Movie Talk

By Somer

October 22, 2007 8:08 PM | Link to this

I am really surprised at all the men who told me they loved the movie. The one thing I can honestly say that Tyler Perry need to stop suggesting is that a big, fat obese woman who does not take care of herself can go out and pull a sexy, well built gentleman that she does not have to financially take care of. Unless that woman has millions, a NY penthouse, A-list celebrity contacts and is on “The View” daily, it’s not going down! Men who take care of their body want the same & vice versa. I have never in my entire life seen that big girl fantasy happen.

By E

October 22, 2007 9:12 PM | Link to this

Well guess what you’re wrong Somer. I’m petite and has always wondered how the big girls get the well built guys. Maybe you need to pay attention a little more. I still don’t understand it and I too has asked to same question. I know at least two couples right off the top.

By Truth teller

October 22, 2007 9:41 PM | Link to this

That comment by “E” is rediculous.My circle of successful, well built, heterosexual men does not and has never included any fat women. We may choose a thick female, but height is still in proportion to weight. “E” is probably one of those “too skinny” women, you know the body of a “Q” tip. No offense, but brothers with money, prestige and good looks simply have higher standards.

By Living the fantasy ...

October 22, 2007 10:32 PM | Link to this

I am a fat woman & have a wonderful, good looking, in shape husband (yes, I said HUSBAND) who does ALL of the right things.

Women (skinny ones in particular) always seem suprised at how handsome my husband is, not to mention how nice my wedding rings are, guess I’m supposed to be wearing the plastic rings out the cracker jack box cuz I’m a big girl & unworthy of love or a good life.

You know, fat girls aren’t supposed to have anything nice we’re supposed to be alone for the rest of our lives cuz society deems us unworthy … NOT.

You see by the end of this movie, the man who was dissing his big wife wanted her back right? Yeah it does happen, don’t sleep.

We both work good paying jobs, are equal partners on all levels & take care of home in every way imaginable, just like the “skinny couples” do. GASP say it ain’t so!

Oh & by the way, I know just as many if not more skinny women financially taking care of their man (brothers in particular) as fat women. that sad fact affects all women.

Unfortunately, brothers with money, prestige & good looks usually choose white women over black women anyway. So I don’t feel like I’m missing a thing!

I have MANY single black female friends who are thin, nice bodies (by society standards), stay in shape, have great jobs, are college grads, own their own homes, the list goes on. They can’t seem find a decent brother/man willing to commit cuz many men know they can have their pick of the litter.

& let’s not even get into the down low brothers who are confused, lost & turned out, using women to front to the world while they make up their minds.

Not to brag but some women I know are a bit jealous that I was able to find a good man, with my big self. How dare I destroy the myth & live a good life anyway, huh? Sad but true!

So yeah, there are some brothers/men who don’t judge a book by its cover & are happy with a bigger woman. Thank God!

By dropnknowledge

October 22, 2007 11:13 PM | Link to this

I would like to co-sign “living the fantasy’s thoughts” I lived in the ATL for 15yrs and worked at AT&T where there were plenty of single physically attractive women, however one of my favorite co-workers was overweight and not attractive by societies standards but she had a husband who looked even better than the former football character in the movie a set of adorable twin boys a beautiful home built from scratch in stone mountain, nice car and a huge rock on her hand!

When her husband stopped by AT&T to see her, the single women would flaunt their stuff to him and he would ignore their attempts to get his attention and make a beeline to his wife and showered her with respect and affection.

I observed the incredulity and contempt they had towards my co-worker wondering how did she have all of that and they didnt!

The movie was an excellent snapshot of African life in america

By Ilovethismovie

October 22, 2007 11:38 PM | Link to this

Living the fantasy I love your comments. I too am obese and black. I am still young but I had given up any chance of being happy and finding love. After reading your post I am glad to see that I might have a glimer of a chance!

By kat

October 22, 2007 11:46 PM | Link to this

living the fantasy i am a skinny sister. do NOT waste your time justifying your beauty or your blessings to shallow ass backwards idiots. i don’t know what has happened to our people. no, i know what has happened - we value everything over God and family now. but it’s sad that where most of us once rooted FOR each other and praised God for one another’s blessings, we are now jealous, spiteful, envious and hateful. that’s why i say don’t try to justify. pray for the foolish ones, thank God for yor blessings and keep on wit’cho bad self girl. cause every body ain’t lookin’ at’cha that way. some of us still smile when we see people blessed with love and joy and peace and happiness.

By keshaun

October 23, 2007 2:02 AM | Link to this

I too must agree with “living the fantasy”. I am a beautiful big woman with brains to match and I too have a gorgeous, sexy brother who adores me and loves me flaws and all. I know how many women throw themselves at him and still, he choses me! Recognize that I said “choses” because I realize it’s a struggle everyday to resist temptation, but you see, what he has in me is more satisfying and more gratifying than the 20 per cent thats tempting him. Oh, I am definitely his 80 per cent! I felt Jill at the end, when she was crying and said how he brings her joy when she wakes up every morning…and how he loves her through all her struggles…Oh, I felt that, because God has blessed me with exactly that! I am so glad that I am his 80. I am definitely more than the 20, whichever way you take that!

By Mr. Gilley

October 23, 2007 3:11 AM | Link to this

Uhhh..So yea..Tyler Perry is the man! But the scene with Jill Scott was meant to be motivational for big women out there to gain confidence and women in general to know not to put your all into a man and depend on them. Bring something to the table….and know how to survive without the husband. The same thing learned in Diary of a Mad of Black Women!

By Zeb

October 23, 2007 4:46 AM | Link to this

This is very interesting. This shows that its not only whats on the outside but more importantly what is on the inside that counts. Guys must be looking for only beauty or brains or being skinny but much rather a blend that makes them happy.

By smashpants

October 23, 2007 5:34 AM | Link to this

Listen everyone. Just do you and you’ll be happy. Quit looking at the next person trying to figure out how they got what they got. While your doing that, someone is getting the man/woman you want. While I’m on this rant let me add that most people fall victim to societal issues and what “everyone” thinks is the standard opposed to taking the time to develope their own standard;often times they dont match and you find yourself with a great looking man who cheats or whips your a$$ on a regular basis,but you make exceptions. How many times have you heard “She/He’s this and that..but she/he’s so fiiine”.

This whole argument is similar to the car issues today. Do you want a 7 series beemer that breaks down all the time or would you rather have the Taurus that although it isn’t great will run forever?

By smashpants

October 23, 2007 5:34 AM | Link to this

Listen everyone. Just do you and you’ll be happy. Quit looking at the next person trying to figure out how they got what they got. While your doing that, someone is getting the man/woman you want. While I’m on this rant let me add that most people fall victim to societal issues and what “everyone” thinks is the standard opposed to taking the time to develope their own standard;often times they dont match and you find yourself with a great looking man who cheats or whips your a$$ on a regular basis,but you make exceptions. How many times have you heard “She/He’s this and that..but she/he’s so fiiine”.

This whole argument is similar to the car issues today. Do you want a 7 series beemer that breaks down all the time or would you rather have the Taurus that although it isn’t great will run forever?

By denise

October 23, 2007 6:21 AM | Link to this

Wow.you guys are giving big girls the business. I just didn’t like jill scott in that role. She mumbled her way through the movie. I think perry could have picked a better actress. Of course, Angie walked away with the film. Janet couldn’t manage a tear in the most emotional scenes. It was one of Perry’s better films. Usually, he’s so preachy and if you’ve watched more than two of his films, you may recognize the same lines or themes again and again.

By JJ

October 23, 2007 6:45 AM | Link to this

I’ve had the beautiful sexy, fine model type and I was so unhappy. Currently looking for a woman that’s a lot like Jill. She was beautiful inside and out. A loving, sexy, honest person that is willing to fight for her man. she let him know he was her #1. He was to stupid to see it. We all saw what happened in the end.

By Rob

October 23, 2007 7:11 AM | Link to this

More cushion for the the pushin’ is the best policy to live by.

By sharon

October 23, 2007 7:27 AM | Link to this

Smashpants I get what you’re trying to say. Why spend 10,000 more on a Lexus when it looks exactly like the Camry. We are so caught up in name brands, status and the superficial. I liked when Troy told Shelia that if she didn’t like herself then do something about it. It’s good to be self confident and embrace yourself for who you are, however I would also like for Tyler to have pointed out that it was unhealthy to carrying around a lot of weight. Since his movies tend to be preachy and motivational this would have been a good time to point out the many health crisis women are facing as a result of extra weight.

By chocolett

October 23, 2007 7:38 AM | Link to this

I am amaze how the world tries to hold a man down. Tyler first movie out scored this one according to the critic as if this was not a good movie. They only gave him 200 movie theaters to show this movie and he still out scored them. If this man is doing great works then let him show the world what he can do instead of holding him down. The problem the world have was Tyler is that everything he puts in his movies is all of his money and no partners so whatever he pulls in is his. I congrats Tyler old all of his adventures. But to the family I say this. Stop bootlegging his movies because if the movie theaters continue to try to box him out then his money has to come from us. This man has made us cry, laugh, and most of all think. So let’s try to support him when the outside world doesn’t understand who he is and what he can do. This is Tyler’s best works and I have seen it three times and each time I get something else out of it. To the woman going through, you have to find your strength within and know you control your own destiny.

By aaa

October 23, 2007 7:53 AM | Link to this

I thought the mobie was great, the only thing me and my boyfriend discusses was Black people dont have to have the materialistic things to be happy, and we feel we need those things. Jill Scott was great.

By Hotlanta

October 23, 2007 8:13 AM | Link to this

I just listened to the reporter apologize for talking about the Superbowl to Janet and Tyler stood up for her. You for Tyler and just keep doing it, doing it and doing it well.

By Just Nasty and Mean

October 23, 2007 8:26 AM | Link to this

You superficial, plastic, artificial, materialistic, shallow women make me sick. You think “looks” are what makes compatibility. Maybe if you’d focus on something other than your body, and forget about anybody else—including a potential mate that could make you happy beyond your dreams. But instead, you’d rather focus on who “LOOKS GOOD”.
I can, with complete confidence, tell you that you are on the path to a miserable like (looks like you’re getting a glimpse, now) by thinking happiness comes in a perfect gift wrapping and a bow. Get over being so vein, or get ready for a life of misery and Prozac.

By Sharvette

October 23, 2007 8:47 AM | Link to this

It would take me about 16 paragraphs to almost sum up the way I feel about some of these comments, but I’ll keep it short. My husband and I saw the movie together and we really enjoyed it. I thought most of the talk would be about how talented Tyler Perry is and how he continues to create great movies… until I read some of these comments. My husband and I talk about the shallow people in this city all the time and some of the comments above prove our point exactly. Alot of people in this city, men and women, have it all wrong, but are steadily hitting the streets looking for a “good” man or woman. They care about the type of car someone’s driving, where they live, and how much money is in their bank account instead of looking deeper and loving what God intended on…the spirit. Some of these women are too scared that a brother is in it to take theirs and to live off of them and are too ignorant to realize a good man when they see one. Alot of us women own homes, have good paying jobs…which is great, but isn’t that what you’re supposed to have at the age of 30 anyway? Maybe some of these men don’t own homes because they’re waiting to meet their future wife to purchase one with the money he’s been saving. Maybe he doesn’t drive a Mercedes because he would rather tithe with the money or he could be waiting to see what kind of vehicle his future wife is interested in…who knows. Alot of us look at what a person has before we even think about giving them the time of day and that’s wrong. What if Jesus looked at what we had to offer before going to Calvary for us? I’m glad he didn’t because if he did none of us would be here. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that these things aren’t important, but as a HAPPILY MARRIED woman you learn that there are things more important than material things and someone’s size. You have to look deeper and love people for the inside because that’s what really matters. Looks fade and everyone gets older so if you’re putting your stock in that you will soon be disappointed. Anyone can lose weight, but everyone isn’t blessed with common courtesy, consideration, and honesty. I would rather be with someone a little overweight, but knows how to treat me than to be with a “10” who gives the same percentage in the relationship…10%. When you look on the inside and like what you see people become beautiful on the outside so you can’t lose. And being serious, Jill Scott was the prettiest woman in the movie, big or small.

By Just a

October 23, 2007 9:01 AM | Link to this

Hey, I didnt realize that it was so much stipulations on what u look like on the outside as i have reading this. I am too a large gay male, and it is even hard for me to meet someone as well, but i dont let that determine whether or not i will meet someone. I have watched all my “small friends” meet guys while im on the sidelines, but then i here later that the guys that liked my friends liked me too. So to all the people that dont believe that a heavy set woman can meet a gorgeous man, STOP, it is not true. I see more larger women with good looking men than the small ones. Look at hally berry, she cant keep a man. Yet and still, Monique is in a happy relationship with a fine man. Go figure

By Just a comment

October 23, 2007 9:01 AM | Link to this

Hey, I didnt realize that it was so much stipulations on what u look like on the outside as i have reading this. I am too a large gay male, and it is even hard for me to meet someone as well, but i dont let that determine whether or not i will meet someone. I have watched all my “small friends” meet guys while im on the sidelines, but then i here later that the guys that liked my friends liked me too. So to all the people that dont believe that a heavy set woman can meet a gorgeous man, STOP, it is not true. I see more larger women with good looking men than the small ones. Look at hally berry, she cant keep a man. Yet and still, Monique is in a happy relationship with a fine man. Go figure

By whateva man

October 23, 2007 10:29 AM | Link to this

I enjoyed this flick. Thought Janet was unbelievable as a college professor and couldn’t believe she could not even squirt out one measly tear in her emotional scenes, she did better as Penny in Good Times!

I think it had a lot of realistic situations - especially the hatred and prejudice some have against fat people and the lies some hold onto in a marriage so they can do what they want for self. Overall it was a decent depiction of marriage and a taste of what we go thru to hold it together.

The baby mama drama was also very realistic - I have many friends who deal with unapologetic, annoying baby mamas and men who won’t tell them off to keep the peace for their children.

These characters were lucky to have so many trustworthy friends to confide in when they had problems.

Living the Fantasy - thanks for reminding me to tell my husband I love him today for no good reason! As a big woman I too have gone thru some “stuff” and dealt with jealous women who think they can take my man just because they wear a size 2. NOT!

By yeahright

October 23, 2007 11:32 AM | Link to this

Sharon did you fall asleep towards the end of the movie? Jill Scott lost weight. She said her man helped her…..

By Real

October 24, 2007 4:09 PM | Link to this

I’m not a “big” woman and I totally a agree with “LIVING THE FANTASY”. I’m happy anybody wether big or small or in-between have someone they can love and love them back. People are a trip. There is no reason why “bigger” women can’t have that fine ass sexy man. People really need to open their eyes cause I see all the time.

By Living Single Life

October 26, 2007 9:41 AM | Link to this

I am probably one of few that have not seen the movie yet, but I am going to see it this weekend and based on the comments that I have read so far I know that I will thoroughly enjoy it.

I love everything that Tyler Perry does.

On that note @ By Sharvette I agree with most of what you have said but I disagree with some things as well. Having been in two relationships with men with no jobs, I have made it a point to look at what a guy has first. Not so much what he driving, but that he is driving something. Not so much what he has in his bank account, but that he has one and lastly I am not looking at where he lives just so he has a place to live. If that makes me materialistic then I guess that is what I am.

I am an old fashioned girl, and I expect a guy to have something. It doesn’t have to be much but something. I had to make two mistakes before realizing that this is what I want and I won’t settle for anything less.