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How to lose a guy or girl in 10 minutes or less

Even though we don’t always admit to “judging by the cover” it just becomes a habit for single people. Sometimes it is unavoidable because you can meet someone who goes from Mr/Miss HOT to Mr/Miss NOT! NOT EVER!!!

It happens to all of us. I am sure you guys have spotted some hot girl, maybe at Twist or East Andrews. You find yourself approaching her after some sign that she is receptive to you. You walk over and you break the ice in hopes of getting a feel for her personality - yes ladies, just her personality. She is smiling a lot, maybe even laughing at your corny jokes. Then it happens. She opens her mouth and says the dumbest thing you have ever uttered by any female EVER. You are stunned! You can’t imagine a woman so beautiful could become so, well unattractive! And so fast!

Ladies have you ever gone to a social event, most likely upscale and sophisticated, in the mood to flirt? You manage to end up near some well-dressed, extremely attractive gentleman. You both notice one another at the same time and before long you two are shoulder to shoulder. The traditional greetings and names are exchanged and you start to feel all tingly and flushed. Well within TEN minutes the dude quickly becomes the biggest jerk that you have ever met! You know what is so bizarre? It doesn’t really take many words for their appeal factor to plummet!

Now I really like living and dating in this city. I really do. There are just some really outrageous people roaming around Atlanta giving the rest of us a bad name! Don’t you worry because the Misadventures in Atlanta blog will help you avoid being part of the problem!

My friend Jackson came up with a few things that would make a woman unattractive to him in ten minutes or less. Of course I could easily think of a few from my own perspective. Check out our list below. I am sure you can decipher his from mine! Remember, you asked for more of the male’s perspective!

Come off like you are snob, conceited or extremely arrogant Have you ever met someone and they made it seem like you were lucky to even get the opportunity to do so? Oh yeah, tumble attractiveness, tumble. I know a woman who assumes that anytime a man speaks to her, he is trying to run game. Anytime. What I find funny about it is that she’s not attractive…in the first place. Hence, she will blow off nearly any man who even offers her so much as a compliment and assume that he is merely running game.

Bad breath Yes, halitosis is a real thing. I’m not even sure there needs to be an explanation here. Let’s just say, if nobody wants to talk to you and you look like Halle Berry, either you have a sign on your forehead that says “SARS lives here” or your breathe is beyond reproach. Pop a tic-tac and watch your dating options multiply.

Bring up the fact that you live with your momma. Not much explanation needed here either. I will just suggest that you catch the film Failure to Launch, starring Sarah Jessica Parker and the very hot Matthew McConaughey. It’s packed full of gems relating to this very thing!

Say something dumb I don’t know about you, but I HATE dumb broads. With the passion of Mel Gibson. I know some folks who like dumb chicks because they are easy, but that is an ultimate turnoff. If I see a fine woman who gets so excited because she just discovered the fact that when you push the button on a pen, the ball point comes out…well, she will get chucked like Taylor. She will become very unattractive, very quickly to me. Dumb girls cannot be fine. It is mentally impossible for me to find dumb women attractive. I would assume that would be the same for men. Of course with the dating pool so shallow nowadays, I assume some women just take what they can get.

Wearing more makeup than the law allows Maybe this is just a personal thing. I don’t mind makeup. But I do mind additional faces created by too much makeup. Maybe I can’t really tell much from afar. Upon closer inspection, you can become very unattractive if I’m not sure whether your face really belongs to you or not. Nothing is scarier than possibly waking up next to a Gremlin. I’m probably not most men, but I’d just pass on that.

Making an inappropriate sexual remark, gesture, or joke - I know this seems like a no-brainer, right? Well, I have met Mr. I Could Sop You Up With a Biscuit way too many times! When a man is licking his lips incessantly staring at you like a piece of meat he starts to look like a dirty old man. Ew.

Now, this is written with humor so spare me the Shallow Atlanta rant. That is an entirely different topic!

Have you ever met someone that appeared to be so attractive at first glance but within a few minutes they were downright scary? How did you handle it?

Can you ever recover from these less then stellar moments?

In your opinion, what could make a person go from so hot, to so not your type?

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By COB

April 26, 2006 08:21 AM | Link to this

I cannot stand it when a man starts talking about all the material things he has, or how much money he makes, or what he is planning on buying next. It is such a turn off to me.

By Peaches & Creamy

April 26, 2006 08:23 AM | Link to this

Morning Bloggers/Bloggetts

By thirdwheelflunkie

April 26, 2006 08:29 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone!! Happy Hump day!!

By Pandora's Box ®

April 26, 2006 08:34 AM | Link to this

Happy Professional Admin’s Day And good morning bloggers!

By LahLah

April 26, 2006 08:40 AM | Link to this

Here’s how to lose a girl (like me) in LESS than 10 minutes….. if I look down and your dress shoes are white, red, green, blue, orange or purple. Or if they are scuffed up and ran over. God help me if they are one of the mentioned colors and scuffed up. Also, if your finger nails aren’t clean, I’m OUT! Or, if your teeth are jacked up, I”M OUT! A minor imperfection, I could possibly over look, but if it looks like somebody stuck a piece of dynamite in your mouth, I’M OUT! Now some people with jacked up teeth may have a problems with saving their pennies for repairs, in that case they should’nt be out at the club/resturant/bar anyway. If your teeth are yellow. I’M OUT! No excuse for that. God forbid if your teeth are jacked up and yellow. If a man can’t clean his mouth and his hands, what makes you think he gonna clean his azz????

By thirdwheelflunkie

April 26, 2006 08:43 AM | Link to this

ok yall…. I know this has happened to me a lot online… When Guys first email me they always start off talking about sex and what we could do… The only thing I write in my emails are hi and how you doing?? That is such a turn off it’s not even funny! Why do guys think this is cute?? It’s hard trying to find someone who is meaningful and really wants to meet you just to hang out and not just to bang!

By Hoyden

April 26, 2006 08:44 AM | Link to this

Morning All

By MissQC

April 26, 2006 08:44 AM | Link to this

Morning everybody

By Kym

April 26, 2006 08:45 AM | Link to this

THANK YOU COB!!! I hate that too. My God I dont care what kind of “whip you are rolling if it is dubs or duckies” Just plain stupid. An might I add that I can not and will not talk to a man with gold teeth. I dont care if it is one or several that mess is just nasty.

By Dawn

April 26, 2006 08:46 AM | Link to this

Hey All,

Eh Hem,

Does that “Bring up the fact that you live with your momma” apply to both sexes?

Im just saying…. :>)

By runninatl

April 26, 2006 08:46 AM | Link to this

Mernin people.

@Jewel I got that book title written down and I’m gonna look for it this weekend if I have time.

Ok, I’m gonna vent now. I’m real salty that everyone waited until after I left to drink their crunk juice and get it poppin on here yesterday. Not everyone is trying to be up in the office until 5pm, especially since I don’t like my job and can’t stand some of my co-workers…lol. So I’m boycotting the topic till later. I got “Round here” with Memphis Bleek and T.I. playing in my Ipod right now so if you put some nonsense out there this morning I’m coming after ya!…lol. My boss is out today so I’m straight clowning and instigating this morning..:-)

But first, let me go over to sales and sexually harass a few women, get my touchy feely on, I’ll be back….lmao.

By sJeaSexyCool

April 26, 2006 08:50 AM | Link to this

tartar…grubby hands…gold teeth…being super ghetto…calling me shawty or ma when you don’t know me…

and i’m sure i can think of some others…

By demigod33

April 26, 2006 08:51 AM | Link to this

morning all! well this is good to be a fun topic….where thug at? hear some cats when down in bankhead, last night. according to fox news, atlanta largest bust since Miami boys failed experiment.

free thug

oooooooooooookkkkkkkkkkkkaaaaaayyyyyyyyy

By thirdwheelflunkie

April 26, 2006 09:00 AM | Link to this

LOLOLOL @ Lahlah and @ Runnin!!! LahLah I feel your pain….. I have actually dated a dude who wouldn’t clean his booty….. Yuck it was so nasty!!!! He had vampire teeth too… You better go to the dentist and get them shaved down…. Yuck

By Bre'

April 26, 2006 09:02 AM | Link to this

Runnin You are a nut.

By sJeaSexyCool

April 26, 2006 09:04 AM | Link to this

slipshod grooming…not properly washing your face or cleaning your ears…dirty tennis shoes…

later on down the line…raggedy draws…dingy socks…it’s okay to throw away socks and underwear when they start wearing out…they don’t cost THAT much to replace…

really…how hard is it to buy a new pack of underwear and socks every month or so…

By kdkdkd

April 26, 2006 09:08 AM | Link to this

ckfdkfkf

By MusingLee

April 26, 2006 09:12 AM | Link to this

Morn’in All,

This should be an exciting topic today…My man Runnin is back…Yeah, now all I need is for Page to show up.

By demigod33

April 26, 2006 09:12 AM | Link to this

i dont date no woman i cant bring home to my mom, sorry, no h*’s section please

yeaaaahhhh

By Been Thru It All

April 26, 2006 09:12 AM | Link to this

Dayum….we can’t get no love for the gold teeth!!!!!

Even if its from a different time in my misguided life!!!!

note to self, need to make me a dentists appt.

By sJeaSexyCool

April 26, 2006 09:14 AM | Link to this

underwear is not designed to last forever…

ladies…that cute little matching set that you bought at vicky’s LAST summer…that you’ve been wearing at least once a week, washing and throwing in the dryer…it’s fading…is getting raggedy…and it ain’t as cute as it was ten months ago…throw that mess away…

hint…male or female…if the elastic in yo’ draws is starting to slack and / or hang down…and you have to trim it off…throw them sum’bytches away…it ain’t sexy…

By Pandora's Box ®

April 26, 2006 09:15 AM | Link to this

Bad teeth and breath are an automatic turn off for me.

By cadillac

April 26, 2006 09:16 AM | Link to this

Good Mornting @ Lah-“stuck a piece of dynamite in your mouth” that is crucial and dangerous!! LOL

By Tom

April 26, 2006 09:16 AM | Link to this

1 - Smokers! That 10 turns into a 2 as soon as she picks up a cigarette. Anyone wanting a death wish is not worth my time.

2 - Bad Attitude. Why waste your time.

3 - Too Much Makeup! Oh my, if she puts it on with a paint roller then I’m outta there.

By thirdwheelflunkie

April 26, 2006 09:18 AM | Link to this

@ sJeaSexyCool you would be surprise on how many people got on old dirty draws right now….. I hope they don’t get in an accident….. Also when you are about to meet someone and you know you will be hooking up at least put on some perfume and or cologne and change your dirty mud streak draws…. Funk is not cute……

By NYC living in CA

April 26, 2006 09:19 AM | Link to this

good day all

By DasKrait2

April 26, 2006 09:19 AM | Link to this

can we use our old socks and underwear, after cutting them down, as rags for say, gasket sealer or roof tar? LOL. Not a request for permission. chuckle

on that thought, though, do guys color-coordinate their underwear for what they are wearing that day? even when no one else will see them? except for the paramedics should there be an accident.

Good Morning ALL,

Can I add my pet-peeve of women say mid-thirties who think it is cute to sound like a 12-year-old? Sure, there may be a place and time for that, but all the &@#&$! time? geeez…..

By MissQC

April 26, 2006 09:20 AM | Link to this

Not 1 gold teeth but how about a whole dayum grill with a least 3-6 tat’s

By SWFINATL

April 26, 2006 09:22 AM | Link to this

If you mention the size,shape or what you could do with my booty in the first ten minutes your out. I hate that. Why do men think that is okay?

By DasKrait2

April 26, 2006 09:22 AM | Link to this

okay, since I am on a roll, something I thought of when I saw the hilarious Thank You For Smoking weekend or two ago. well, after, when I used the restroom on the way out.

You know how we are taught to wash our hands after using the restroom? How come we are not taught to wash our hands BEFORE we use the restroom, what with all the germs on doorknobs, money, many other things we touch daily, it seems it would make sense to make sure our hands are clean before we touch our privates.

just a “Deep Thoughts kind of moment. chuckle

By runninatl

April 26, 2006 09:23 AM | Link to this

I got action! Fish on the line!:

@**Third, not what do you expect to get on the internet, that’s full of pedophiles, perverts, molesters, etc??? That’s like complaining about getting hit on while wearing a bathing suit at Freak Nik. It comes with the territory so check that today, not having it!…:-)

@Dawn Mail Call before I let you have it…lol.

@Bre Morning, I just make it do what it do.

“Some cut” by Trillville playing now, I gotta back over to sales later!

By LahLah

April 26, 2006 09:25 AM | Link to this

@sJeaSexyCool it shouldn’t be that hard for a man to replace his drawls once a month if need be. Speaking of drawls….. Story I’ve been dating a guy for 2 1/2 months. The brotha has it going highly educated, home owner, great conversation, intelligent, handsome, house clean, knows how to treat a lady, honest and just for kicks, he has a nice whip too. This past weekend I was in his room watching him get dressed for us to go to a party when I saw it! This 37 year old man was putting on holey drawls to go out! I could not believe that ish! He had on boxer briefs and he had a big azz hole in the inside leg part. I was thinking to myself, I could see if he was about to go cut the grass or wash his car or something but this fool was about to step out on the town! I was disgusted. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to seem shallow, but I don’t know if I can get past that. I mean what if he was in a accident or something and all my friends were around tyring to make sure he was ok… the ambulance had to come and rip off his pants to get to the wound and everyone saw that big azz hole in his undies! My girls would never let me live that one down.

By 2 can play that game©

April 26, 2006 09:26 AM | Link to this

mawnin……

you can lose me in a heartbeat if: 1) you come over to my crib and start telling me what you don’t like or what you’d change; 2)you’re fat! (nah, cause you wouldn’t even get me!) 3)you lie! 4)you cheat! or any other underhanded, shady, stunts…..

By DasKrait2

April 26, 2006 09:27 AM | Link to this

I did a work-lunch last Friday, someone left here, and I was the only one who went to the restroom and washed my hands before the group meal. That is pretty common, that I am the only one washing hands before the meal. Personally I do not care if they do not, just don’t hand-feed me while we are eating.

Like in the movie Firewall, bad guy and Ford use the restroom together, another guy leaves a stall and does not wash his hands. Bad guy says “See, he did not even wash his hands; why you should never eat bar peanuts”.

By THE WASHINGTONIAN

April 26, 2006 09:29 AM | Link to this

Morning All, I’d like to trumpet the makeup remark. What’s wrong a woman JUST wearing some lip gloss and mayyy-be a LITTLE something on the eyes. And while you’re at it, if you’re gonna rock weave, PLEASE make it look nice, natural-colored, and REAL! There is some jacked up weave walking around in the A.

And… -Jewel, U stupid. LOL I was thinking that same thing. I would’ve chimed in, but I had to catch a train.

I can’t believe that chall let thug-dude roll up in here and legitimize hustlin’. He just straight chumped yall off yall’s position, which I thought was, People working hard and halfway honestly, to accomplish something in life. I guess I was wrong; or was it just the fact that dude rolled in hard and like 90% of the population, most jumped on his wagon. That’s just the type of brotha that I’m bustin’ my ss to expose to my shorty. Then he’ll know that the plague comes in all disguises; so be vigilante, witful and stay the fck away it.

So for you 90%ers that like to follow, I’m about tired of seeing you on the news crying and whining when your brother, cousin, uncle, baby daddy, etc. gets their clock punched.

When it happens just go on up in the house, crack the top on your 40, Patron, Henn, or whatever else, and stay true to it - Bamma played the game and got knocked out!

“That’s just the way it is.” - Tupac

By Been Thru It All

April 26, 2006 09:29 AM | Link to this

yall chill on the old underware…. I got some boxers that I have had for five or six years and I LOVE’EM!!!!

think I am gonna change my name to caveman

old drawers, gold teeth, tattoes, bald head, walk with a limp….lol

By DuShawn

April 26, 2006 09:33 AM | Link to this

Good morning all… Although I don’t date, I took this female business associate to lunch a few days ago. We met a few times previously, but didn’t really know each other. Apparently, she didn’t know I was married. Her face couldn’t hide her disappointment when she noticed my wedding ring on the way to the restaurant (I forget to wear it sometimes, unintentionally). Honestly, the girl is fine, and I had been lusting over her a little bit. The more we conversed the more unattractive she became. It wasn’t her fault. She was just too green, square and goodie two shoes for my taste. One’s personality is merely a compilation of their life experiences. She hadn’t experienced enough. Now when I see her, I don’t see her. The lust is gone… fortunately.

By demigod33

April 26, 2006 09:33 AM | Link to this

*sJeaSexyCool *

same for women and them pantie from size 2 days! Oh wait a minute, those are called thongs it just hit me. on my way to shooter’s alley

By NYC living in CA

April 26, 2006 09:34 AM | Link to this

1- talking about what you can buy/with my money on the first date (get real) 2- Indicating that you are high maintenance 3- Thinking that you are so fine that I should be falling over you hand and foot 4- So much make up it looks as if you were the lights for the airport runway 5- Too much perfume 6- Can’t carry a conversation

That’s just to name a few,

Note to self- gotta go get that gap fixed at the dentist.

By MissQC

April 26, 2006 09:34 AM | Link to this

please no more limp walkers with missing teeth

By sJeaSexyCool

April 26, 2006 09:36 AM | Link to this

lahlah…my issue with the underwear thing is not one of disgust…but of humor…unless they’re just nasty, dirty draws…

unfortunately…a LOT of people’s mommas didn’t teach them that one…and they haven’t run into the right female to pull their card on that one…

when i see something like that…i always wonder what kind of individuals a person has dealt with before me…

i would buy dude ONE pak of new draws…and make a gentle suggestion that he throw away the ones you saw him putting on this past weekend…

By THE WASHINGTONIAN

April 26, 2006 09:36 AM | Link to this

@BEEN aka caveman LOL Don’t feel bad slim, every man (and probably every woman, but they probably won’t admit it) has at least one pair of “Backup Draws”. LOL

By LahLah

April 26, 2006 09:37 AM | Link to this

@Been thru it All Dayum, it sounds like you have really been thru it all…..

By Kym

April 26, 2006 09:38 AM | Link to this

An for the record. Short men. Please dont say the words Wow your are tall as a opening phrase. Because I will simply pat you on your head and say yes and you are a midget. Talk to my face and not my breast. An please, please, please dont let your opening line be Whatcho name is? What the hell is that?

By TechFella

April 26, 2006 09:39 AM | Link to this

I agree on the too much make-up, let me also add over-tanned and spoiled. Also lets not forget the kind that gladly sit back and let you pay for everything without saying a word.

By thirdwheelflunkie

April 26, 2006 09:40 AM | Link to this

@Runnin…. I know the internet is full of freaks but I am meeting these people on Eharmony.com or match.com… You would think they would be a little more mature since they have to pay for these expensive services…. @LAHLAH…. I could get fired today if I keep laughing at your stories… I had to go under my desk and cry over the last one…… OMG I am still dying…. hehehehe nothing like a big ole gapping holes in the underwear… Also another one of my pet peeves for men is if you are uncut…. You know what I mean… Take that skin somewhere else…..I don’t need no *east infection……

By Bre'

April 26, 2006 09:41 AM | Link to this

Some No-no’s: Gold Teeth, Pants below your butt, asking about my portfolio when you don’t have one, wanting my home address before the second date, bragging about how you can really put it on a sista.

By BlackIce

April 26, 2006 09:42 AM | Link to this

Good Morning folks. This should be a fun!

By MusingLee

April 26, 2006 09:42 AM | Link to this

It’s a major turn off if I take a young lady to dinner and she orders the biggest freak’in steak on the menu and eats 5 bites…Then she wants dessert..I’m thinking, you’d betta eat the dayum steak I bought. LOL

By 2 can play that game©

April 26, 2006 09:43 AM | Link to this

ignorance is another immediate turn-off!!! If you can’t converse on the subject at hand, STFU, don’t try to act like you have knowledge of the topic, while you truly have no clue, then let the dumbest shyt roll off your tongue!!!

I dipped early yesterday, but I read yesterday’s ending - ummm, why hate on thug? Dude did just like everyone does everyday - voice his opinion…whether you agree withit or not, that’s his position..so what if we don’t agree with it, that’s him!!! This world would be so much better if we worried about our own shyt as opposed to what someone else does…but I noticed, as soon as he spoke, then every body wanted a piece! LL went from philosopher to, “oh, that’s right down my alley;” whatever!

By runninatl

April 26, 2006 09:44 AM | Link to this

More regulating:

@BTIA You my dawg but I can’t show favoritism…lol. I know you got some dental benefits, handle the gold fronts bruh. That might work on White Bluff but not on Pchtree…lol. Hit up Marshalls and Ross for the boxer briefs for the low low.

For any female hypocrites out there Don’t be at the spot with some payless shoes with the wanna-be heel and picnic table looking sundress on either…lol. If the men got to step their game up so do the women.

@THE WASHINGTONIAN I gotta co-sign your post, a little lip gloss with a smile and a fresh hairstyle goes a long way, ya’ll have no idea.

“Money, cash, hoes” Jay-Z & DMX

By Been Thru It All(caveman)

April 26, 2006 09:49 AM | Link to this

seriously though…

the only turn offs I have is a couple things…

1)smoking thats a definite no-no

2)gossip nazi…its not cool to have a entire convo on who is smashing who…

3)functionally illiterate… not having the resources to dicuss anything but when Usher is coming to concert…lol

4)time of the month etiquette… forget underware for a minute and lets talk about those women who do not know how to dispose of there feminine products wisely!!!!

By Been Thru It All(caveman)

April 26, 2006 09:52 AM | Link to this

@runnin dawg I’m trying to get the whole thing ice’d out from this Korean dude down at the flea market….lol

By CutieB™

April 26, 2006 09:53 AM | Link to this

Hey everyone I’ve been out in lurksville the last couple days but I’m back. Miss QC I have to agree with you on the gold teeth thing. That is a big no-no. I hate when guys brag about imaginary things they have but in reality they don’t. Just be real. I actually had a dude constantly checkin himself out in the mirrors over the bar while we were having drinks. Oh h*ll no. I just started talking about the imaginary rash I had on my butt and how maybe later he could put some cream on it for me to stop the itching. He stopped looking at himself long enough for me to excuse myself from the date and I left straching butt as he watched me walk away. True story!

By thirdwheelflunkie

April 26, 2006 09:55 AM | Link to this

Yes, I’m fat but I don’t like guys who are morbidly obese and have sweat between their flaps… and if you have to life up your belly to find your wang wang that’s a turn off too….. Yikes….. I gotta shower now….

By demigodd3

April 26, 2006 09:55 AM | Link to this

Been Thru It All

take you cheap ss to walmart and buy some new underware! they sell for $2 a pack

  • if the first thing that come out of her mouth is My kids are with my baby Daddy
  • baby and daddy should not even be in the same sentence!

    By VANikia

    April 26, 2006 09:55 AM | Link to this

    Good Morning Everyone!!!

    By cadillac

    April 26, 2006 09:56 AM | Link to this

    I really hate it when older guys think that they’re so fresh still wearing big ugly gold jewelry, old sneakers tied tight, 3/4 lenth socks, shorts/jeans, with a flea market shirt!

    then they have the nerve to wear a kangol hat turned backwards…

    can you say busta

    By sJeaSexyCool

    April 26, 2006 09:56 AM | Link to this

    i feel ya’ btia…i wrap mine in tissue…so no red is showing…and then i put them in a ziploc bag before i throw them in the trash…to keep the smell down…

    *okay…extreme overshare…but…some folks may benefit…

    By runninatl

    April 26, 2006 09:57 AM | Link to this

    @MusingLee That is why you are my dawg!!! Not only will she order more than you but then she gets 3 to-go boxes for everything she never intended to eat in the first place. I’m thinking to myself, dayumn boo, I treated for dinner, I wasn’t trying to feed your azz lunch for the rest of the week too!…LOL.

    @Dawn Sorry but the living at home with mom & pop thing should go both ways, shouldn’t it? Or are we having double standards?

    @Third I don’t care if the site you are meeting folks on is IloveJesus.com, anyone can front on the net!

    “Got it twisted”, Mobb Deep

    By MyOwnPOV

    April 26, 2006 09:57 AM | Link to this

    Everybody on here talking about there own what not to do well, what about yourself do you “personally” have all your i’s dotted & t’s crossed? I doubt it very seriously, i’m sure we all have to look in our own “personal mirror” and notice some things we have to change. I’m sure we’ve all been on dates where the person went home and talked about something he/she did’nt like about us, remember people nobody’s perfect

    By Randy

    April 26, 2006 10:00 AM | Link to this

    OK here is a turnoff for me…when on the first date the lady tells me she wants to go (pick one Stoney River, Ruth’s Chris Steak House, Chops) and also she only drinks Grey Goose Vodka, etc. I really do not laying down money on a lady, but if she sends me the signal that her biggest interest is how deep is my wallet, then bye bye, I’ll buy your Grey Goose’s and your latte’s tonight and your fancy appetizers and dinner, but don’t sit by the phone anymore, I do not need you and donot want you. It isn’t the money, it is the motive.

    By mista don't play

    April 26, 2006 10:01 AM | Link to this

    ‘Sup er’body!

    @2can: about thug: i don’t think the issue was everyone pickin’ on him about his hustle as much as it was him glorifying it to a group of folks who chose another path. i don’t know if you read, but changes to mark taylor’s wikipedia profile were traced back to cathy cox’s campaign manager. thug better study up on IP addresses! any webmaster with a grudge can get yo’ a** sent upstate!

    ok, on topic.

    cell phone pimpin’ does it for me. some women can’t seem to put it down! if i have to fight a cell phone for your attention, you can forget about it!

    By BlackIce

    April 26, 2006 10:01 AM | Link to this

    Turnoff: If a guy steps to me Trying to holla WITH his wedding ring on I mean not that it is any better if he is trying to mack with it off either but dang!

    By MusingLee

    April 26, 2006 10:02 AM | Link to this

    Ok, ladies I am sorry to go hear..But this must be said…If you have a tattoo around your neck..It aint happening. That looks so tasteless to me. And why get a tattoo of your name anyway. We all should know our name by now. And no the strawberry doesn’t make it ok. LOL

    By Thckness

    April 26, 2006 10:03 AM | Link to this

    Good Morning Everyone, I have something to add. How to lose me in less than 10 minutes, no teeth, not one, such a turn-off. What’s up SHAWTY, don’t like that. sJea was right about those shoes.

    By THE WASHINGTONIAN

    April 26, 2006 10:06 AM | Link to this

    @POV H*ll No, ain’t nothin’ wrong with us! LOL

    By sJeaSexyCool

    April 26, 2006 10:07 AM | Link to this

    POV…we all know we’re NOT perfect…we’re stating preferences…dayum…somebody always got to come on here preaching…

    and just so YOU know…“The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.”

    we all know i gave up on perfect LONG ago…

    By Jezebelle

    April 26, 2006 10:07 AM | Link to this

    ( Hangs head in shame )….I do have ” back up draws” and from the looks of them dude might back up, literally if they saw me in them !! ha ha ha

    By cadillac

    April 26, 2006 10:07 AM | Link to this

    @ MOP yeah i understand that no one is perfect… but if i set aside time to make sure that my hygiene is perfected, why should i want anything less with my date. Especially my teeth and breath. thats a must of the rip.

    By BlackIce

    April 26, 2006 10:08 AM | Link to this

    The question was not what we thought turned others off about us but what turns us off about being approached…

    By MusingLee

    April 26, 2006 10:09 AM | Link to this

    Runnin you know how the ladies do at dinner. I’m not lying…Also, if I take you to dinner don’t order an egg roll for your meal and try to eat all my food. Cause I’m gonna say “Playa, you should have gotten a larger egg roll.”

    By Ivy

    April 26, 2006 10:10 AM | Link to this

    Mornin’, all.

    Nice topic, Wise!

    COB, I’m with you on your first comment. I absolutely can’t stand that and will walk away in the middle of him talking. I know it’s rude, but at that point, I’m no longer trying to be polite.

    I also can’t stand when a man brings up sex or his sexual skills when we are no where near that topic, which goes along with sayin’ something dumb. Telling me you are a freak or you will do anything sexually to please your lady or that you are “Mr. Horseding” or that you use only Magnum condoms,is such a turn off, especially if I didn’t even ask nor do I care.

    By CutieB™

    April 26, 2006 10:11 AM | Link to this

    @Myown First let me say welcome. Second, I don’t think ANYONE in this blog is saying that they are perfect. However, everyone is saying that they have a preference when it comes dating potentials. So for today get off that high @$$ horse you’ve put yourself on this morning and join in the conversation. Or are you just mad cuz someone has dissed you b/c of your flaw? Suck it up and get over it! We all got flaws sweetie that’s what makes us who we are. I have not been alot dudes type on plenty occasions but that’s not going to stop me from being particular about who I choose.

    By demigod33

    April 26, 2006 10:11 AM | Link to this

    Kym

    go to h@ll! not all short men r that bad, but i understand, gotta do you.

    pat me on me head please, will bite

    By MissQC

    April 26, 2006 10:13 AM | Link to this

    Hey Thickness, Dawn, CutieB, 3rdwhee, Musing, Runnin, BlackIce, Mr2, Gavi, Page

    y’all are off the chain this merning, and i’m trying to catch up but it ain’t working…

    By BlackIce

    April 26, 2006 10:13 AM | Link to this

    Another one, if we are having a conversation and your cell phone is constantly ringing and you are constantly answering it…turn off

    By cadillac

    April 26, 2006 10:14 AM | Link to this

    @ BlackIce, what is really going on? i guess they feel like they have nothing to hide. they never burned the “dog collar” after the wedding.

    By Jezebelle

    April 26, 2006 10:16 AM | Link to this

    LMAO @ Runnin on the Ilovejesus.com site …tooo funny

    Ure one crazy cat !

    By MusingLee

    April 26, 2006 10:17 AM | Link to this

    One of my biggest turn-offs is meeting a woman with a junky car…Contribute it to my OCD nature. But, a woman with her entire home in her car is a big No No. “Ewwww, how long have you had that coke?”…. “Oh, that’s a bottle of water, Ewwwww”

    By chink

    April 26, 2006 10:17 AM | Link to this

    Good Morning Everyone

    @ BTIA Oh my thats nasty “feminine product” comment

    Turn Offs

    Bad Breathe Bad Convo Putting on a show “frontin” Lies

    @ runnin u have “Best of Me” by jayz and Mya ….I miss that song

    By Ivy

    April 26, 2006 10:17 AM | Link to this

    Also, for me, a person can go from hot to not so hot, if he doesn’t have nice, clean teeth AND nicely manicured hands (not talking about the nail polish on them, but the neatly trimmed, clean under the nails, nice pink/natural nailbed color letting me know that you are somewhat healthy).

    By runninatl

    April 26, 2006 10:19 AM | Link to this

    @CutieB Dayumn….I guess I can leave MyOwnPOV alone since you handled that!

    “I’m a straight rider”, Tupac

    By BlackIce

    April 26, 2006 10:20 AM | Link to this

    Hey Miss QC!

    Ivy, how the heck are you?

    By Ivy

    April 26, 2006 10:20 AM | Link to this

    3rdwheel, you actually dated this man, as in went out with him more than once and he didn’t clean his booty????

    By Robin

    April 26, 2006 10:21 AM | Link to this

    I have to tell you about one of the WORST first dates I ever had.

    This guy was a real mover and shaker in the ATL. Real Estate developer.

    Turns out he is big into hunting. And, I don’t mean your everyday redneck kind of hunting, OK?

    Did you know there is some type of competition world wide for which hunter can bag the most, largest, most exotic animals?

    It was news to me. How about that these guys spend &75,000.00 or more on a hunt?

    Gesh. Well, the real killer was when he told me that he had just returned from some big hunt in a 3rd world country, and that the natives cleaned and processed the animals for the hunting party.

    I must have looked shocked. He went on to assure me that it wasn’t like slavery or anything. These natives were paid $5.00 a day for their work, and that was a lot of money for them.

    I could not get away fast enough!

    By J-Mo

    April 26, 2006 10:21 AM | Link to this

    SMOKING!!! Once I see a hot girl light it up, I always think … “what a shame”. Negative attitude is another big turnoff, and if we’ve gone on 5-6 dates, and you’ve never even offered to help pay for anything … BUH-BYE!!! I’m not your meal ticket!!! If I know the girl doesn’t make much, I’m not going to let her pay anyway, but you got to at least offer. The worst is girls that do make some jack that don’t offer.

    By THE INFAMOUS DK

    April 26, 2006 10:21 AM | Link to this

    Good day..

    My Turn offs are upon meeting are:

    Cheap Shoes… Idiots… Begging…Can I get a drink? Weave tracks showing.. a short hairdoo with a nappy neck.. Bad teeth… Moustaches.. Gang green jewelry… Too much jewelry* KISS - Keep it simple stupid*.. Too much makeup.. Trying to be slick from the jump..

    By mista don't play

    April 26, 2006 10:21 AM | Link to this

    @Musing: Ditto on the junky car.

    By MyOwnPOV

    April 26, 2006 10:22 AM | Link to this

    Ain’t nobody preaching Miss Thang sjSC i’m speaking my mind just like you and everybody else on this blog. You’re the one giving TMI talking about putting your pads/tampons covered up in tissue in a zip lock bag like we really needed to know that please! You want to hear some preaching you need to take your azz to church Sunday, now have a good day Miss Thang

    By Thickness

    April 26, 2006 10:22 AM | Link to this

    Happy Hump Day Ladies, Miss QC, 3rdwhee, Lah Lah, CutieB, Gavi, Page, Dawn, sJea, Jezabelle, Ivy

    @POV, we just having a good time while expressing a few things about our preferences. I’m sure we will find something to improve throughout the day. Be Easy

    By THE WASHINGTONIAN

    April 26, 2006 10:23 AM | Link to this

    @DA LADIES I’m going to go the other way and say that it’s a real TURN-ON when the sister at least acts like she wants to chip in on the date.

    By Thickness

    April 26, 2006 10:24 AM | Link to this

    What Up Chink, missed you yesterday.

    By Ivy

    April 26, 2006 10:26 AM | Link to this

    Lahlah, on the holey drawers….you should have told ole boy that was a no-no…..even in a joking way, cuz that’s just not cute. Torn, faded, discolored (like they used to white and now they are yellowish or they used to be black and now they are almost grey, uhn uhn).

    By aggressively witty

    April 26, 2006 10:26 AM | Link to this

    Chink …I got that version AND the hotter version with Jada on it.

    Now quick story about a stupid broad. I am dancing with this chic at kaya. We been dancing for a good while so finally we walk off the floor, i purchase a drink, we chit chatting so we get to the where are you from section. She says “im not from around here” i say “oh yeah where are you from?” this dinghy broad says ‘Decatur’ with a straight face.

    turn offs for me a broad who is clothes on fine, but clothes off a damn mess. broads who cannot pronounce words but continue to use them even AFTER they have been corrected.

    By thirdwheelflunkie

    April 26, 2006 10:26 AM | Link to this

    What’s up CutieB, Thickness and Van!!!! CutieB you are too funny!!!! another thing I just remembered… Guys or Girls that wear sandals and they have enough ash on their feet to start a fire…. It’s called lotion people… use it… Just saw my coworker walk by me and she has enough ash for us to have a campfire today and eat weenies and marshmallows…

    By Ivy

    April 26, 2006 10:29 AM | Link to this

    BTIA, throw them thangs away…..man, y’all are funny! They are always having a sale on the 3 pack of brief, boxers, boxer brief….whatever your liking….just grab a few packs every few months and you’re good.

    By demigod33

    April 26, 2006 10:29 AM | Link to this

    randy

    amen, im not cheap, but dayum h@e! dont order food for days.

    note to self:no hoodrat

    By MyOwnPOV

    April 26, 2006 10:30 AM | Link to this

    Thank you Thickness trust me i’m all about having fun, it’s always someone on here stepping outside their box saying something off the wall. But it’s all good cause i’m here to stay, i’ve been in lurkeville for a long time and just decided to come out & blog with you all for a minute or 2. Several of my co-workers are regular bloggers and i usually enjoy the daily topics, i’m not here to stir up no mess i just want to enjoy and blog when i want to like i’m doing now. I do know how to ignore the ignorant one’s

    By BlackIce

    April 26, 2006 10:31 AM | Link to this

    “Gang green jewelry” LMAO!

    By aggressively witty

    April 26, 2006 10:31 AM | Link to this

    What is it with you dudes and wanting broads to offer to chip in on a date? you ask a broad out, you should pay. The fugg? When did a broad even offering start becoming an endearing quality? This broad was eating before you came along and she will be eating long after you leave. Why the hell yall acting like 1 or 10 meals is changing the price of tea in china? GMAFB

    By Ivy

    April 26, 2006 10:31 AM | Link to this

    Dushawn, ok buddy, you are/were truly setting yourself up to cheat or be in a compromising situation. Business associate or not, if you were feeling her even slightly to the point of lusting, you should have kept it at “hey” and “bye” at work. Is your wife cool with that? Would you be cool with your wife doing that sorta thing? If so, then I won’t say anymore.

    By 2 can play that game©

    April 26, 2006 10:31 AM | Link to this

    another not-turn-off, but get the fugg outta my face, is dudes!!! Cats that wanna be down, and always trynna be “in the know”…like they got juice and can make it happen, when in reality, they’re lame as hell…always claiming, “oh, I know such and such”, or, “yeah, my homeboy, so and so” name-droppin and shyt…..what’s that saying, “yeen gotta lie to kick it!”

    By runninatl

    April 26, 2006 10:32 AM | Link to this

    I got some more action!!

    Oh heck naw….Ms Thang sjsec & CutieB, Ya’ll gonna let MyOwnPOV talk to ya’ll like that? Up in here? On blast?

    @MusingLee Grab the chips and dip, quick. It’s about to be on and poppin!!

    “No problem”, Lil Scrappy…I’m bouncing in my cube!…LOL

    By gavi1126

    April 26, 2006 10:32 AM | Link to this

    @ *Thickness, Dawn, CutieB, 3rdwhee, Musing, Runnin, BlackIce, Mr2, Gavi, Page, QC * Good late morning..

    Lets see.. my turn offs would be the guy bragging about himself right of the back..i’ll be like, um okkkay u wanna cookie ?? Then oh, yes..the jacked up teeth part..hellz no.. can’t do that.. Also no thank u on the sexual gesture.. that’s soo soon for me..

    By CutieB™

    April 26, 2006 10:32 AM | Link to this

    Sup Runnin luv u boo Okay myown this blog is like family. We all shoot the shyt and talk about everything. It’s cool that you statin your opinion but damyn. You came out the gate swingin, so you was bound to get some response. Put some hen in your cup and calm the f down!

    By THE WASHINGTONIAN

    April 26, 2006 10:33 AM | Link to this

    @POV and CUTIE* **MAJOR TURN-OFF - DRAMA QUEENS

    By BlackIce

    April 26, 2006 10:33 AM | Link to this

    Unkept hair or a nasty looking beard/goattee

    By MissQC

    April 26, 2006 10:34 AM | Link to this

    Hey VaN