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Wednesday, August 9, 2006
Sweet, sweet revenge
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
For the most part, I am a very nice girl.
But cross me…and you’ll see quite a temper!
Of course it would be nice if every relationship, no matter how short or intense, ended peacefully. But unfortunately, that’s not always the case. And I’m not going to lie - sometimes, I want a little revenge. I know this isn’t necessarily a good idea. But how can I stop myself from wanting the last word?
A friend of mine recently was dating a guy fairly seriously, and then he stopped calling abruptly. She called me and said “Is it bad that I really want to hurt him?” Bad, maybe … but as I see it, pretty normal.
I frequently entertain revenge fantasies. I’ve never really acted on one, but it has definitely crossed my mind to slash my ex’s tires or call his new girlfriend and talk smack or make up some dramatic lies about how he hurt me. Something. I know, awful, right? And in a slightly less deranged manner, I often want to have that final confrontation. A guy doesn’t call me back after a nice date. Rather than letting it go, I WANT to call him up and be like “You jerk! Be a man and TELL me you don’t want to see me! No girl is ever going to date you with that behavior!” But, I don’t. I just think about doing it and then chicken out. Maybe that latter example is more ball-busting than revenge, though…
But tell me I’m not alone. What terrible revenge fantasies have you harbored? Have you ever acted on them? Is there ever a case where revenge is justified?
How can you get over these feelings without actually causing harm to yourself or others? =)
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