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Monday, April 17, 2006
Cry me a river
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
Watching American Idol last week, I fell deeply in love. (C’mon, stop laughing! I did!)
It wasn’t my previous crush, the hot rocker boy Chris. It wasn’t even spastically endearing Taylor. It was Elliott Yamin. And what did it for me? The sparkly little tear that came to his eye when viewing a video message from his mom.
Yep, I’ll admit it. I love a man who cries.
The “sensitive male” of the 90s may be out of vogue. Even the metrosexual image of the past few years didn’t include that kind of emotional openness. But give me a guy who wears his heart on his sleeve, and there’s nothing I like better.
I’ve seen Starving Artist tear up a few times over the course of our relationship, and even in our post-breakup friendship. That kind of honesty, vulnerability and emotional availability has always been one of the things that most endeared him to me. If a man feels comfortable enough to cry in front of me, I usually feel confident that our bond is solid and the trust is there.
Ladies, is a man who cries attractive to you, or would you rather be with a more stoic, studly guy who’s too manly to cry? Do you like a sensitive man, or is that too much work for you to keep up with?
As far as me, I’m a total crier — at just about anything. There are certain movies that make me weep every time I watch them, even though I know exactly what’s going to happen. I’ve been known to get misty-eyed at commercials before. And god knows it’s possible I’ll start sobbing during an emotional discussion.
Guys, do you find this appealing, or annoying? Do your “comfort instincts” kick in when you see your girl crying, or do you just feel uncomfortable and like you don’t know what to do? Would you rather have an emotionally vulnerable partner or one who can keep her feelings under control better?
Do you consider yourself a “sensitive woman” or “sensitive man”?
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