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By Jenn in Alpharetta

January 21, 2008 8:07 AM | Link to this

Jim, I’m sorry to hear about your dog. I had no idea just how difficult the death of a pet could be until recently when our cat disappeared (assumed dead). Growing up, I went through several pet deaths and none of them were easy… but something about being the pet’s care giver this time made it especially painful. I found myself unable to face life with my usual enthusiasm until at least two weeks after her disappearance. She was an elderly cat and wasn’t going to be around a whole lot longer, but it didn’t lessen the grief we felt over her death. I was in disbelief at the power the grief held over me and surprised at how hard it was to face my days without Roxy. Sure, it sounds melodramatic, but my grief was real and gripped me for a good two weeks before I could feel like my old self again. Any how, my heart and hugs go out to you as you grieve your loss.

By gttim

January 21, 2008 8:29 AM | Link to this

I am sorry for your loss. Some people are amazed at the void an animal can leave, but they do leave one and it is frequently very big. Thanks for giving her a good life and thanks for being there for her at the end. And while she can’t be replaced, I am sure you know there are other dogs out in the world who need to be rescued and would love to be able to eat out of that third bowl.

By Aurora

January 21, 2008 8:45 AM | Link to this

I am sorry for your loss. Animals come into our hearts, and we are never quite the same. People who do not have pets, do not understand your loss. They become family members.

I lost my beloved cat when he was about 20. That was about 8 years ago, and it still tugs on my heart strings.

Funny story, I went to the shelter to find another cat, but none were available. I swore to my daughter I was not leaving there without an animal. We ended up with the sweetest Yellow Lab. I never would have thought of a dog, I’m a cat person. This dog moved right into my heart, and filled the void from the loss of my cat. We have now had this dog, for 8 years. A year or two down the road, we added two cats, and since then, one more dog. I now am “Mom” to two dogs, two cats, and one fish.

By tcote

January 21, 2008 8:55 AM | Link to this

The people who say “its only a dog” I feel sorry for because they don’t have a CLUE what the love of a pet really is…I am so sorry for your loss of Molly but thank you for giving her a wonderful home and releasing her from her pain—-RIP dear Molly

By LucyIn Buford

January 21, 2008 9:06 AM | Link to this

I love my dog as much as I love one of my children. He is 12 now and slowing down. I got him when he was 6 weeks old and I cannot imagine my life without him. I am single and live alone and he is always waiting for me when I get home at night, tail wagging, one of his dogs in his mouth for me to throw for him, ready to play. He sits at the window and watches me as I leave in the morning and because I work close to home, I come home at lunch to walk him. I can certainly understand the grief you must feel because I get a lump in my throat just thinking about. However, for all the pain I know I will suffer when he is gone, I would not give up one moment of all the love that he has given to me. I had no idea that dogs could be love on four legs but that is exactly how I see him and I KNOW that our pets are a GIFT from GOD because their love is pure and innocent and they forgive us all our transgressions and just continue to love us UNCONDITIONALLY. Bless dear Molly and imagine her “up there” or wherever makes sense to you, running through green grass, young, carefree and happy!

By aw

January 21, 2008 9:12 AM | Link to this

My mom and dad used to walk their pet Doberman, Cammy, regularly. They’d see some neighbors and wave. Shortly before Xmas of 04, Cammy become ill and had to be put down. 4 months later, my father became ill and also died. Later that Spring my mom was walking alone and one of the neighbors asked, “where’s your dog?”—my mom replied, “she died”. The neighbor then asked her how her husband was to which she replied..”he died too”. I’m sure that neighbor will never take walking the dog quite the same again.

By amy

January 21, 2008 9:23 AM | Link to this

Jim, I’m so sorry for your and your family’s loss! My husband and I have talked many times about how devastated we’ll be when we have to put our dog down—and she’s only 2! She’s always been as much a part of our family as either one of us is, and nothing could replace that. Here’s to many more days and nights with your two other furry family members, who I’m sure miss Molly as much as you do.

By RJ

January 21, 2008 9:25 AM | Link to this

Recently went through the same thing…I lost my 13 year old Border Collie (Hannah) in September. She was truly the alpha dog…and no one did anything without “her approval first”. I have 2 Goldens who for a month or 2…looked for her, or waited to come in the house before they came in…as no one could go in before Hannah. They sniffed around her bed…but didn’t lay in it…sniffed her favorite toy, but still don’t play with it. She is sorely missed by all 3 of us…but she went with me by her side…just as she was always by mine. My condolences.

By Norah

January 21, 2008 9:44 AM | Link to this

Jim, so sorry to hear about the loss of your beloved dog who from what I read in your blog was a cherished memory of the family! I have discovered a site where people can go and celebrate their pets and it’s called www.critters.com I have lost pets and this place gives me solace and connects me with other people who are experiencing the same loss - and I find it quite comforting. I hope others seek it out and they too will see what a great forum it is to celebrate our pets!

By Becky

January 21, 2008 9:58 AM | Link to this

I understand your loss. I put my beloved dog to sleep just last month. It is a very difficult thing to do when you are the one that has to take care of them in every way. He was 17 years old and I had him since he was just 4 months old. He was a member of the family just like my niece and my nephew is. When the decision was made, it affected my family as well. He was the grandog of the family. I do not have children but he was my child. To this day, it is difficult sometimes to talk about it. I do have another dog and she misses her “Bubba”. His leash has been retired and his collar is in my truck where I get to look at it every day. I know what it is to lose someone you love. People who say “it’s just a dog” does not have a clue. That is a big peeve of mine and I will never understand people who are like that.

By Nancy

January 21, 2008 10:04 AM | Link to this

Jim - I’m so sorry for your loss of Molly. I lost my beloved Peanut six weeks ago & have found comfort in this website. www://indigo.org/rainbowbridge_ver2.html. I read this poem often to remind me that my dog is waiting for me at the Rainbow Bridge. I hope it brings you some comfort, too.

By Wansley

January 21, 2008 10:13 AM | Link to this

Hi, I know exactly what you are going thru and I hurt for you too. I lost Misty on the 20th of December and I was physically sick for 4 days. I never knew that the loss of a pet would be so devastating. Yes I still have Peanut & Julia but I still find myself looking for Misty from time to time. I keep her collar out because I never want to forget her and even as I write this posting I am just crying thinking about her. I miss her so much but I know that she will always be in my heart. Thank you for sharing your story with me.

By RG

January 21, 2008 10:14 AM | Link to this

God speed, Molly.

Just A Dog by Richard A. Biby Broken Arrow, Oklahoma

From time to time, people tell me, “Lighten up, it’s just a dog,” or, “That’s a lot of money for just a dog.”

They don’t understand the distance traveled, the time spent, or the costs involved for “just a dog.”

Some of my proudest moments have come about with “just a dog.” Many hours have passed and my only company was “just a dog,” but I did not once feel slighted.

Some of my saddest moments have been brought about by “just a dog,” and in those days of darkness, the gentle touch of “just a dog” gave me comfort and reason to overcome the day.

If you, too, think it’s “just a dog,” then you will probably understand phases like “just a friend,” “just a sunrise,” or “just a promise.”

“Just a dog” brings into my life the very essence of friendship, trust, and pure unbridled joy.

“Just a dog” brings out the compassion and patience that make me a better person. Because of “just a dog” I will rise early, take long walks and look longingly to the future.

So for me and folks like me, it’s not “just a dog” but an embodiment of all the hopes and dreams of the future, the fond memories of the past, and the pure joy of the moment. “Just a dog” brings out what’s good in me and diverts my thoughts away from myself and the worries of the day. I hope that someday they can understand that it’s not “just a dog” but the thing that gives me humanity and keeps me from being “just a human.”

So the next time you hear the phrase “just a dog.” just smile, because they “just don’t understand.”

By Dale

January 21, 2008 10:19 AM | Link to this

Jim, I too am so sorry for your family’s loss. I know our beloved 7 year old is like a child to us and you should not have to lose “your child”.Only people with a love of animals can understand that. You have my sympathy. Dale

By LISA B

January 21, 2008 10:20 AM | Link to this

I know exactly how you feel. We were proud owners of 2 bassett hounds (Spunky (male)m Sobie (female) and a beagle (Hunter). The weekend of December 1 & 2 I was out in the backyard playing with them, all three running around playing as usual. On Tuesday, December 4, 2007, I went down in the basement to go outdoors to feed them all, and Sobie would not come out of the dog house. I finally coached and did a little fussing to get her to come out, when she exited the dog house I knew then something was horribly wrong. We took her the the emergency room vet, and with blood work they diagnosed her with a liver disease. I took her home and we stayed up all night just watching her, she wouldn’t look at me, she only slept with her nose facing the wall and never a waggling tail. The next morning I took her to my vet (Dr. Wallace/Gwinnett Animal Clinic) and the did x-rays and a sonogram and the most devastating results anyone could ever imagine, LIVER CANCER, I really had a hard time because not just 2 days before she was running around like nothing was wrong. I had to put my loving Sobie to sleep on 12/5/07 at 10:40AM, I held her and the vet had given me several things to look for since I have never had to do this before, and he said that she would go to sleep but her eyes would remain open. Let me tell you guys, this is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life, but my Sobie went to sleep with me talking to her and she closed her eyes for me. My house is still and will never be the same. My others still look for her to this day. The male bassett hound, stands in the back yard and barks, I guess he is wondering where she went. She will always hold a special place in my heart, I wear a dog tag with her picture on it (Which my son gave me for Xmas) everyday.

By Terri

January 21, 2008 10:54 AM | Link to this

Jim, I’m so sorry for your loss. I too lost my beloved friend about 6 weeks ago. Katie Belle was a beautiful 14 year old golden retriever. She had been in our family since the age of 7 weeks. Katie had an aggressive form of cancer along with other ailments associated with senior age in dogs. I opted to have her euthanized so that she didn’t have to suffer any longer. She was surrounded by people who loved her. Several of my closest friends and my father were with us at the time. Before the doctor administered the first shot, Katie went to each person in the room, seemingly to know that the end was near. Just like the unselfish and enduring love of a dog, she went to everyone to put them at ease, to let them know it was okay, and to look after “mom” when it was over. She passed away in my arms and she knew she was loved. There is no love like the love of a dog. It is unconditional and it is guaranteed, will always be there no matter what. I know that someday Katie Belle will meet me at the Rainbow Bridge and we will take long walks together again. I miss her terribly but in my heart I know she’s much better off. It’s never easy to lose a pet.

By John

January 21, 2008 11:08 AM | Link to this

I’m sorry for your loss.

Two weeks ago we lost our 15 year old dog and the month before I said goodbye to my 20 year old cat. Both deaths were expected but the void is still there. They had been with me for most of my adult life. I sometimes think I see them out of the corner of my eye and then realize they aren’t there anymore.

But I know they both had great, long lives. I will miss them for awhile though.

By Robert

January 21, 2008 11:27 AM | Link to this

It’s been 7 yrs since we lost our beloved Great Dane. We still are not over losing him he was such a joy for us totally part of our family. 1 yr later his female half died out of lonelyness she never got over him being gone. One day we will have more but not now not until we can give them the best life possible.

By fk

January 21, 2008 11:30 AM | Link to this

So sorry for your loss. Remember the joy. Some people don’t get it until they fall in love with a dog of their own. My husband and I were two such people.

We got ours, a yellow lab, when our son was in the first grade. The puppy was supposed to be our son’s dog. We saw the litter at 48 hours old and our son picked him out at two weeks. We waited another long 5 weeks for him to arrive at our home. My husband was hesitant about getting the dog in the first place. I knew that the puppy had won his heart over the night I saw my husband crawl into the crate and give the puppy a kiss good-night. Our dog is now 10-1/2 years old…and is still our puppy.

While home for a summer visit, I was with my brother when he had to put his dog down. Hard to see a tough guy lose it. Thought he was taking the dog into the vet about something he thought the dog ate. Sadly, his dog had tumors everywhere.

By Lisa

January 21, 2008 11:33 AM | Link to this

I am sorry to hear about your loss. I recently moved from Georgia back to Alabama due to an illness that only gives me the energy to work part time. I moved from Georgia with my two cats. Within two months of moving, one of the cats was missing (presumed dead). Though she had been with me for 5 years, she had been a stray before that and always did like to go outside. When she couldn’t go outside, she was happy to just sit on my screened in porch and look outside. When we moved to this new town, there was only a small apartment with no porch and she ran out one day and perhaps got lost. I have been through a range of emotions since this happened and think about her everyday especially when I look at my other cat whom I had got as a baby to keep her company. She would curl up beside her — now there is no one to curl up beside. It’s been very difficult and though I continue to feed the stray animals, I don’t think I will adopt another and make her a house cat. The hardest part is not knowing what happened to her in the end and the possibility that she suffered. I cry about it often but am trying to get over it and ‘lean not on my own understanding’.

By ScottAtlanta

January 21, 2008 11:43 AM | Link to this

“Beau” by Jimmy Stewart

He never came to me when I would call Unless I had a tennis ball, Or he felt like it, But mostly he didn’t come at all.

When he was young He never learned to heel Or sit or stay, He did things his way.

Discipline was not his bag But when you were with him things sure didn’t drag. He’d dig up a rosebush just to spite me, And when I’d grab him, he’d turn and bite me.

He bit lots of folks from day to day, The delivery boy was his favorite prey. The gas man wouldn’t read our meter, He said we owned a real man-eater.

He set the house on fire But the story’s long to tell. Suffice it to say that he survived And the house survived as well.

On the evening walks, and Gloria took him, He was always first out the door. The Old One and I brought up the rear Because our bones were sore.

He would charge up the street with Mom hanging on, What a beautiful pair they were! And if it was still light and the tourists were out, They created a bit of a stir.

But every once in a while, he would stop in his tracks And with a frown on his face look around. It was just to make sure that the Old One was there And would follow him where he was bound.

We are early-to-bedders at our house— I guess I’m the first to retire. And as I’d leave the room he’d look at me And get up from his place by the fire.

He knew where the tennis balls were upstairs, And I’d give him one for a while. He would push it under the bed with his nose And I’d fish it out with a smile.

And before very long He’d tire of the ball And be asleep in his corner In no time at all.

And there were nights when I’d feel him Climb upon our bed And lie between us, And I’d pat his head.

And there were nights when I’d feel this stare And I’d wake up and he’d be sitting there And I reach out my hand and stroke his hair. And sometimes I’d feel him sigh and I think I know the reason why.

He would wake up at night And he would have this fear Of the dark, of life, of lots of things, And he’d be glad to have me near.

And now he’s dead. And there are nights when I think I feel him Climb upon our bed and lie between us, And I pat his head.

And there are nights when I think I feel that stare And I reach out my hand to stroke his hair, But he’s not there.

Oh, how I wish that wasn’t so, I’ll always love a dog named Beau.

By LJ

January 21, 2008 12:06 PM | Link to this

I am so sorry for your loss. Our cat of 9 years died unexpectedly a few days after Christmas. My husband and I still find ourselves listening for his meow. Our English Mastiff also senses that he’s gone, but I think she’s adjusted better than we have. The first thing I said was, we’re not getting another cat. My son’s words of wisdom… the 9 wonderful years we had with him will far outweigh the 3 or 4 days of grieving. Enjoy Jake and Sydney, spoil them rotten while you’re blessed with their presence.

By Susan

January 21, 2008 12:18 PM | Link to this

By the time I finished reading about Molly, I had tears in my eyes. Only pet lovers can understand your situation and to all the others, it’s not worth the time eplaining. My heart goes out to you and your family, including Jake and Sydney. The pain and longing will lessen, but you will always have a little “missing sorrow” when you think of Molly..and all the wonderful memories. But she is happy now, cancer and pain free, running around in Heaven.

By cheryl

January 21, 2008 12:53 PM | Link to this

My sincerest condolences. For those of you who suffer from the loss of your beloved pet, there is help: aplb.org…. They have online chats several times a week & Dr Sife is an incredible individual… I found this organisation when I put my beloved cat Charlie to sleep several years ago. Compassionate & caring, you will find succor,solace & comfort.

Blessed Be…

By Ron

January 21, 2008 1:44 PM | Link to this

Please accept our sympathies Jim. We also lost a treasured Border Collie named Molly under the same circumstances a few months ago. This spring we plan on welcoming a new pet into our lives, as it seems to be the best tribute in honoring a loved animal who has passed—they gave you their best and now it is time to share that love with another animal. When you get a puppy you know what is waiting down the timeline for you ( hopefully not for many years) but you gladly trade it all for the good times you both enjoy over the years. Not every animal has the privilege of being cared for by someone like you and your family—Molly was indeed blessed.

By Sam

January 21, 2008 1:50 PM | Link to this

We lost our basset “Flash” on January 10th to oral cancer. He was only 8. The vet that operated on him said he had 6-8 months to live, but it was only 8 weeks. Our vet made a house call for the euthanasia, so he died in our arms, in his home.

By csk219

January 21, 2008 2:29 PM | Link to this

We awoke one November morning to the sound of our very old cat thrashing around the bed.  She was having trouble breathing and then was walking aroung in circles. We then noticed that her pupils were very large even with the lights on.  She did not know who we were until we got close so she could smell us. I looked on the internet and realized she had a stroke.  We took her to a 24 hr emegency vet clinic.  The vet confirmed our fears she had a stroke.  She was blind and having trouble breathing. The vet gave us some options he could treat her with a very very slim hope of recovery or we could put her to sleep.  My husband and I decided that the best course was to put her down. She was 15 years old and was a very much loved and we could not bear to see her suffer. We miss her very much and I still think I hear moving around the house. My husband and I are not going to get another cat because there was on one Tinkerbelle and no other cat will ever take her place.

By GB

January 21, 2008 2:42 PM | Link to this

I was pulled to this blog because I experienced a loss of a dog last year. I’m in tears remembering my dog, Sampson. He was poisoned by medicine after a year of treating a recurring rash. My vet is located 20 miles from me (we went to school together @ UGA) and I had to drive across town with a dying dog; then bak home without him. It still hurts today because I could not stay with him when they put him down. He was with us for 10 years and always full of spunk; until the end. I know what everyone has felt and I regret not being there until the end. I still have a lab who is very healthy yet 14 years old. I’m looking to getting another adoptee in order to share the love again.

By Cricket

January 21, 2008 2:43 PM | Link to this

I’m very sorry Jim to hear about Molly. I’ve just learned this week that my beloved first blessing, Frazier the Beagle, has kidney disease. I’ve spent this weekend giving him sub-q fluids in an effort to hopefully give him a few more months, but I know what is to come. I am the proud mother of 6 beautiful fur-kids; but Frazier is my first and holds more meaning and memories then anything in my life. I cannot at this time, comprehend what is about to happen. This part never came into mind when I decided to start rescuing these beautiful babies. I don’t know how I will deal, but I know I have to for the sake of the others. I will lift you up in prayer, and ask that you do the same. They will never be “just a dog” - for he is “just my life”.

By April

January 21, 2008 3:25 PM | Link to this

I lost my best friend of 12 years in October. She was more like a child to me than a dog. She was there for me through so much. She was born at my parents home and I was there to witness it and I was there when I had to put her to sleep. I read your words and it brought tears to my eyes and made me feel the pain of losing my baby all over again. Like you stated some people will never understand, and will say, “it is just a dog” but those are the ones who have NEVER loved a dog like those of us that have commented. I still have her collar, and her food bowl, and they are put up. I look at them from time to time and it makes my heart catch a little. I can so relate to your pain. I do not think I will ever get over losing my best friend.

By Barbara

January 21, 2008 3:26 PM | Link to this

Molly was so lucky to have been cared for by you and your family for many years! Three of my rescue dogs have lived to beyond 18 years and my 20 year old Cocker-Spaniel, “Smokey” is my constant companion. I count my blessings and realize that every day with him is a gift!

By jc

January 21, 2008 3:29 PM | Link to this

I have a 3 legged dog named Festus who just turned 12 and he also has a tumor and after reading this story I must prepare myself for what could happen. I watched this dog come out of his mothers stomach and when I saw he was missing a leg I knew right then he would be special and that he was not going to be given away. his siblings use to pick on him and had a hard time getting milk from his mother so you can say he has been like a child to me. he has become glued to my hip the last couple of years and I know when the time comes it will be very tough. Some people just don’t understand the love an animal can bring and why we were so upset with the Michael Vick situation because these animals are funny and have so much love in their hearts for you. God Bless all who have been touched by such love and loyalty by these beautiful animals.

By 4 legged mama

January 21, 2008 3:42 PM | Link to this

I have a shirt and the quote on it is priceless: Until one has loved an animal, a part of one’s sole remains unawakened. Those who have truly loved and let an animal into their heart will understand.

By Still Grieving

January 21, 2008 3:47 PM | Link to this

I am extremelly sorry to hear about your loss. I lost my cat (15 years old)at the end of December. That is on top of the loss of my 18 year old Yorkshire Terrier back in May. You know that your babies are getting older and are not quite what they used to be but it is still a shock when they pass away. My house is extremely quite. My cat used to jump up in the chair when I came home and head butt me gently three times to welcome me home. You never quite get over not hearing them. I will be thinking about you and your family. Keep an eye on your other animals because I truely believe that my cat grieved herself to death. She would walk around and look for her friend constantly. Good Luck.

By Janet

January 21, 2008 4:03 PM | Link to this

Jim, I’m sorry for your family’s loss. It’s been 8 years since I had to put my poodle of 17 years to sleep. It’s still hard. I still tear up thinking about him. He will always be with me in my heart. Molly will always be with you and your family. I have a yorkie now. I have had him for 4 years. It’s amazing how many ways he is alot like my poodle. It’s as if he was re-incarnated.

By Susan

January 21, 2008 4:15 PM | Link to this

I agree with the above posts—-you should always seek another opportunity to rescue another pet from the Animal care and Control. To some of the posters, who said they will “never get another cat or dog” I urge to please, please reconsider this. There are so many loving animals that desperately need a home. Cats and dogs alike.

By Shari

January 21, 2008 4:26 PM | Link to this

Your oolumn made me cry. I am a huge animal lover, and know about the loss of pets. It never is easy to loose a family member. May you smile at the memories and may your hearts heal. You will never be able to replace them, but another puppy out there needs to be loved too. I hope and pray you find that special one that will make you love again.

By Michelle

January 21, 2008 4:37 PM | Link to this

Dear Jim, I’m so sorry for your loss. Some people might say that it’s just a dog but, as others have said, they just don’t know the joy of having a pet. In September last year, we lost our beautiful, sweet beagle who we rescued 8 years ago. He got diabetes about 3 years ago and has been a constant worry ever since. Every time he got sick though he bounced back until one night he had a seizure and a week later we had to let him go. The emptiness of our house remains - we call his name by accident, we miss his footsteps, my father still gets misty-eyed. Your column made me cry thinking of the hole in my heart where our little Simon once lived. I hope you find joy in your happy memories of Molly and in the love your remaining dogs give you. Our remaining dog, a lovely 10-year old black lab, is loved and appreciated so much more now that we remember what loss feels like. It may sound strange but enjoy the grief because it says you have a heart that can love. and all too soon, you might forget her and that would be a shame. All the best.

By IAMADOGPERSON

January 21, 2008 4:41 PM | Link to this

WE HAD FOUR DOGS AND NOW THERE ARE ONLY THREE. SINCE WE LOST TOPPER AFTER 12 YEARS THERE IS A HUGE HOLE IN OUR HEARTS. YES WE HAVE THREE DOGS STILL AND LOVE EACH ONE AS WE ALWAYS HAVE….BUT WE JUST DON’T HAVE “THE BOY”. I BELIEVE THERE ARE ANGELS AMONG US; SENT DOWN TO US FROM SOMEWHERE UP ABOVE…AND THEY HAVE FOUR LEGS.

By everydayjane

January 21, 2008 5:08 PM | Link to this

Our family recently (Dec.26th 2007) lost our beloved Ruby, she was a ten year old Yorkie. She was diagnosed with Lymphoma & aprox. 4 weeks later - euthanized once I believed she was suffering. I’ve always been an animal lover. Unless you’ve loved a pet you really can’t explain the loss. People can be insensitive, but it doesn’t matter to me - I don’t make any excuses for the dog that was a part of our family. I have fond memories of her “protecting” my infant son from my older daughter (they really had a sibling rivalry thing going.) Even though she was only 9lbs, she thought she was HUGE! Always ready to protect her family! The loyalty cannot be explained, even in her last days when her breathing was labored she still would “muster” up the strength to follow me around the house. She brought so much joy into our hearts over the years. Thanks Ruby for the unconditional love you gave us, and I know you understood we loved you unconditionally. Forever in our hearts!

By LuvMyDog

January 21, 2008 5:14 PM | Link to this

I dread the day that something happens to my dog, Opie. He’s been with me through some hard times and before I met my husband. They didn’t trust each other at first and now their buddies. Opie knows who to beg for food, lol. But when I think about the day he’s not going to be begging to go outside and roll around in the grass or bark when he sees ANYTHING move outside I can’t help but cry. My dog means the world to me, I know that will change when I have kids but for now he’s my baby. We snuggle every night in bed before he’s taken to his ‘room’ and I can only hope that people have as much sympathy for me then as they do here when my fuzzy little pup is no longer around.

By Tony

January 21, 2008 5:27 PM | Link to this

Jim:

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. No matter what some say, it is not “only a dog.” We have four dogs and seven cats, and could not stand to lose the smallest of them. They are part of your family, and losing one is just as painful as losing a family member. Since we have lived in our present home, (21 years) I have had to bury three little dogs and one cat. Cried like a baby each time, and so did my wife and kids. No, it’s not just a dog, it’s part of your family. Remember, all pets go to heaven! God bless.

By Nina

January 21, 2008 5:46 PM | Link to this

It’s just love, not just a dog or a cat. Sweet pure love and the only consolation is that the love is eternal and the soul survives.

By Denise

January 21, 2008 5:51 PM | Link to this

Jim, I am so sorry for your loss. They are never “just a dog” or “just a cat” to the families that love them. I lost one of my most beloved cats almost 7 years ago and I miss him still. I have other cats and got a pitiful little rescue kitten a week after he died. none of them will ever take Fuzzy’s place, but they help fill that huge spot left by the “bestest cat in the whole world,” which is what I used to tell him he was every day. I urge those who have lost a pet not to replace that pet, but open your hearts to another. There are lots of animals that need loving homes where they can live out their lives in such happy places.

By Charles

January 21, 2008 5:53 PM | Link to this

I had to put my 16 year old cat, Winston, down last July and I still grieve. He was my best buddy and companion. I shall always cherish his memory. His spirit lives on and I expect us to be reunited in Heaven. I know this sounds juvenile but I believe it as steadfastly as I do in our Living God.

By Lauren

January 21, 2008 5:57 PM | Link to this

I’m so sorry about your loss. I know exactly how you feel after just having my 10-year-old cat Boo put to sleep a little over a week ago. He also had cancer. It was such a shock and still is. He had always been healthy until a few months ago. We tried everything but at the end, I knew he was ready to go and was there for him as he passed into Heaven in peace. Thankfully, we have adopted again and I believe Boo brought Lily to us. She has been a joy and has taken away some of the heartbreak. Again, you have my deepest sympathies.

By LJ

January 21, 2008 6:01 PM | Link to this

I can’t add much to what others have said. No one who has loved and lost a pet could every say, “It was just a dog.” As Nina said, regardless of Molly’s being a dog or anything else, it was love, and no other love is every so uncomplicated, so simple, so straightforward as that for animals. Our love for our children is pure, but it’s rarely simple or uncomplicated. Molly was a personality and part of your family. Having had my own loss of a 12-year-beloved pet in September, I understand. Mine left two other beloved pets, but they can’t replace her any more than she could replace them. I am sorry.

By LJ

January 21, 2008 6:01 PM | Link to this

I can’t add much to what others have said. No one who has loved and lost a pet could every say, “It was just a dog.” As Nina said, regardless of Molly’s being a dog or anything else, it was love, and no other love is ever so uncomplicated, so simple, so straightforward as that for animals. Our love for our children is pure, but it’s rarely simple or uncomplicated. Molly was a personality and part of your family. Having had my own loss of a 12-year-beloved pet in September, I understand. Mine left two other beloved pets, but they can’t replace her any more than she could replace them. I am sorry.

By turtle

January 21, 2008 6:10 PM | Link to this

I, too, lost a pet this past year. My Cleo came into my life when I was senior in high school and stayed with me for almost 18 years. She went to college with me, welcomed my son when my husband and I brought him home from the hospital, and moved from city to city with me. I still think I see her every so often. I do have another cat, but it is not the same without her. I know that she is happy, healthy, and sunning herself.

By John B

January 21, 2008 6:27 PM | Link to this

In many parts of the world dogs and cats are human food. Place you love in another himan being and not a lower life form. Dead is dead, animal or human; get on with your life!

By Kevin

January 21, 2008 6:27 PM | Link to this

Jim:

I am sorry to hear about the loss of Molly. The pain of losing a pet is every bit as intense as losing a human family member. I am the owner of Pet Dreams Memorial Center, and I would love to provide your beloved Molly a dedicated tribute on our website at no cost. The section is called “Your Pet’s Life” and once completed you can email the link for Molly’s page to friends and relatives. In turn, they can post messages and notes back to you directly on that tribute. Please feel free to view this section. If you would like a tribute for Molly, please email me several pictures and a story, prayer, poem or letter about Molly’s life. We will be happy to get the page put togther quickly and will then email you the link to her page.

Please let me know if we can help you with any grief material as well.

Kevin Marcy kevin@petdreamsmemorial.com

By John B

January 21, 2008 6:28 PM | Link to this

In many parts of the world dogs and cats are human food. Place you love in another himan being and not a lower life form. Dead is dead, animal or human; get on with your life!

By Joe W

January 21, 2008 7:21 PM | Link to this

JOHN B You show your intelligence by your words and your spelling-NONE. You obviously have no life if you take the time to voice such vile sentiments. You take up space that could be better used by any animal on God’s green earth. You are the lower life form you refer to - you A$$.

By Sally

January 21, 2008 7:25 PM | Link to this

My deepest sympathies to your family. Several weeks after losing my 12 year old retriever, my daughter found a scrawny little puppy. I knew without question that I was not “ready” for another dog. However, that little puppy whimpered & tilted her head. She needed a family, and she has been the greatest blessing. She is the princess of our household and a wonderful companion. I, too, encourage those of you who’ve lost a pet to open your hearts again. Not to replace, but to help an animal in need.

By A.

January 21, 2008 7:42 PM | Link to this

Sorry for your loss Jim,I too lost my Best friend back in July of 2007. She was a 13 year old English Bulldog. My world has been turned upside down ever since. So I know all to well what your family is experiencing. The loss of a pet is hard. Family and friends don’t know what to say or even understand why it hurts so much and you try to explain, but still they don’t understand. I know life goes on after your friend has passed,but you will always have the memories that your friend has left behind. Your pet is waiting on you now, at Rainbow Bridge. This is a lovely poem that someone sent me when My pet passed. Hope this gives you some comfort. Rainbow Bridge ~ Just this side of Heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge. When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable. All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those hurt or maimed are made whole again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind. They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; his eager body begins to quiver. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster. You have been spotted and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face, your hands caress the beloved head and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone before your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross the Rainbow Bridge together…

• Author Unknown

By Barbara

January 21, 2008 7:56 PM | Link to this

Jim,I totally understand your grief. I’ve had three cats I had to put down and make those decisions on my own. I still get upset when I discuss the times I went through this. Pets are truly God’s gifts to us. For all the pain you’re feeling, you have to constantly remind yourself of all the time and love they’ve given you. I’ll always have pets, knowing I’ll go through the situation of putting them down when the time comes.

I also help pets get adopted on the weekends. I feel that I can at least give of my time to assist good pets find new homes.

FYI, I didn’t think I’d get to the end to leave a message, as there are so many condolences to you. That, in itself, should give you an idea of the number of people that love animals. There’s something terribly wrong with those that don’t.

Wishing you the best during your time of grief, and yes, it does get better. It just takes awhile. Remember, we have to go through the pain in order to appreciate the joys in life.

My prayers are with you.

By Juicy's Mama

January 21, 2008 8:01 PM | Link to this

You must’ve been reading my mind. I lost my little dog Juicy on 1/9/08. She died in my arms 15 minutes after I picked her up from the vet. I had her for 12 years. My parents and I were and are still devastated. We’re still grieving but we’re getting better. I didn’t even want to talk to anyone for over a week because I didn’t want to hear someone say “she was only a dog”.

By bobby

January 21, 2008 8:29 PM | Link to this

Anyone who says a dog or any pet is just an animal has never been lucky enough to have a loving dog. I have two and dread the thought that I might lose one or both. They are only five and I know my time is getting short. I don’t know what bothers me most, that they would go before me or me leaving them and not knowing that how they would be taken care of by someone else.

By Matthew

January 21, 2008 9:32 PM | Link to this

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. “It was only a dog”? Oh, no. Anyone who can say that doesn’t understand. There’s a reason that Farley’s death in For Better or For Worse years ago and the recent Michael Vick case have drawn such strong emotions, that movies like Ol’ Yeller can make adults cry, or that the most fitting tribute to Lewis Grizzard was the editorial cartoon of him being greeted in heaven by his faithful lab Catfish. Charles Schulz got it right: “happiness is a warm puppy.” My wife is dealing with a chronic autoimmune disorder and our miniature poodle is her constant companion, always by her side at home and able to comfort her when I’m not able to. Love and loyalty like that can’t be replaced.

By DB

January 21, 2008 9:39 PM | Link to this

Jim, my condolences on the loss of your beloved Molly. She was obviously a very lucky dog, to have such a loving family, and such a touching memorial. I spent weeks and weeks after the death of our cats (at age 15 and 16) thinking I was seeing a shadow flit just outside my line of sight, and I would turn quickly, and then remember, and then it would hurt all over again.

Peace, friend.

By Beagle Mom

January 21, 2008 9:53 PM | Link to this

They are not “just dogs or just cats” they are our best friends and members of our family.

My condolences to you and your family.

By AP

January 22, 2008 12:08 AM | Link to this

It’s not just a dog (or cat).

My dogs are my best friends. When I feel like I am going through the depths of hell, he snuggles up to me and she licks my hand. It’s their way of telling me that it’s going to be ok and they love me.

When I’m on top of the world, he jumps up and down and she yaps a mile a minute. It’s their way of telling me that they are happy and they love me.

When I pull up in the driveway every evening, they both run to the window wagging their tails and jumping over each other to try to get to me first. It’s their way of telling me they’ve missed me.

When I’m sick, they both lay right beside me….and whenever they are sick, I stay take them to the vet and stay right beside them.

I give them a food and water, a warm bed, toys, and all of the other things that a pet needs. They give me the best thing of all: their unconditional love.

Jim, I’m sorry for your loss. Molly was not just a dog.

By Lisa

January 22, 2008 7:58 AM | Link to this

Jim: My condolences on the loss of Molly.

We had an incident similar to yours a few years back. We boarded our St. Bernard Hannibal for Thanksgiving. The Friday after the vet called to inform is that Hannibal is experiencing bloat. He was 10 years old, the cost of operation was in the thousands and did not guarantee success.

Hannibal died with us holding him,telling him what a good dog he was. We loved that dog, and as I type,I am crying at the memory of the moment and how I miss such a great dog.

Again, my condolences to you and your family. There are other who others who understand your grief.

By Uraina

January 22, 2008 9:17 AM | Link to this

I am reading “Rescuing Sprite” by Mark Levin. You might like to read it later but he puts into prospective just what a family pet means. You will shed tears reading this book. I lost my poodle, Baby, a year ago on Jan. 28 and I definitely lost a family member. Believe me when I say, I feel your pain.

By Blackshepherd

January 22, 2008 9:30 AM | Link to this

Only another dog lover would understand your loss, void and pain.

Although what I am about to say some of you may not fully agree(and thats ok, to each his own) My Main reason for keeping more then 1 or 2 even 3dogs is I am afraid of losing 1. I own 4shepherds. They are my kids. My heart instantly skips a beat if I call and only 3 show up. I immediately look for the 4th. I have NO children. People’s pets are their children. As I stated. Only a pet/dog lover would understand your lost. I fully fully understand as I have had to give up/put down dogs. The feeling remained for weeks after.

By Jim Osterman

January 22, 2008 9:54 AM | Link to this

To my new friends:

Folks, my wife and I cannot thank you enough for all the kind words this post has inspired.

We still miss Molly but thanks to you my heart is full.

By Wynema ONeal

January 22, 2008 11:50 AM | Link to this

I have three little ones-Mommy, Daddy and baby. You are so true! They are a part of your life and family. I love my babies and can’t see them not being around.

By margie

January 23, 2008 9:55 AM | Link to this

I usually read your column on Mondays, but with unexpected “family news”, I simply forgot. This morning I logged on and boy did I cry many tears. I remember all the wonderful evenings by the chiminea solving the world’s problem, while Molly, Jake and Syndey sat near by. She will always hold a special place in my heart as do Jake and Sydney. I’m so glad she was surrounded by love as she left this world, but then again knowing your family….I wouldn’t have expected anything less.

By Tom Osterman

January 23, 2008 9:59 PM | Link to this

You loved her. Are you supposed to stop loving her just because she’s gone? We’ve lost pets who were with us for “only” a few months, or who was “only” a mouse. It hurts now, but in time the grief will lessen. The good news is that you’ll always keep the memories, and the love.

By REM

January 24, 2008 6:21 PM | Link to this

Jim, first I want to offer my condolences & sadness to you and your Family in your loss. And, of course, Molly was not “..only a dog…”. I must admit that had I read your article even 6 years or so ago, I might have felt that you were overreacting to the loss of a “pet”. That was before we got our wonderful little boy who brought us so, so much more joy than we could ever have imagined. He truly was a member of the Family; and we actually didn’t think that he was a dog, but a small boy trapped in a dog’s body because he had such personality, warmth and love.

We lost our little boy at a waaay too early age of 8-1/2 in late August after a 2-1/2 month illness - he fought hard but just couldn’t go on any longer; this coming Sunday will be exactly 5 months, but it seems as if we have been without him for so, so much longer. The initial grief was almost unbearable, but it continues in some way on a daily basis. As you mention, there is always something that will occur that is going to bring up memories, which is bittersweet.

Though it was hard going through it, we were also there with our guy when he left us, in our bed very early in the morning; and I know that he knew that his Family was there with him as he took his last breath. Since it was so very early in the morning, I was able to just hold him in my arms for 2-1/2 hours until the crematorium opened. And speaking of the crematorium, I want to highly recommend Paws, Whiskers & Wags (I have no personal or financial interest in this business, BTW). They truly are so very compassionate and even just recently had a wonderful reception and Celebration of Life for all of the “pets” who were lost and they handled in 2007 - it was very tastefully done and a really nice ceremony and tribute, with each animal’s picture and name flashed on a large screen slideshow).

Though, we have now gotten another little guy to try to help fill the void, I think daily of the little boy we lost and will never forget him or the many happy times he brouhgt to our lives - he will live in our hearts forever and ever.

So, Jim, let me just say again that I certainly understand your grief and not being able to move her leash from the car and also to say again how very, very sorry I am for y’alls loss.

Molly is in a better place now and will wait at The Rainbow Bridge until she is reunited with you.

By Leslie

February 2, 2008 10:04 AM | Link to this

We have a Katie & a Molly. The oldest, Katie has been sick for 2 weeks, so there have been moments when we wondered if she will get better. They are such a big part of our lives, that losing them is painful to even think about. I love that you still have Molly’s things out & stand at the door a few minutes longer (for her)! I feel sorry for the people that think “it was only a dog” because they are missing out on one of the greatest unconditional loves.