insecurity. Being alone is not a bad thing. That is why it is best, whether in a relationship or not, to have a life outside of the person.

Have a Powerful, Productive, Prosperous and Positive Day!!!

By Sexione

October 18, 2006 11:57 AM | Link to this

SeanJ……..hahahahahaha!!!!!

Foots…I feel you!! For me it’s “She’s A Brick House! She’s mighty mighty just lettin it all hang out!!” I love it!!!

Ok, off to lunch, it’s been a looonngg morning.

By B-in-it

October 18, 2006 12:00 PM | Link to this

SJ, unfortunately things are not always black and white. I have a friend who strongly believes in back ups, but she sleeps with them and gets hurt and disappointed. Me, I’m the one on one type and yes I do get disappointed at times. But I keep in mind that relationships are not easy regardless of the approach taken. As I get older, I am more inclined to let go when I see it isn’t going anywhere. I just let someone go. We had great sx relations but I can tell I am part of his rotation like an out of town GF or something. Sorry, I refuse to be part of that…So I moved on.

By MusingLee

October 18, 2006 12:01 PM | Link to this

SeanJ Man, you are crazy…LOLOLOL

Now headed across the hallway to the office of DeepDimples, blueberry bagel in hand and doing a slow pimp walk…..

“I’ll be there in 20 minutes, pimps can’t be rushed.”

By abc

October 18, 2006 12:02 PM | Link to this

A guy goes into the Adult store and asks for an inflateable woman.

“Black or White?” asks the clerk. “White,” says the guy.

“Blonde or Brunette?” asks the clerk. “Brunette,” says the guy.

“Christian or Muslim?” asks the clerk. The guy asks, “Now, what is the difference between Christian and Muslim inflateable dolls?”

The clerk says, “The Muslim ones blow themselves up!”

By Jewel

October 18, 2006 12:06 PM | Link to this

An addendum to my story: I felt guilty even though technically, my SO & I were not together at the time. All the time I am wondering, how do I get rid of this man if we get back together? What will he think if he finds out I am talking to someone else? Of course, I “confessed” to my SO when we got back together. He didn’t say much, just looked at me with a satisfied smirk on his face…where is that response found in the MLB?

By 4theLongHaul

October 18, 2006 12:06 PM | Link to this

abc OMG!!! You’re going to hell for that one! hahaha!

By G

October 18, 2006 12:08 PM | Link to this

@Darkbuty….A nest egg is just that. It doesn’t evolve to a Money Market, IRA, Bond, or Stock. There is no evolution.

There’s a difference between dating multiple people and maintaining multiple girlfriends.

By Deep Dimples formerly aka Darkbuty

October 18, 2006 12:11 PM | Link to this

If I found out that my BF had a backup I would be HIGHLY upset…because he’s doing something to keep her on the burner…it doesn’t have to be s3x…but it’s still a betrayal to the relationship in my eyes. I can just see him phone boning her in his sexy voice laying in the bed laughing…I’ll be damned!

By Thick

October 18, 2006 12:12 PM | Link to this

Haha, LOL, funny joke SeanJ, I received the same joke on my telephone Saturday morning from my cousin in AL.

Deep Dimples, I tease and call him Big Daddy all the time, but that’s only because he acts so mature and responsible.

4th, umph, umph, umph, talking about Day Dreaming, he is a good prospect!

By Deep Dimples formerly aka Darkbuty

October 18, 2006 12:13 PM | Link to this

abc LMAO….Now NC you got to be smiling by now….

By Sweet Tea

October 18, 2006 12:15 PM | Link to this

Hello all, Musing if you’re still passing out bagels i’ll take a raisin with low fat pineapple cream cheese with some hot green tea please; thanks honey they got us taking all these classes. i hope you all have a nice day Thick I think i found your “headache” you had a while ago :(

By JustMe

October 18, 2006 12:30 PM | Link to this

It is truly a small world………. I got that Halloween joke from my Cousing in Detroit via Text message on 10/13, then an Ex who just happened to be at the Falcons game sent it to me Sunday morning, now I see it on the blog………

PS - To all you Ya Momma Joksters……. My son has turned me on to MTV2’s Yo Mama show, so I beta not see any more MTV jokes posted in here or I am pulling dem thangs on y’all - Ya herd me!

By Sweet Tea

October 18, 2006 12:35 PM | Link to this

SJ you better watch your back on Halloween lol :)

By i'm swiss

October 18, 2006 12:37 PM | Link to this

I’ve got to agree w/ abc and others on here — this whole “backup” thing is total BS. And I’d have to think that the “backup” is largely a female idea. Dudes generally don’t have backups — they’re either really with one woman (and don’t worry about anyone else), or they are actually boning other women.

In either case (the “bone in case of emergency” backup, or the actual active rotation), the “primary” relationship is a farce. Women just don’t like to think of themselves as being players or having a rotation, but that’s exactly what the “backup” is. You may not actually be boning them, but we all know that’s what they’re there for — to be on standby just in case…

By NCgirlfromATL

October 18, 2006 12:39 PM | Link to this

Thanks errybody!!

SJ I almost lost my chicken salad sandwich on that joke.

Musings scoot over, and give me room to wiggle too. And take off those danged white shoes! They’re making me go blind!

abc You know you wrong for dat! wiping my Coke off the screen lolol!!

You’re right Dark/Peach, the afternoon is officially better than the morning!

By Thick

October 18, 2006 12:41 PM | Link to this

Sweet Tea, Deep Dimples has got a point about that Coca-Cola and gel caps, but just in case you need a little more comfort. Go find a man with big hands and have him stand behind you and place his four fingers around your skull. Pinkies starting at your ears, and index finger at the top of the skull, while the thumbs land aroung the base of your skull and neck. Applying pressure, basically moving finger tips back and forth. Whoo, loose your mind girl, he did this for about two to five minutes. My headache really went away! I hope you feel better.

By SeanJohnson

October 18, 2006 12:43 PM | Link to this

@ B-in-it..thats good u know what u want…and u are right about things are not always black and white but with good communication u can get things as close to being such as possible..unfortunately…emotions and feelings and be caught from the result of meaningless sx

By JustMe

October 18, 2006 12:50 PM | Link to this

I think most of the women (my self included) have said that when we are single we may have more than one guy friend, but when we are in an EXCLUSIVE RELATIONSHIP then we are 1 Man Women Now fellas, y’all may not like that idea, but it is what it is……. If you want your lady to be YOUR LADY, then you must take that leap of faith and make your “ship” exclusive.

By LorDemi

October 18, 2006 12:56 PM | Link to this

My last SO (now Ex) has started calling again, (it’s all Demi’s fault)

JustMe I have not climbed any trees in a minute..so don’t make me start now,LOL and SUP

The others tend to either fall off or at least get put on the back-burner a.k.a. the E.C.G. (Emergency Chick in a Glass).

sup Pharress_Beuller, this in cover in Sec. 23 in the MLB handbook…Title: The Rules of Emergency Glass Breaking

By NCgirlfromATL

October 18, 2006 12:56 PM | Link to this

Thick now that just ain’t fair! I work with a woman, and I don’t get down like dat! lolol! But really, I might have to create a back up just to get the neck massage today.

By 4theLongHaul

October 18, 2006 01:02 PM | Link to this

i’m swiss Naw dog. The back-up thing would DEFINATELY be more of a male thing than female IMO.

By ImAPeach404

October 18, 2006 01:02 PM | Link to this

And I’d have to think that the “backup” is largely a female idea. Dudes generally don’t have backups

Huh Swiss???? Are you male or female? Im inclined to say you’re a woman for the simple fact that you don’t believe men have backups. Both sexes practice the “backup” policy, and regardless if you are a man or a woman, and you dont believe that to be trued, you’re going to get your feelings hurt.

By Tim Trevillion

October 18, 2006 01:04 PM | Link to this

Here we go again! Current mood: p** off Category: News and Politics

Is it just me? Does anyone else see a problem with Celebs. running out of fads like pink dogs, bling bling, and now have created a fad that was committed several hundered years ago, made illegal, and destroyed an entire race! I am tired of seeing where they have gone to Africa, and every other poor country and baught themself a what was called a N*.

If they really wanted to do something good for those children. Instead of stripping them away from their parents. Hell give the family a thousand dollars per month until the child reaches adulthood. That would be more than enough money for the family, and the child will grow up with their family. That is much less than The Material Girl paying three million for her new fad!

Just a little something to think about!!!! Because I sware on my life NEVER AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Because in this Century a few of us can afford to go to England and buy us a little cute fad also!

By JustMe

October 18, 2006 01:05 PM | Link to this

Demi There you are! no pulling Demi by the ear to the blog corner

No sonner than you posted is he begging to come back yet did Dude show up out of nowhere, text messages, phone calls, locating me in the Dome with 70,000 other people! You talked him up! It’s all your fault; it has to be your fault, otherwise that would mean I put it on him and he’s whipped!

Now going outside to call 5”9” from Sunday I hope he doesn’t set the short dudes back another 3-4 years - LOL

By NCgirlfromATL

October 18, 2006 01:05 PM | Link to this

JustMe I think most of the women (my self included) have said that when we are single we may have more than one guy friend, but when we are in an EXCLUSIVE RELATIONSHIP then we are 1 Man Women

Thanks for clearly that up. That’s exactly what I meant.

By i'm swiss

October 18, 2006 01:08 PM | Link to this

Why do Ex-SO’s mess up and then want to come back?

That might be a sign that you’re one of their backups…

By LorDemi

October 18, 2006 01:11 PM | Link to this

*negative thoughts of the day

Still waiting for my life partner, so she and I can run a DIME on these non-spade players!!!

now sitting at the spade table awaiting her grand entrance

By Thick

October 18, 2006 01:12 PM | Link to this

Actually NC/ATL the guys delivers packages here, but he is good with his hands. hahaha, LOL

By ImAPeach404

October 18, 2006 01:14 PM | Link to this

…and you dont believe that to be trued…

Dang, that was an ulgy typo!

By i'm swiss

October 18, 2006 01:15 PM | Link to this

@peach — I’m a guy & believe it or not, I don’t do backups. I’m either actually seeing more than 1 person (and I’m up-front about that), or I’m strictly one-on-one and don’t think about plan B.

I guess my point is, if you feel the need to have backups hanging around, then why even pretend that you’re in a serious relationship? In my mind, you’re not.

There’s nothing wrong w/ being interested in multiple people at the same time… I’d just prefer to be honest & up-front about it than to have a secret “depth chart” in my head.

By 4theLongHaul

October 18, 2006 01:17 PM | Link to this

ImA Hey girl. Wasn’t it you that was going to the Dominicans for the first time? You know, it all becomes a blur after a week or so. If so, how was your experience?

By JustMe

October 18, 2006 01:20 PM | Link to this

Swiss THen they deserve to on the outside wishing they could get back in! I tell dudes from day 1, I can deal with the truth no matter what it is, but if you lie and I find out, I lose so much respect for you that an Exclusive Relationship with JustMe is dayum near impossible. I can not stand a Liar!

By LorDemi

October 18, 2006 01:21 PM | Link to this

for NC

WTH!!!??? Aren’t you a lawyer? Go sue somebody, Hell start with BUSH!!!

By i'm swiss

October 18, 2006 01:25 PM | Link to this

Also, peach — maybe I should clarify my point a bit. I definitely did not mean to suggest that guys don’t have a rotation. My point was, for the most part, if a guy is interested in multiple women, then those women generally are either in the starting linup (i.e. they’re getting their share of PT) OR they are still being recruited. Once you’re on a guy’s team, you’re not going to be on the bench for long, that’s all I’m saying.

But either way, whether you’ve got “backups” or an active “roster” — the principle is the same: you’re basically playing the field. Which is fine, but let’s just call it what it is…

By JustMe

October 18, 2006 01:28 PM | Link to this

*JustMe struts into the blog Spades emporium with a brand spanking new deck of Aviators in her left hand and a brand spanking new deck of Bicycles in the left! I’m wearing my Via Spiga 4 inch pumps in a spectacular shade of Aqua with form fitting Baby Phat Jeans, an silky cream blouse, georgous diamond earing and matching bracelets, and a fly azz Via Spiga Handbag that perfectly matche dem bad azz pumps She strolls over to Demi’s table, looks down at him and say what’s happenin Papi’ wanna play with these?

By Pharress_Beuller

October 18, 2006 01:30 PM | Link to this

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying the E.C.G. is a sx backup. It could be strictly platonic, moreso used as a defense mechanism. Just in case Miss Brown Suga turns out to be Miss Brown Doo-Doo.

What up LD?! I’m a BEAST at Spades. Let me get at that table!!

By JustMe

October 18, 2006 01:31 PM | Link to this

Demi WTH!!!??? Aren’t you a lawyer? Go sue somebody, Hell start with BUSH!!! You are sick

By NCgirlfromATL

October 18, 2006 01:37 PM | Link to this

Demi lol! Nah, I came thisclose to cussing my orthodonist out this morning. She’d basically lied to me, and when I called her on it, she tried to make it out to be my fault. Nevermind that all of the adjusting she did today she should have done 2 weeks ago when I was in there, and had asked her about the same problem 8 weeks ago and she blew me off. Then, she got all condescending and trite with me. I’m not some 13 year old, pimply-faced teenager! I spent to much money on these teeth to be talked to like I’m some kind of idiot! And I wear my rubber bands, heffer! The only reason she didn’t get an earfull was b/c she was yanking my teeth around so hard this morning that it hurt so bad to talk by the time I left, I was in tears. (tooth pain ain’t no joke!) Then, she tried to nice it all up w/ a bunch of sweeties and honeys. Beeeeyoooootch! By the time I could talk again, I was cussing up a storm. Thank God for Advil!

By Foots (aka SugarFoots)

October 18, 2006 01:46 PM | Link to this

NCGirl Ooohhh, girl, I understand that pain from braces. No amount of Bad Mama Jama can calm that. (I kept a prescription for Darvocet on hand when I had mine. LOL!!) She should know better than to rile somebody up during an adjustment. You should have bit her.

By Blue_Kolla

October 18, 2006 01:50 PM | Link to this

What up yoll?!

said as I roll in like Black Kojak…

JustMe but then when said dude finds out that he’s your one and only, said dude gets all swole and starts thinking that my self esteem had gone out the window or something - WTFE - LOL,

Aye I only made it to this point ^^^ in the comments and started laughing and just skipped the rest. Hahahaha… you stoopid. LOL

By ImAPeach404

October 18, 2006 01:50 PM | Link to this

• guess my point is, if you feel the need to have backups hanging around, then why even pretend that you’re in a serious relationship? In my mind, you’re not.*

I agree swiss. In your second post to me, you basically said the same things that I, and others, have stated.

4th naw girl, I was the one that told you about the salon!!! Lol, but I’m going Friday after work. I usually go to the one on Jimmy Carter, but I’m going to see ya girl on Wendy Hill Friday b/c she stays open later.

By LorDemi

October 18, 2006 01:51 PM | Link to this

NC in my quest for learning new bag of tricks…I give ladies free massages

WARNING: I WILL NOT BE HELD RESPONDABLE FOR DISAPPEARING CLOTHING!!

By Sexione

October 18, 2006 01:53 PM | Link to this

JustMe….^5they deserve to on the outside wishing they could get back in! Liar, liar pants on FIRE!!!! lol

Hey Demi

By 4theLongHaul

October 18, 2006 01:55 PM | Link to this

NC & Foots You guys are cracking me up. LOL @ Foots telling you to Mike Tyson her with the teeth!

By LorDemi

October 18, 2006 01:55 PM | Link to this

Dayum JustMe!!! no ear pulling, I am very sensitive about my bearly functioning ears. Please pull something else.

By melo

October 18, 2006 01:55 PM | Link to this

abc-becareful of getting blown up urself!!

By Thick

October 18, 2006 01:57 PM | Link to this

NC girl maybe you should get a new orthodonist, it ain’t cool to have some mean, moody female working on your mouth. Dayum you don’t sound happy!

By 4theLongHaul

October 18, 2006 01:57 PM | Link to this

ImA OK. SOMEBODY was going for the first time last week and they were supposed to testify on Monday. (and I’m too lazy to go back to the archive to see who it was. Ain’t that serious…) but I was just wondering. Think Imma go back this weekend because SO’s brother stood me up on Saturday. He was on one of his drinking binges on Friday night at SO’s sister-in-law & brothre house and spend the night and didn’t bring his sorry azzz home to do my hair Saturday morning. Imma try again tonight. If not, back to Elsey I go.

By JustMe

October 18, 2006 02:08 PM | Link to this

Hey Blue

Demi If dude starts to get annoying, I’ll pull sun’n else alright!

By LorDemi

October 18, 2006 02:08 PM | Link to this

My lady, my LADY!! JustMe you’re rep’n Detroit to the fullest today! You be my partner in crime any day…now let’s mop these fools up!!!

NC whoa ma, according your Lady Handbook, that is grounds for an A$$ whooping…now calling musin and have him to sent dem Sauces ASAP!!

By JustMe

October 18, 2006 02:14 PM | Link to this

Demi I always play to win!

I also like to advise friends and family to *leave ya feelings on the door step, come in get a drank, sit down and take dia azz whoopin like a grown azz man/woman

By NCgirlfromATL

October 18, 2006 02:15 PM | Link to this

Thick Weeelll, I was supposed to be getting these suckas off on 11/2, but part of our very heated discussion today was that she confirmed that date 2 weeks ago, but then decided to push it out another 8 weeks today…but my teeth basically look exactly like they did 2 weeks ago…WTF!! You didn’t know that 2 weeks ago when I asked you to confirm the 11/2 removal date?!? Plus, she’s already been paid in full, so I’m stuck w/ her. This is the first (and last) time she’s tripped.

Demi closing my office door and turning up the Barry White currently playing on my office radio…bring it on, Cletus!

Foots she almost drew back a nub! But, her husband is a lawyer too, and I don’t need extra drama in my life.

handing BK his afternoon red lollypop (cuz he’s Black Kojak, so it’s “red” not “cherry)” What’s up, homie?

By LorDemi

October 18, 2006 02:18 PM | Link to this

Now going outside to call 5”9” from Sunday I hope he doesn’t set the short dudes back another 3-4 years - LOL

Napoleon and Hitler sat us back 4 thousand years…3-4 years aint to too bad

heeeyy Sexione and QC

By Bre'

October 18, 2006 02:22 PM | Link to this

I love playing spades with my lil sis, she is stealth with it. They think she is so small sweet and innocent, they never see her coming. We whopped some Bruhs(hmmmm Ques) butt up in MN so bad. I’m still not sure they ever healed from that one….

By Blue_Kolla

October 18, 2006 02:24 PM | Link to this

throwing the wrapper from the lollypop in the trash…

NC Who loves you baby?! ;) Plus… I feel you about the orthodontist.

By LorDemi

October 18, 2006 02:25 PM | Link to this

slipp’n on Bacardi 151 rum

So they want to play, let the game begin!!

JustMe what are you drinking on?

By Hot Sauce

October 18, 2006 02:25 PM | Link to this

Demi you need something from us? What’s really going on; hey Blue-k it’s very quite up in here today, my God-Daughter is having twin boys in December, i told her to please consult me before you name those children cause they have to live with their names for eternity

By Hot Sauce

October 18, 2006 02:29 PM | Link to this

Who’s passing out blow-pops? i’ll take watermelon & green apple please, thanx! Last time i had one was at the shooting range and i did pretty good; did’nt know sucking & shooting went hand-n-hand

Musing you got some candy? bring me some

By JustMe

October 18, 2006 02:30 PM | Link to this

Demi Y’all just making it back into the rotation, so another 3-4 years might turn into WTF was I thinking - LOL I got his VM, I may call back in a few days, I didn’t leave a message.

By JustMe

October 18, 2006 02:32 PM | Link to this

NCAtl If you call your insurance company and complain, they can make her refund the unused portion of the global payment she has already received and you can use the remaining/returned funds to see another ortho. It usually works better when the issue arises near the begining of the services, but if it were really bad enough, you could get it done!

By JustMe

October 18, 2006 02:34 PM | Link to this

Demi JustMe usually has a Margy on the rocks with lime and salt. However JustMe has been known to do straight Shots of Curevo/1800/Patron just depends on how much ish I wanna talk while I am tappin dem azzes

By LorDemi

October 18, 2006 02:35 PM | Link to this

4th feel free to cut me down

He’s not an undercover brother is he? My neighbor(who is on the broken wrist trip) does hair, but dranks heavily because of his double life

By 4theLongHaul

October 18, 2006 02:38 PM | Link to this

HotSauce Girl you a mess. You know you CLEVERLY PENNED that phrase, did’nt know sucking & shooting went hand-n-hand

TRYING TO GET IT STARTED IN HERE THIS AFTERNOON!!!!

By Blue_Kolla

October 18, 2006 02:41 PM | Link to this

Hot Sauce yes it is a bit quiet today. …and that’s NC passing out blowpops cause I’m Black Kojaking today… LOL

By Hot Sauce

October 18, 2006 02:42 PM | Link to this

4th lol I just thought about the last time i had a blow-pop so how are you this afternoon? :)

By NCgirlfromATL

October 18, 2006 02:44 PM | Link to this

JustMe Unfortunately, the insurance policy I had when I first got my braces didn’t have any coverage for adults, so this was totally out of pocket (ouch!). Hence, my complete p*ssed-off-ness when she tried to trip today.

Handing HotSauce a watermelon lolly for this afternoon, and a few more to help her aim for the rest of the week…just…aye…point that thing somewhere else! lolol! Now, when I made the shooting and sucking analogy a while back about tequila, I got all kinds of jokes from the Peanut Gallery…

By Hot Sauce

October 18, 2006 02:49 PM | Link to this

Thanks NCgirl

Sorry blueK

Where’s Musing?

By abc

October 18, 2006 02:49 PM | Link to this

Yo mama so toothless it take her an hour to eat minute rice.

Man, I hate the dentist!

By Sexione

October 18, 2006 02:51 PM | Link to this

Who was giving the massages earlier….send them my way!!!

By LorDemi

October 18, 2006 02:56 PM | Link to this

Heeeyyy Hot Sauce no A’carnala and Sheleeka huh?

JustMe I’m just glad us shortys are back in your rotation period…judge him by HIS character only, is all I ask And here is your drink…I like my drinks straight as well, no sweet stuff

By Hot Sauce

October 18, 2006 02:56 PM | Link to this

abc, now i now i needed that :)

By HOThoney

October 18, 2006 03:01 PM | Link to this

I have two men & wouldn’t want it any other way…why not….it works for me thus far…

By HOThoney

October 18, 2006 03:02 PM | Link to this

I have two men & wouldn’t want it any other way…why not….it works for me thus far…

By HOThoney

October 18, 2006 03:03 PM | Link to this

I have two men & wouldn’t want it any other way…why not….it works for me thus far…

By Hot Sauce

October 18, 2006 03:03 PM | Link to this

@Demi - yeah

By HOThoney

October 18, 2006 03:03 PM | Link to this

I have two men & wouldn’t want it any other way…why not….it works for me thus far…

By HOThoney

October 18, 2006 03:03 PM | Link to this

I have two men & wouldn’t want it any other way…why not….it works for me thus far…

By LorDemi

October 18, 2006 03:04 PM | Link to this

Sexione I am sweetie, please read my 1:51 before I fly over…

Now donning my cape and tights with specially made Lime Green boots

Ummmm…..now reading Aerial Map…her office should be right about…

By Sexione

October 18, 2006 03:04 PM | Link to this

abc……hahahahaha!!! I hate the dentist too, last time I went (about a month ago) to get a tooth capped, ended up having to have an emergency root canal. Can you say ddaayyyuummmm!!! My dentist better be glad I trust/like him.

By Sexione

October 18, 2006 03:06 PM | Link to this

Hey Demi, don’t forget me….I’ll have a Cuervo 1800 margarita on the rocks, no salt, with a sidecar of Grand Marnier. Thanks suga!!!

By abc

October 18, 2006 03:07 PM | Link to this

We call yo mama Humpty Dumpty — first she humped, then she dumped… for yo sistah! She my backup for yo mama.

By C tha 1

October 18, 2006 03:11 PM | Link to this

@NCgirlfromATL

I always wondered what wearing braces would feel like as a well adjusted adult. As a preteen & teenager they suck @zz, trust me. Especially, when you had to wear headgear and people mistake that you’re in Special Ed when you have drool coming out because you can’t close your mouth from the pain the orthodontist just gave you. Traumatic I know. But I feel you though, there were plenty of times I wanted to slap my orthodontist for the same reason. Having a jacked up grill ain’t no joke.

By 4theLongHaul

October 18, 2006 03:14 PM | Link to this

Demi Wouldn’t cut you down bruh. I used to wonder that myself but that nucka like puddy wayyyyyyyyyy too much and is deeeeeply into porno and stuff. Just wasting his adult life away. But jury’s still out for me. I wouldn’t necessarily be shocked if I found out otherwise though. I mean, he’s not sweet acting or anything like that. But he’s so wild and wide open, I wouldn’t be surprised if he had an ‘experience’. Oh well. Ain’t the one I’m in love with. So I gives not a #@$%^.

By 4theLongHaul

October 18, 2006 03:15 PM | Link to this

HotSauce Girl, I’m trying to stay awake for this last hour and 45 minutes girl! Day has slowed down to a crawl (which is the other end of the spectrum for the extreme last two days I’ve ha). So this blog is keeping me awake!!!!

By JustMe

October 18, 2006 03:17 PM | Link to this

abc I’m watching Yo Mama again tonight (I think)- LOL I hope yo joke are originals. Anybody else ever watched that show on MTV2?

By 4theLongHaul

October 18, 2006 03:18 PM | Link to this

Demi Oh, and naw, he just drinks himself to oblivian because he just stupid and sorry like that. Not keeping up another private lifestyle. He’d have to be sober long enough enough. He’s one of those guys that just has to have a woman. Doesn’t discriminate against race OR size for that matter. He be mingling with some big white chicks sometimes and we be like WTF? And he’s a gorgeous, yellow, curly haired man. He’s a plumper (not fat by a longshot, younger version of my SO.

By 4theLongHaul

October 18, 2006 03:20 PM | Link to this

Now Demi I’m looking at you REAL HARD & sideways at them lime green boots You drinking heavily and doing hair??????

By Bre'

October 18, 2006 03:20 PM | Link to this

Try that Margarita with some Petron Silver and instead of triple sec use Petron Satronge(citrus) then splace of sweet/sour. Shake until mixed well, no ice put it in a tall Martini glass, with a thin strip of lime in the bottom of glass. at least that’s how I do it at my house

By Hot Sauce

October 18, 2006 03:24 PM | Link to this

I watch Yo Momma sometimes but those jokes can be soooooooooo lame

abc i like yours better :)

By JustMe

October 18, 2006 03:25 PM | Link to this

Sexione Cheers! I hope your Margy is as good as my Margy! Demi hooked a sista’ up!

By Hot Sauce

October 18, 2006 03:28 PM | Link to this

Bre’ Girrrrrllll, that sounds soooooo good, i’ve never tried Petron :)

By NCgirlfromATL

October 18, 2006 03:31 PM | Link to this

C tha 1 I was supposed to get them as a child, b/c I had a cross-bite (my molars on one side of my mouth were in an overbite position, and the other side was in an underbite position). My mom decided against it b/c they were going to pull 4 teeth all before my wisdoms came in. As it turned out, I had 4 teeth pulled anyway…and had my wisdoms out when I was in college. Oh, and to add to my teeth woes, I was part of the 2% of the population that experiences dry sockets after my wisdom teeth were removed. So, I knows some teefuss pain! Believe it or not, my grill wasn’t really jacked up to look at. Most of my friends kept asking why I got braces. But, I was starting to have TMJ issues, so I bit the bullet. My teeth look really good, and I’ve always been a stickler for getting my teeth cleaned, flossing, etc. My best friend is a hygenist, so she’s always looking in my mouth. And I can’t have the hot-garbage breath from gingivitis! Yuck! But, to answer your question, having braces as an adult suuuuuuuux! I’m such a baby about tooth pain, and I’ve had a lot. Advil and accupuncture have become my new best friends. My denist tried to give me a prescripton for Vicodin (sp?), but I was afraid to take it…it might have gotten too good to me! lolol!

By JustMe

October 18, 2006 03:32 PM | Link to this

Hot Sauce They had folks going head up last night and the losers were lame! The winners were hella funny though! Does it come on every night? I busted my 11 y/o son watching it, and he begged me to watch it with him.

Bre You might be on to something girl! Now thinking should I drink alone on a Wednesday night…….. hmmmmm Nope, I’ll call up a rotator, have him buy now checking Bre’s list and keep me company while I watch LOST. j/k

By Hot Sauce

October 18, 2006 03:37 PM | Link to this

Note to self be sure to write down Bre’s drink mix and try it this weekend

By Blue_Kolla

October 18, 2006 03:37 PM | Link to this

HotSauce Unless you like Korn, stick with the Cuevo Gold and leave the Patron alone.

By Sexione

October 18, 2006 03:38 PM | Link to this

Demi, I’m ready, got the clothes securely fastened, lights low, candles burning, music playing. Watch out now, a good attentive, all inclusive massage will put me right to sleep.

By Bre'

October 18, 2006 03:38 PM | Link to this

@HS I can’t spell today, I meant splash not splace. The one thing I know better than anything else is Patrone.

By JustMe

October 18, 2006 03:44 PM | Link to this

NCAtl I had all 4 of my wisdom teeth pulled a few years back, the oral surgeon gave me a Rx for Vicodin…….. I took 1 and I was as dumb as a door knob. I could not string 3 words together to make a sentence if I tried all day. I can’t take narcotics like that. I don’t see how folks function on that stuff.

By Hot Sauce

October 18, 2006 03:49 PM | Link to this

Blue What is korn? i’ve never had cuevo gold i’m such a beginner when it comes to drinking!!!!!! i’ve never had anything stronger than an apple martini

By Foots (aka SugarFoots)

October 18, 2006 03:50 PM | Link to this

My denist tried to give me a prescripton for Vicodin (sp?), but I was afraid to take it…it might have gotten too good to me!

Vicodin? Girl…Mepergan. You know, one of the painkillers that they have to give you a GREEN prescription for with NO REFILLS written on it in 12 languages. I had two wisdom teeth cut out 4 years ago and I don’t even remember having any pain. All I got to say is that I was setting my alarm clock every 3 hours so that I wouldn’t sleep through my next dose (which was supposed to be every four hours)! They only gave me 12 and I’m glad they did. I would have been Whitney AND Bobby all up in this camp. LOL!!

By Hot Sauce

October 18, 2006 03:53 PM | Link to this

Aight Bre

Maybe i should have a “holiday party” and get a real bartender to mix drinks? Or just buy all this stuff, set it up on my bar downstairs and just try it one glass at a time???

By Sexione

October 18, 2006 03:54 PM | Link to this

JustMe….thanks, it is delicious!! Cheers!!

Bre’….that Petron is off the chain (I’m a tequila kind of girl fo sho!!)

And the dentist talk is making me need an extra shot!! I have some dental stories that will make you weep. I’ve had all four of my wisdom teeth extracted, 2 at a time (first when I was about 17, the last two about 3 yrs. ago). Pain, pain, pain…and my dentist always has to give me extra anesthesia. Last time (3 yrs ago) I actually drank a little of my own before my appointment. LOL

By Sexione

October 18, 2006 03:56 PM | Link to this

JustMe….dang, we seem to have a lot in common….good peoples!!

By Foots (aka SugarFoots)

October 18, 2006 03:59 PM | Link to this

All right now… When y’all were talking about ex-SO’s looking you up, you talked up another one of mine. Dude just sent me a text message. This one never actually got off past GO (he made some inappropriate comments too early). Now…what do I want with the Jack of Clubs when I just got dealt the Big Joker?!? No backups need apply!! LOL!!

By KKK Imposter Blue_Kolla

October 18, 2006 04:01 PM | Link to this

LongHaul He be mingling with some big white chicks sometimes and we be like WTF?

Whatchu sayin’ nigra?! LOL

By JustMe

October 18, 2006 04:04 PM | Link to this

SexiOne I was just thinking the same thing, then I saw your post! Now if youare an Aries, I’m gonna have to see if I was born a twin - LOL

Foots Hand-O ya bizness gurl! Betta hope he’s not the persistant type y’all was blogging about was it yesterday? one day this week!

By Bre'

October 18, 2006 04:05 PM | Link to this

I’ve had nothing but good times with my dentist, never have a problem. Except a little build up that was knocked with one of those spin brushes. My sister worked at the School of Denistry down in Augusta so I could get free braces. I was cool on some students all up in my grill. A lot of people I work with do Invisaline, which seems to work but very expensive.

Back in the day I used to host a lot of parties I became a mixologist. Now I got a drink called PinkP@#$%. That will have your head banging, you can only make it with those Georgia Peaches though. I can’t drink that much anymore. I do my organic wines, petron-ritas, and some of that chilled red wine once in a while.

By Deep Dimples formerly aka Darkbuty

October 18, 2006 04:09 PM | Link to this

Dang Y’all going to make me grab a drink after Bible Study!!!

By Blue_Kolla

October 18, 2006 04:09 PM | Link to this

HotSauce I think tha Korn is a type of corn liquor, but I know that it has a nasty grain alcohol type of taste. Like I said, stick with the Cuevo Gold. It’s gon’ go down real smooth-like… and taste way better than Patron and cost a helluva lot less.

Naggaz gon’ buy the most expensive thing in the store, regardless of taste… just for flex-value.

By 4theLongHaul

October 18, 2006 04:09 PM | Link to this

Blue Boy you stupid. You know how WE are. If you’re crossing the tracks…cross over to Buckhead/Alpharetta….not to Cumming or Logansville!!! They don’t even be cute!!! He got MAD esteem issues and is one of the cutest guys I know. Just have me shaking my head. These girls be all big and trailerparkish… And don’t “history” him on his computer. He be looking at some of the WACKEST, fat white chicks online and stuff. Just wierd…….

By Sexione

October 18, 2006 04:13 PM | Link to this

JustMe…..I’m a Taurus (but my sister’s an Aries). That is too funny!!

HotSauce…..the korn that Blue is referring to is that down home, back in the woods, cooked in a washtub, illegal liqua that your country cousins make. And YES, it will grow you some chest hairs!! LOLOLOL

By JustMe

October 18, 2006 04:19 PM | Link to this

Blue YOu are right (for once) Cuervo does taste better than Patron, but patron is smoother than Cuervo unless you chill the Cuervo first. I just leave my bottle in the freezer so it’s always ready - LOL

By Hot Sauce

October 18, 2006 04:20 PM | Link to this

Blue oohhhhhhh!!!! you mean korn likka ok i gotcha now! yuk i do not want any of that! My Dad had 2 friends to die from that years ago, someone put some lead in it and they dranked it and passed on :(

By NCgirlfromATL

October 18, 2006 04:21 PM | Link to this

Bre BK and I disagree on the Patron. While I agree that Cuervo Gold is the best for margaritas, there is nothing better for shooting that Patron Silver. My cousin introduced me to it in law school, and I was hooked! Got me through several final exams and the bar exam. Yep, it’s expensive, which is why I leave the purchasing to some other, more liquid member of my family! lolol! Suaza is also not bad for margaritas, but it’s a little on the strong side.

By Sweet Tea

October 18, 2006 04:22 PM | Link to this

Y’all talking about that real all the way live in the hood kone likka

By JustMe

October 18, 2006 04:23 PM | Link to this

Sexione, Hot Sauce I got some Corn-liqa from Alabama a few years back, and it was so strong, kool-aid could not weaken it! 3 sips and I was goooonneee!

By Hot Sauce

October 18, 2006 04:23 PM | Link to this

Ok i think i might just stick with my favorites apple martini’s, arbor mist, & wine coolers i could never drink with you all i would pass out after 2 sipps! :)

By Foots (aka SugarFoots)

October 18, 2006 04:24 PM | Link to this

Dang! Folks be checking the History on your computer? Really??

now making a mental note to clear History on my laptop, just in case folks get to snooping

By Blue_Kolla

October 18, 2006 04:26 PM | Link to this

JustMe zzzzz…

By 4theLongHaul

October 18, 2006 04:31 PM | Link to this

Isn’t it funny how the other day, we were talking about alkies and now y’all proclaiming all these Bartendering Skills today? LOL! Lord, y’all contributing to these habits! Ha! Ain’t never been a drinker. I remember when I was a freshman in high school, I called myself being grown and went out with a senior girl and a bunch of other college folks. (now, don’t misinterpret my words, not ‘went out’ as on a date! Just hanging out) Her MOM took her and her brother to the liquor store (brother was freshman in college) and bought allllll this liquor. Yes, I said his mama. She said she’d rather know what her kids are doing/drinking than not know. FOOLERY!!!

Anyway, they had rented this small room at the Red Roof Inn on Old National. (ha!) And me and this other girl was like, “OK, you don’t drink? Me either! If you don’t drink, I won’t drink!” So that was our safety net. Mannnnn, next thing I know, she had a darn cup in her hand. So of course,I felt obliged to follow suit. They made this Hunch Punch in this big cooler: Vodka, MD 20/20, Golden Grain & Wild Irish Rose and something else and lost of packs of Kool-Aid & maybe some suger. Anyway, I just KNEW that stuff would burn a hole in my chest. But to my surprise, it was very sweet and good! So I had one of them old plastic cups you keep in your cupboard. MAN!!!! My body temperature shot up, my head was spinning and I had to get out of that room!!! I went outside and was sitting on the darn curb! So that was the beginning and the end of my drinking days! Ha! My friend swears that when we got back to her house, I was stripping off clothes from the time I walked in the house until I got to her room. She lyinnnng! I know I slept like a log to my mother standing over me, coming to pick me up the next morning! LORD!

By LorDemi

October 18, 2006 04:31 PM | Link to this

4th yes I do some mean a$$ hell straight BALD cut…want one? Never met a straight dude who does women’s hair thats all…

Hopefully he’ll come around before hurting himself beyond recovery

Nononononono…Sexione Here is your Cuervo Gold…don’t mind my hands gentility massaging your shoulders

Patron goes down like water and creep on you like Jason (from friday 13)

Blue do not disrepect Korn…the worlds great metal band

By Blue_Kolla

October 18, 2006 04:34 PM | Link to this

Foots now making a mental note to clear History on my laptop, just in case folks get to snooping

Me too. dagggg….

PSA: Leave that Korn, Kone, Shine, Stumphole, and any other homemade likka alone. Shyt’ll kill ya…

By LorDemi

October 18, 2006 04:36 PM | Link to this

but patron is smoother than Cuervo unless you chill the Cuervo first

JustMe please do not chill my likkas…real men/women don’t use ice!!

By Sexione

October 18, 2006 04:39 PM | Link to this

That korn ain’t nothing to play with, they don’t call it “rotgut” for nothing. This makes me think about the hunch punch my drunk azz sister and I used to make (notice I said USED TO) with punch, juice and Golden Grain. Whew!!! We were a little crazier back then. But with the right amount of punch, it was really good.

@Foots, I do that everyday before I leave the office (ya know, just in case). At home, doesn’t matter because I’m not looking at anything that needs to be hidden (not that I am at work either, but I don’t want anyone to happen to history up my business).

By 4theLongHaul

October 18, 2006 04:41 PM | Link to this

Foots Well in my defense, I was looking for a sight I was on the day before while I was there and went to the history to possibly retrieve and was in for a BIG surprise when I clicked on the wrong thing!! Woo Lord!!!!!!!!

But yeah, men….that’s another way to get caught by snooping women….email links can still be in your history and when clicked on, the email WILL open up without you having to have that person’s logon info……

SO DELETE HISTORIES!!!!! I used to be Professor Snoop and knew all the tricks of the trade. Some formers started slipping, so I purposely set their “history” settings to the max so I could later go in and see what they were doing….. Yeah, I ain’t proud of it but I’m a changed woman now. Had major trust issues with men after being made out to look like a fool a few times. So that was my way of controlling….

By Bre'

October 18, 2006 04:45 PM | Link to this

Petrone better known as Pat and Run…and those that drink it know why its called that.

By Lah Lah

October 18, 2006 04:50 PM | Link to this

Patron goes down like water and creep on you like Jason (from friday 13

so true, so true. Demi you crazy! LMAO

By Foots (aka SugarFoots)

October 18, 2006 04:52 PM | Link to this

4TLH and Sexione Thanks for reminding me about that. While I’m at it, I may as well dump the Temporary Internet Files too. LOL!!

By Sexione

October 18, 2006 04:55 PM | Link to this

That’s it Demi….just keep rubbing, my shoulders are my tension spot!!zzzz

Well, it’s been fun, time to make it on home to my REAL job. Peace and safe travels to all.

By 4theLongHaul

October 18, 2006 04:58 PM | Link to this

BUT that stuff don’t work at work. You know they got ways if they really need to know, to backlog every keystroke of your computer. I used to work in HR and after somebody got fired for some crazy reason, the first thing they would do is get access to computer files and can get at even ‘deleted’ stuff if necessary. Scary….. (while I’m sitting here on this blog everyday….)

By LorDemi

October 18, 2006 04:58 PM | Link to this

Hey Ms.Lah

Night All

By Jake

October 18, 2006 05:03 PM | Link to this

I guess this is a white likka conversation. I get it, the words Hennessey and Couviosior might send some of ya’ll back in time or back to rehab…LOL Its aight, I’ll stay true to the brown likkas.
BK real men/women don’t use ice!! You smell that…Bullskit…That hot ish will have your stomach doin some Jackie Chan shyt.